| What Do You Expect???
Posted: 7/11/2007 9:09:22 PM | | I expect her to weigh less than me and have less body hair than me....is that too much to expect? It would also be great if she was more attractive than me, which im sure she would be...everything else is not important to me. | |
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j5rush
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Joined: 4/13/2006
Msg: 27 | |
| What Do You Expect???
Posted: 7/11/2007 9:10:20 PM |
I have no expectations of people... and I'm never disappointed.
Ditto.
i expect the person i date to have a vagina...even though i don't have one
Alright, you got me. I do have one expectation.  | |
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| What Do You Expect???
Posted: 7/11/2007 9:12:07 PM | great thread Indi...
I expect that he is as turned on by me as I am by him. After that, I expect that he is as honest and upfront as I am. The rest isn't important.
oh wait............thought of a couple more things. I expect that small children and animals like him too. Is that asking too much? | |
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| What Do You Expect???
Posted: 7/12/2007 1:29:37 AM | .
Well, I don’t have a lot of real constraints for love, but there surely are a couple things that would get me to the caring position.
First is attitude. Which means that I can take her into many different situations and she will be very polite with everyone around.
Second is that she will have interests. I have avid interests, some of which she may [or not] become interested in, but I hope that her interests involve more than sports and knitting and might also be fun for us at times. I’m willing to learn things, after all.
And then there’s the fetidity thing. Every person I know also knows what I think about that. My word is my law, and that’s all that need be said about that. If she feels differently, I’m perfectly willing to walk away without any complaints cause I know that different gals have interesting things going that I may not agree with.
Yeah, it’s the attitude that attracts me, more than anything. I see that attitude in friends who have been married forever and even in a couple gals who are widows. It’s ingrained in us, I guess.
So . . . what would I want? What is the only thing I would accept? That’s easy, almost. Someone who is as true to me as I would be to her. There is nothing more I could ask.
Such a dream. . . .
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| What Do You Expect???
Posted: 7/12/2007 2:26:46 AM | I only expect respect, all the rest should just fall into place naturally.
Oh and a good sense of humour helps loads!!
Now if you asked what I wanted!?!?!?! | |
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| What Do You Expect???
Posted: 7/12/2007 3:58:38 AM | I own a home and sweetie can come over if her apartment neighbors are too noisy.
I lay on the couch, but it's more fun with company.
I don't have any kids and at my age my future mate's will be grown up.
I have a low dept load but I'm not helping honey with hers.
I drive a new car, but only because I totaled my junky one.
Need more examples... | |
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| What Do You Expect???
Posted: 7/12/2007 4:02:23 AM | I'm with psssst... if you don't expect anything then you can't be disappointed...  | |
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| What Do You Expect???
Posted: 7/12/2007 5:52:30 AM | I expect that I will have to give much more than I get. That's all right, I need very little, and can do much. I like the idea of equality, but:
I once asked my mum if I could find anyone as smart as me. Her answer was "no". Nothing more was said.
This, from a woman who can talk for 90 minutes about her day at work, every single day. | |
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| What Do You Expect???
Posted: 7/12/2007 6:04:02 AM | Wow..
When I first read that, I thought "Are some women actually like that?". Then I realised that those are the EXACT vibes I received from a few women. Thanks for pointing it out. Makes it easier to tune the spidey senses now that I know I wasn't being paranoid. | |
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| What Do You Expect???
Posted: 7/12/2007 6:46:09 AM | | I have a lot of "hopes", but very few expectations. As far as the materialistic aspect goes, it's not something that's a high priority. I've learned the hard way that 'things' aren't the solution for what I need. I would expect him to continue doing the things he enjoys doing, whether or not I 'liked' them; I would not expect him to make major changes in an effort to please me. It's highly unlikely to find youself in a relationship with someone whose likes & dislikes are exactly the same as yours. For me, expectations are established mutually; they're something you discuss and make sure each other understands....such as a willingness for both to make compromises on occasion. | |
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| What Do You Expect???
