| short men dating tall women - why not?
Posted: 3/21/2009 5:10:00 PM |
I think people should only date somebody their own height.
Would that be with or without heels ? I could see that being a bit tricky if not, having to see one guy when you wore your killer heels and another in your wellies or ballet pumps 
Personally I like to look up to a guy or at least look him in the eye, but at 5ft 2" its not often a problem.
But Bernie Ecclestone, Rod Stewart and Mick Jagger all had/have tall birds............. any idea what the attraction is ?  | |
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| short men dating tall women - why not?
Posted: 3/21/2009 5:11:33 PM | My sister and I are both on here, I'm 5'7 in bare feet and she is 5'9, when we have our chats about guys on here we both complain of the same problem most men seem to be around 5'8...its so hard to find guys 6ft and over, we both like to look up to our man although we have both tried dating shorter guys,
One guy I dated I couldnt even see him over the car roof...I could see people nudging each other and giggling when we went into the cinema, I was wearing 4 inch heels too, bad move woman
Last night she said... 'Its official!! The average height of a man is 5'8.'...sighs...apparently she read it in a magazine survey...sorry, no specifics (poor of me I know) as I had had a couple of glasses of rose wine by then and have forgotten details. | |
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| short men dating tall women - why not?
Posted: 3/21/2009 5:14:37 PM | Yep, there is a shortage of tall men on here.
I have dated shorter men, but didn't feel comfortable with it.
My sis married a man 3 inches shorter than her. Good on them, but it looks weird. | |
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| short men dating tall women - why not?
Posted: 3/21/2009 5:25:55 PM | Ah it's a self conscious image thing...you're embarrassed to be seen with a shortarse!
Fair one, I had dated a 5'1" girl once who I was embarrassed to be seen with.
Mind you, she WAS ugly as hell.
But seriously, why care how it looks or what other people think? You either like a dude or you don't. Surely a few inches either way makes little to no difference? *cue some smartarse pointing out the blindingly obvious double entendre* | |
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| short men dating tall women - why not?
Posted: 3/21/2009 5:59:50 PM | and...da-da!!! here it comes...Yes, size matters...and you know it 
I shall shortly be changing my user name to smart a r s e | |
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| short men dating tall women - why not?
Posted: 3/21/2009 6:18:35 PM | At the risk of breaking some rule or other, a couple of threads are gravitating towards the same topic. So not sure which one to post this thought on.
Years ago I worked with a young lady who was shorter than me (yep it happens ) she eventually married a really tall guy (she was less than 5ft he was more than 6ft).
She had a major problem with guys calling her 'love', 'sweetheart' etc and got very angry/aggressive if they did.
She would attempt to deal with tasks beyond her physical capabilities rather than ask a guy to help.
Is this SWS (small woman syndrome) ? as I am told SMS (small man syndrome) exists (and that was by a man lol)
I suppose the point connecting it to this topic is 'would the short man want to be controlling the tall woman and the tall woman would prefer a taller man in control ' and vice versa ?
Apologies if that doesn't make sense it did in my head  | |
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| short men dating tall women - why not?
Posted: 3/21/2009 6:53:53 PM | I think, that in my opinion, my personal opinion and my honest opinion.
That this is a load of sexist claptrap. It's sexism and shallowness in the extreme and it's okay because it suits the sex that's doing it.
All this I want a man to be tall, broad manly. It's sexist and shallow. It's not listed as a visual preference or physical preference but some sort of psychological obsession, no doubt pushed by the media, that broad tall men, are more manly and capable of looking after a woman. No doubt it goes with a tall broad man with tattoo and shaven head as I have actually seen on profiles here.
If a guy listed no one shorter than me and was 6ft I dread to think the whinging we'd see. Especially if he was broad shaven tattooed.
I've never really been bothered by height, I'm 5'8. I got with my long term ex who was 5'11 with out even giving it a though till we'd been together for a few weeks and someone commented. The profiles that are for girls (women, ladies...for the pedantics ) taller than me I message just the same as my height or shorter. The shallow ones, in my opinion of course, I just close. | |
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| short men dating tall women - why not?
Posted: 3/22/2009 2:15:10 AM | I would be one of those "shallow" women then josh.
