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| | People who just write how are you Page 40 of 77 (37, 38, 39, 40, 41, 42, 43, 44, 45, 46, 47, 48, 49, 50, 51, 52, 53, 54, 55, 56, 57, 58, 59, 60, 61, 62, 63, 64, 65, 66, 67, 68, 69, 70, 71, 72, 73, 74, 75, 76, 77) | My point is if it's a waste of time, why do anything at all? If you're gonna do something, then do it.
I agree with this line of thinking. Writing just 'how are you?' is lazy. I totally agree that if someone isn't interested it won't make any diffrence, but you can't look at it as wasting time when you get read/delete after a good message, if it gets to that point you're probably jaded beyond repair and should get off the site.
I think putting some effort into a first message will yield better results at the end of the day, as SOME might be turned off by a lazy 3 word message even if your profile is good. | |
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ml456
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| People who just write how are you
Posted: 10/30/2008 10:38:08 AM | Wildcat99,
I completely agree with you. I made some of the same points in earlier posts on this thread. | |
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| People who just write how are you
Posted: 10/30/2008 11:52:23 AM | Wildcat, I was not ruling them out as undesirable... I was just ruling them out as not interested in my profile and who I am enough to make an effort.
I never complained about a lack of contacts or dates. I never had an empty date card when I was single. I have been with someone for the last 5 months now after meeting him online. Ruling out those that didn't show enough courtesy to tell me why they were interested in me seemed to work. | |
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| People who just write how are you
Posted: 10/31/2008 10:54:12 AM | | If one writes a nice and clear essay in his profile and that I am interested in what he tells in his profile, I will reply his" how are you". If one tells nothing in his profile, I won't reply his "how are you". However, if he didn't undertsand what I tell in my profile, I won't reply as well! | |
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| People who just write how are you
Posted: 10/31/2008 11:17:06 AM | | what do you want them to say.i bet if you thought they were good looking you would have no problem with it.come on what gives? | |
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| People who just write how are you
Posted: 10/31/2008 1:01:22 PM | Good looking is important but not enough... Men always look for good looking women even though they aren't good looking  | |
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| People who just write how are you
Posted: 10/31/2008 1:11:23 PM | | A good looking man with the intelligence/social skills of a rock is not an option...it's a good start, but it ain't all that's required by a long shot. | |
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Posted: 10/31/2008 1:58:51 PM | These guys who keep posting "Waahh! You only want good looking guys, waaahh!" are probably the same guys who send out spam messages to all women on the site they think are hot, without reading her profile. This must be true, since they don't know how to read this thread either.  | |
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| People who just write how are you
Posted: 10/31/2008 3:02:52 PM | LOL
I'm fairly new to this and was a bit confused about why I wasn't getting too many responses. I see that there is absolutely no definitive answer! I've tried short and witty all the way through long and detailed responses to different profiles. I look for men who have similar interests, etc... Not getting too many responses, I decided to see how I compared to 'the top 100 rated women' on this site and am now far more humble for the experience. (Think "The Devil Wears Prada" here)
Online meeting/dating is not for the faint of heart! (if you have one left after a week or two out here) I've always fancied myself the tough sort but have come to realize I am no match. What an education. (But not without some really good laughs, especially at myself)
Here's to the experience...javascript:smilie(' ')
Cheers | |
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| People who just write how are you
Posted: 10/31/2008 5:10:30 PM |
b). quit saying all women want Brad Pitt and referring to him as being the sole example of hotness.
True, anyone who would say "ALL" women want Brad Pitt would have to be stupid. However I've never seen anyone ever say that. Please list where someone has in this thread.
However yeah I do agree with the theme of whats written, afterall Brad Pitt is considered butt ugly by 95% of women. I have never in my life ever heard him described as good looking, not even Angelina Jolie so anyone using him as an example of a man that's considered to be attractive would have to be crazy right? | |
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Posted: 10/31/2008 5:27:48 PM |
^^^^^^^^^yes, they would^^^^^^^^
Hmm, in that case something tells me you may have trouble distinguishing between personal taste and what the taste of the general public is. Prime example, Angelina Jolie, To me , she is ok but not uber-hot. However to quite alot of people she is considered the epitome of attractiveness. I would not challenge that assertion that she is considered a very attractive woman simply because she is not all that to me. | |
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Posted: 10/31/2008 7:54:15 PM | yea, i for one don't find brad that attractive. i think Chris Botti is the hottest guy in the world!! Oh my gosh, LL Cool J is a close second. But, some think Brad and George are the epitome of male gorgeous-ness. I had a crush on Steve Burns when the kids were little, Blue's Clues Steve not neo-indy punk Steve. haha that is so embarrassing, I can't believe I actually admitted that. | |
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| People who just write how are you
Posted: 11/1/2008 2:15:52 AM | Very clever!
