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| Cell phone on a date....
Posted: 7/19/2007 4:25:38 AM | | What amazes me at this point is the amount of back peddling that is now going on when what people actually said earlier and what they say now is just that back pedling to get their azzes out of the line of fire addressed by the nay sayers with VERY good points. People are people and ignorant people are almost always ignorant because they just don't get it. Hopefully at least one person learned from this friend. Its all about consideration, manners and common sense. | |
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| Cell phone on a date....
Posted: 7/22/2007 4:58:56 AM | i think that was rude of him,, I take my cell only because my daughter could get a hold of me, other then that, that all it for... he should of said to his buddy that his on a date and will call later,, I'm not sure what I would to but it would of bothered me too..
if any guy does not agree with that, then his not worth your time.... | |
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| Cell phone on a date....
Posted: 7/22/2007 5:37:58 AM | | Personally it is rude, not sure what to suggest but I probably would just walked out and gone home, to me that is a suggestion as to the type of person that he really is and you probably will be treated this way all the time, usually you are on your best behaviour trying to strike a point or two with the date you are with, well I think it can only get worse. GJJ | |
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| Cell phone on a date....
Posted: 7/22/2007 6:50:48 AM | It's RUDE RUDE RUDE!!! This behavior is an indicator of how much they value you and your time. If they expect you to be put " on hold" while they take a call, whether it's the first date or the 10th, and see nothing wrong with it, I believe it's a good sign of how they are in relationships. Can anyone say, " selfish? self-important? self-absorbed?" The key being SELF- they will never think of your needs or feelings, and are probably pretty oblivious to how their actions affect other people. How hard is it to turn a phone off, or turn it on vibrate, and check it later or when they go to the bathroom?
The only exception would be in the instance of a babysitter or an emergency- and then, they should let you know from the beginning that they may be getting a phone call-and then EXCUSE themselves to take it, not sit there gabbing in front of your face.
I rarely take a phone call when I am even hanging out with friends, much less on a date. I do not like interruptions, and I try to give the people I am spending time with my undivided attention. | |
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| Cell phone on a date....
Posted: 7/22/2007 7:04:43 AM | | Just plain bad manners. If you forget to turn the damn thing off the decent thing to do would be to apologise and not answer it. In fact, don't even look at it to see who it is. Text messages are the same. Rude, rude, rude. Give him/her the heave...this is obviously an indication of how they value your time. | |
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Alzena
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| Cell phone on a date....
Posted: 7/22/2007 3:56:35 PM | | Phone manners are not one the top of the ettique lists these days... Too many people are equalting phone time with having some kind of power. I was run off the road last week by some ditzy chich is a SUV with a phone in her ear and I doubt she was even counscious enough to notice... I it's a first date and he's on the phone making other plans, I would let he make a lot more other plans... this goes for the guy keeps buzzing and he keeps checking the number... | |
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| Cell phone on a date....
Posted: 7/22/2007 5:16:29 PM | | Eh? What??.................................................................. | |
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| Cell phone on a date....
Posted: 7/22/2007 5:27:52 PM |
I was run off the road last week by some ditzy chich is a SUV with a phone in her ear and I doubt she was even counscious enough to notice
I heard a real cool story on the radio some months ago...
There was a lady in the South who was driving a SUV when, for some reason, she lost control and almost hit a car. In trying to straighten out her vehicle, she over steered and jumped the median and skinned three other cars before flipping over. Sadly, her arm was actually cut off in the accident and thrown from the vehicle while she was trapped in it. As they attempted to rescue her out of the wreckage, one of the paramedics that arrived on the scene went searching for her arm and found it several yards down the road, with its hand still grasping the cell phone. | |
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| Cell phone on a date....
Posted: 7/22/2007 6:29:25 PM | | I agree... I am a single mom and I only answer (On vibrate) if it is the babysitter... AND I tell the date as I answer that it is the sitter. :) | |
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| Cell phone on a date....
Posted: 7/22/2007 6:51:45 PM | Hmmm, I don't think I would have freaked out unless it was a long conversation, or if it just kept happening, or if it was another woman!
If my Momma or my best friend calls, I'm going to answer! I would say, "Excuse me", and I would make it short. | |
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| Cell phone on a date....