But personally I can't help who I'm attracted to. Just as you have a preference not to date someone with tatoos.
We all have some type we are attracted to whether that be blonde hair, dark skin, thin, bald, facial hair...the list is endless.
It's all personal and i wouldn't consider these preferences as being shallow unless perhaps they were extreme such as he must be over 6' when she is only 5'5, or she must be a size 10 or under when he has more than a few extra pounds. | |
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| short men dating tall women - why not?
Posted: 3/22/2009 2:17:22 AM | I don't think it's a problem for women as such, i imagine men find it more of putting?
My friends 5 ft 11 and her husband is 5 ft 7 he says he is ok with it yet hates her wearing heels!
I'm only 5 ft 2 so like men taller than me but men do tend to find short girls funny.
I get no comments when i wear heels but i often get called 'cute' when i wear flats!  | |
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| short men dating tall women - why not?
Posted: 3/22/2009 2:59:38 AM | If it's an attraction then fair enough but in my opinion it's not its psycological brain washing like the the people who won't date above a size 10.
I don't bellieve that you don't fancy blokes shorter than you same as I don't believe a guy doesn't fancy any girl above a size ten.
I certainly know that my preferences aren't criteria and have fancied and dated girls with tattoos, my preference is for a bout size 12 but dated an 8 and a 28. Prefer dark or red hair but have dated girls with blonde too. Yet I've just looked at another profile, we sound well matched but she's 5'9, not even 5'9 is good enough but they must be 5'10 AT LEAST. It depends on a person as a whole,their looks, personality and morals. Which is why I've got very few you must be or not be's. I'll decide on that once they contact me.
^you are cute but pretty too. | |
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| short men dating tall women - why not?
Posted: 3/22/2009 4:02:31 AM |
But personally I can't help who I'm attracted to.
We all have some type we are attracted to whether that be blonde hair, dark skin, thin, bald, facial hair...the list is endless.
Same here.
Sick of being called shallow by people you dont want to date?
I don't abuse people for being short/a bbw or bbm/ extremely skinny etc i just don't want to date them and why do we have to keep explaining ourselves?
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| short men dating tall women - why not?
Posted: 3/22/2009 6:14:49 AM |
If it's an attraction then fair enough but in my opinion it's not its psycological brain washing like the the people who won't date above a size 10.
I don't bellieve that you don't fancy blokes shorter than you same as I don't believe a guy doesn't fancy any girl above a size ten.
WHY don't you believe it? Because it's not the way YOU operate? Isn't that being shallow in itself?
To say we're all psychologically brainwashed is tosh, quite frankly. Psychological wiring perhaps, but brainwashing is a bit extreme is it not?
I don't fancy short men. Believe it because it's true. I have never, in 38 years, been even remotely attracted to a short dude. Maybe I just haven't stumbled upon (or over) the *right* short guy, admittedly, but as it stands, it's not happened. | |
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| short men dating tall women - why not?
Posted: 3/22/2009 3:56:25 PM |
It's sexism and shallowness in the extreme and it's okay because it suits the sex that's doing it.
I don't get how a woman saying she likes to date a guy 4 or 5 inches taller than herself is any different to a guy saying he likes to date a woman with naturally big t1ts. Both are physical atributes, both have little or nothing to do with who that person is and both are beyond the control of the person conserned.
I was teased at school for being tall, called names for being bigger than most of the boys. I like to date men who are taller than me because it makes me feel more femanine, now you may say that's my failing - fair enough it is, but that doesn't change how I feel, or why I like to date taller men.
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| short men dating tall women - why not?
Posted: 3/22/2009 4:03:41 PM | | perhaps in the real world you might be attracted to someone who is shorter than you but here the height is printed there for all to see, it's another one of the things on the list for me - as a tall woman I'd not really be interested in a short man, I'd rather not have someone make me feel big and unfeminine I'm afraid. Yes that means we miss some lovely people but it's how it is. We don't get to know people first of all, we just dismiss because of height. Sorry. | |
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| short men dating tall women - why not?
Posted: 3/22/2009 7:52:33 PM | I wouldn't class 5'8 as tall. quite average really these days.
