| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/25/2007 7:38:04 PM | | I don't want to be a late comer and there are a lot of things I think that some women would castigate me for, but I think that stretch marks on a woman who has been the bearer of life are sexy. Yeah, you aren't what you were before you brought a child into this world, so what. I'd trade a million stretch marks on a woman I loved who had a child before she met me than one who for purely selfish reasons (one being what it would do to her body) decided to not have a child. I can only imagine what kind of man would be upset about that, certainly not one I would recommend you date or be intimate with. It seems a lot of men forget that the breasts and vagina are primarily for bringing new life into the world. Just my two cents. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/25/2007 11:27:21 PM | I have no need for an atlas with my stretch marks and I look at it this way, if a guy doesnt understand that having a child can mess up ones body...than well....he's not worthy of me.
Keep your head up. A real man wont care. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/25/2007 11:57:25 PM | Ask yourself this question:
Would man be turned off by a tatoo? Seems to me that everything you described about your body can also be said about a tatoo...
no, men aren't turned off by that sort of thing, you worry too much. go get a tattoo and then come back and ask if men are turned off by them. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/26/2007 7:35:22 AM | Love yourself and be confident,.....wear something that will make you feel sexy and you shall forget all about them,....
if the man you are with has an issue with them,.....move on,....
there are a lot of REAL men out there who are mature enough to accept the fact that our bodies change after child birth or gaining weight for that matter,.......and if he makes you feel uncomfortable kick his sorry ass to the curb!!!!
YOU DESERVE BETTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/26/2007 8:09:21 PM | I agree with Mietzele2...that most mothers have thought about this.... I would also like to say that the guys that commented on this forum have been gentlemen..and it is nice to know there are still a few of those around!!!  | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/26/2007 8:51:10 PM | | To be honest with you,after a certain age we expect strech marks on women. There a natural part of giving birth.... Just think of them as racing stripes,I do... | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/27/2007 10:51:57 AM | | And to be honest when he meets you and sees your body for the first time that is exactly it for the first time it's not like he has seen it before | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/27/2007 2:22:15 PM | I find normal, natural body changes quite appealing...they offer a uniqueness...a certain amount of novelty.
Now having been with a very nice woman who'd had 7 kids I humbly offer that kegels are not just for me to do. It was like making love to a coffee pot... | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/27/2007 4:36:27 PM | Thank Gawd someone put this post in. I didn't read the entire thing,but I,too, and worried about the next guy I choose to be intimate with. I want to have all the lights off if I can, and I better be dating him a long time before letting him see me in daylight. I have stretchmarks on my belly that it's embarassing. I wouldn't even show my girlfriends if I could help it because they didn't seem to get any and lost all their babyfat too. I am no skinny minny and I am pale so I am already self-conscious as it is.
BTW...I did do Keigels afterwards but I still wonder if I would feel the same to a male partner. My ex said at the time he didn't notice any difference, but it could have been he was saying it to protect my feelings. I have heard the cruel jokes in the past from guys about how some girl "felt like I was sticking my d!ck in the refridgerator" or "I could have fisted her with 2 hands". I know before having my daughter I never had to worry about that...quite the opposite. Sorry, I am going off topic..
I guess what I have learned from teh guys who posted here was that it's not worth bringing it up since the guy likely won't care if you're in the heat of passion. Any more feedback as to how to get over this complex? | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/27/2007 7:03:03 PM | I have been out with a single mum and stretch marks add to the enjoyment I t proves you are real
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Amen to that. The hell with the celebs who have plastic bodies.
Just about every lady I've ever dated has had kids, been a big lady, or been a lot older than me. In some cases, all three.
It's just part of life. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/27/2007 7:22:05 PM | I want to have all the lights off if I can, and I better be dating him a long time before letting him see me in daylight.
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Sassi, that's a lousy attitude to have. I would WANT to see you, believe me.
Besides, I've gotten to the point that I really don't care what a woman looks like. If she's a good companion and a good lover, that's all I'm interested in.
