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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/22/2007 5:28:52 PM | You've only been single for 2 years?  Try 6. Lot of people have been single a lot longer. What's the big deal? Does being single after so many years mean it's never going to change and that you'll be alone for the rest of your life? I don't think so. | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/22/2007 5:34:31 PM |
I am wondering it is just a temporary phase, or will things get better? I know it sounds weird but i have the same feeling about looking for jobs, will things inprove or will i get one.. Lower your standards. Otherwise, get a mail-order bride! If the domestic brands don't work out, get an import model.  | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/22/2007 5:41:21 PM | LOL
Only two years???? Man, that is nothing. I have been single for 6 and a half years and it looks like my streak is going to go longer, but I don't care. I have enough in my life at this point to worry about that trying to find a g/f is low on my priority list. I wouldn't fret too much about it, just relax and take things easy. I think too many people put too much pressure on themselves to find someone. Just take a laid back approach, get your life in order and it will come, but you have to be patient. At least you aren't as long as me, hell, I am catching up to Angelic Witch (got 3 and a half years to go!!) LOL  | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/22/2007 6:02:13 PM | I feel it is better to remain a recluse, than have a mismatched partner. I am well aware
of the fact that the longer I am alone, the greater the difficulty there is in finding that elusive "Miss Right." AND much tougher if you contemplate a partnership with a woman who has been alone for many years. "Independence" is the greatest competitor of all. | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/22/2007 6:11:18 PM | Ive been single a LOTTTTT longer than 2 years....and Im not telling exactly how long...but trust me....wayyyy longer. Singel is cool!!! Im enjoying the heck out of it and if/when the time is right to find an SO then I;ll work on that. But for now, enjoy the GOOD thing you have going.
Oh and hey, this might not be popular and PC advice, but really....if you want to find an SO why not use all the FREE time you have to work on yourself and make yourself more appealing. Sounds to me like you have lots ofspare time you could be hittin the gym and working on your emplyment problems (whatever th ey are).
all Im saying is ENJOY where youre at, savor the silver lining in the cloud. But if ya DONT like it then get busy and do something about it. | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/22/2007 8:25:19 PM | | Well for my three cents worth... I think it is better to be lonely and single than married and miserable...... I know that sometimes just dating isn't all that fulfilling. | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/22/2007 9:45:07 PM | | I don't see anyone on here objectionable enough **LOOKING** to physically repel anyone which means if you're alone that long it's due to your not improving yourself, your location, your situation, your choices, or your having other interests. | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/22/2007 11:40:09 PM |
I have been single for 43 years. So what is the problem?
surely a woman has at least given you a peck on the cheek in that time ??? | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/23/2007 1:51:49 AM | Yes, that has happened ! But the poster was whining about being single. Not about being active. I just gave him another angle to look at it from.  | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/23/2007 2:18:09 AM | I suggest that you post a thread under the Profile Reviews forum requesting a critique.
Most of your photos seem repetative and uninteresting.
Add some active photos and include some pics that confirm your interests.
List some 'girl friendly' interests that women can relate to.
Posting a variety of interests will increase the odds of someone contacting you based upon mutual interests.
Be specific and use your profile text to ellaborate.
Your lack of 'profession' may be an obstacle.
Be creative instead of leaving it blank. (soap opera critic? pie sampler?)
You've written very little about your personality and inner qualities.
Give examples instead of writing a bunch of adjectives and cuddly mumbo-jumbo.
Why would you be an interesting person to spend time with?
Read the 'Profile Writing Tips' posted at the top of the Profile Reviews forum and be sure to check out some male profiles for some inspiration and ideas.
You've added too many restrictions for someone who is "happy to meet new friends".
If all else fails, watch the movie "My Big Fat Greek Wedding". | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/23/2007 12:49:26 PM | | have you been actively dating? that means you meet ANYONE you email that catches your fancy and yo lcik because you never know. and even try blind dates Imet aguy i went with for three years totalyl BLIND! take chances if y adont you re gonn astay where you re at. At least its nice night out with company y aknow? | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/23/2007 1:11:59 PM | stop worrying about how long you've been single and focus on other aspects of your life (which is a summary of like half the threads on here..haha).
i've been boyfriend-less for about 3 years, but in that time, i've found an awesome job, adopted the cutest puppy, gotten to know my closest friends even better, spent time with my ailing grandmother, traveled to places *I* wanted to go, and now i'm in the process of buying my first house.
it's nice not having to worry about how the other person feels or what they think about things. the only decision that matters at this point in time is my own.
how's that for selfishness? ;) | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/23/2007 2:07:48 PM | I've been single for about two years as well - though I've dated off and on. A couple of months ago, I almost settled down...but alas, she wasn't the "right" one.