Posted: 7/22/2007 7:55:21 PM | Wow, haven't checked this for awhile, but it's interesting to see the amount of responses! I definitly won't be going out on another date with this guy, and it's not just because of the 5-7 minute phone call on our date. I was talking to him on the phone for about 40 minutes the other day when I found out his friend had been there the entire time! Seriously, if he'll ignore his friend for 40 minutes while he chats on the phone...
Just curious, the guy who said he'd answer his phone on a date, even if it was just a friend who wants to arrange something for the weekend, would you do the same if you were in school and in class? What about at a business meeting.
I agree with most of the posts, a 2 second 'rescue call' from a friend, not so bad. A simple 'Hey, yeah everything's good, I'll call you later when I get home.' A babysitter/child calling, perfectly acceptable as well. Take a few seconds to determine if it's a real emergency or whatever, and if you have to, end the date. That wouldn't bother me at all. But a social call does seem pretty rude. There's no reason they can't leave a message saying 'Hey it's so and so, just wanting to make plans for friday, give me a call' and you call them back after the date. | |
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| Cell phone on a date....
Posted: 7/22/2007 8:54:23 PM | I agree that a 5 minute phone call on a date is kind of rude when it was simply to make plans with someone else later in the week and not an emergency of any sort.
Sorry that happened to you, I'd speak to him about in hopes that he comes to the realization that that isn't behavior indicative of a potential suitor.
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| Cell phone on a date....
Posted: 7/24/2007 7:28:36 PM | If a person can't ignore their phone (except for emergency calls), turn off the extraneous noise of their life and give you their attention for a short time on a very first date, then what would they be like later on?
People who talk on their phones in public without consideration for others around them are a pet peeve of mine anyway. If it were me, most likely that guy would be history!
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| Cell phone on a date....
Posted: 7/31/2007 7:06:07 PM |
Just curious, the guy who said he'd answer his phone on a date, even if it was just a friend who wants to arrange something for the weekend, would you do the same if you were in school and in class? What about at a business meeting.
No, but those are all formal settings. It's assumed your phone will be off because you will be interrupting 5 or 100 people's time with your call. Everyone has a limited time to get something done (an hour to learn a certain about of stuff, an hour to get the meeting done, etc).
I view dating as a fun experience (or at least it should be), you are meeting someone new in a casual atmosphere and enjoying your time. I don't enjoy my time when it is filled with a bunch of rules on what to do and what not to do that I don't have with my friends. I'd want anyone I eventually decided to have a relationship with to be friends with me as well as dating. I don't think I could be friends with someone who was so self conscious that they'd get angry at me for something as trivial as a phone call.
Sure, if I insult them, leave without warning, fail to show up, don't shower before the date, or something like that...I can see getting angry, but a cell phone?
Either way, due to this thread and other people's opinions on this, I don't want to be rude. From now on, my default will be going to a date with cell phone off. I'm not a rude person, but it's not my opinion that matters here. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2007 7:35:55 PM | Ya know Zamrod, I've thought about this........and YOU can do anything you want on your dates!! I don't know why I feel the need to make you do WHAT I WOULD WANT......we are not dating...........and I'll bet, there are women out there who WON"T mind a lick if you answer and talk on the phone all night..........but I thought you'd probably find that the odds are slim and I wanted to help your chances............however in truth......."your chances" are not my business.......do it how you like..........and if you're loving your results.....then ti's all good............if not, you might want to consider changing some things.........the definition of insanity is something like this..."doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results....."
Some times I get more passionate about things than I need be but I'm sure you'll be just fine..............I have to remind myself that the world already has a savior and that I don't know everything.........my life is TOUGH!
Happy fishing!
Diva
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| Cell phone on a date....
Posted: 8/1/2007 4:09:16 AM | | Personally, I'm not too keen on having them on during the first date/meet up with someone. I turn mine off. If I forget and I receive a call, I let the voice mail take it. | |
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Posted: 8/1/2007 4:39:17 AM | I had a date once that chatted on his cell phone while driving us to the restaurant. All business, he said. I believed him : Not only that but he stopped en route to check out some real estate! He was just plain rude for the entire date. That's what bothered me.
