| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/4/2008 11:28:14 AM | Like Chris Rock said:
"Women hate women!"
If guys are so dumb and brutal, and women are all sweetness light, and flower petals then they should be (rightfully) ruling the world by now - without a doubt. I've only had a woman come up to me 4 times in my whole life, and initiate contact or slip me a number....and it was always whilst I was with my ex wife. Hundreds more would look or make eyes at me (not all at once!).
When out with my male friends, zip, nada, or very, very rarely. with my wife...always staring/flirting.
So.....don't get in a pic with attractive women (ugly or plain is fine) because....WOMEN HATE WOMEN!!!!!! | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/4/2008 2:16:20 PM | I don't really like a photo of a man with women in it. I like to see a nice photo of the man without anybody else in the picture. A nice portrait - SOLO. If there are other people in the picture, I get confused. I confuse easily so don't compound the problem. | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/4/2008 3:05:43 PM | I can see why some girls think "why is he on a dating site if he has all these girls on his arms?" Well, there could be a few reasons.
1 - To show that he does go out of the bedroom, and has a life (or had, until some life changing event. i.e. just got dumped, or now work obscene hours) - unlike a lot of people seems to do their self portraits.
2 - They could be just his friends from College, some people, like me, do not date their friends. The photo merely illustrates that i am a socialable person.
3 - I mean if you have problems with that, then its clearly your problem and judging the book by its cover before you begin to know the person. I can see why some girls don't like it, but I am a bit shocked to see some using words such as moronic, lame, pathetic. I don't have problems with girls having a pic with a guy in her profile. I don't think " God! she's a slut, how dare she posed photos with those guys, i mean, who does she think she is? Playmate of the month?"
I have a pic of me with a girl, if you don't like it, sue me. I like the photo, it's me and one of my dearest friend and i love her lots in a platonic sense. If i don't have a problem with it, i don't see how you should. | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/4/2008 3:17:33 PM | | Indicates to me that he's either a player, has an inflated ego because he either is good looking or once was, is looking for arm candy or is trying to get women to believe he could have women all over him anytime but is actually pretty insecure. | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/4/2008 3:39:33 PM | I actually think its rather amusing myself.
If its just a group shot with indiscriminate people in it...well fair enough but I dont even like seeing those pics on a profile...cos Im not interested in your friends, Im interested in YOU.
As for couple photos of a guy and an attractive girl...well...
Often you'll see older guys doing it ie. the ones who cant pull the gals they used to when they were younger...so it makes them feel like "a man" ...they'll usually have the girl throw their arm/s around him like a possession or vice versa.
Notice the photos dont just have the two of them sitting apart from each other at a table or something. Its always an intimate embrace of sorts.
Another side to it is the "player" argument...where these guys really believe it increases their "value" to the opposite sex.
By all accounts it might work as a ploy on less intelligent women.
Personally I wouldnt call myself less intelligent...so my opinion is...its self defeating.
ie.
If you put up a photo with a goodlooking woman...then you're showcasing the women who WONT have you...otherwise you'd be in a relationship with the gal. Thats not rocket science.
...and...
If you put up a photo of a very average looking gal...then you're showcasing all you can get.
Its a pretty stupid idea.  but then...I think thats fairly evident of the people who do it. | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/4/2008 5:15:02 PM | I don't know if the girls in the pictures with me are hot or not, but they sure do kick ass as people. The reason I have pictures with them is because I don't get pictures taken of myself, I know what I look like, why would I need to have pictures of me all alone? I mean sure I could have gone to the bathroom and taken pictures of myself that way, maybe taken off my shirt or something so that all the ladies could see that I rock a killer set of abs and have a mostly clean mirror but that's really one of the least awesome things I can think of at the moment.
Besides, I have always thought that seeing a persons friends is a good indicator of what the person in question is like. I know I passed on women who seemed nice because their friends were wearing sideways hats and had their collars flipped up, and that is something that I am glad I avoided as I dislike douchebags.
So if a woman decided not to contact me because I don't get pictures taken of just me all by my lonesome, then honestly, its no skin off my back. | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/4/2008 5:49:41 PM | I don't really see it as a problem, but when I'm checking out the pictures on a profile, I don't really care what your friends look like. If I read the profile and I'm interested, I want to see what HE looks like, not his friends or family, male or female. Honestly, I feel a little weird about people posting pictures of their kids. This is the internet, after all.