Posted: 7/12/2007 6:52:42 AM | On that show CONFESSIONS OF A MATCHMAKER, they had a women who had this long list of things, pretty outrageous things like... him having to have a half million dollar life insurance policy with her as the sole beneficiary...
the matchmaker said:
ok so you offer these things? because if you offer them, you can ask for them too...
the dater said... NO, thats why I'm looking for those things.
talk about U S E R !!!
I feel the same about it as the matchmaker... if you offer those things ( of lifestyle, financial responsibility, etc...) you can also reasonably ask for them... if not, your nothing more than a user looking for a victim.
There are many irresponsible, unrealistic people. I feel these UNREALISTIC expectations and twisted bents on the reality of themselves and their lives is the major reason many cannot find anyone. | |
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| What Do You Expect???
Posted: 7/12/2007 6:53:34 AM | | This reminded me of a guy that i was sort of seeing recently, he was 43 - told me that he told his friend who is a 21 year old male to stay away from females his own age as they are all messed up in their heads, wanting babies, a home, security etc. Said he should stick to women in their mid thirties as they already had the kids and they would probably be grown up, normally had their own homes and only wanted lots of sex. He lived in a shared house with the landlord and lady, didnt own a car, was a self confessed alcoholic and couldnt get a hard on all through his life? I just never get some guys! | |
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| What Do You Expect???
Posted: 7/12/2007 7:21:33 AM | Hey pretty lady! Great question...I thought about it and here's my answer. Nope. I own a home and wouldn't care if he owned or rented, I have what I want so if they don't have things like that it wouldn't bother me.
I would however like to find a person who was totally ok with cuddling on the couch watching a scary movie instead of going to the bars to drink. ...cuz that's what I like to do.
Oh and he needs to have really big shoes, um...er...cuz I do...or something.  | |
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| What Do You Expect???
Posted: 7/12/2007 7:29:33 AM | expectation ? or honesty of true values of a person ? Martin Luther K ing, once said: "judge me not by the color of my skin , but the contents of my heart" obivously this falls too into the guidelines of " what you expect ???
whether a apartment, or a physical maintained body, a exoctic sports car or a family sadan, or a nice home in a astute niehgborhood, what matters here ??
is that one takes the time to look past a person possessions and see more then just materialistic value, that fades in time, and see the priceless values of that person, the heart and soul.
thinking what a person possesses defines them ?, is shallow and empty and will only provide you of just a mere image of who they truly are. then again who's willing to take the time to explore and discover a person's hidden treasures, within them ?
the reason we have failed relationships and marriages, today, men and women alike stuck in a illusion and a facade of a relationship built on a foundation of more then just what they see with thier eyes.
just take a look at the post in here, a cry for honesty, trust,true intimacy,romance, a real connection, true explortation of a person heart and soul, what they found in thier lives is what? what do you expect?? a continuous search for mr and mrs right ! that don't exist !!
who takes the time anymore to look past the conformity and boring traditional manor in which we intetwine with the opposite sex, is it all about physical atributes ? sexuality, materialism or truly what lies within a person heart and soul, thier true essence worthy to be explored and discovered in time?
what happen to patience ? or inadvertently searching for more then just sex? with this " bad boy image " that's no more then a facade of a man's true worth, or men a woman's big breast and pretty face, which in turn is just a lustful attempt to just expose only her sexuality.
ever been in a indepth conversation that last for hours, sometimes till the wee hours of the night, filled with laughter, witty, mysterious, challenging, risque, sensuality, romance, a higher level of intellect of communication of a true search for a person true essence the endless waters that nourishes one's heart of excitement and flare, the innate fire that burns in thier soul whare one truly discovers thier endless passion.
to touch a rare side of a manor woman, thier experiences that within that conversation, tears fall, their comfortable enough to want to tell you all.
what do you expect????