Fancy a chat?... makes me smile... and the answer would be yes.
Hope you're having a great day | |
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| People who just write how are you
Posted: 11/1/2008 5:57:35 AM | In the end does it make a difference?
There should be a flirt function on here....just click a wink button or something to show interest.
Personaly I read a persons profile, write a good subject line and a couple paragraphs in the message relating to what they enjoy and ask questions.
Doesn't seem to make any difference....and honestly pretty much every message I get from females just say "hi how are you" or "liked your profile". It's not exclusive to males. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2008 7:58:05 AM | These guys who keep posting "Waahh! You only want good looking guys, waaahh!" are probably the same guys who send out spam messages to all women on the site they think are hot, without reading her profile. This must be true, since they don't know how to read this thread either.
Anytime a man mentions that he doesn't get many responses, some women will assume that he only emails random attractive women. That's not always true. A man could send well written emails to a bunch of women pointing out their common interests. He clearly matches many of the things that these women are looking for ( physical type, age, education level etc ) and he would get very few positive responses. Also average looking women can generally be just as picky as attractive women. In some cases, average looking women are more picky because they get more attention on dating sites than they do in "real life". That raises their expectation level. Therefore emailing average looking women doesn't necessary improve a man's chances of getting positive responses.
and honestly pretty much every message I get from females just say "hi how are you" or "liked your profile". It's not exclusive to males.
When I was on another dating site, most of the women who contacted me first would send me a "wink" or a generic email such as "I liked your profile". | |
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Posted: 11/1/2008 9:14:57 PM | I have always been one to write "Hi how are you". If I see something I really like about profiles I will bring that up. I like a lady who likes sporting events and usually bring that up, and still get the same result as a "Hi how are you".
I do that to let the lady know that I am interested in her. I compare it to the first meeting these days. I will not pay for the first meeting these days because if I meet a lady I have no interest in I am not going to spend any money on her. On here, that initial contact I am not going to spend a lot of energy on a woman where I most likely will not receive a response. Folks, it just isn't hard to respond and say that you are not interested.
And finally for something like this to annoy anybody, I feel sorry for you. If you let something this TINY bug you, I sure the hell would hate to see if anything major happened in your life. RELAX, tell the person you aren't interested and move on. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2008 2:45:24 PM | For the last 2 months I've made a point of sending a nicely worded message to women on here. trying for 3-5 a week. I include a bunch of flowers with each one.
I've had 5 ladies thank me for the flowers. May be 12 out of 35 actually did answer. Some to say they've met someone else, some to say thanks for the interest but I think your ugly (they did say this politely though). The remainder did read my message but never answered.
Oh well. We're all beautiful inside. I'll just keep on fishing. Plenty of time left. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2008 8:36:31 PM | Well the way I look at. Looks are a big thing on here. As everywhere..
But come on.. How hard is it to write more than 'hi how you'.
If I received a message sayin that, I would assume I'm not worth too much of their time..
NOT the best first impression to send. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2008 8:43:20 PM | | As mentioned before, I used to be one who would write "how are you", or similar to it. Lately I have been adding more about their interests and it hasn't made a difference. I still receive no responses. That is ok though. Maybe the next one will enjoy what I write. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2008 4:38:02 AM | I'm sure they all enjoy what I write to them.
After all they haven't told me it upset them, so that's a plus.
I just wish some would actually tell me they liked what they read. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2008 12:30:54 PM | I find it a little bland and not taking the time to mention an interest from your profile. It's like sending a wink blah blah blah . If I feel I may be interested which is rare to those types of initial communication, I will email back " So was their something in my profile that peaked your interest" If he says something of substance then I can forward- if not read delete. | |
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