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mika k
| | Joined: 7/16/2007
Msg: 176 | |
| | People who just write how are you Page 8 of 77 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37, 38, 39, 40, 41) | I hardly think asking a guy to write me more then 3 words is " asking too much " . I would actually like to get the impression that they guy who is leaving me the message is interested in getting to know me , and would like to hear back from me . Hi or Wat u doin does not give me that impression at all. It makes me think that some guy though " hey i will just send this to 100 women and see who messages back.
As i said before this is not real life and we don't walk around with our profiles on our foreheads. It's a dating site and after supposedly looking at my profile it made you decide you would like to get to know me a little better . So write about a couple things you read in my profile or why you decided to write me . I don't want someone to write a book ,but would it kill you to write two or three lines ?
So men keep getting the read /delete or unread/delete ,well boo hoo . Maybe if they would stop messaging all the same small amount of stunningly beautiful women they might have better luck . Those are the women who are getting the 50 plus messages a day . I am luck if i average one a day so if all it says is " hi" then that's pretty disappointing . | |
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Posted: 7/20/2007 9:40:02 AM |
I think I would respond to it.........it beats the one I got recently
wtfisausername
I probably would send you a "Hi, How are you"...but you say I must live in the united states  Oh Well, at least I know that there are decent women out there that will accept a short and sweet greeting just to start a conversation | |
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Posted: 7/20/2007 9:51:57 AM | | If I like their profile, I'll reply with "Fine, and you?" and perhaps add one more sentence or question - more, if I think there may be a potential connection. If I'm indifferent, I'll leave off the extra sentence. It's then up to them to capture my interest. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2007 11:30:43 AM | freebird
I'm looking for an artiuclate man who's had at least as much formal education as me. When I get some "how r u" or "wzzzup," it makes him appear to be inarticulate, uneducated, or maybe even just a moron.
OK so what you are looking for is someone that has a higher education or as equal as you.. Nothing wrong with that at all when i write someone i am interested in... the problem is i never know what to say Yes i have read your profile and seen that you do not like drugs at all nor want to date someone using them and a lot of guys want brunettes or Asian Girls... well so see i did read i went through it quick... also seen that you posted about this subject as well...
The issue as i see it if someone sends me a msg, now granted I might take a day or two to respond But At least if someone sends you a e-mail read delete because it is not what you like... if nothing more than to say no thanks... Then it is a reply maybe short but at least they know for sure IMO I consider it RUDE if a person just doesn't respond and deletes them...
And yes I am high School educated but I have known a lot of people from college with a degree but not much in the way of life smarts so anyway education is just what you make of it....
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Posted: 7/20/2007 11:41:02 AM | MIKA K
I hardly think asking a guy to write me more then 3 words is " asking too much
Yes i will agree i never just say hi how are you.... I write a cpl sentences but Like as some are so shallow not to answer
My normal is Hello my I read your profile and you sound interesting (i will put in here interests that we may have) and I would be interested in chatting with you.....
Now I normally get the big old read (but not deleted) or just deleted... al most all look at my profile
But very few respond and i have even went and e-mail a big paragraph and no response just delete ... MY profile says i want LTR but if you read it it also say that I just like talking to people as well....
So whats the point of writing a long or a short people are only going to answer to whom they want to anyway...
Jim | |
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Posted: 7/20/2007 11:53:47 AM | WHATSAUSERNAME
After reading your profile... and it is a very well Done and thought out... You are a very down to earth person and that is what really what most of us are looking for... NOT ALL but most.. you give a person plenty to think about... and personally I would msg you just because of your honesty.. and someone i would like to chat with from time to time as a friend.. and if i would ever get that way which i do from time to time Someone i would meet for conversation and a cup of coffee ....
Jim | |
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Posted: 7/20/2007 1:42:33 PM | From my experience it appears almost irrelevant what you write - people will still look at your profile, and if they like you they will write back, and that's when you get a proper conversation going.
It's like in a bar/pub etc - you don't go up to people and just blurt out five minutes of waffle - you just say "hi, how are you?" first - and it then goes from there : either nothing or a proper conversation. I don't believe online should or is that different. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2007 1:56:51 PM | It's like in a bar/pub etc - you don't go up to people and just blurt out five minutes of waffle - you just say "hi, how are you?" first - and it then goes from there : either nothing or a proper conversation. I don't believe online should or is that different.
I totally agree, this online dating shouldn't be any different than real life. Just another way to meet people and get a conversation going! | |
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Posted: 7/20/2007 2:01:38 PM | OK I could be wrong on this but here is my theory.............. When you send an instant message and the person doesn't reply you get a message that says " the user will be emailed when you close the window" sooooo could this be the source of the one line messages saying " how are you"?? not meant as a an e-mail, but rather an opening line for an instant message.
