| Everyone Wants a Cougar
Posted: 9/1/2009 2:24:30 PM |
And you guys over 40 looking for a cougar, not a chance in hell.
Sorry.
Maybe they are looking for a WOMAN instead of a "cougar" who thinks its cute to have young boys chase her... | |
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| Everyone Wants a Cougar
Posted: 9/1/2009 2:43:18 PM | I had a 19 year old message me today... one of many from very young lads but I don't mind that as they are usually quite complimentary however what makes me laugh is the guy in his 40's who asks if I want a toy boy... what's that all about? Just because I am 10 years plus his senior does he really think that makes him a toy boy?
I was being chatted up by a young guy today and I had to point out that young guys rarely have the intelligence to mentally stimulate me and men my own age don't generally have the fitness levels to keep up with me.... probably why I am still single :(
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| Everyone Wants a Cougar
Posted: 9/1/2009 2:50:12 PM | This "everyone wants a cougar" stuff is sure news to me. I'm not sure when exactly it became the mainstream viewpoint that guys like to go for older women, but I sure as hell never have myself. It is older women that have always been attracted to me, not the other way around... it's been like that all my life since adolescence. And in my two years of POF experiences, probably 99% of all first-contact messages I've gotten, were from women 6-12 years older than me. But ok, whatever you say, everyone wants a cougar...
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| Everyone Wants a Cougar
Posted: 9/1/2009 4:24:20 PM | | I get hit on a lot by men in their early 20's. Have not figured out why that seems to be the thing but I talked to a few and the consensus seems to be that women their own age dont' have their priorities straight. I don't know if that's the case in general but I'm wondering if it's not success and self confidence they are attracted to rather than the age itself. | |
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| Everyone Wants a Cougar
Posted: 9/2/2009 12:25:28 PM |
This "everyone wants a cougar" stuff is sure news to me. I'm not sure when exactly it became the mainstream viewpoint that guys like to go for older women, but I sure as hell never have myself. It is older women that have always been attracted to me, not the other way around... it's been like that all my life since adolescence. And in my two years of POF experiences, probably 99% of all first-contact messages I've gotten, were from women 6-12 years older than me. But ok, whatever you say, everyone wants a cougar...
News to me too. Although having a kid is not a be all and end all for me...it is something that I would still like the option of having in the near future. I don't know of too many "cougar's" that are going to want anymore kids. I really don't have much desire to date women much older than me. Granted I have had a few experiences with older women back in the day, but now that I'm ready for more than that...A LOT MORE than that I'd like to find someone late 20's all the way up to late 30's. | |
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| Everyone Wants a Cougar
Posted: 9/2/2009 8:12:04 PM | A lot of guys want a cougar, not many have what it takes to keep one happy though  | |
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| Everyone Wants a Cougar
Posted: 9/4/2009 8:40:09 AM | The thing is, it is not the fact a younger person is interested, it is how they express it that can sometimes be a real well, turnoff.
Having someone say they love older woman and say nothing about you whatsoever except your age (or you're hot) kind of well, screams they are wanting to get it on and you are available and supposed to be flattered by young whatever attention.
If they had any idea how many, many, many similar letters you get from others of their same age with the same mindset; they'd understand it kills any chance whatsoever of my talking with them (I have gone out with younger, but where they actually TALKED about things; could hold decent conversation, had a similar job to mine, li ked doing the same things and it was obvious their interest was in me as a person including brain and personality; I wasn't just "some older chick to well, try and bang". (even if it wasn't true they at least pretended lol). I have no problem with age.
But I am pretty brief in response to the ones who just say "you're hot, and I love em older... date me?
Maybe it has to do with the stereotype that seems pretty prevalent in forums about older women having no one interested in us, because htey are all off chasing younger women. From the way many talk in here we have no options and are on the shelf waiting for some hot young stud to pick us up, dust us off and well, bang us senseless...
