| Guys don't want to be just friends, but girls do, why is that?
Posted: 6/25/2008 9:08:33 PM |
The fun thing was that on certin days I was attracted to a whole different type of guy. I found that most women perfer the more strong/ruff looking guys on those days and the clean cut/ friendly about a week after.
I have read that women tend to be more attracted to a type A macho guy around the time of their month that they are ovulating .
And more of a responsible , clean cut , nice guy when they are not .
It has to do with procreation.
Just something I read.
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| Guys don't want to be just friends, but girls do, why is that?
Posted: 6/25/2008 9:20:23 PM | | I had a friend who died a week after his mom showed me his jurnal he wrote all this stuff about how wonderful I was and all. He never asked me out on a date. He never gave me a clue he was feeling all that. I wished I had a time machine so i could go back and slap him. | |
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| Guys don't want to be just friends, but girls do, why is that?
Posted: 6/26/2008 7:20:28 AM | Sorry, I don't buy it. lol
All the same to me.
If it walks like a duck, talks like a duck......
Not sure how you don't buy it - it's pretty clearly explained, and it is what it is. Sex with strangers is WAY different than sex with someone you know and trust, so I don't know what else to tell ya - they're just not related. Not all single people become nuns...most don't. Regardless of what you think, or they want you to believe.
Everyone's different. But that's not a new discovery. Nor is anything we're discussing the topic of the thread. So...back to the issue at hand.
Carry on, people. | |
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| Guys don't want to be just friends, but girls do, why is that?
Posted: 6/27/2008 7:16:04 PM | | I have always had many guy friends that I'm not attracted to and never will be. I met a guy a few months ago and have become good friends with him. I was attracted to him when we met and have become even more attracted to him as I have gotten to know him better. I'm a confident girl and would love to ask him out but don't want to lose him as a friend. He has told me that he thinks I'm attractive and even asked if I had a sister. Never had a guy ask me if I had a sister when he knows that I'm not seeing anyone. The mixed signals are enough to drive me crazy. We talk almost every day and he tells me about his feelings (not about me but in general) which is something my other guy friends never do. I really do think that even if we never end up together that I would still always consider him a friend. Maybe I'm being delusional, who knows, only time will tell. | |
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| Guys don't want to be just friends, but girls do, why is that?
Posted: 6/27/2008 9:22:54 PM | | anything can happen at any given time. a woman has a hard time keeping her hands off of a male friend who she really can trust. just relax. most women will allow him benefits and leniencies that she would never allow another. | |
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| Guys don't want to be just friends, but girls do, why is that?
Posted: 6/30/2008 6:34:17 PM | OP I find most of my friends are women.
I dont mind being friends with women I am attracted to, even if I know it wount lead anywhere.
Sometimes I would prefer to be friends with someone I m attracted to because they are not over their last flame.
I would rather not be a rebound or want to be with someone that wasnt interested in me as well.
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| Guys don't want to be just friends, but girls do, why is that?
Posted: 6/30/2008 10:27:35 PM | | I'm hitting the jackpot with this thread! I need an answer to my question - I went out with this guy for a couple of dates and then decided that we should only be friends. No it's not because I don't think he's good enough for me; it's cuz' I need to deal with a few other things in life right now and dating is less than important to me currently. So when i asked him if he'd be ok with just being friends, he didn't answer me - for a few days. I thought he was mad at me...but then over the wkend he texted me asking what I was doing. I told him where but he said he'd only hang out if it's a bit closer. So does this mean he's OK with being just friends? I mean, i don't think it's a 'booty' call cuz' we've only kissed a few times anyway. So weird.... | |
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| Guys don't want to be just friends, but girls do, why is that?
Posted: 6/30/2008 11:07:55 PM | ONE DAY i WAS IN SOME phycological training. We were discussing about frienship between males and females.
Statistics say
90% men BELIEVE(!) in friendship between male&female.
100% women DON't believe in friendship.
In my opinion, if a man decide to be female's friend he always hope one day to see her in his bed! It means she has to attract him very good! :-))
How long can this friendship be depends on how strong this woman or how patient this man or how strong the attract each other.