just a empty shallow empty selfish experience or the magic and mystery of exploring , thier honesty, trust, fears, of a beginning of something more for filling and enriching, by empting all they feel no one is willing to listen to.
that's what i expect !!! don't bore me with generalizations, or speculations without spending the time to explore this side of a person, it only shows me your inability to be willing to experience more then just the same pathedic excuses i hear in here, to be willing to be exposed and vunnerable enough tomtouch a rare side of a person that you'll cherish the rest of your life whether or not you obtained a relationship or just a endearing friendship. depends on what and how far your willing to go!!
don't judge anyone until you youself are willing to explored or be explored and find the endless treassures that you may find will surprise you.
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| What Do You Expect???
Posted: 7/12/2007 10:26:44 AM | Hot damn Isaiah!! Good post!!
ever been in a indepth conversation that last for hours, sometimes till the wee hours of the night, filled with laughter, witty, mysterious, challenging, risque, sensuality, romance, a higher level of intellect of communication of a true search for a person true essence the endless waters that nourishes one's heart of excitement and flare, the innate fire that burns in thier soul whare one truly discovers thier endless passion?
I can count on one hand where that has happened. Time just flew by, without one thought of anyone else other then her.
It truly is amazing what one can learn when the mind and the soul is open. | |
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| What Do You Expect???
Posted: 7/12/2007 10:32:41 AM | | I expect my honey/sweetie/ whatever to be who he or she is...I don't care if you are at the same level i am; below where I am in life; or above me...what matters is the connection we have...i have very few requirements for friends- and a little more for relationships... must have ajob and a car...and be trustworthy... not too much if you ask me :) | |
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| What Do You Expect???
Posted: 7/12/2007 10:35:08 AM |
I have no expectations of people... and I'm never disappointed.
I am, however, frequently shocked... | |
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| What Do You Expect???
Posted: 7/12/2007 10:59:08 AM | | It's no secret that women are better than men. My momma used to tell me that all the time. As will many women. So I definitely expect more of her. Anything else would violate the natural order of things. | |
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| What Do You Expect???
Posted: 7/12/2007 2:04:44 PM | I just want a woman with a Viper, seven figure bank accout and an extra credit card for me to use at my discretion | |
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| What Do You Expect???
Posted: 7/12/2007 2:48:19 PM |
I have no expectations of people... and I'm never disappointed.
does this mean I can call off the wedding? | |
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| What Do You Expect???
Posted: 7/12/2007 2:53:22 PM | | I don't think it's fair to expect tit for tat. I don't think it's fair for me to own a home and therefore expect "him" to own a home. We are all individuals and different things make us tick. I own a home becuase I love decorating and cooking and all that jazz, but I don't expect "him" to make the same choice. Maybe "he" lives in an apartment and owns boats, jet ski's, morotcycles, and sleds instead. We don't want our significant other to be our twin. As long as both parties are up front about their expectations, it should all come out in the wash. | |
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| What Do You Expect???
Posted: 7/12/2007 2:54:58 PM | | I expect to be treated with dignity and respect. I have come way too far. Enjoy me. | |
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j5rush
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Joined: 4/13/2006
Msg: 49 | |
| What Do You Expect???
Posted: 7/12/2007 10:14:39 PM |
I just want a woman with a Viper, seven figure bank...
If you find a woman with a Viper see if she has a sister for me! | |
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| What Do You Expect???
Posted: 7/12/2007 10:44:08 PM | Hmmm...I'm probably going to be a bit different than most on here. I'm looking to retire in 15 years or less and I want to do it comfortably...I have a goal and a plan...I'm working towards it. I really don't see myself attaching to someone who doesn't fit into that in some form--he's welcome to work until he's 90...I'll support him in his dreams...but I won't take on someone who is chronically unemployed or has no get up and go. I do want someone who has some independence...I don't want a 50 year old man living with his mother (unless for illness or support or temporary setbacks)...I want someone with a life and interests and looking to grow.
Guess that's the Republican in me..... | |
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