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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/6/2008 11:25:53 AM | heheh I actually GOT one with a cheeseball pic of a dude kissing a really pretty girl -- i pointed out he should date HER! duh seems like a no-brainer
He said I was jealous and he was glad he found out now
I'm assuming he's the same guy who thinks a woman is a lesbian if she's not into him  | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/6/2008 12:38:00 PM | | ha.. that's what you said to me nicegirl4love....lol the thing is, the girl was kissing me..ON THE CHEEK. And I don't recall saying you were jealous.... just go to page 3 of this thread and read my posts. You need to realize your issues with confidence. I'm an awesome guy, and I know I have alot to offer. If you weren't so quick to judge me, you would have found out. Now you just look like an insecure bigot. | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/6/2008 12:51:58 PM | | wait. I did say you were jealous. My exact words were "Are you serious? Because I have a picture with a girl kissing me on the cheek? I guess if you're so jealous you can't get over that, then you must not be worth chasing. I just thought, after reading your profile that you are the kind of lady I've been looking for." I do like a woman with some attitude but you're just coming accross insulting | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/6/2008 12:56:15 PM |
Why are some women so angry about this? Maybe these women are friends, co-workers, or relatives. Maybe these pics were the best shots of him. Maybe these pictures show him doing something that he likes. Maybe these pics were taken during an important event. Of course there is chance that he has attractive women in his pics just to brag about himself. But that is just one of several possible reasons. People shouldn't be quick to assume things.
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/6/2008 1:36:41 PM | | I did get a message with a picture of a guy with a beautiful woman, and he wrote the cutest thing on his profile "the lady in the picture is Mrs. So-and-So, my high school teacher who smacked me in the head and told me to quit smokin' weed and get a college degree" stuff like that is fine for sure - explaining who it is might help? | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/6/2008 2:41:44 PM | You can be negative all you want. I was pointing out what women will think when they see photos of guys with attractive women. If you can't handle the response....I can't help you.
Most every major dating site that also gives advice for writing the perfect profile will tell you to NOT include photos of you with members of the opposite sex because it is a turn off.
For men who do not agree with me, just think about an attractive woman who catches your eye, then you look at her other photos and see a few with various men. In her profile there is no mention of who these men are. They are attractive and well built. Now what do you think of a woman doing this?
Now even lamer is the photo of the guy with a girl on his arm but she has her face blanked out now...or she's been cut mostly out of the photo. Most surely an ex...that's even tackier. | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/6/2008 2:48:58 PM | I am not sure if this was mentioned...
I once was warned by an RCMP officer that putting pictures other than you own on an internet site can infringe on the rights of the people other than yourself. Something about the privacy act... Many people are much more touchy about this than we think.
Do you have the permission to put your friend's picture on your profile?...
The laws also seem to be getting stricter where pictures of children are included...
When I see a profile with pictures other than himself, I always wonder... Does someone have my picture somewhere without my consent?
Should it not be my right to know about it?... Just wondering...
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/6/2008 2:58:04 PM | Oh just an anecdote...I met a guy on this site once...we talked through emails then moved to yahoo IM...well he had several photos of himself with various women. But he was cute so i thought what the heck,let's talk to him. I told him though how most women felt about this issue. He told me these were all women from the various POF parties he'd gone too. Come to find out he was indeed a player, who travelled all over going to these parties and picking up women.
And to me that does present a privacy issue as well. If I have my photo taken somewhere i don't want it posted on the internet without my permission. | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/6/2008 3:33:45 PM | Eh, if it's a picture of him with six or seven hot chicks all around him at a bar I'll probably pass just because it's obvious he doesn't really need me around. It's not about a lack of confidence, but simply not wanting to be another notch on a bedpost.
If it's just with one or two random women, who cares? I have a friend who I met on a site like this, and when I first saw his picture it was him and this gorgeous girl. I'm glad I didn't think anything of it because I later found that girl was his sister. | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/7/2008 11:59:20 AM | I have a strange urge to jump in and write something...
