| Don't look my age!! ewwwwwwwwww
Posted: 7/18/2007 11:22:57 AM |
After all they didn't say you looked good, just young. I do think people say what they do to get noticed. Bummer! I could have said that I looked twenty, but then I had to go and post a darned picture! | |
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| Don't look my age!! ewwwwwwwwww
Posted: 7/18/2007 11:48:12 AM | some of the replies here are great... LOL !!!
OP I AGREE with you on post 1.... and I have learned that if a profile states that, it's a good cue to not respond to that person. Vain people who focus on looks are not for me. More so when its someone vain who is actually older looking than their age ! LOL... which is normally the case with anyone who states that. | |
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| Don't look my age!! ewwwwwwwwww
Posted: 7/18/2007 11:53:35 AM | I guess the motto of this thread is that:
People who post on the forums should always put their picture up; No one should ever say that they've been told they look young for their age; Being told you look young for your age is not a compliment, but an insult; If you ever say that on the forums, you're trying to convince yourself that you're younger than you are; It doesn't matter if people say you look young for your age, since they're not saying you look good. Does that about sum it up?
Again: What's the point? What does it matter? Who cares? | |
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| Don't look my age!! ewwwwwwwwww
Posted: 7/18/2007 12:44:47 PM | I think that is you lined up a bunch of people who were born the same year and asked a group of people who were unaware that they were the same age to give their opinion it would be unlikely they would all give the same answer. In my opinion if we had to guess peoples ages we would be very lucky to be right very often.
There are people who for whatever reason look younger that what we think a person of a certain age should look, and others who whatever reasons look older than the majority of their group.
About a yr ago I was attending a funeral for relative along with my sister, who is 10 yrs younger than me and not as familier with the family as I was. There was a cousin of ours who she had never met before, and she made the comment that she did not realize that there was anyone in that family her age, 40, the cousin in question is 57. She has sisters around her age who look like they could be her mother. She does not dress young or go around like an overage disco queen, but just looks very young for her age. She has a 26 yr old daughter that teaches high school and looks like she should be a cheerleader. Most of us aren't that lucky, and Father Time will carve his initials into us a few times just in case we can't do enough damage on our own. I tend to agree with those who say that the ones who focus on age could be a little shallow, but if we don't like the look of a person, no matter what age they are, it's not likely we would want to have a relationship with them. Regardless of whether there are pictures or not anybody that is hoping for success will have to show their face sooner or later. | |
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| Don't look my age!! ewwwwwwwwww
Posted: 7/18/2007 12:55:29 PM | OP, it is called vanity; true or not, let them enjoy.
You are not going to date all of them are you? | |
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| Don't look my age!! ewwwwwwwwww
Posted: 7/18/2007 1:01:52 PM | I think the only point the OP was trying to make is not whether one does, or does not in fact look younger than they are......but more along the line of why would someone feel the need to proclaim it on their profile when all someone has to do is take a look at their pictures so they can decide for themselves .....that is what I got from the original post anyways.
I don't mind being told I look good or younger for my age....why should I mind...but it honestly doesn't change the way I see myself everyday in the mirror...it is only their perception of what my age is suppose to look like, and like someone else said so gracefully, I simply look like me at the age I am now.
But if someone pays me a compliment and I feel they're being sincere, which I believe most people to be... I simply say thank you, smile and move on.
On the other hand I'm sometimes told I look tired and *drawned out*....and that's okay too and I don't take that as an insult either...again it's how others see me...perhaps I am tired that day...or perhaps I'm not, maybe I'm just retaining water and my eyelids are just plain heavy and hanging......which makes me LOOK tired to others.....but once again, that would be their perception of what they see when they look at me....it doesn't and shouldn't affect how I see myself.
Being a gentle soul myself and really trying to live by my motto of *live and let live*, I'll try to remember that the next time I see that very phrase in someone's profile...if that's the way they perceive themselves to be.... then so be it!
Love and peace...
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| Don't look my age!! ewwwwwwwwww
Posted: 7/18/2007 1:06:27 PM |
I think the only point the OP was trying to make is not whether one does, or does not in fact look younger than they are......but more along the line of why would someone feel the need to proclaim it on their profile when all someone has to do is take a look at their pictures so they can decide for themselves .....that is what I got from the original post anyways
Exactly!!
And, no, I don't plan on dating any of them.. They haven't asked me.  | |
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| Don't look my age!! ewwwwwwwwww
Posted: 7/18/2007 1:25:59 PM |
I just think it would be nice to stop making people there's anything wrong with the age they are.
