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Posted: 8/4/2007 7:02:41 PM | | If stretch marks are a problem for them, they are very shallow. Of course they aren't the most beautiful things in the world (I have three kids, believe me I know), but they are part of YOU and if he cares about you he won't mind them. Tell him you can overlook his small pecker and hairy back if he can overlook the road map on your stomach. ;) | |
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Posted: 8/4/2007 9:17:13 PM | For those of you who know of Kat Williams (and if you don't then you gotta rent his stand up comedy shows)...... Stretch marks mean either one of two things.... you were big and got small or you were small and got big... EITHER WAY .... WE ****IN!!!!!!  | |
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Posted: 10/31/2007 8:56:57 AM | What a great response! Racing stripes! What an honor to us women! I am one of the lucky ones who does not have those racing stripes, but believe me, I have other ones! It is all a part of the way God made us, and a part of life's experiences......they all tell a story about our lives, they are a part of us, who we are!
Has anyone talked to this guy, what is his side of the story? If you are not attracted to her, then let her go....so she can find someone who is! | |
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Posted: 10/31/2007 9:07:45 AM | Re the OPost:
I personally find "perfect" bodies (natural or manufactured") "freaky". They do not even turn me on that much (see libido). Real is what turns me on and real is NOT perfect. Real carries the marks of time and living with PRIDE and that is sexy as heck!
What is more, to jump into the fad of calling things syndromes or dysfunctions, I think that "perfect body seekers" must suffer from some kind of a "syndrome" or "dysfunctionality". lol lol
They will probably make great lovers and SO for the first ever "manufactured" humans. There! | |
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Posted: 10/31/2007 9:16:54 AM | I have actually had a lover trace his finger along my C-Section scar lovingly...making me not only accept my body changes but embrace them as part of what makes me the person I am today
Remember...without your daughter you would be a different person. Those stretch marks are a badge of honor, a physical reminder of the wonderful emotional growth you have been privy to | |
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Posted: 10/31/2007 9:21:13 AM | Bravo Topaz!.....Bravo!! ^^^
beautifully said! We all have blemishes/scars/marks/crooked noses/razor burn...etc. etc. Even if you lived in a bubble, you's still be pasty white!
embrace who you are/ what you look like...because it is you! | |
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Posted: 10/31/2007 9:25:20 AM | I happened to accidentally share a cab (happens over here) the other day with a person who works in the Beauty Industry. Cabs here are offline forums! lol
After she heard my POV on what REAL bodily beauty is, she was very ticked off and left without saying "bye"!!! | |
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Posted: 10/31/2007 9:29:12 AM | for some people in the earlier half of your age group it may matter... but by the time a man is a man... or at least 30, they generally care a little less about perfection!
for me it is a non issue, and those running after the perfect women... well good look, personality over looks and a few stretch marks are a non issue | |
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Posted: 10/31/2007 1:35:14 PM | There is nothing more sensual than dating a single mom....I actually going on my first date in pof.....she is a single mum and we have been chatting for a while....she is totally gorgeous....I have children who don't live with me, so I can understand what single mums go through.
So, what about stretchmarks....I have them too...lol A mature man looks beyond those things.....i fall in love with her mind, heart and soul..
Darlin....there is nothing at all wrong with stretch marks....you will be fine....good luck on your journey to happiness... | |
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Posted: 10/31/2007 1:40:27 PM | | Not sure if anyone said this or not... but the right guy will understand and not be worried about your "imperfections" :) JMO | |
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Posted: 10/31/2007 1:58:51 PM | | im proud of my stretchmarks...i show them to ppl...im very happy to exibit what a female body can do..they are a beautiful part of me just like my tattoos and peircings..and yes even my scars..every part of me and every mark on my body shows just what i can do BE PROUD!! | |
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Posted: 10/31/2007 4:03:26 PM | | Do your stretch marks make you feel ugly? I know mine are there that's why I don't sport a 2 piece bathing suit in the summertime, but when I'm with a guy that I'm attracted to, I feel sexy and when I take my clothes off nobody has EVER said anything about how I look. It's how you serve it up, as long as you have that "come hither" look in your eyes, I don't think it'll matter what your stomach looks like. If it DOES matter to him, you need to go find a REAL man. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2008 6:13:01 PM | | The best thing my child gave me were hips and the awareness that life was no longer about ME. In a town where self is promoted to steer the herd from what really is going on in this world? Sad to have this question posted. But then, as part of the herd, we've been lead for a long time by the wrong people... there is no news of what really happens. Lives are but footnotes in tragic moments that occur daily. My comment for any parent would be, I'm sorry if you lost your child, it's not for them to go before us. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2008 7:46:33 PM | I would'nt reject a woman because of stretch marks due to child birth. To me, those stretch marks add to her all around beauty.