Just a thought | |
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Posted: 7/20/2007 2:04:18 PM | 1) "It's like in a bar/pub etc - you don't go up to people and just blurt out five minutes of waffle - you just say "hi, how are you?" first - and it then goes from there : either nothing or a proper conversation. I don't believe online should or is that different. "
2) "I totally agree, this online dating shouldn't be any different than real life. Just another way to meet people and get a conversation going!"
I TOTALLY agree with both (complimentary) views. Which are very well presented, btw. And it does not apply only in bars but any RL situation. In the online case, we have the profile to "support" an icebreaker with (so even better than IRL). No need for "unsolicited" first contact 500 word essays, IMO. They are actually sort of "SPAM". One can write more on the "second round", after the initial confirmation of SOME interest (based on profile, etc).
I have tried the other approach online, "long intros", actually I have tried many approaches in the email/online dating world, and I think that the one mentioned and reasoned above (the IRL approach to only dating intros) is the best, after all is said and done and analysed. IMO/IME.
It may not appeal to all receivers, but IMO, it is the best. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2007 2:13:08 PM | OK I could be wrong on this but here is my theory.............. When you send an instant message and the person doesn't reply you get a message that says " the user will be emailed when you close the window"
I have my instant messenger turned off. So no, that should be the reason at all.
In fact, the reason I have it tured off was because I got sick of men intiating IM conversations, saying hi and never saying another word after I said hi back. Or even better, they'd start the chat session and never even talk.
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9A/77
| | Joined: 7/2/2007
Msg: 188 | |
| People who just write how are you
Posted: 7/20/2007 2:39:36 PM | | well...I've sent all sorts of messages to all sorts of people (here and another site); some short, some long, some trying to be "natural", some trying to be a bit offbeat when "natural" didn't work, and some deliberately daft when offbeat didn't work. With the exception of a Chinese girl who turned out to be a student with better things to do anyway not one of the people I have messaged has even had the manners to say "no thanks". Such utter ignorance starts to take a toll in the end... | |
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Posted: 7/20/2007 2:47:19 PM | Well, I guess different approaches work for different people. Some still don't seem to get that there IS a happy medium between 3 words and a novel.
Also, Ceillion, the reason I reacted so strongly to a couple of the males posting wasn't because I disagreed with them, it was because they were taking personal shots at myself and other posters. I keep it civil as long as they do too. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2007 2:49:56 PM |
In fact, the reason I have it(( tured))) off was because I got sick of men(( intiating)) IM conversations, saying hi and never saying another word after I said hi back. Or even better, they'd start the chat session and never even talk.
Don't be a tured sherilyn...Us Intiating a conversion is just our way of saying"How Are You"
 Hope to talk to you again soon | |
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Posted: 7/20/2007 2:57:25 PM | I sometimes recieve rather plain opening messages like this.
Nothing wrong with it. It conveys interest. I'm not going to be deciding if I like someone or not based on their opener. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2007 3:49:26 PM | | You know it doesn't matter what you say to these women here. They still don't respond whether you write them a book or a brief hello. This site blows. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2007 3:51:54 PM | funny... I"ve had some great emails on here.
the best one I ever got was from the guy I got now....
all it said was Hi... HOw are YOu? | |
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Posted: 7/20/2007 4:58:06 PM | Freebird, my apologies, I should have read the posts more carefully. I sometimes have a tendency to jump to conclusions, that is unfair to you.
To the poster on im's...... i have turned my im off, but like you, whenever I responded, I never got more than a Hello. I found that very annoying although i suppose it was more the fault of the site than theirs. I guess it is like the guys that claim they never get a reply to their emails, they are annoyed. Still I am a little surprised that they NEVER get replies.
"i wanna strap you on" has replaced "hey doll" as my favorite. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2007 5:04:18 PM | I'm just happen getting anything. I can count on one hand how many replies I've gotten out of the msgs I've sent. However, it is my experience that taking one or two items of focus out of the profile generally gets something. I don't like to write a book unless something REALLY catches my eye. I might get something; I might not.
Finding a partner is work-once people get over the fact that you will have to work at it online and off, maybe they can relax a bit more.
Just my $0.02 on the issue.  | |
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mika k
| | Joined: 7/16/2007
Msg: 197 | |
| People who just write how are you
Posted: 7/20/2007 5:35:02 PM | hgtguy i see no reason at all to attack other posters simply because they have a different opinion then you . Grow up ok , and leave others be when they have not done anything to hurt you.
Some of us would like a little more in an inital post then just 3 words . I don't want a novel just some indication that you are actually interested in hearing back from me. Just " hi" doesn't tell me that at all. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2007 5:52:34 PM | Just an observation..may be way off base. BUT...appears that the way younger crowd finds a quick one-two word blurb more like a wink/icebreaker and not at all offensive or boring.
Older crowd appears less impressed with one liners and prefers more content?
Just wondering.
(sorry I didn't take a poll..hehheh) | |
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