A tall man making a woman feel feminine is not only shallow but sexist, not in my opinion but a lot of others, as I did a bit of a survey today.
Thre's a difference between a woman wanting a big tall man to make her feel protected and feminine and a bloke who prefers a women with big tits. The bloke wants her because he's turned on by her, he finds her sexually appealing. He's not wanting her cos of how she makes him look.
Often a bloke won't go with a big girl not because he doesn't find her appealing or a turn on, but because he feels ashamed, his mates will take the pee, society says 10 is perfect and wrongly in my opinion cos it's shallow. Trophy wives, guys that target good looking women cos society will think more of them better looking their girlfriends will be... shallow. The tall men cos they're strong protectors and make women feel feminine is the same.
Sorry if you disagree but that's the way I see it and it isn't because I'm short, I'm 5'8, quite average and not really had an issue finding a girl shorter, the same or one taller that would accept me. That 's why I often don't even bother to look at height on here, it's irrelevant unless the difference is great and would mean I'm talking to her ....erm but then we're accused of doing that anyway so may as well get a really tall girl and do it honest and openly. | |
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| short men dating tall women - why not?
Posted: 3/23/2009 12:52:30 AM |
A tall man making a woman feel feminine is not only shallow but sexist, not in my opinion but a lot of others, as I did a bit of a survey today.
A survey? outside your local co-op with a clipboard again Josh? .
I am a bit confused by your statement to be honest. Are you saying that short@rsed women (of which I am one) choose tall blokes just to make them feel more femine and they shouldnt do that because it's derogitory towards blokes?.
Personally I have a preference towards tall blokes,Ive othing against the shorter bloke and have had relationships with the 5ft and a fart brigade quite succesfully but I am drawn to the lankier side.
I dont know why I prefer lofty's I shall think about it. | |
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| short men dating tall women - why not?
Posted: 3/23/2009 2:55:34 AM | msg 122, it's only sexist in that I am talking about a woman dating a man, it's heightist perhaps but I don't accept it as sexism.
it's just my preference to not to want to be the tall one in a relationship. I usually wear heels too so that means another inch or two to contend with - I like being tall and like to be able to stand tall too. I also prefer men that are not particularly skinny, it's a preference pure and simple. | |
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| short men dating tall women - why not?
Posted: 3/23/2009 3:13:45 AM | I lived with a girl in London for four years who was 5ft 11", and I am a short årse at 5ft 9", and there was never any issue about the height between us. Or for that matter with any of our friends. I am seeing a girl at the moment who is 5ft 7", and again no problem with my lack of height. I have only ever come across complaints about my diminutive stature from girls of about 5ft 1", and one of 4ft 11".
It always looks a little disturbing to me (almost a sort of 'Daddy and Little Girl' scenario), and very silly, when you see a girl of about 5ft 1' with her hand at shoulder level trying to hold hands with her 6ft 5" boyfriend.
In my experience, tall women have less of an issue with and base less of their 'potential partner criteria' on height and more on compatibility. I see a lot more profiles on here from women between 5ft and 5ft 4" saying they will not even consider anyone less than 6ft 4" as a potential date, than I do from women of 5ft 8" and above. Imagine the outcry if 50% of 'average' looking blokes stipulated that they would not even consider a date with a girl unless she had a 36DD chest!
It is a preference that many women do want a taller bloke, and the shorter the woman the taller the bloke she seems to want, but it is her preference and her right to hold that preference. If she wants to dismiss 70% of the male population who are less than 6ft 4", then that is her choice, and she should not be lambasted for it. | |
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| short men dating tall women - why not?
Posted: 3/23/2009 3:32:25 AM | just to qualify that my last two serious dates were both with men who are 5'8" the same height as me
my real feeling is that someone remarkably shorter wouldn't feel right to me - to put it plainly I never know where to put my arms during a cuddle when the height is out a lot, never crosses my mind with a very tall man as they can only go around the chest but when the man is shorter whose arms go on top? (and yes, does it really matter?, I know)
I accept that most blokes don't mind dating taller women; however I do feel that most women don't like dating shorter blokes. Maybe we are just conditioned that way. | |
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