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Posted: 7/15/2007 9:15:39 AM | ...I find that its usually someone younger that makes those off handed type of compliments and I think it truly is mean't in the nicest way, just worded wrong. ..I was in a 7-11 a couple of months ago getting coffee and a young guy, maybe in his earl twenties says to me, " for an older lady, you are real pretty , you must have been really hot when you were my age"...I just smiled and thanked him.
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Posted: 7/15/2007 10:26:58 AM | | It sounds like he needs to improve his complementing skills! | |
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Posted: 7/15/2007 10:47:29 AM | OP I know you're asking for ladies to respond, but there is a specific forum for that and since you didn't use it I'm going to respond. Some people would gripe if you hung them with a new rope. There are many women in your age group that have let themselves go to a point that when you see them you say "OMG look at that ugly woman and she's got kids. Someone had sex with that woman!" (Jeff Foxworthy)
What in the world is wrong with a man telling you that among all the women he's seen in their mid 50's, you're a winner? You're average size and you have definitely made an effort to stay attractive. Take the compliment even if you're not interested in the guy. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2007 11:21:22 AM | | As long as it's not rude or crude - just say "Thank-you!" | |
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Posted: 7/15/2007 2:05:35 PM | I think it was just a compliment..why do you want to find fault? Don't disect a compliment. Enjoy that someone finds you attractive..he may have used a poor choice of words but still a nice thought.
I get compliments from many..some write very well, some not so much..
I just respond and say thankyou very much..
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Posted: 7/15/2007 6:54:01 PM | | OP, I didn't read all the replies yet - but a simple thank you on your part would suffice. You are making too much of a basic compliment. Men and women tell me that all the time depending on how I choose to fix myself up and I really don't get hung up on it. Had he written that you look bad for your age - well, that would have been a different story. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2007 7:06:53 PM | | I must agree you are very good looking for your age! | |
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Posted: 7/15/2007 7:15:07 PM | Ms Maeflowers...
you are much more than pretty..
for your age..esquisite is more the description..
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Posted: 7/15/2007 7:51:30 PM | OP - you're a beautiful woman. Now stop trying to over-analyze a compliment. He may not have worded it in the best way, but I think a good faith effort is there. One thing I have to applaud the guy for is he "asked" how you and your children are doing. It tells me that there is some interest, now whether it could go any further who knows.
Write him back and say "thank you". "My children and I are doing fine, thank you for asking". Then ask him how he and his kids (if he has them) are doing and if they did anything special over the weekend.
It's too easy to over analyze situations, that requires too much work. Just enjoy! | |
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Posted: 7/15/2007 8:31:03 PM | Gee wizz, some people are really throwing this one around! Iv'e recieved a few of these type of emails (I'm sure most women here recieve them), it's no big deal, just someone who appreciates the way you look. It's not an age thing (ie: mostly from younger guy's), it's simply a guy giving you a compliment, nothing technical about it. Just email them and thank them for noticing you in this big pond. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2007 11:44:40 PM |
Ms Maeflowers...
you are much more than pretty..
for your age..esquisite is more the description..
Dusty
....I would certainly be keepng on topic with "why thank you, what a wonderful compliment you have paid me"....see how easy that was?
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Posted: 7/16/2007 12:16:40 AM | Wow...I can't believe this guy is being ripped apartby some posters because he gave a compliment. Personally, I'm failing to see what the issue is. I believe the only thing he could be guilty of is choosing to the wrong wording in giving the compliment. Truth be told...do we all not choose the wrong words at times in conversations??
I have people tell me I'm actually lying about my age...and I've even heard the *you look good for your age*. I'm not one that takes compliments well because I don't know how to handle them....but, I will reply and say *thank you so very much for your kind words*.
There's too much nastiness and bickering that goes on in threads and via emails on this site. So, when someone says something nice...thank the person. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2007 4:08:57 AM |
How would you feel about such a comment?
I get these compliments frequently and I accept them graciously.
How would you respond?
A man takes a minute out of his day to give compliment so he definitely warrants me taking a minute out of my day to thank him for the compliment.
Enough said.
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Posted: 7/16/2007 4:46:29 AM | ms Maeflowers,
you made my point!
