| | Guys and StrippersPage 3 of 7 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7) | Never had a problem with it ...if my man is doing it with his chums (figure its a male bonding thing).Besides ,if I dont trust him I shouldnt be with him and as long as he is just looking at the menu but not ordering I dont feel as though there is a problem.
Now if he were going by himself....we would be having a lengthy talk!
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Posted: 8/1/2007 8:31:21 AM | My ex husband used to go to them all the time, when he was in the military.
He would come home hot and ready because of other girls that he saw.
That was not a turn on for me, in fact I wouldn't touch him at all if he was hot over someone else. If you are a couple and you want to watch a porn together or role play in bed , that's cool, at least it's together and for each other. I just think that guys like to watch and fantasize, I just don't think it's fair to their partner.
I have no desire to see a male strip review, I don't want someone else's parts, just the ones that come on my partner, period.
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Posted: 8/1/2007 8:54:11 AM |
Not really. Id like to go with him.
It also really depends on the amt. of time. Is this a regular occurance? If its a one time deal for a bachelor party, Id say, go ahead, have fun. I know what goes on there-Ive been to female strip clubs a few times. I even had a friend buy me a lapdance for one. (no, Im STRAIT!) but I will say, you get more for your $$$ when you go to male strip clubs..haha.
I think I love you!   Open-mindedness is such a rare thing these days it seems! I've heard the same stories about male strip clubs too! | |
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Posted: 8/1/2007 9:17:20 AM | Im open minded to a point.
I have some bi sexual friends, so Ive tagged along when it was her birthday. Ive also been with men and while it can be a turn on for later in the evening...I still find it a waste of money. One tip I did learn though, is that if you are going to be sitting in the front row, you better tip. Apparently that is a rule? LOL | |
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Posted: 8/1/2007 9:36:41 AM | and while it can be a turn on for later in the evening ?
You what? you go to strip bars... watch women? and its a turn on for later in the evening?.... you a lesbian then? | |
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Posted: 8/1/2007 9:57:19 AM | Sheesh, what's with the generalizations in these forums! The poster above you already said she was straight but is open-minded. Big deal if she has enjoyed going to a gentlemen's club in the past and so what if it served as a bit of a turn-on at the end of the evening? Why does that make her a lesbian?
I noticed you had a bat in your profile......shall I use your same rules and assume you're a vampire? Or are in to bestiality? Granted, what I've just said was said tongue-in-cheek as I'm not trying to imply that about you AT ALL but just trying to make a point.
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Posted: 8/1/2007 10:15:04 AM | OMGosh, BonaDea! LMAO
So if you flip through a magazine and see a women who you think is beautiful...does that make YOU a lesbian?!
Women can appreciate other women's beauty...but it is something couples DO these days...and is not neccessarily anything sexual. | |
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Posted: 8/1/2007 10:18:45 AM | i have no problem with letting my man go out to the strip clubs from time to time, if he feels like blowing HIS money on it... usually we will go together, but if he wanted some 'guy time' i wouldnt mind...
not all strippers are prostitutes... and to meh strip clubs are like real life porn *lol* he likes to watch and then he comes home to me... im totally cool with that. | |
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Posted: 8/1/2007 10:23:36 AM |
You what? you go to strip bars... watch women? and its a turn on for later in the evening?.... you a lesbian then?
Give me a freakin' break. READ.
A turn on later in the evening when the man gets home.
No Im not, but if I was, is that a problem for you? If so, maybe you need gain some security with yourself.
LMAO Im straighter than a doornail! I have a CHILD. HAHAHHAHAHAHA
I am open-minded when it comes to strip clubs, not open minded when it comes to sexual orientation. I do have gay, lesbian, and bi friends. That does not make me a lesbian.
You read way too much into things. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2007 1:03:15 AM | So what your saying is... your man gets turned on by watching other women and then gets home and vents his frustrations on you?! Oh! im with you! lol
Sorry... I am blonde 
and you being a lesbian would not be a problem what so ever... x but I fail to see why I 'need to gain some security within myself'? Lost on that one...
And maybe you need to be a little more open-minded too... just because you have a child doesnt mean to say your not a lesbian... what are lesbians not allowed to have children?
Mmm I think you need to read a little into what your typing yourself. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2007 1:48:54 AM | | my b/friend used to go see the strippers before we met but he doesnt go anymore...he has me lol! unless its for a bucks night, i would feel very uncomftorable with it...the way i see it if he has the desire to lust over other naked women then theres something missing in the relationship or we have a major clash in values | |
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Posted: 8/2/2007 1:57:42 AM | doesn't bother me one bit, if he went all the time I might take issue with it but thankfuly I've never had to deal with that. The occasional boys night out/bachelor party/whatever is fine with me.