When posting a pic. of yourself with an attractive female on a site like this you open yourself up to various things
1)questions about the person, perhaps in a positive or negative way
2)ending up (quite possibly) dating a woman who doesn't truly give a shit about her man, who he may be with/flirt with/allow to kiss him on the cheek ...
3) ending up (again possibly) with a woman, because of that first impression picture, who is always wondering how friendly you will be with another female should/when "she" not be around...
There no doubt are many more variations on what can come of posting something like that!
But honestly be a gentleman and let women viewers know "it's my sister", "a strange woman who kissed my cheek" because beyond that, for a genuinely, awesome women we tend to pass men like that by.... and yes it is all due to ones' assumptions. (which unfortunately usually turn out to be the right assumption in MOST cases, but not all) | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/7/2008 12:45:01 PM | | I have to go with the "why do you think that posing with some woman, who is paid to smile and have her picture taken with every guy that asks" would be attractive to women? Do you think that we actually believe that the stripper is into you, and would date you if she wasnt in a commited relationship,LOL? Or that the Hooters girl thinks you are a great guy and she was able to create accurate insight into who you are, while handing over the pitcher of beer and the platter of all you can eat wings? It is no different than having your picture taken with the mall Santa and trying to pass it off as the "real" Santa. | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/7/2008 4:58:59 PM | Gentlemen,...
If you really want to attract a woman, write in your profile about how you have had the SAME CAREER for at least seven years...(not just a job) Or, about how you own a home because you can controll your finances and are able to plan for your future. Stories of you being well grounded & stable....
Not.....(& I have seen this on POF...)
-PICTURES OF YOU WITH PORN CHICKS @ ADULT CONVENTIONS
- PICTURES OF YOU WITH BIG TITTY CHICKS @ HOOTERS
-PICTURES OF YOU @ NIGHT CLUBS WITH GIRLS HANGING ON YOU
_ AND THE MOST COMMON......BARE CHESTED PICS especially ones showing
your groin area...
( i do appreciate these but, would never take you seriously) EVER. | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/8/2008 6:18:02 AM | | I laugh at all the women who are posting to this thread. You're all insecure with yourselves. If I looked at a lady's profile and she had a picture of her and a goodlooking dude (which I have many times), I would be confident enough in myself to message her and be interested. It would be different if she had a pic of her at the strippers. I agree that might not be a good idea. But if I didn't message her because of one innocent picture with a dude, I would consider myself a SCARED, WEAK, NON-TRUSTING, UNCONFIDENT, AND INSECURE individual. Like I said before, if you can't even handle seeing the person you are interested in, standing next to someone, then how do you consider yourself mature and ready for a relationship? Which leads me to the next question again. WHY ARE YOU STILL SINGLE? The answer most likely is, because this is REALITY and in the real world humans socialize amongst eachother. Your last bf probably heard alot of questions like these (which are TURN OFFS) "Who is that you were talking to?", "If you like talking to her so much, why don't you just go be with her?" , "Are you attracted to her?" "Are you sure you are just friends?" "You're cheating on me, aren't you?" and the list goes on along with comments like, "You think you're so cool", "You're such a jerk" blah blah blah blah. ALL COMING FROM AN INSECURE WOMAN WHO DOESN'T KNOW HOW TO KEEP A MAN. I'd also like to flip this around again. If you think that we can't have a picture of us with a good looking female without it being about our egos?" Then that tells me something about you. That if a good looking guy talks to you or is near you, you get all goo goo ga ga about him and think that everyone else gets that way about an attractive person. | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/8/2008 10:53:53 AM | It's about perception. Not about insecurity or low self esteem.
Because this is the internet and we don't know these people we get a glimpse of who they are through their photos and their words. It builds in us a perception.
So when women on here give their perception of how they see this type of man it is their view. Their perception, and assumptions whether they are true or not. It's a lot like advertising (which i have a degree in PR). You build an image or perception for your product. And people then associate your business or product with that image.