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Posted: 7/16/2007 7:22:33 AM | angelheart3.....Well said, my words exactly.....
A man takes a minute out of his day to give compliment so he definitely warrants me taking a minute out of my day to thank him for the compliment.
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Posted: 7/16/2007 9:14:04 AM | Thanks, destinezedream.
I consider a compliment like a gift. Rather than tear it down on it's language or speculate on the intent behind it, accept it graciously. Right, dest?
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Posted: 7/16/2007 10:38:55 AM | | I think so....many people don't always use the wording that sounds "complimentary" to our ears, but the intent is good. So accept it in the spirit in which it was given. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2007 2:21:44 PM | He definately wasn't Smooth Talker Funky Walker. He may have been in a long term relationship and is used to a woman who understands what he means. The fact that he wasn't very polished would be a clue to this man's sincerity. If the overall tone of the note was positive he meant it in a positive way.
Maybe he should of said that by looking at your photos he would have never guessed you were 54 because you look so much younger, although the grey at the temples resembles the grey poking out of my 51 year old temples.
I also thought it was strange to post a thread asking other women what a man is thinking. Shouldn't this have been posted to Ask a Guy. I think women sometimes want their initial reaction verified so they ask their woman friends till they get enough responses that agree with their own feelings and tend to disregard the ones that don't match. The best thing to do was ask the guy what he meant. Just say I was taken aback by your comment and didn't know if it was a compliment or not and have him explain. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2007 2:44:56 PM | OP,here's the correct response.
"I am well. My childen are well. Thank you for asking, and thank you for your kind words about my appearance. "
If he responds back, then you can start "reading between the lines" of what he writes/says. He might be a game player subtly attacking your self esteem, or he might be a genuinely nice guy who tends to put his foot in his mouth...
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Posted: 7/16/2007 2:52:03 PM | No ploy,No BS just one person in the same age bracket (at least yours came back as You look good for your age...hmmm is that better than for your age you have aged well?)
Oh by the way YOU look awesome for your age ;) ( that was attempted humour by the way)
I would feel Grrreat! oh oh your asking women only,my bad :(
could be a left handed comment unless he was *right handed* hmmmm | |
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Posted: 7/16/2007 3:22:33 PM | Well, first of all ....I would smile and *really* feel good-looking for my age...then I would wonder how old the guy was...whether younger or older...or the same age...then I would think...guys...they sure know how to mess up what could of been a perfectly wonderful compliment...heheh!
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Posted: 7/16/2007 4:00:59 PM | Chaotic becomes the Dreamer,the heartfelt words,the pain within
Echoes become words,silence screams out the words reflected
She Dreamt,she echoes a thought from her mind,set in time past perhaps
Beauty forever and shall FOREVER be within Ones Own EYE
Felt is the Beauty within ,cherish everythought within your being
True is You being True to yourself,and Dream!
nastiness is not the Forums,the odd,YES very odd ones (and yes I am one of those to some at times) I think,beleive We all do at times have that nasty streak... even You do!
Handle this comment! compliment YOU are beautiful in your honesty! You are beautiful because YOU compliment Life! You are beautiful because I have NOT chosen the wrong words,AND even IF I did... You are beautiful! because You chose to Dream! | |
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Posted: 7/16/2007 4:10:15 PM | ^^^^^....*Clap*Clap*Clap...^^^^.....I like you lots!!! What you've said is absolutely LOVELY and PRECIOUS and just PERFECT
maryjane
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Posted: 7/16/2007 4:13:36 PM | so You both are saying exactly what? Destin Ease into the Dream? AngelHeart 3 flushed>?
Feeling? Knowing is not enough?
A woman takes,A man takes,Both give and IF BOTH beleive! in EACH other?
can either of You explain :What Todays Woman /Man wants: cause honest to god I think,beleive both genders have forgotten what commitment is all about!
It's NOT the compliment,it's the feeling,that kiss for NO reason,that hug just because
It's Not the call,it's the call for no reason,it is YOUR turns ! | |
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Posted: 7/16/2007 4:15:56 PM |
AngelHeart 3 flushed>?
I did? Hmmmm....must have missed that post!
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