It's a fun night out , with friends, most guys don't really go there thinking they're going to score a stripper anyway (from what guys have told me hah) | |
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Posted: 8/2/2007 2:09:35 AM | darn! i thought this was about chippendales.
i am not married so cannot answer your question.
as a single woman, it is rare to find a man with a hot body who can also dance. i have been to see the chippendales show. and i don't mind looking and checking out hot men when i see them in everyday life....beauty in men is so hard to find. so when i see one i take the time to appreciate him and soak it in. its kinda hard not to appreciate beauty. wouldn't you agree? i am a woman who needs to see more attractive men walking the face of the earth.
nice tans nice bodies, some have an attractive face and some don't. well dressed half naked men. ie tuxes without shirt. mm mm mmm
however, i would say that strip clubs that cater to men are probably not geared towards an appreciation of beauty but rather a degradation of it.....men who go to these places being what they are seem to want to degrade woman and that is why i would not allow a man to attend strip show. i don't like how men think about women. they don't think right. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2007 2:17:24 AM | I will never get comfortable with the idea of sitting an inch away from a strange, naked woman and paying her to gyrate in front of me but never being able to touch her as I drink myself into a stupor and the money comes slipping out as does my libido. Some sadist came up with this idea because it works. The psychosis behind this is amazing when you think of it.
Here you have droves of minions flocking stage side to SEE naked women. That's it. Just look at them. And then what? Go home and self f**k. Or get drunk and go home with a beast. Even on the night before the wedding a lot of men preclude their seal of fidelity by going to a strip club and watching porn etc. etc. etc. The epitomy of imbecellism and the thing is, the women who marry goobers like these take this kind of behavior as just being a man. And what are the illegitimate childrens rates and what are the divorce rates in this country.
Porn is the biggest mind f**k out of all the vises and addictions. People kill for it. It is the siren song to one of the most basest of human capabilities. It's like sitting in your urine and feces for a lifetime. It reeks and yet the money it makes insulates and protects it from harm because men can be bribed to do anything for a scientifically altered woman into their living doll and the cash to spend on her to illicit their own personal euphoria. Women , wine and song. Ass for days and anytime you wanna pay for it with the dinners and movies and boat trips and trips to where the hell ever.
So being a decent, moral and well adjusted man is like being a deviant in this day and age in most Cosmopolitan places. Debauchery reigns. You are, in this life, either young and stupid or old and senile. There seems to not be an age of the resonable male in a lot of people's vocabulary. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2007 2:38:47 AM | | If he wants to see a stripper ill do it for him at home.Why go out for hamburger when you got steak at home ;op | |
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Posted: 8/2/2007 2:42:38 AM | | Yes ,I mind!I see it as disrespect and a form of cheating on your mate!If you want that S.O. and most would try if not accept it.The way I see it that is something to be shared in private between mates and it can add spice so don't be shy about a little private enticement with your lover/significant other.If my man wants that then I might do a little harmless private dancing and modeling at home but he best keep himself at hume with me if he wants to enjoy such!People it is best to know your mates likes befvore too far into the relationship because somebody will end up hurt over it.I know marriages that it ruined just because of wondering eyes ,and body parts,and the money spent while out doing so.In fact I would dump him!NO business excuse will work with me.IT is complete disrespect for your mate. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2007 6:01:16 AM | I am not in a serious relationship right now, but the man I am dating does not seem to have this need. So its not even an issue.
Security really has nothing to do with it either. The realities of a stripper having anything to do with those men other than getting them to dig deeper in their pockets is more of a reality than anything.
Bona, by the sounds of your talk of lesbianism, you seem to have a hang up on this issue. That has nothing to do with this thread. As Ive stated quite a few times that is not the case. Dont look for something thats not there to fit your useless point. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2007 6:09:26 AM | Enjoyslife, it is a shame that you felt that way because your X came home to you when he likely had numerous alternatives for taking care of his aroused state. Expecting a guy to not get aroused by other women is ridiculous. As my first husband put it, junior gets hard when the wind blows, not your problem unless you want it to be.
If my SO went to strip clubs every night I would probably not be thrilled about it but if it was an occasional thing, if it bothered me I would feel it was my issue to get over. I find the OT interesting, however, yet again an instance of what is good for the goose not being good for the gander.