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| Guys don't want to be just friends, but girls do, why is that?
Posted: 6/30/2008 11:08:26 PM | ONE DAY i WAS IN SOME phycological training. We were discussing about frienship between males and females.
Statistics say
90% men BELIEVE(!) in friendship between male&female.
100% women DON't believe in this friendship.
In my opinion, if a man decide to be female's friend he always hope one day to see her in his bed! It means she has to attract him very good! :-))
How long can this friendship be depends on how strong this woman or how patient this man or how strong the attract each other.
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| Guys don't want to be just friends, but girls do, why is that?
Posted: 6/30/2008 11:24:37 PM | | It's just depends on what type of girls/guys people run into theres alot of girls who would take the chance in being more than just friends and then there are some guys who are not willing, to take the chance.....Sometimes girls don't take the chance because they don't want to screw up the good friendship the two of them have...by them taking the friendship to the next level... | |
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| Guys don't want to be just friends, but girls do, why is that?
Posted: 7/1/2008 7:07:37 PM | Troother?
That was what the study found it has been published and it is why if I meet a guy and start dating him during that time I have a very handsome built man in my life (the strippers, models, sales men, lawyers and actors) if I meet a guy and start dating him at some other time he is very nice and interesting to be around (the ADA, the doctors, business owners, teachers, comics, and the CPA).
Yes an ADA is a lawyer but he was a very thin and bookish.
I could not be friends with guys from the former group but am friends with nearly all of the latter group.
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| Guys don't want to be just friends, but girls do, why is that?
Posted: 7/8/2008 11:51:19 AM | | If that's the case, vegetariancoffeelover, would any you women ever reveal to the 'just a friend' just what that flaw would be that, if fixed, would turn the tide for them to be able to move up that ladder to 'lover' role? None of you would ever tell a guy such a thing because once you put a guy in that 'just a friend' catagory there's no appeal and no hope. All decisions are final. If I had just $5 for every time I heard come out of a girl's mouth the words, "I just want to be friends.", with today's gas prices, I could fill my gas tank for three months. | |
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| Guys don't want to be just friends, but girls do, why is that?
Posted: 7/8/2008 9:48:16 PM | | It is a lot of thing for different people. To me I just look at the guy and think, why am I with him? Then I'm not. If they asked me I could not say this is why. I do know that lover is not what I feel for any of them. Friendly, sisterly, motherly, or calm are my feeling toward the friend list. The bad thing is a lot of guys want to be your friend and then flip in to something else that is why I make it clear I do not need any more friends. | |
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| Guys don't want to be just friends, but girls do, why is that?
Posted: 7/8/2008 10:06:33 PM | Posted By: onwaves on 7/15/2007 1 56 AM
Subject: Guys don't want to be just friends, but girls do, why is that?
Message: If a woman calls you a friend, there could be 2 reasons for that.
1) You aren't attractive to her, just someone to have her pay for dinner and to have a shoulder to cry on when her good looking as*hole bf treats her bad. (But she will stay with him anyway, go figure)
2) You are in the bull pen, with a bunch of other guys, waiting your turn, which will most likely never happen.
PERFECTLY SAID I couldn't agree with this anwser more...............................
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| Guys don't want to be just friends, but girls do, why is that?
Posted: 7/9/2008 5:07:43 AM |
Men and women can never be friends. Sex always gets in the way sooner or later.
Speak for yourself that's for weak minded people. I would never have sex with a female friend. If that friend turns into a lover that's a different story. I would only have sex witha female I knew but she wouldn't be my friend. I am talking about true friends not someone who you just have fun with. | |
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| Guys don't want to be just friends, but girls do, why is that?
Posted: 7/16/2008 10:04:44 PM | I think men are willing to risk the friendship to be in a committed relationship or a friend with benefits. Men are more apt to feel he has enough friends. Whereas the woman treasures the friendship to the point she's not willing to risk the friendship by making it a committed relationship that may not work and then she lose a friend with who their relationship was very precious to her.
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| Guys don't want to be just friends, but girls do, why is that?
