| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/27/2009 12:06:41 PM | | Miss comptemative is a *****. That is all you need to know! | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/27/2009 12:30:42 PM | an asshat? maybe so.
i mean, she wants to throw out "shallow"
i wonder if she would date a guy that made less than her? if she has been married and if so, does/would she get alimony?
that's what i'm "comptemative" of.... | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/27/2009 12:52:36 PM | I carry my stretch marks with pride ,
The few times men have made comments they have always been positive ones ,
Be confident and happy with your body, its amazing its had a new person growing in there !
If you do happen to meet a guy that gets you all the way to being naked then complains about a few silver threads on your tummy then i think its legally ok to kick them in the nuts | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/27/2009 1:54:44 PM | I have an agreement with my G/F we both try to look as good as we can for each other, and we ignore the parts we cannot fix....
oh, and the stretchmarks?
We tried olive oil and vitamin "E" in the bath........
We also didn't give up after a few weeks....
After about a year, I'd say she still has the marks and not much difference in width, although there is smoe narrowing, but they're much less obvious, it's like they've blended in better if that makes any sense... on the whole I'd say the improvement was worth the minimal effort.... I'd say they're only about 50% as noticeable as before we tried this.... | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/27/2009 3:44:13 PM | Honestly, if a desired guy is not completely into you, he'll naturally look for any flaws to reinforce that decision making ....
So whatever flaws are there, no matter how minor or major, will play a role.
But in the end your better off without that guy, and thats just a fleeting fact of nature.....
So ultimately ... to the "right" guy it won't matter.
So don't worry about it, just consider your flaws when judging someone else.
the trick is; to have a healthy and realistic view of yourself, while enduring all the "wrong" people when dating ... trial and error ... and not letting it get to you. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/27/2009 4:22:42 PM | | Be yourself. We all have our flaws. If someone doesn't want to be with someone because of stretchmarks, that person is pretty shallow anyway. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/27/2009 4:57:38 PM | so is better to be with someone who "puts up with it?"
does it not bother you that he will be thinking of a young thin beauty with no stretch marks when he's ****ing you? then look you in the eye and tell you he adores you?
lord knows i'm not perfect and never claim to be, but if i was perfect...could have any woman i wanted... there are two identical twins standing before me, both look the same in every way... but one has strectch marks. who do i take?
get real y'all!
and the dudes who say it doesn't bother them... i hope the BS pays off and you get a girl that comes with a nice road map for you to study. avoid shitsville... that place stinks. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/27/2009 5:08:40 PM | | Femme... I know lots of guys that love it. Even if it isn't their child. The guys I'm with has no problem with my tummy . I think he feels better about it than I do. He kinda shakes his head at me if I get shy in front of him. Just remember... we are not all 15 yrs old again with that...so called 'perfect body'. | |
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rhodax
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Joined: 6/11/2009
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/27/2009 5:12:34 PM | sandorb, some day you'll grow up but for now enjoy yourself.
Stretch marks? Phhht. I once asked a lady I was with to stand up and let me see all of her while she was naked which she did, with the exception of holding the end of a sheet in front of her stomache. I asked her if she was embarrassed about her stretch marks (she was a single Mom so it was a no-brainer to guess) and she said yes. I told her frankly that stretch marks were simply a legacy of motherhood and that motherhood is sexy and that I really wanted to see her "all". She just wouldn't do it which was a bit of a turn off.
She had a problem with stretch marks, I did not. I like to see a woman full unfettered by coverings when we are intimate regardless of any visual imperfections, rolls of flab, burns, scars, etc. Call it weird but I find "real" women's bodies, combined with their willingness to show them to me fully, highly stimulating. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/27/2009 6:32:35 PM |
I like to see a woman full unfettered by coverings when we are intimate regardless of any visual imperfections, rolls of flab, burns, scars, etc. Call it weird but I find "real" women's bodies, combined with their willingness to show them to me fully, highly stimulating.
Rhodax has it EXACTLY right. REAL men know that womens bodies go through a lot having children.... I mean, you did create a LIFE after all! So we fully understand imperfections.
A woman confident in her sexuality, and her willingness to explore it is the sexiest thing in the world, regardless of a few extra pounds or stretch marks... | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/27/2009 6:42:00 PM | Just keep two things in mind.
If a guy can't see past a couple of stretch marks, he's not a quality man. Disqualify him and move on.
There exists only one test to determine if a pair of boobs are worth a damn. It's the taste test. If she'll let you taste them, they're just fine...... | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/27/2009 6:43:25 PM | Is a man really all that perfect to judge a woman ? hmmm?