Exactly. You captured the way I feel about it. Everyone looks different at age 21, 35, 45, 55, etc. They don't look younger, or older. They look their age. Also, whenever I see that statement in a man's profile, I know without looking at his age filter that he's only willing to date someone no more than his age and up to 20 or more years younger. | |
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| Don't look my age!! ewwwwwwwwww
Posted: 7/18/2007 1:30:22 PM | | See, it is not us whom make them feel bad or good, it's themselves(at times I do it to myself); the reason: insecurity. | |
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| Don't look my age!! ewwwwwwwwww
Posted: 7/18/2007 2:00:50 PM | Well some of us look 20 + 20 + 20 +++++ could go on, but what's point! We are who we are...and must accept our own looks before we ask anyone else to accept how we look.
And, a smile goes a lot further in making one appear younger than a frown.
So SMILE Dammit!
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| Don't look my age!! ewwwwwwwwww
Posted: 7/18/2007 10:20:39 PM | .
Ageless Wonder writes:
I see a bunch of people in here stating they don't look their age. Well my theory on it is, put your picture up and let us decide. and I wholeheartedly concur.
Fact is, when I hear someone say “you look good for your age” I think of it as a reverse compliment and I chuckle. Yet, women seem to tell other women that all the time.
If I tell a women I think she is good looking, that’s because I mean it. And I would never, ever add on, “for your age.” To me, that seems to spoil the compliment.
What’s age got to do with it, anyway? I see good looking people of all ages. And, yeah, because of my background, I am quite adapt at closely guessing a person’s correct age. So is the OP, I would suspect. That’s just the kind of thing one picks up after seeing a few different human bodies every day for many years in a row.
We have some very good looking ladies around here. Not good looking “for their age,” good looking for ANY age.
Now . . . why is it that those with no picture kicked up the biggest fuss about this thread? Sounds like a personal problem to me.
As for me, I think I look my age. If not, I don’t care. I know I’ve been around that proverbial block a few too many times. But, in doing so, I have earned every grey hair and every scar I’ve got. And, I’m keeping them. 
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| Don't look my age!! ewwwwwwwwww
Posted: 7/19/2007 6:15:44 AM | This is not the only thread that seems to negate the purpose of profiles. Freedom of speech. There are threads that poke fun at many things that are said in profiles. You can't say you like walking on the beach, or moonlight walks. You can't say you're adventurous or that you like scuba diving, etc, without feeling odd now, because there have been threads making fun of these statements. So why are we here if we can't say what we want about ourselves or our lifestyles?
And heaven forbid that we say we look younger than our age! In this thread I see a lot of insecurities, lack of self confidence, and inability to accept a compliment graciously. For goodness sake, people! If you know you look like h*ll, and someone tells you that you look young, you know it's a lie. If you've lived a healthy lifestyle and you know you look younger than your age, I really see nothing wrong with stating that! It's not a disgrace. It says something about who you are and your lifestyle choices. To me, that's important when choosing someone to date or to be in my life.
I know for a fact that some of the men who are attracted to me would not be, if I looked my age. You talk about men (and women) being so visual. But yet, when someone says something good about how they look, you make fun of that. I'd much rather a man describe himself to me, because the pictures don't show that much. If a man is my age and he says he looks younger, I'm much more likely to want to meet him.
Is that being shallow? No more so than those of you who judge a person based on their picture. Saying you look younger than your age is not saying "you're all that", and it's not saying you're a knock dead gorgeous person. It's just stating a fact. You know what you look like. I'm a very self confident woman, and men find that attractive. It's no wonder so many here are finding it hard to meet someone. If you don't feel good about yourself, how can anyone else be attracted to you?
So keep feeling old and over the hill, and see what that gets you. Me? I feel young, vibrant, energetic, beautiful inside and out, and I will keep feeling that way. And I know I'm 66! It works for me. Maybe more of you ought to try it.  | |
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| Don't look my age!! ewwwwwwwwww
Posted: 7/19/2007 6:38:06 AM |
Is that being shallow? No more so than those of you who judge a person based on their picture. Saying you look younger than your age is not saying "you're all that", and it's not saying you're a knock dead gorgeous person. It's just stating a fact. You know what you look like. I'm a very self confident woman, and men find that attractive. It's no wonder so many here are finding it hard to meet someone. If you don't feel good about yourself, how can anyone else be attracted to you?