I understand the idea of wanting to post pictures of your friends. One of my favorite pictures is taken with one of my best friends. He and I were at a Sox game last year, and the photo his girlfriend took of us is one of my favorites. I'd never post it on a dating site, though. | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/4/2008 5:59:16 PM | well...Exactly. i guess you DO have a point there. LOL. If i posted all the pix i have of me and my friends, i reckon every guy would think I was showin out too, but truth of the matter is, that just aint the case! I just happen to be a great listener and a great friend to guys and vice versa. For some reason, we relate! :)
But you are right....posting my photo with them would be kinda lame. Unless the fact i absolutely couldnt void them out, then i try not to do that, also being the fact, did you ask their permission to post it??? :) | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/4/2008 9:23:30 PM | hehhe it always reminds me of a Seinfeld episode - where George has the picture of a hot model in his wallet pretending it's his former girlfriend who tragically died -- the thought being, show it to OTHER hot women to let them know that someone in their club dug him so they should too  | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/4/2008 9:47:03 PM | | OP had I still been actively dating, this would personally be a HUGE turn off for me. Why do you need attractive girls surrounding you to make you feel and look like a "chick magnet"? Women do not like the feeling that they need to compete with other women when it comes to their man. Lack of self confidence is what such pics would lead me to believe or on the flipside, a man with an ego the size of Pluto. Who would want to date a man who's always surrounded by women and visa versa? Because essentially a picture speaks a thousand words (so they say) and can also be very misleading to strangers. I would suggest posting pics using discretion and good taste if you're looking for something substantial. Women want to see what you look like not your female friends, guy friends, cat, dog, the fish you caught on the weekend etc. My 2 cents. | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/4/2008 10:44:43 PM | Umm...dave - I can't speak for others but photos like your's aren't the ones that are turn offs. Those look to just be photos with your friends and the ones that came to my mind are entirely different.
It amazes me that some men actually have their main profile pics (and no other photos) of themselves with a showgirl or stripper. Yet..these guys are looking for long term relationships? Photos like that just make the guy look like an ass.
Then you have the drunken group shots of the guy with two girls on each side of him that honestly looks like he paid to have it taken. Or paid for the girls.
It just really comes across like the guy is trying to make some kind of statement with his photos that's a real turn off. If a guy had 5 or 6 photos and one included a few girls, it might not be such a big deal but when those are all he has, it makes him look pathetic which I kind of doubt was his intent. | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/4/2008 11:19:47 PM | | I have a practical use for putting hot girls in you're pics. It gives the ladies an idea of the type of woman you're attracted to. Since email is a very difficult way of communicating, wouldn't you think that anything visual would be of help?I know some people will think this is shallow, but this isn't as easy as meeting people in real life.As long as you explain who the girl is in you're write up, why would anyone have a problem with it? There are too many insecure people on here that just read between the lines, and make thing way more difficult than they have to be. I think anything that will help get you're point across, and avoid people having to waste their time is a good thing. | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/4/2008 11:33:49 PM | THIS IS THE MOST STUPIDEST THING A GUY CAN DO ON HIS PROFILE!!!
IT SHOWS HOW TOTALLY INSECURE A GUY IS
YOU NEED TO SHOW THE LADIES YOU CAN STAND ALONE AND HOLD YOUR OWN!!!!
men who do this are ONLY thinking with their egos.
Any woman who goes along with this type of behaivor is an idiot. | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/5/2008 12:16:43 AM | When I see a picture of a guy with a girl, I always think, "So, why is he here?" I mean, to each his own and if you want to post pics of you and your girlfriend, more power to you, but I don't think you will get many female responses to your profile. Just my opinon!
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/5/2008 10:10:12 AM |
I have a practical use for putting hot girls in you're pics. It gives the ladies an idea of the type of woman you're attracted to.
