| single mom body issues
Posted: 6/28/2009 3:47:48 PM | Honestly, yes, they are a bit of a turnoff. Not a deal breaker, I put them in the same category as tattoos on women. I would just prefer they weren't there. Would it keep me from being with someone I really liked? No. Would it be a reason to not see someone anymore if I was not sure about them? Probably not, but could play a factor.
In short, I wouldn't worry about it, those who truly like/love us grow fond of our flaws as well. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/19/2009 3:16:48 AM | | I was with a woman for 4 years, who had undergone MAJOR heart surgery when she was younger, and had a huge scar across her chest between her breast. The way I looked at it, I was happy it was there because she was still alive and kicking | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/19/2009 5:01:04 AM | | Whenever you see your signature stretchnarks, just think of that beautiful little girl that you gave birth to and those beautiful marks she left behind as a reminder of how powerful your body is to be able to bring another little human being in this world........then you will be more accepting of them....... | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/19/2009 10:10:49 AM |
how powerful your body is to be able to bring another little human being in this world
You mean how powerful the process of bringing another child into the world is, not how her body is capable of doing it. Women don't create babies by themselves. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/19/2009 12:15:59 PM | I don't mean to be snarky here, but:
The fact of the matter is, those stretch marks and such came from the woman carrying that baby until SHE went through labor and delivery and gave birth!
I think that we all know that it takes 2 to make a baby...
The point was: you brought a beautiful child in the world, you have a few battle scars from that, relish them for the gift that they gave you! | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/23/2009 3:48:56 PM | | No I wouldnt worry about it. Most guys wont care about streach marks. Life happens you know... Most guys I know like the wider hip phenominon that happens after you have kids lol | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/23/2009 4:12:45 PM | Stretchmarks can be an annoying part of life, but the truth is they are marks of your life. Like scars, they tell a story about you, and for good or bad, they are there to stay. Guys get them too, just for obviously different reasons then a mother. Live witih them because they are a part of you, and all the cocoa or shea butter in the world will do nothing to hide them.
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/23/2009 4:25:32 PM | A woman's body that becomes responsible for the nurturing of a new life can be physically impacted in such ways, that the aftermath can sometimes look like "who did it and ran". But...you settling for it can make a difference in how you are received.
Solution: exercise. Because you're gonna need it for your children. And if you're not well for yourself, you can't and will not be of very much use to your children.
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/23/2009 4:37:44 PM | I feel a little better about myself after reading some of the comments from this post. I too have my battle scars after gaining a hefty 70lbs and having my daughter... and 4 1/2 years later, I still have my stretch marks (which I describe as being scratched by a bear) and c-section scar which looks like a wide "grin". They won't go away and that's just something I have to live with. Thanks to having a good diet and doing my daily pilates, I have been able to lose all the weight... however, I still find myself wearing my Spanx at least twice a week to "hold in" the bulges that still stick out from the "loose" skin. Oh well, the reward I got for those "scars" were well worth it. LOL.
Luckily the few people that I have chosen to date over the past 2 years have been understanding of my scars and stretch marks and I still feel pretty good about myself and I still think that I look pretty hot -- naked and with clothes. ;) | |
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Posted: 7/23/2009 5:04:34 PM |
Live witih them because they are a part of you, and all the cocoa or shea butter in the world will do nothing to hide them.
Had this conversation with my G/F the other night... since we started dating, I've gotten her to use Olive oil and Vitamin "E" oil on her skin... I'd heard of good results from it....
Well, it's been a while(couple of years) now... and either it's helping or her body is clearing them up naturally... so we got out some pics I took of her when we first met... and compared...
Yes... definately an improvement.... they're much less obvious and look more "delicate"....
so I'd say, considering the extremly low cost... and minimal effort.... it's worth trying...
And as she discovered, just like using bath oil beads and much cheaper.... | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/27/2009 6:57:14 PM | | Stretch marks are a womans badge of maturity or to show that she's had kids. I cant say i love em or hate em-they dont bother me at all-what bothers me are women that are unclean or full of themselves | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 7/27/2009 7:03:34 PM | | I am glad to see such positive posts. I never got stretch marks, but my boobs were ruined from breastfeeding for so long. I always worry about them, but they have always been "enjoyed" so I guess there is nothing really to worry about...lol | |
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Posted: 7/27/2009 7:36:42 PM | prittygurl,
I know what you're talking about. Mine nursed two children. My children had NO complaints and neither should my guy! | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 8/3/2009 10:41:43 PM | Not A Problem What So Ever guys who Find This to be a problem are retarted | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 8/3/2009 11:29:06 PM | No,
I truly am a MF. I've bveen with a lot of mothers. With me, it is not so much the body as it is the face and personality. In other words, unless you have something GREEN oozing from your body and as long as you dont look like a totem pole reject, I'm cool. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 8/3/2009 11:41:38 PM |
You mean how powerful the process of bringing another child into the world is, not how her body is capable of doing it. Women don't create babies by themselves
No, we don't create babies by ourselves, but we sure birth them alone. And yep we've got the scars to show it. Show me a man's stretch marks from having children..what a silly thing to say.. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 8/4/2009 10:31:30 AM | | What's wrong with keeping this thread alive? Do we have to make room for all the important threads that are trying to solve world hunger? Or, maybe bump yet another "unread/delete" thread.... | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 8/4/2009 1:48:00 PM | Honestly.....yes they are a turn off !! - - its not a deal breaker - - but given the choice preferance is without ??
why dont people just say it as it is ! | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 8/4/2009 4:09:08 PM | | I guess in a perfect world we would all have wonderful bodies. But the world is not perfect and hey if we pick up a scar or two along the way ,it just means we lived life. I for one never gave stretch marks a second thought. For all those that cant stand them, my question is. Do you love your mother ? | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 8/4/2009 5:21:55 PM | | Every one can't be blessed with hot body like mine so take it easy on these ladies. And lots of women who have never had children have busted guts and cottage cheese thighs. Get to gym ladies...you and your men will be happier. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 8/4/2009 6:14:31 PM | I think Buttons hit the nail on the head.
BTw, switch "stretch marks" with "crooked teeth" and watch the 'inner beauty' crowd run for the hills. Or, beer bellies, baldness, short guys, etc...
We like what we like, no right or wrong about it. | |
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| single mom body issues
Posted: 8/4/2009 6:37:16 PM | Most women after child birth have stretch marks...Men are looking for more than a body in bed...they have come a long way lol believe it or not.
Give him a chance, most don’t worry about that stuff. They have their own things to worry about! Keeping it up, pleasing you, making sure he doesn’t cum before you do ... trust me he’s not worried about a few stretch marks.
Just enjoy your man. | |
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