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Well said. I don't get it about how some guys think. They want thin girls who are built like Barbie and look like boys. Maybe they'd be happier being with boys, period.
A few stretch marks never hurt anybody. They're simply a part of life, and mean that your girl has lived life. I've dated and slept with women who were BBWs, who've had kids and who've been a lot older than me. Sometimes all three. No complaints about any of them.
Besides, when you get to be my age, you care less and less about what a woman looks like. If she loves me and takes care of me, she's priceless. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2008 7:55:53 PM | | If they know they are dating a mom, then they should know what to expect. Nobody's truly perfect. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2008 8:17:29 PM | | OP, i've never had a child, but i was once 50 lbs heavier than i am now...and i'm currently still a somewhat bigger girl. i have stretch marks, my body's not perfect, and based on those shared body issues i feel that i can answer the concerns which you've expressed. simply put, most men are far less concerned with our little "imperfections" than we are ourselves. i like to try to hide behind lingerie, while most guys i've known want to feel and see skin...they have no problem with me just as i am. the only "issue" is in my own head, and i suspect the same is true of your situation. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2008 4:17:50 PM | | personally i find a woman that has had a baby, or children more appealing than those that have not | |
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Posted: 3/19/2008 4:26:53 PM | If i ever saw a woman with absolutely no physical imperfections like stretch marks, i'd be pretty damn suspicious.
Fembots scare me.  | |
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Posted: 3/19/2008 4:30:59 PM | | If a man didn't want to be with you due to something like stretch marks, I would say he's definitely not worth your time and you probably don't want to be with him anyway. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2008 5:52:55 PM | Anyone who doesn't understand is a Fool. Show me a gal who has kids and doesn't wear the scars somewhere. Stretch marks, C Section scar, Pouch, Whatever.
It's not that big of a deal unless you make it one.
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Posted: 3/19/2008 6:31:01 PM | | Ladies, find a nudist male. We're more realistic about the natural body. It doesn't matter. Birth and operational scars are signs that you've survived some of the battles of life. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 3/22/2008 7:51:04 AM | | What's this stuff about "imperfections"? Stretch marks are something a woman earns and can carry around forever, not anything she needs to try hiding. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2008 10:13:40 AM | So sad the idea that people.. women are supposed to have perfect airbrushed bodies. It causes so much anguish.
I EARNED every one of my stretch marks, scars..whatever. I was lucky that I don't have a lot, but would I ever feel ashamed of them? hell no. They are my badges of honour. My body nurtured a new wonderful little person.. and THAT, my friends, is a miracle, and a reason to treat it with honour and respect and a little awe.
The media really needs to stop portraying these plastic replicas of human beings.. then maybe our daughters wouldn't be killing themselves with bulimia, anorexia and plastic surgery, and our sons with steroids and such.
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Posted: 9/15/2008 2:01:35 PM | I AM A 49 YEAR OLD WOMEN WHO HAVE HAD THREE CHILDREN ALL BY C-SECTIONS! I HAVE NOT YET ENCOUNTERED A MAN THAT HAS HAD ANY PROBLEMS WITH MY SCARES OR OTHERWISE! IN FACT IF I HAD HAD ANY INSECURITIES ABOUT THEM.. I JUST SIMPLY THINK OF THE THREE BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN THAT I HAVE BROUGHT INTO MY LIFE AND HOW SPECIAL THEY ARE TO ME! ANYONE KNOWS THAT IT'S ALL PART OF BEING A MOMMY!, THOSE WHO ARE BLESSED WITH NOT GETTING ANY! GOOD FOR THEM! THOSE WHO DO HAVE A PROBLE?,, WELL JUST DONT DATE SINGLE WOMEN WHO HAS HAD KIDS! CONTINUE TO BE SHALLOW WITHOUT US! LOL...IM STILL CONSIDERED BY MEN TO BE A "HOTTIE" IN MORE WAYS THAN I COULD SAY!
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