Another date I had, he took a couple of calls while we getting dinner. One was long distance and I really didnt mind; it was reasonably short, I knew of the caller, and even got to say hello (I'm deaf so that was probably my first cell phone call). Then he got another call, and it was excrutiatingly long. I understood completely, and wasn't upset at all, but it was difficult to have nothing to do (not even eavesdrop) during that time. It made all the difference that he had communicated what was going on, so I could deal with it. The timing might have been bad, but that's life.
I think it's not the phone call, but how your date handles it and treats you. | |
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| Cell phone on a date....
Posted: 8/1/2007 5:51:27 AM | For heaven's sake we are all adults here. WE DO NOT NEED RESCUE CALLS EVEN!!!
Be honest, just tell them you have to go. No more, no less. If they push then tell them there is no connection. Rescue calls show that you don't have any intestinal fortitude and/or balls. They are NEVER going to get the message otherwise.
Me I'd just get up and walk out! Well I'd say a bye on the way standing up!
TOO MANY PEOPLE MAKING TOO MANY EXCUSES about a common sense issue. Even with the need to answer for your kids. Sit your kids AND the babysitter down BEFORE you leave, explain you are going out with another adult and could they NOT call unless an emergency! Kids will certainly phone their parent otherwise. Teach them and let them learn. | |
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| Cell phone on a date....
Posted: 8/1/2007 10:04:21 AM | RUDE, RUDE, RUDE ...
Only emergency calls should be taken when out ... especially on a date.
Even when I'm home and the phone rings while someone is there ... I don't take the call unless it's something that has been previously arranged. IE ... if my daughter calls long distance and we previously arranged for her to do so, or perhaps I'm waiting for a business call. Even then, I'd let my guest know that the call was previously arranged.
Otherwise, I have caller ID and can see if it's something I planned on or not.
It's actually the same as if you go to meet someone for a drink (first time meeting) and go to some sports bar where your favorite sport is on the TV's. Would you just sit there and watch the TV or would you give your date your undivided attention?
I realize there are some who live with the cell phone plastered to their ear ... whether in the car, the grocery, the mall ... always either talking on the phone or texting ... cripies, even at the doggone beach!!!!
What in the world would they have done if they grew up 50 years ago? There were no cell phones, there were no car phones ... there weren't even "wireless" phones in the home. You were limited to the phone on the telephone stand as long as the cord was ... that was it.
If my date did that to me ... last date unless the cell was turned off. | |
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| Cell phone on a date....
Posted: 8/1/2007 11:28:39 AM | Not the greatest thing in the world to do, but 5 minutes isn't so bad.
I had a date who had her face buried in her phone the entire time we were eating. Either on it or text messaging. I'm not exactly sure how hard it is to communicate: 9' O'clock at such and such place? Ok, we'll be there. | |
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| Cell phone on a date....
Posted: 8/1/2007 1:16:42 PM | Several minutes? That's like what.... 10 minutes? The day I can't keep myself occupied for 10 minutes is the day I better start taking medication lol
Bottom-line. It wouldn't offend me. I've had my best friend call me in the middle of a date because she didn't know I was ON a date and I hadn't talked to her in a while. I took the call, let her know I was on a date, let her tell me whatever she needed to tell me and assured her I'd call her back. If that took several minutes it took several minutes. I never had a complaint about it and if I ever do, it will tell me right then and there that I need waste no more time on that particular man.
As long as outright rudeness is kept in check, why does everyone's life have to stop just because they are on a date?????? | |
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Posted: 8/1/2007 5:41:30 PM | | Personally.. I would apologize to my date b4 I answered the call.. and if not an emergency... would tell the caller I will call them back soon as I have some free time... I guess I feel it's kinda rude too. A call can be made anytime... someone who has made the effort to set aside time for you... deserves the same in return. | |
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| Cell phone on a date....
Posted: 8/1/2007 6:22:34 PM | My phone stays off on a date. I do expect the same. If you've got more important things to handle at the time, you don't need to be out on the date now, do you?
Exactly. I wouldn't even want to be out with a friend who was fielding phone calls while out with me. If you want to spend quality time together, that means you shouldn't be talking on a cell phone.
If you've got a dying relative or very small children, that might be an exception. And BTW, most phones can be set to only ring for a certain number, or you can set a ring tone for that number. So if you've got small kids, everyone else goes on vibrate or silent, kids number goes on ring. Then you know if you have to bother with it.
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