Excellent comments! And I agree wiht you. I see so many posts in the 'Over 45' forum talking about being 'old fogeys', 'are we too old for this or that', 'what should we dress like now', etc. Gee-zus! We're not DEAD! We're not OLD and DECREPIT. We're in the prime of our lives...and today even many who are over 60 and 70 are NOT old; many 'over 45s, 65s, etc.' are in better shape than some in their 30s. If someone thinks they're old, then they're going to BE old and ACT old. If someone doesn't have confidence in themself or like how they look, that's going to be noticeable to others and that person now has a self-fulfilling prophecy going on. There's nothing 'noble' about putting oneself down; that's not being 'modest'...It's not being confident in who you are and appreciating yourself for who you are. This should be a time when we're really enjoying our lives, but it seems like some are still back in that not-confident, low self-esteem, unsure young adult period.
RussetAutumnRose - you're an incredible woman  | |
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| Don't look my age!! ewwwwwwwwww
Posted: 7/19/2007 10:14:43 AM | You ALL look 20 to me!
And to reiterate what a couple of gorgeous women previously said:
"I look DARN good....for ANY age, LOL, LOL
60.
Smiles, Rossal | |
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Posted: 7/19/2007 10:18:21 AM | | I'm looking good at 58... been told I'm even better looking in person than my picture.... so not afraid to toot my own horn every once in awhile afterall if I put myself down who would want to meet me!!! | |
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| Don't look my age!! ewwwwwwwwww
Posted: 7/19/2007 10:48:29 AM | That's sort of the point though Girlflower. Why so people say, or be proud of saying, "I look younger than my age." They're essentially saying that they see something distasteful or shameful about the age they are, that youth holds the cards for beauty.
BTW, you are a very attractive 58 year old woman. | |
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| Don't look my age!! ewwwwwwwwww
Posted: 7/19/2007 11:25:03 AM | | ^^^^ I agree, there is nothing wrong with being the age we are. I think perhaps they want to look younger, and a lot of people do.. That is good. I don't think they are being "vain" as much as they perhaps think most people want someone younger, and I guess that is true.. There is nothing wrong with any age, IMO. We can't change our ages like we can our weight. | |
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| Don't look my age!! ewwwwwwwwww
Posted: 7/19/2007 11:55:05 AM | Thanks Arugula... your not mashed potatos yourself...
I think everyone has a younger person inside the old body and face... talk to a 100 year old and they might complain about the aches and pains but I betcha they still think of themselves as hotstuff!!!!
I tell all my friends my Portrait of Dorian Grey... isn't in the attic it's the wrinkles on my butt!!! Won't ever get a face lift but a butt lift rotf... maybe! It's all in the attitude for me.... !  | |
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Posted: 7/19/2007 1:38:39 PM | It's not only "I don't look my age" it's any statement that defines who you think you are to others as if we can't tell for ourselves. I can tell what you look like I don't need to be told.
Here's a short list (and my reactions)
I'm happy being single (Then I won't attempt to change you by trying to date)
I'm a fun person (fun for who?)
I have high morals (means there' a predisposition for rejecting others for nebulous reasons)
I have a very laid back personality (by who's standard?)
I am an independent person (independent from what?)
I am happy, friendly, intelligent, well read (can you converse, make someone else happy?)
I have a good sense of humor(about what? is this the kind of insult humor that I wouldn't find humorous?)
IM very honest and down to earth person (What earth are you down to that the others are not down to,honestly?)
It's easier to communicate with people when you're not dealing with vague notions of what it means to be happy, fun, moral,laid back, independent, friendly,intelligent, honest and down to earth. | |
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| Don't look my age!! ewwwwwwwwww
Posted: 7/19/2007 3:06:49 PM | | ~ This "look" thing is very subjective ~ while I don't appear 60, I'm too close to discuss it! and prefer it not be brought up. ~ during my early years, I had a boyish face, I was annoyed to be called boy ~ now , it would be most welcome to hear. ~ ~~~~ Anyone seen Burt Renolds lately? ~ Gosh! what a mess ~ he could make Micheal Jackson look good ! Vanity! can hurt you, living proof ~ Got that streached face look ~ Like Dianne Walters ~ ~ I carry myself well, ~ thats important to me ~ I walk healthy ~ with power and authority. ~ I look for the same in a mate ~ Healthy is sexy ~ I don't think I look my age, ~ but I don't look at me too often, not pleased with what I see. ~ ~ I work side by side with 35 year old men and they can't keep up ~ I'm not superman, just lucky ~ and work hard at attemping to slow the aging process. ~ with old whiskey and younger women. Beauty come in a bottle, 90proof, 7 years old Weller and very, very old water . ~~ Dar | |
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