People's hormones do not vacate the building because they are in a relationship. No matter how committed one is, he/she will encounter someone to whom they are attracted, like the strip clubs, what matters is if the person acts on that attraction or instead, goes home to his SO. Hell, with what people are wearing today, a guy could easily get as stimulated people watching at the mall, I think I would rather have him in the strip club.
I have a friend, his X was turned on by kissing women. They would go to a club, she would have her little make-out session, then they would apparently go home and have mind blowing sex. Now, he could have gotten his shorts in a twist because mugging with a chick turned his wife on, but he chose to take advantage of her idiosyncrasy and enjoy himself. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2007 6:42:37 AM | | that good... you should respect your wife's wishes... In that case i would laugh at them about the fact they get uncomfortable when you mention male rippers... | |
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Posted: 8/2/2007 6:54:40 AM | | I wouldn't mind going with my man to a strip joint on a rare occasion, but would be very uncomfortable if he went without me | |
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Posted: 8/2/2007 7:42:53 AM | | Ladies, one of the safest places for your man to be is at a strip club. The women there don't want any part of him except his wallet. Take his ATM and credit cards away, give him a few bucks and send him on his way to get as frustrated as man can possibly be if that's his thing. A man is much safer there in relation to meeting up w/ a woman and cheating on you than at a regular bar or pub. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2007 8:22:53 AM | Ahh, so many women on this thread, terrified of losing their man. They tie themselves into psychological knots, trying to justify the behaviour of a man who wants to look at and lust after naked women. They even think that doing a little 'personal' stripping or putting on a show for their man is something that might keep him interested. What a shame. How sad. How about growing some balls ladies,.. and telling these blokes that you are not there to be their personal sex object.
Every time a woman excuses this behaviour, she makes it harder for herself and other women to have the relationships with men that they want. I myself have point blank refused to let an SO go to one of these clubs. he had a choice,.. go.. and lose me.. or dont go. its one of my core values.. i will never compromise on it. Instead of letting fear of losing your SO dictate what happens in the relationship, some women would be better standing up for themselves, rather than trying to appear 'cool' with all this. Who in their right minds, really really wants to see their SO looking at some other woman, inches from his face. What does this say about your SO? What does it say about you? really ladies, c'mon, stop toeing the popular line on this.. why do you think human beings exhibit the emotion of jealousy? theres a reason for sexual jealousy. To try and deny that you would feel slighted, or less important, or demeaned by your SO choosing to become sexually aroused by another woman, is denial in the extreme. this is a sick society we live in. Porn in all its forms has brought us to a point where people can no longer be satisfied with the sexual stimulation gained from their one partner. We'll reap what we sow.
And when i hear women saying that they reap the rewards for their partner being turned on by another woman by them coming home to them, that just boggles my mind. Do you really think so little of yourself, that you think its ok for a man to become aroused by another, then take it out on you. You're no more than a human toilet in that case, Think about it. Stop letting men who like this sort of thing warp your minds. They can rationalise, excuse it, take the threat out of it all they want to,.. in the end, it remains an insult to you ladies.. wether you want to admit it or not. Whats the consequences of putting your foot down on this issue? well you may lose him. he may decide that he wont stay with you if you dont let him have his 'guys nights' his freedom to look at other naked women. But, I personally think its a fair price to pay for your self respect. let him go,.. he is not a good man if he would insult you in this way. JMHO. great post BTW Zephyr. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2007 9:49:55 AM | Men like strippers coz the strippers bodies are much better than their wives.
Also, the stripper is likley to be young and sexy which his wife might not be any more.
Men are programmed to want young fertile women so old is not good. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2007 9:59:46 AM | Wow D.A.
understand you are against it,but that doesnt make your view right and anothers view wrong...and my view on this has nothing to do with me being afraid of losing my man.The door is always open,I am not a ball and chain nor do I want my partner to be one.
As far as "Balls" go I have bigger ones than most men I know, so I have no problem telling people how I feel about something(including my partner).
But again these are my views, it does not make it right or wrong-just mine,and what is right for one might not be for another.
On the respect subject...I respect myself and the man I choose to be with,sometimes our opinions will differ and sometimes they will coincide,but our core values are the same.
I am sorry if my view makes it harder on other women to get what they want from a relationship-in that case maybe they are in the wrong relationship.Lousy women treating a good guy badly make it harder to get through certain issues when you find yourself with this person...do I blame all the lousy women out there for the problems these men have? No,it just is...and if I care enough about that individual, I will work through those problems.
Last but not least,how boring would it be if we all thought the same way about everything,different peoples views open the doors for different ways of thinking.
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