Unfortunately 42 4 u, women wouldn't see this as being practical and if the message one would be trying to convey by adding women to their profiles is to show other women their "type" that would scream SHALLOW all over the board and good luck in ever finding a woman then. Bear in mind what may be practical for a man wouldn't necessarily be practical for us women. We are 2 completely different species as we all must know by now. Like I mentioned before, people would much rather see various pics of the person that they may potentially find interesting and want to meet not the entire crowd that surrounds them. | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/6/2008 9:51:50 AM | | What's the big deal? Get over it. I think if a girl is offended or "turned off" because of it, that girl is insecure and might be missing out on a great guy just because of a dumb picture. And if she's not insecure, then she is reading in to it too much....don't read into everything. | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/6/2008 10:05:51 AM | | NOOOOOOOOO! It shows a lack of self confidence on the woman's part. And if it offends her, that means that she thinks the guy is attractive but doesn't have the confidence in herself to go and get him. Then she will make it out to be the guy's problem by saying ignorant things like what most of you women are saying. I'm actually very surprised and I even took my pic down of a girl kissing me on the cheek. It's a good picture of me..lol... If it has anything to do with how I'm portraying myself, I could have subconciously put the pic up to show that there's something women like about me. Instead of selling myself verbally in my profile which I find to be cheap. I could verbally describe myself as a man who women would "dig". But a picture is worth a thousand words..lol...A confident woman would admire that quality and make me hers. | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/6/2008 10:10:54 AM | | Oh but on "The Bachelor" , the women on the show are idiots too right? And that guy has no confidence because he needs to show the other women that he's attractive to women. GET OVER IT! What a double standard as well.lol | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/6/2008 10:17:22 AM | | and another thing. Just because a guy has a picture taken with another female doesn't mean he wants her.lol.. how immature you'd have to be. After reading alot of these posts, I'm now seeing why alot of you women are STILL SINGLE!!!!!!!! psychos | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/6/2008 10:21:35 AM | | Ladies...have you ever looked at just how many women post pics of themselves surrounded by guys? Or surrounded by their female friends to the point that you have to guess which woman posted to the site, or the other winner is of a woman standing next to a Ferrari/Lambo/Porsche/street racer..whats up with that? Are you trying to say that this is what you deserve/expect? | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/6/2008 10:30:20 AM | When I see a guy with photos of him and other women this is what I generally think
1. he's trying too hard to make it appear that he can get tons of women, so he doesn't appear to be in need to be of a dating site
2. if he's got all these women hanging all over him, why does he need a dating site
3. Are any of these women an ex gf, current gf or wife/ex wife
4. Wow these women are far more attractive than me, what would he want with me.
5. how much did he pay these girls to pose with him
6. these chicks at the car shows are hot, guess it's the only way he can get hot women to pose with him. | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/6/2008 10:36:14 AM | | I get a kick out of this shit. hayleylee...lol.. you are the perfect example of someone who will make an excuse for their shortcomings. Most women on this site are all so flattered to get compliments from men about their appearance and eat it all up. Yet one inkling of competition and they've got their heads stuck in the sand..hahaha... you call yourself mature? do you know what the word means? It is derived from the word mate. Mature is a word to describe someone who is ready to mate. How can you consider yourself mature, when you can't even handle seeing a guy you might be interested in, photographed with another woman? What are you going to do when you're dating a man and he talks to another female or flirts? Are you mature enough to trust? I highly doubt and I'm sure the conclusion is that you are infact immature and that is why you are STILL SINGLE! HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS ARE BUILT ON TRUST. I would put money on it that 99 percent of the women who have a problem with it, have trust issues as well.... and let me tell ya.... women with trust issues are disasters waiting to happen. | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/6/2008 10:44:12 AM | raider fan... you posted this
"When I see a guy with photos of him and other women this is what I generally think
1. he's trying too hard to make it appear that he can get tons of women, so he doesn't appear to be in need to be of a dating site
2. if he's got all these women hanging all over him, why does he need a dating site
3. Are any of these women an ex gf, current gf or wife/ex wife
4. Wow these women are far more attractive than me, what would he want with me.
5. how much did he pay these girls to pose with him
6. these chicks at the car shows are hot, guess it's the only way he can get hot women to pose with him. "
I have news for you
1. did you ever think that maybe he can get tons of women but is trying online dating for something new?
2.Oh so now the guy NEEDS a dating site... just like you NEED a dating site because you're on here...lol
3.Here comes the insecurity issues
4.WOW....! That's the big one... So negative m'am... Did it ever occur to you that maybe you have qualities other than looks that he might adore? And if the guy is interested in you and more PHYSICALLY attractive women are interested in him, then you should feel good that he sees something more in you. the cup is half full.. not half empty kind of thing...lol
5.I doubt he paid them.. bwahahaha
6.is not worthy of a comment. | |
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