There are many such perceptions on the interenet. Such as the fact I have cleavage apparently means to men all I'm looking for is sex. When I see a guy who in every photo has a drink or can of beer, my perception is he drinks to much and is a party person, not someone I wish to be around. The guy who has baggy clothes, his hat turned sideways and throwing up gang symbols or flipping the bird is perceived as a gangster (and by me as being immature especially if he is over 21). A guy who is in the mirror showing off his body isn't taken seriously and is perceived as arrogant. A woman who only has face shots is perceived as being fat. A woman dressed in lingerie or with her ass in the camerra is perceived as a whore. A guy posing in front of his big house, nice car, bikes, boats is perceived as showing off his wealth.
Now these (and more) have all been brought up here in the forums. No one ever accused those who are viewing and assuming as having esteem issues. So when a woman sees a guy with lots of women with him in his photos...and perceives him as a playa or someone really not in need of a dating site...or just trying to pose as a chick magnet...those are perceptions that come across to us. I'm sure many men would wonder about women who are draped with good looking guys in every photo. I could post photos like this up as well. But I don't want to perceived in a negative way.
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/8/2008 12:11:10 PM |
If you really want to attract a woman, write in your profile about how you have had the SAME CAREER for at least seven years...(not just a job) Or, about how you own a home because you can controll your finances and are able to plan for your future. Stories of you being well grounded & stable....
That is good if the girls I want to attract is only purely for a husband, i don't want to put my life history in my profile, frankly I think it is something i will reveal later after we start talking. Also if a girl only after someone like you described, it sounds like she is a gold digger to me and that is not attractive.
p.s. I have a degree in Architecture, built a bunch of buildings in my city, changed CAREER and got myself a couple of Post Grad Diplomas in Law and now starting my law career. So technically i don't fit your 7 years criteria but do you think my career is not up to scratch? What do you think?
I just hope that people don't so quick to judge, guess online is not so different to real life. | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/8/2008 12:16:41 PM | Just because someone can have photos taken with "hotties" doesn't make them a catch. =P Not saying you aren't, you may very well be... But.. It would have nothing to do with who is willing to have a photo taken with ya. lol
It's not that I see anything wrong with posting group pictures. It's just that, if you are doing it just to prove that "hotties" will stand still for a photo w/ya........that's just not an attractive quality!
We want to see you, and hear about you... Not see proof that you know other girls. lol But, I don't see anything "wrong" with it... If you want to post photos of you and the hotties, why not? =)
Me personally? It wouldn't make any difference to me at all... He could have photos with just him.. Him and his dog.. Him and his buddies.. Him and a group of pretty girls. Not an issue for me. I just don't really think that a person should feel that he has to post photos of himself with an attractive woman to prove anything. I can't speak for all the other ladies out there, but...... I don't get interested in a guy for who he hangs out with, or who he has dated. It's about him. Ya know? =) | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/8/2008 5:08:02 PM | I usually dont answer guys that have other broads in their pics...whatever the relationship with said sexy girls...something in the back of my mind makes me think...
he posted these girls...so this must be the type of girl he's looking for..
which generally....isnt me. | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/9/2008 11:00:21 PM | I knew someone was going to say "gold digger" ...
just because I want that man to be stable and has something to show for it?
I have owned a business for 16 years and have been in the industry of my profession for almost 20. I am 37 now and I also own a home........ How would I go about dating and self respect if I did not want what I deserve? | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/9/2008 11:04:33 PM | Dude...I checked your profile expecting to see some hotties...now your gonna think I'm checking you out...the point is...I seen no hotties...just you!
Needless to say, I am sorely disappointed. haha. Just teasing bro, your normal looking.
I see nothing wrong with having hotties in your photos...personally when I try to have photos taken with hot chicks...they usually scream and yell rape or some damn thing...I can't figure it out...I mean...look at me...look at you...if your hot already...JUST IMAGINE how hot you'll when next to me...Shazam sugar...you'd be even sexier mamacita.  | |
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| Putting attractive women in your pics - what's the problem?
Posted: 7/10/2008 1:43:02 AM | I have paid models pose with me in all of my pics!
I swear I see a guy on the forums now and again that makes me think this very thing.
There's plenty of ridiculously attractive (at least their pictures suggest so) women on here looking for something, I find it hard to believe they can't get dates. It's more likely it's just a quality of men issue, theoretically he could have the same problem. | |
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