| women rejecting nice looking men
Posted: 7/15/2007 12:15:10 AM |
oh yeah, I always reject the really hot ones.....(snort). dream on......
*Puts on Valley Girl accent and slaps her own cheek*
Like... OMG! Me TOO!
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| women rejecting nice looking men
Posted: 7/15/2007 12:40:21 AM | jerzeyguy1
I was being facetious.
If a profile is screaming that he thinks he's hot, or it's showing one of those "ab" shots...
I pass. Honestly. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2007 1:13:22 AM | jerzeyguy...if I'm not mistaken...this is one of many other posts that you have whinned about women not falling for you because you have this image of yourself as a *hot guy with a hot bod* Chill with that nonsense!
It is a complete turn off when a man constantly goes on and on about how good looking he is and how much he works out. Not all women are so superficial that they would want a walking, talking Ken Doll with muscles. This isn't a Mr. Universe contest...this is a dating site. Chill with the muscle pictures....show a woman you are a man of substance...not a Moose from the Archie Comics. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2007 1:19:47 AM | | OK. Story time. I personally was approached by what I would consider THE hotest guy on here and it was really hard to turn him down because of the hotness factor plus he had a couple of uncommon & like interests. First I didn't want much too do with him because EVERY FRICKIN shot showed him w/o a shirt, with a, "you know you want to hit this" look & in most of the shots he was also tugging his pants down a bit. Hot as he was, this was a turn off. He also said very little about himself so if you are going to be interrested it's ALL gonna be about his looks. What kind of man would want a woman to want him JUST based on his looks. (I would think- the kind of man who has nothing else to offer.)(Does that kind of answer your "kind of" question?) To make the situation worse... after a lot of hit & miss between us we finally agree to communicate past this site and what does he want to do? IM thorough a different venue. Why? Cause he wants to show me more frickin pictures of himself, only even more revealing. What the heck? This guy is SO into himself! So my initial thoughts of him were right on. What I WOULD respect in a really hot guy would be 1 shot of him w/o his shirt if it were more candid. You know if his friends had caught a picture of him at some point & he used it. Instead he had all pics w/o a shirt. (Kind of hate to say it, but it's kind of like you) If he didn't have any shots like that, certainly a pose of him in a tank top would have been nice. What I would want & I would think other ladies would want too that are looking for an actual quality person, would be pictures that showed some personality and warmth and I don't mean the steamy kind! The man I am dating now has some really hot body shots of himself, but I didn't see them till after we went out. He didn't rely on that. He had enough going on w/o the use of those to reel me in. Long story short... most women want a man with a lot more to offer than looks. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2007 3:31:03 AM | | Good looking, ugly, blah blah blah. If you don't have money and can show that you're willing to spend a lot of it on her, women are gone; just like men leave when the sex stops. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2007 3:59:33 AM | | OP you have started this same thread numerous times with different profiles...haven't you gotten sick of this yet? | |
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Posted: 7/15/2007 4:21:30 AM | Stop placing so much emphasis on your appearence. I realize that you must work very hard to look the way you do, and that's great. Personally, I like tall thin men but, this thread isn't about me, it's about how insecure you are. Do you wear deoderant? Sometimes a woman, won't date a man if he smells bad or doesn't brush his teeth (lol).
Consider putting some pictures up, that don't have you in muscle shirt. What do you look like with some clothes on? | |
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Posted: 7/15/2007 4:50:11 AM | Jerzeyguy1, I think these women are saying there's much more to it than looks. We might be more apt to give a guy a second chance at a first impression if he's drop dead gorgeous - but that doesn't change the fact that we want some substance under the handsome face, or nice body! Guys would do the same thing with women. I doubt any man would turn away a woman JUST because she looked good. It would take a poor attitude (or something else) to get him to say no. I would guess most attractive men don't have a problem getting women, but they have a problem keeping them. There's a difference! It's that "substance", that keeps us around. Not the face, not the body, not the money.
Now, you obviously think you're an attractive man. But did you ever think that not everyone thinks that? You don't have a bad face, and you obviously take care of yourself, but not every woman likes a muscle bound man. I, for one, am one of those women! Muscles are nice, yes. But for me, there comes a point when it goes overboard. However, I know plenty of women who would think you're right up their alley. But I, for one, would prefer much less bulk.
It's just a matter of preference. I've been told I'm gorgeous, I've been told I *would* be gorgeous if I lost a few pounds, and I've been told I'm butt ugly. It's all a matter of preference! Different people see beauty differently. So the same is going to apply to you (or any man or woman!). Some women are going to drool over you, and others are going to think they'd rather date D.ick Chaney. That's just how the world works. If you want to start keeping the women who DO like you, you need to realize that what keeps us around is your personality - NOT your muscles. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2007 5:16:49 AM | | a vast percentage of women have insecurities how these insecurities manifest themselves -- well thats the tricky bit | |
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Posted: 7/15/2007 6:36:19 AM | LMAO...back under a new handle, eh? I remember your other threads...about how girls were afraid to talk to you because you were soooo good looking, how guys were afraid to leave their girlfriends alone with you because they knew the gals would leave them for you, how you have sex with men but you're not gay...you just do it because you want to get off.
