| Keeping someone on the side
Posted: 5/19/2008 4:13:03 AM | They have nicknames for these "extras"... Pop Offs, Jump offs, and Bust it baby's.
There are even songs about it!
I've crossed this concept before. Actually I've heard this on more than one ocassion from men who liked me more than I could show I liked them. A guy I had met but didn't feel the same way about me as I did him commented presumably on the 'other men' I must have and said I should, "let them know I've got a main squeeze". What baffled me is why the hell a man would be okay with being one of many. I interpreted it as, "I like you but not enough to be accountable so I don't expect you to be" and "I don't think highly enough of what I have to offer to ask you to be exclusive with me".
I also know women who have kept a man on the side from the man they lived with. It was emotional leverage for them and sometimes a way to keep tabs on somebody who didn't have what they needed to be exclusively involved with. Some people just need a sure foot on the next stone before they leave their rock. | |
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