| Keeping The Giddy Alive
Posted: 8/20/2008 12:38:08 AM |
. . is it more a female thing to feel and wish to maintain that “new relationship energy,” that euphoria, giddiness characterizing a new relationship? Is that kind of thing just too stressful, annoying or exhausting for a man to maintain? .... I’m not necessarily talking about the thrill of the hunt here. My boyfriend is completely attentive, fast becoming the best ever in this area. But even after three months I’d like him to jump my bones once in a while when we only have thirty minutes to spare, or write me a love note, or proclaim his love in some way other than just the words (which he says often.) Not 24/7 of course but I happen to believe romance can be consistent and can build with time, not diminish into a blasé comfort level.
I really don't know...but I think it is more about how individuals are... Having said that, it is probably fairly true that women want, enjoy and look forward to romance more than men...There does seem to be an annoying imbalance in the attitude toward romance. Or maybe I'm wrong. Please, tell me I'm wrong. | |
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| Keeping The Giddy Alive
Posted: 8/20/2008 12:55:52 AM |
. . is it more a female thing to feel and wish to maintain that “new relationship energy,” that euphoria, giddiness characterizing a new relationship? Is that kind of thing just too stressful, annoying or exhausting for a man to maintain? .... I’m not necessarily talking about the thrill of the hunt here. My boyfriend is completely attentive, fast becoming the best ever in this area. But even after three months I’d like him to jump my bones once in a while when we only have thirty minutes to spare, or write me a love note, or proclaim his love in some way other than just the words (which he says often.) Not 24/7 of course but I happen to believe romance can be consistent and can build with time, not diminish into a blasé comfort level.
OP, why not tell him what you are feeling? | |
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| Keeping The Giddy Alive
Posted: 8/20/2008 3:34:33 AM |
But even after three months I’d like him to jump my bones once in a while when we only have thirty minutes to spare, or write me a love note, or proclaim his love in some way other than just the words OP have you tried jumping his bones when you have 30 mins to spare. Sometimes all they need is a bit of encouragement to know that it's ok to be spontaneous. Who knows what his attempts at spontaneity were met with in his last relationship.
As someone else said, love is a verb. After a year and a half together my SO and I still tease and seduce each other all the time. Just simple things like coming up behind each other while doing something and rubbing your body against him/her. Walking up and caressing intimate body parts with no warning, or planting a seductive kiss on him/her just because. Sending suggestive/loving text messages during the day.
Make sure you don't wait for him to initiate things like this. He might just be waiting for you to do them if he isn't sure how they will be accepted. If you're already doing this stuff and he isn't responding and it bothers you then maybe you just arent a good match. If it's died off already after 3 months i would be more than a bit concerned about the future prospects of any "jumping my bones" or other forms of giddyness or spontaneity. | |
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| Keeping The Giddy Alive
Posted: 8/20/2008 3:39:36 AM |
My boyfriend is completely attentive, fast becoming the best ever in this area. ..... or write me a love note, or proclaim his love in some way other than just the words
You all are focusing on the 'jump my bones' phrase and over looking other stuff in her post. She says she wants more romance and and passion...she says he is very attentive and hints the sex is great--she wants love notes, proclaiming his love, etc. | |
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| Keeping The Giddy Alive
Posted: 8/20/2008 4:31:01 AM |
is it more a female thing to feel and wish to maintain that “new relationship energy
this is not something that can be maintained. also it cannot be faked, forced, or enduced. giddy either happens or it doesn't. when it happens, it's just a temporary phenomenon.
it is completely unrealistic to think "giddy" can be kept alive. it is foolish to think this feeling is important, or that it is anything more than something really, really nice and somewhat mysterious that happens while a new relationship is being established.
you better have something more substantial and enduring to go on when "giddy" runs out of steam! | |
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| Keeping The Giddy Alive
Posted: 8/20/2008 5:18:23 AM | | Oh Rapunzel..........this is why dating someone new is so exciting.............why do you think so many married men and women come on these sites looking for sex? They miss the passion and thrill of a new partner. Sorry to sound mean but it's the truth. Maybe it's time to move on. | |
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| Keeping The Giddy Alive
Posted: 8/20/2008 5:50:08 AM | A friend of my mother's.....called me "giddy."
Now, if I could only find that with a man....Hope springs (giddily) eternal!
Smiles, Rossal | |
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| Keeping The Giddy Alive
Posted: 8/20/2008 5:55:47 AM | Giddy? Well, I like giddy, but not on a 24/7 basis. Guess that wouldn't make it very special if it happened all the time.
No, I understand what you're saying Rapunzel - there is nothing wrong with wanting to feel that heady rush you felt when you first got together with your main squeeze.
But as another poster pointed out, as a relationship evolves there are a whole host and range of emotions that come into play. It takes lots of hard work and intensive effort on the part of the two individuals to maintain that kind of giddyness created in the first rush of a relationship on a day in/day out basis.
What I miss most about not having a special someone in my life is being able to share the little things we all take for granted each and every day - like waking up before dawn, rolling over and snuggling together while watching the world come to consciousness, taking walks in a soft summer rain or the first snowfall of winter at night, being able to share funny happenings of the day or having that shoulder to lean on when you just want to withdraw from the world and be quiet.
Of course, it goes without saying that I also miss the tension created inside me when I watch my special guy silently and fantasize about...!
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| Keeping The Giddy Alive
Posted: 8/20/2008 11:35:00 AM | | Take a bubble bath together, that might arouse his "giddy up". Keep the romance in the relationship. | |
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| Keeping The Giddy Alive
Posted: 8/20/2008 1:13:00 PM | Getting excited about exploring 'Universal Reality'
Creates inner emotional intimacy
Because we become 'one' with ourselves
Being with someone who is doing the same thing
Creates emotional intimacy in the relationship
If the word giddy is seen as a synonym for 'the pure joy of discovery'
That has to be something we do for ourselves
Sooner or later the parallel energy we get from another person
runs out ,,,, if
they are not BOTH connected
to the ORIGINAL source of the energy
The excitement of sharing Emotional intimacy
for me
is a prerequisite to the excitement of 'physical intimacy' | |
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