| single mom body issues
Posted: 9/15/2008 2:38:34 PM | The odds that there is a woman over thirty without stretch marks (and kids) would make it ridiculous to hold that as a dis-qualifier. And lets face it, most guys ain't lookin' at your belly and if they are, they ain't thinking "jeez, if only she didn't have those stretch-marks..."
Most of my former gf's (including my ex) had them and it in no way affected my attraction to them. Would they have been hotter without 'em? Yeah probably, but then, so would I be (maybe) without the laugh-lines, and graying hair...so?
I think we can all find something more useful to worry about than the footprints life leaves on our body. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 9/15/2008 3:49:41 PM | http://www.naturalbioskincare.com/benefits/stretchmarks.html
First and most importantly...You only get one body..so love it...Feel confident..cause seriously...you make up who you are..not some stretch marks from having babies.
Secondly, The link i posted is for some amazing cream. I got mine because I used to have really bad acne and it left some scars...I have used the cream like 5 times and my skin looks amazing...it stopped break outs...and it healed what was there...now it's making the scars dissapear. Checkit out if your interested...it is a bit pricey..but well worth it.
By the way... yay for babies..and good mommies. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 9/15/2008 8:17:09 PM | | I don't think that stretch should change the way a man see you. Stretch marks don't dipect the way a person see you. If stretch marks turns him off then he is no a REAL MAN. Women bore the children for the men why can't they accept that we go through changes. It's not like they have the full package that every woman is looking for. If they don't like it so be it, thats more for the next man who knows what it's all about to enjoy. "Can I get a aman on that. " | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 9/15/2008 8:30:05 PM | | Men have stretch marks just like the women do, whats the differences. We all have some body differences weather it's stretch marks or extra body fat or as the women like to say a little more cushion for the pushing. Be real no bodies body is perfect. Aren't we suppose to be looking for the real person inside not the person that you see. That's the question that you have to ask yourself? | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 9/15/2008 8:38:02 PM | You went through a lot and worked hard for that little girl . . . those stretch marks are a badge of courage!!
Besides, men can have them too! | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 9/16/2008 7:53:47 AM |
I have a question for men out there who have been with single moms...does the fact that our bodies have been changed forever by having a child turn you off? I am newly dating again and my beautiful little girl left her signature by the way of stretch marks on my belly and chest. I am worried that it could be a deal breaker for the men I choose to become sexually active with. Ladies, any thoughts too?
It never turned me off, and I have always went for the entire package, inside and out. I was in a long term relationship with a 33 year old woman who had three kids from a previous marriage and her stretch marks did not turn me off in the slightest. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 9/16/2008 8:56:13 AM | To be honest...this is one of those threads where I'm just gonna say..."really?"
The thought of a woman with bigger boobs, no matter how she got them, turns me on.
Now, the belly is where I say there's truly no issue for me. I'm not perfect, but God saw you as "perfect" to help the bundles of joy you carried come into this world.
But, where I think some men have issues, is that some women seemingly don't have a willingness to control their weight after pregnancy. It's physically unappealing to them...of course, some of them look like they're about to give birth themselves.
It's obviously life-altering. And being a father myself, it's fun to have a child. But, I can only imagine that women want to look their best, for themselves, and perhaps for us men, too.
Just one man's opinion.
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 9/16/2008 9:23:11 AM | Applause xquark!
When I met my Ex she had two sons and they had given her the gift of stretch marks. By the time I first saw them, I was already madly in love and every imperfection was as wonderful as her perfections.
It's a subjective question, but the guy who cares not about how age and childbirth have affected your body is the guy you want to be with IMHO. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 9/16/2008 10:54:57 AM |
Applause xquark!
When I met my Ex she had two sons and they had given her the gift of stretch marks. By the time I first saw them, I was already madly in love and every imperfection was as wonderful as her perfections.
It's a subjective question, but the guy who cares not about how age and childbirth have affected your body is the guy you want to be with IMHO.
Cheers Itechman! I agree with you 100% - a good guy will not care not about her age or stretch/surgery marks from childbirth and how they have affected her body! | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 9/16/2008 11:27:28 AM | Wasnt it Shirley Valentine where the bloke described this issue as " the lines of life "
No problem here girls, love um lol
Guvna
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| single mom body issues - not just stretch marks!
Posted: 9/16/2008 1:19:24 PM | | surely there are other body issues that single moms have other than stretch marks? c'mon...anyone courageous enough to mention any other body issues arising from childbirth? | |
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| single mom body issues - not just stretch marks!
Posted: 9/16/2008 1:24:35 PM | ^^^ Since I've never been with a woman that didn't have at least one child, I don't have a point of reference... But I think I know what you mean. 
And I'm not going there.  | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 5/14/2009 5:42:56 PM | Sassifrazz, it's not pregnancy. It's genetics. Some women are genetically programmed to get stretch marks, even if she never bears children. It has to do with certain enzymes being triggered. Not enough of that enzyme or no enzyme, no stretch marks. That's why some women don't get them during pregnancy, and some women do get them when when they gain two pounds. It's your genetic makeup, so don't frazzle over it.