Get over yourself. You're gay. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2007 11:21:59 AM |
"uglybetty" are you saying that you would answer every nice looking guy's e-mail? and are you also stating that i am unattractive?
First of all OP, there was no need to e-mail me to repeat the question, I don't tend to live here on weekends, so I catch up when I have time. But I did respond to your e-mail and I stand by what I said.
I will answer all e-mails in general. If a guy is good looking TO ME (not because he told me he was and I was sold on it), I will respond unless:
-He's offensive, flames me, or is otherwise rude.
-His e-mail is virtually unreadable.
-There's nothing in it to respond to.
-He tells me he's attractive. ICK. (Well I might respond to tell him to get over himself, but it won't be considered a positive response).
Your post claimed that you know women don't respond to attractive men and you wanted to know why. My question was, how do you know women don't respond to attractive men? And, how does someone know they were attractive and intimidating to someone who doesn't respond? Then I assumed you had to be speaking for other men who YOU saw get turned down and you overheard these women SAY it was because they were just too darn hot to try to date.
Personally I don't find any man I am actually attracted to intimidating, so that's my take on your topic. I might find nothing else there to speak of but his looks, and in that case I lose interest.
Anything else would be either you assuming that's what happened, or you fishing for a way to explain to the forum that YOU're the hot one women are so intimidated by.
Whether or not I personally find you attractive has nothing to do with anything. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2007 12:24:46 PM | I have to admit that the best men I have dated have been offbeat looking... that's not stating that they were fugs ... there is so many things other than god given raw good looks that makes a man a "woo woo"!
For instance... a man who keeps in pretty good shape, has a sense of style... walks with confidence, exhudes playfulness, comfortable with himself, great hands, great shoes (yup), clean... and it's funny... I often like men with shaved heads! (so there!)
I think what is a worse problem is the men that reject women who don't fall into the "babe" category! I believe men are harder on the "looks thing" than women are with men..... Of all the men I have dated on this type of venue... most have related horror stories of meeting women from online... And what is the general consensus? They were too fat!!
If you ask a woman the same question... it rarely is a horrific date because of being unattractive or overweight.
We are SO LESS SUPERFICIAL!!!! WOO WOO!
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Posted: 7/15/2007 1:05:15 PM | | i agree with your comment i' m a nice looking guy and it's hard for me to get a date when i go to bars women assume because i'm sexy i'm banging everything out there but it's far from the truth and attrctive guys can't be players or have onenight stands because women always want a relationship so guys that want to just play has to be A--h-les because a women can't understand why a nice looking guy would use them..it's not that the girl is being use it's she's expecting more then what he want's and what's wrong with just having fun with an attractive man do women always need to posses one | |
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Posted: 7/15/2007 3:02:49 PM | Its really quite amazing how high your self esteem is, maybe its time you knock yourself down a few notches? Seriously though, to me, you are not good looking, to the next 35 females you may not be good looking. Who cares?
Think of it as their loss. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2007 3:10:08 PM | Looks are important, but if you have nothing between the ears then what's the point? If I find a woman attractive and after I look at her profile, yes, there have been times I was turned off by what she wrote or how it was written. I think a well written profile, being articulate and having a good looks are all important and should coincide together.
Keith
But what do I know..
It's only my $0.02 | |
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| women rejecting nice looking men
Posted: 7/15/2007 4:49:44 PM | Two reasons..
One: you are too far away 
Two: I don't remember checking out your profile yet. I might have but I've seen many profiles in the month or so I been here. Sorry hun 
Question: Why haven't you hit on me? | |
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Posted: 7/15/2007 5:11:10 PM | OP: I have a question for you. Are you saying in a round about way that you are a great looking guy and you wonder why women aren't responding to you?
If that's the question, the answer is what constitutes a great looking guy is subjective. You might appeal to some women, to others you might not be appealing.
Personally, I'm 15 years older than you. While I do look a whole lot better naked, I never thought about putting a picture of myself on my profile with no shirt on. And if I had a huge belly, I sure wouldn't do it.
When I was single I still didn't put up a full body shot (even in full clothing), but did provide one in a very form fitting workout outfit to men I was going to meet that prove I am as fit as I say. My boyfriend got one of those before our first date, although to his credit he wrote me before there were ANY pictures on my profile and was happy to meet me without seeing even my face.
My suggestion, FWIW, is that unless you are in the shape of a very fit body builder, you should limit the shots to ones with clothing on.
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Posted: 7/15/2007 5:14:33 PM | NMKeith74: I think I found your shirt you seemed to have lost! 
Back on topic: now that someone else has mentioned it......yeah I remember the OP under a different alias whining about basically the same thing.
I hope that this time around OP you have printed out the answers to your question for safe keeping and for referral in the future. :) | |
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Posted: 7/15/2007 5:25:05 PM | Can you please hold on to the shirt for me, it was one of my favorites? I think I left my underwear also, you don't have them do you?  BTW I loved your profile..
Back on topic:
OP, it sounds as though you made a name for yourself already. You might want to change your alias again my friend. | |
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