And being single is a great thing, and if I find the right person, I will definetly settle down. I'd rather be single as opposed to being with someone who I just wanted to settle for out of boredom or lonliness.
The moment you stop looking is the moment it will come. | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/23/2007 2:13:48 PM | | I have been single since 1993. If you can't find the right one for you, that is the best way to remain, better lonely and alone, then with someone and unhappy. As far as a job, positive attitude helps, make sure you are qualified for what jobs you go after and then be yourself and you will do fine, same thing in the dating category, make it plain what you want and what you don't want. | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/23/2007 3:44:44 PM | Hey, you're starting to go off topic...
Anyways, we all know how you feel with regards to be lonely and feeling sorry for yourself...been there, done that. But if you want to find someone, you have to just keep plugging away.
I am only just starting out with chatting up guys on here and another site,but I figured that if I want to find someone out there, I have to keep looking. Giving up or hoping someone will fall in your lap will make you single even longer.
You seem like a sweetheart so just keep trying. Have patience. Either that or switch your attitude and get out and focus on yourself. I have been doing that for over a year and it's only now that I want to get out there in the dating world again. | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/23/2007 3:45:08 PM | If you look up " glass half empty" in the dictionary you would find a picture of yourself.........
Dude....... lighten up and change your attitude........ one nevers know what tomorrow may bring.
Wouldn`t you much rather look up " glass half full " in the dictionary and find a picture of yourself !!!
You and only you have the power over that glass..........
Whats it gonna be .......................
Peace | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/23/2007 4:34:00 PM | | No matter what your status, you have to keep a positive outlook on life. Don't like relationships define who you are. I'm sure there are plenty of things going well with your life. | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 7/24/2007 6:25:26 AM | | Thanks everyone, it's right though i need too take a look at myself, and calm down a bit. | |
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| I agree with Shemail06
Posted: 9/6/2008 9:35:30 PM | | I agree with Shemail06 about "true happiness comes from within". I spent a few years single after having broken up with my ex (with whom I lived) and I learned a lot about myself. Being in a relationship involves other stressful situations, it's not always a bed of roses. I'm comfortable with meeting just friends on this site, I'm happy with what I've accomplished and I try to avoid self-pity. I'd rather be alone but be healthy than be in an unhealthy relationship. You have to be happy with who you are . | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 9/6/2008 9:53:27 PM | | HI Chris, I have been single since 1977 when I got divorced. I am 65 years old now. The chances of finding anyone are zero to nil but you know what, I don't sit home worrying about it. I find things to do, horse back riding, learning to sew, exercise class every day and I am also a professional pet sitter. I do things I have never done before. I do the best I can with the time I have left. In this life you never know what may or may not happen. So you keep hoping for the best. Good luck to you. | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 9/6/2008 11:56:33 PM | Iv been single for two & half years, im actually all right with it but am getting pressure from outside like my mum & some of my friends take the mick.
The one mate in particular who seems to have a problem with me being single is very insecure & hasnt been single for the last 6 years at least. He uses the "trade up" method which i dont agree with as it involves cheating on your girlfriend until you feel secure enough with the new one to leave her.
I had one date & could have had a few more if i wanted but i wasnt ready, its only lately iv decided to try & be proactive & found someone who matches my personality.
The end of the day dont let it get you down, enjoy yourself no matter what your circumstances, keep looking for the right person & dont worry. I find alot of the truly good things that have happened for me were when i wasnt expecting them so dont get to fixated. | |
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| Been single for too long
Posted: 9/7/2008 12:09:08 AM | Yes I know the feeling and sometimes this internet stuff does not get you what you want. I have been single a long time too but ... you must get out and enjoy other stuff in life...camping, volunteering, house parties. There is a singles volunteering club in Calgary...plus join clubs of what you like whether it is dancing, books etc. and you might be someone that way. Even church
Centre Street church has 3000 members so I figure surely one single person there might be.... I have not gone yet but might
I can't open your profile but how old are you and what is your profile?
I am wonders1234 and my email is maggey@shaw.ca
Lets talk I have many single girlfriends who do not bother at all..one loves to dance, another travels, another goes to bingo ...all attractive and do bother trying to find someone ...well he is not going to fall on their doorstep
I have gotten 10 people together...they are married and still happy. Sadly I can't do it for myself but if I can help someone why not? email me
margy | |
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