Posted: 7/17/2008 12:36:37 AM | | As for me, If i start out as a friend with a woman and i know in the beginning that is all it's going to be then i am OK with it. But, If i start out with a woman that i am attracted to and i dated her and maybe even slept with her then there is no way i can be just friends with her. Some folks might call this silly but it's just the way i feel. If i started out being attracted to a woman and i dated her long enough to start sleeping with her then some where along the way she said she just wanted to be friends from now on that would run me off because by that time i have already developed feelings for her that's not going to change. Sorry ladies but us guys are not like that for the most part. It's things like this that give guys the impression that women can just turn there feelings on and off at will. Another reason a guy can't be "just friends" with a woman is because we are just not built that way. Some men deny it, It is in us from birth to find a woman that we are attracted to and stay with that one woman. Guys can't help it, They tend to get attached to a woman that they can talk openly with because as a child they were attached to there mother and talked to her. Most all kids are attached to there mother more than they are there father. It carries over into our adult life. It's fused into our minds. We as men carry that over into our adult life. When we find a woman that we click with it is a automatic thing to try to be more that just friends. When a guy finds a woman that he feels a connection with that connection will never change. If it's a romantic connection it's gonna stay a romantic connection. For a lot of guys, Once they feel that way and a woman says she just wants to be friends, You may as well have ripped his heart out with a rusty fork. In closing, It is more easy for a guy to walk away from a woman he has feelings for and not be friends with her than to hold those feelings inside and try to be a friend and watch her with another man. Sorry ladies, But truth is truth. When you expect a man that you know has feelings for you to be "just friends" this is where a lot of guys get it in there head that women are cold hearted bitc*** | |
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claral
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| Guys don't want to be just friends, but girls do, why is that?
Posted: 7/18/2008 5:30:33 AM | | Well the reason for this is women like male attention and a stop gap to fill in the inbetween times for a guy they really lust after and constantly think about and are smitten over.....male friends gay or straight are good for one thing boasting ego and wasting time with...of course its not as good as the real mcoy but its like a weak substitute...if the men get the wrong idea then thats their serious girlie prob | |
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| Guys don't want to be just friends, but girls do, why is that?
Posted: 7/18/2008 7:31:23 AM |
Well the reason for this is women like male attention and a stop gap to fill in the inbetween times for a guy they really lust after and constantly think about and are smitten over.....male friends gay or straight are good for one thing boasting ego and wasting time with...of course its not as good as the real mcoy but its like a weak substitute
I think claral's post contains the essence of truth that men don't fully realize, until they have a lot of life experience. Probably, being the father of daughters is where this all became pretty clear.
I know that, as a teenager and into my 20s, I was often confused, thinking I was getting "mixed messages", or that a woman was "just out of reach", if only I'd try harder.
The essential truth that claral's post distills is that a woman is either attracted to a man sexually (chemistry), or she's not. Most women will obscure that, because they want the attention; but it comes down to animal instinct. It's there, or it's not, and that's basically right from the start.  | |
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| Guys don't want to be just friends, but girls do, why is that?
Posted: 7/18/2008 10:02:55 AM | because guys and girls have different "ladders"
Guys have ONE ladder, and every guy places that girl on the ladder in order of what level he would sleep with her. the top of the ladder being the impossible dream girl like jessica alba or something like that.
Girls have two ladders. One ladder is the Friend ladder And the other ladder is the Sex ladder. Girl will automatically know which ladder you are going on when they first meet you. The top of there sex ladder being the impossible dream guy like brad pitt or something like that.
Now the top of the Friend ladder is know as the Cuddle B****. This is the guy who a girl can cozy up to without fear of sex happening.
Now It is Possible For the Person on the top of the friends ladder to make the leap to the sex ladder. Bear in mind, that You can't just jump straight across from top to top. There is gravity. So you will inevitably fall down to somewhere around the middle of the womans sex ladder. But here is the thing. While in mid flight to the sex ladder, a girl can kick you off. At which point you fall into the abyss. not reaching the sex ladder and not getting back to the friend ladder, things just become wierd and akward. and any hope of a relationship of anykind is now over!
Its just a joke, but it's kind of true to. | |
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