I do my girl watching at Wal-Mart. An ordinary woman would make a far better mate than some hot, thin, stuck up young thing who thinks she's God's gift to men. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/30/2007 5:14:51 AM | | Papabear- you are funny. (in a nice way) "Racing Stripes" is a unique and kind way of looking at stretchmarks. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/30/2007 7:08:25 AM | Well,
As a single mom of 2 kids my body isn't perfect either.....But I am proud of it because this body is what helped give me my 2 gifts in my life. I am confident in myself, and if I meet a guy who can't love me for me and is only interested in what my body looks like then he doesn't love me and I am sorry he isn't good enough. But Confidence is a sexy attribute OP so wear it and your stretch marks with pride. And you will be a 10 every time those clothes come off. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/30/2007 7:59:48 AM | I am amazed at the responses from the men about this subject.
You are all fantastic!!! | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/30/2007 8:51:07 AM | im so impressed by all the replies...
wow
besides.. if a guy likes you .. what would it matter... if it does matter how you look etc... why would you be with them???
he likes you...
its not going to matter
do your best not to think about it...
hugs | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/30/2007 9:08:54 AM |
I have a question for men out there who have been with single moms...does the fact that our bodies have been changed forever by having a child turn you off? I am newly dating again and my beautiful little girl left her signature by the way of stretch marks on my belly and chest. I am worried that it could be a deal breaker for the men I choose to become sexually active with. Ladies, any thoughts too?
You look beautiful. I wouldn't worry about it. If a guy is going to worry about your stretch marks it's probably not the right man for you. He's definitely not worth your time if he's going to be picky with little things like that. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/30/2007 9:20:56 AM | | Here is maybe a new thought on the subject...when a guy screws between the breasts the stretch marks on the breasts are a huge plus for the guy. Its kind of like a ribbed condom on a guy providing extra pleasure to the women... but in reverse. It feels great on the guy... I can attest to that! | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/31/2007 10:46:52 AM | I think its been said here very well- stretch marks are part of life. I never notice them.
The WORSE turn off in the world is a woman constantly making excuses and refusing to give herself to you (won't take off her dress, bra, etc) because she feels poorly about her body. I have walked out on women who persisted in this line of complaining... | |
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EC22
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Joined: 4/25/2007
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/31/2007 10:56:38 AM | | Stretch marks isn't a problem for me. Besides I don't expect a woman to have a 'perfect' body. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/31/2007 2:02:48 PM | | Only a homo would turn down a woman just because she has stretch marks. That should be the last thing on a guys mind. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/31/2007 7:20:41 PM | I don't know, never dated a single mother never past the "Flirting" stage actually but thats besides the point.
Women think too much about their bodies even if the guys they know think they are really beautyful, dont worry about the strech marks, if a guy is bothered by them that you meet, then well consider finding another guy as he doesn't have his priorities stright as he is more into physical attraction (lust) then actual attraction.
Jim | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 8/4/2007 9:02:37 AM | | one of these days people will learn that a nice body is ok, but its the woman that lives within thats the turn on..........just think sexy, and you'll be sexy. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 8/4/2007 9:40:05 AM | Femme,
Please don't spend another minute thinking about this.
Believe me...when you find the right man, he's not going to care at all. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 8/4/2007 5:27:39 PM | | I too am in the same boat....... however, I find it very selfish. I haven't had any problems with men finding my body unnatractive. I usually find that they can't get enough! | |
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bosoxx
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Joined: 1/6/2007
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 8/4/2007 5:55:26 PM | Hi Femme,
Been w/ my share of women s/stretch marks from children.C-sections too and to be honest if I liked your all around looks and personality....I would think their kinda sexy. Sure looks count to all of us,but I think more in a general kind of way.I'm past looking for supermodels anyway....Not one myself so.....
You seem to look great and I think what's more important sexually to a man is good communication,himknowing he can please you and you him. So enjoy yourself and be proud! Nothing worse than a woman so "hung up" it would detract from the beauty of the moment.
 .....Bosoxx | |
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