Adopt a "take it or leave it" attitude without ever feeling beneath it.
Think of all the best you have to offer both in and out of the bedroom and own that with the attitude.
All women should never have to feel less with mom body issues. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/27/2009 7:11:45 PM |
Posted By: sandorb on 6/27/2009 7  38 PM Subject: single mom body issues Message: so is better to be with someone who "puts up with it?" does it not bother you that he will be thinking of a young thin beauty with no stretch marks when he's ****ing you? then look you in the eye and tell you he adores you? lord knows i'm not perfect and never claim to be, but if i was perfect...could have any woman i wanted... there are two identical twins standing before me, both look the same in every way... but one has strectch marks. who do i take? get real y'all!
Wow.......... What happens if she gains weight, or something happens to her looks? Do you dump her then go after her sister? | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/27/2009 8:12:15 PM | Shouldnt matter, your confidence says volumes as well as your ability to please mutually. But if your truly concerned there are natural products that will help miminize these marks, such as cocoa butter. Do some research on the net about it you will find a ton of inexpensive products that will help bounce you back into a positive body image!! You are beautiful when your free!
PhEx | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/27/2009 8:13:56 PM | | I like big girls and I doubt stretch marks would make a difference to me, but some men it would for sure. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/27/2009 8:33:33 PM | | Wow, did I have issues with this. I was "off the market" for 6years after my horrible divorce. I finally decided to get back out there and date, and believe me the thing I was most worried about was the "baby belly" . My son left his marks. What have I discovered? Men really don't care. If they are into you they don't notice the saggy, stretched out, stretch marked skin. and I would even dare say that a real man, who is into you and your child, even finds the "motherly" part of you appealing. we, as women, are so obsessed with all the imperfections of our body, Men don't seem to notice the things we obsess about. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/27/2009 8:39:04 PM | | Hello...personnaly i had 5 kids and I'm in my 40'...You could never tell that i had kids, i work out every day 5 days in 2 days off ( 45 mn jogging, lift wights 30 mn, 150 sit ups ) and follow and diet....Soi think if you follow those rules there is no problems.. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/28/2009 5:55:35 AM |
sandorb, some day you'll grow up but for now enjoy yourself. I like to see a woman full unfettered by coverings when we are intimate regardless of any visual imperfections, rolls of flab, burns, scars, etc
LMAO! OK, i'll be a grown up when rolls of flab, burns and scars turn me on.
WTF dude? i would expect to see this in letters coming out of prison...maybe with some fecal matter smeared on it. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/28/2009 6:00:13 AM |
Wow.......... What happens if she gains weight, or something happens to her looks? Do you dump her then go after her sister?
no, i'd like to find someonbe who cares about how she looks... so there will be no gaining weight. i could look past some things once i'm in love with someone but if there is no attraction to begin with then the chances of me falling in love are very slim. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/28/2009 6:31:54 AM | My opinion is that until you stop being ashamed of your body, stop feeling like you have to apologize for having brought life into the world, stop feeling badly for creating a miracle, you won't apreciate your body enough to become sexy and hot in your own right.
If you love your body, and it does what y ou need it to do (moves, and allows you pleasure), than the man you date will too.
My $.02 worth for your consideration. CM | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/28/2009 6:47:16 AM | | not at all, some men like a womans mature body, do not pay too much attention to the mass media's idea of a perfect woman, most women dont fit into that slot, natural is best | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/28/2009 10:48:58 AM | I think that most men that are REALLY looking for a relationship don't see flaws at all. I don't think that they just overlook them; I think they truly just don't see them.
If a guy does notice and says something, just walk away because they are just interested in something else. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/28/2009 2:57:57 PM | Seriously? I have a little girl myself, got 6 or 7 stretch marks. Not many, I am blessed, but they are there due to my size 2 frame gaining 80 lbs in 7 months! My stretchmarks, however few, are a badge of honor and something beautiful I got from my pregancy! Yes, our bodies change, and no, maybe not always for the "better", but would you rather have your body back and not have her?
Motherhood is sacrifice, not just with our bodies but our minds and emotions and former lives, and if you're worried that a man won't want you due to your stretch marks, you're seeking the wrong men, and possibly too insecure to be dating at all. Celebrate and love your body, that's the only way someone else can! | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/28/2009 2:59:20 PM | | This is not a turn-off. The interesting thing is your mind, or the person you are. Stretch marks don't mean anything. | |
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