Not to mention, if you forget about them, you'll cause less attention to be drawn to them. He may notice them, file the fact that they exist in his back brain file, then essentially they're just there, a non-issue.
I believe a man who truly loves you, loves you warts, quirks and all. Kudos to the men who have acknowledged that. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 5/14/2009 9:34:48 PM | I've dated so far two women with stretchmarks well after their children were born. Didn't bother me then, nor now. It's just a small part of who they are. Hell I have scars from surgery on my knee and stomach from when I was a baby. So what?
As long as the person doesn't look like a railroad track, what's the big deal? Some people are just spoiled or shallow. If that keeps somebody from keeping or experiencing a good woman, great! I'll take her, and we'll enjoy each other's company and the ensuing relationship. Thanks... | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 5/14/2009 11:17:27 PM | | At my age I expect the women I date to have evidence that they've lived a full life. Heck, I have! I wish people could accept themselves as they are and not worry about things they cannot change. Wastes energy you could be using to enjoy life! | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 5/15/2009 6:43:29 PM | | i find strech marks on a women from having a baby sexy...your body produced a living soul and changed for ever...that is sexy as hell!!!! | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 5/15/2009 7:55:11 PM | | This is why so many men want younger women, it's a shallow insensitive way of looking at things but a woman's body does in some not all cases change drasticlly. I have had the priveledge of dating more than one single mom, one had a lot of stretch marks while the other you would never know she had kids by looking at her body and they were both the same age. So really it depends on each individual man, if he is not shallow and can understand that motherhood has it's sacrifices then he can be in it for more than a one night stand. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/27/2009 10:07:06 AM | | Okay..I just have to reply to this post. I have a girlfriend who had four children. After the 4th child, she was having problems with bladder control and she said that she felt "lose." She went to see a Dr. here in our little cow-town who was doing a new surgery called the "sling." She went through some testing and qualified for the surgery..meaning she had to get her bladder full and cough for the doc..when she did, of course, the water (saline) leaked out..she said it was pretty humiliating..but the doc needed to see it. Anyway..she had the surgery and at the same time he repaired the slackness in her vag from childbirth. She said it was the best thing she's ever done and totally feels much tighter now (during sex) and nooo more leaking..in addition to kegels, she's in great anatomical shape again. Hope that helps..by the way, her insurance paid for it. Woman in Hollywood are paying major bucks for the surgery just to tighten their vagi's..can you imagine. Nice doc! :-) | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/27/2009 10:46:44 AM | | Personally, I think most mature men, dont mind stretch marks at all. I am not looking for a young tight hard body,or the model type figure. I understand that with age both men's and womans bodies change. I will say that we all are attracted first with our eyes , but its the inner person that we eventually fall in love with. I find that women with the perfect bodies, not a hair out of place etc, scare the hell outta me LOL Usually they are self centered , and I am just looking for a rejection from those type of women, as I am far from perfect. I am slender to average,and have a reciding hairline,more gray hair than brown, but I do not consider myself ugly, nor should women with stretch marks, or an addition 5 to 10 lbs overweight bother you. I will say that women that post an average body weight and you see a picture ,I have to wonder average compared to what , a whale , ? LOL Steve | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/27/2009 10:46:56 AM |
I have a question for men out there who have been with single moms...does the fact that our bodies have been changed forever by having a child turn you off? I am newly dating again and my beautiful little girl left her signature by the way of stretch marks on my belly and chest. I am worried that it could be a deal breaker for the men I choose to become sexually active with. Ladies, any thoughts too?
i don't think having kids will always destroy a womans body. i think it's more about her diet and exercise. i always heard that cocoa butter helps w/ stretch marks... but if u gain an obscene amout of weight during pregnancy and then do nothing to tone it... yes, big turn off. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/27/2009 11:15:18 AM | If it upsets him that much to see stretch marks OP, just make sure the lights are low, finish what you started with him and then make sure his exit is fast and expedient.
You don't need someone that shallow in your life, do you?
This shouldn't even be a concern for anyone who lives on this side of reality. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/27/2009 11:22:20 AM | | This is not just about moms. It could be any one you puts on weight. And yes it could be turn off. I've only hooked up with one mom and she didn't have and "reminders" from her pregnancy. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/27/2009 12:03:24 PM | miss_contemplative,
how is not wanting to be with someone you find unattractive "shallow"
i never got that...
sure, some guys might like stretch marks and body fat and ugly faces and hairy bodies, but c'mon!!!
if you look at some of the freaky shit people post here then you cannot possibly tell me this is reality.
i got chicks trying to act like prudes cause some other chick makes a post saying she wants to knock boots, but then say they like it in the ass and DP and bald guys w/ body hair.... WTF? | |
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