They obviously believe it, and assume any interest expressed by them would be gratefully and desperately received :) at lesat that is the only reason I can think of that many people would write that lazy and shallow of email and expect well, hot mama responses :)
dunno... I'm flummoxed... | |
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| Everyone Wants a Cougar
Posted: 9/4/2009 5:12:29 PM | ^ what she said and adding:
It's also pretty amazing to me that when told that I am seeking a long-term relationship of substance, they ALL suggest that I should take them in the meantime -- as if no one thought of that before... | |
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| Everyone Wants a Cougar
Posted: 9/5/2009 1:39:13 PM | | I have a hot little twenty year old chasing me... I might let him catch me...he a fighter and in great shape..I always wanted to be intimate with a man that hs studied bjj....there. Use to being rolled in a many different positions.. . I'm a. It if a prude so we will see... But it works great. In my head... And I am in age denial so I feel 26.....it doesn't seem that off to me. | |
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| Everyone Wants a Cougar
Posted: 9/5/2009 2:05:16 PM | | I like my men older than myself, always have. It's even hard for me to deal with the age difference when someones only a couple years younger than myself, I'm trying to be more open minded though as some guys in there early thirties have grown up and might be worth it. I'm not looking for a boy toy though. | |
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| Everyone Wants a Cougar
Posted: 9/5/2009 3:42:35 PM | I have to stop posting by my phone.. yikes...
I want to date a man.. close to my age...I just havent found any that I find attractive or that I have remotely anything in common with... I have no children and have never been married.. I dont need someone young to make me feel better about myself.. this isnt the issue... I guess I'm at a time in my life with little responsability and I want to keep it that way.. If that makes any senses at all.. | |
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| Everyone Wants a Cougar
Posted: 9/5/2009 4:24:13 PM | "I have to stop posting by my phone.. yikes...
I want to date a man.. close to my age...I just havent found any that I find attractive or that I have remotely anything in common with... I have no children and have never been married.. I dont need someone young to make me feel better about myself.. this isnt the issue... I guess I'm at a time in my life with little responsability and I want to keep it that way.. If that makes any senses at all.. "
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| Everyone Wants a Cougar
Posted: 9/5/2009 5:16:28 PM | | Tina, it actually does make sense. If you are not married and don't have children, and are not searching for that, then you don't have much in common with people who are searching for those things. It is my experience that many men in their 30's and older are searching for that while men in their 20's tend to be less interested in that right now. I gravitate towards people who are not searching for children and marraige because that's not what I am looking for right now as well. It makes it harder to date men closer to my age except when I find those rare exceptions. | |
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| Everyone Wants a Cougar
Posted: 9/5/2009 8:30:38 PM |
I guess it is just our time. When we were younger we were sluts for having a few partners while men were studs. Now your a pervert and I am a cougar, I'm good with it.
You took the words right out of my mouth. | |
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| Everyone Wants a Cougar
Posted: 9/6/2009 1:51:17 AM | | i have stated very clearly that i do not want a younger man under 3o years of age...do you think they listen...nono...i would want to date someone younger..have done before...4 year relationship...still a part of my son's life...and his aunt and grandma love my son to death//they are exciting and you can teach them...and they can teach you | |
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| Everyone Wants a Cougar
Posted: 9/6/2009 4:22:04 AM | Yes that must be why they're all knocking my door down....................ROFLMFAO.
Where exactly are all of you guys looking for a cougar....................I can't see you!  | |
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| Everyone Wants a Cougar
Posted: 9/6/2009 6:05:47 PM | i personally can't see dating someone the same age as my kid ...... but that's just me
It seems that all the guys my age are interested in finding a young hottie to have kids with so i guess i am pretty much resigned to not dating cause i am not interested in guys 8 to 10 years older . | |
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| Everyone Wants a Cougar - Everyone deserves one too.
Posted: 9/7/2009 3:34:05 AM | robert koi...you perfectly normal!! geez!!! nice profile..
I'm just honest... I mean if I was really honest the reason I want a relationship is 75 % sexual.. I dont want a casual partner.. I want someone who can keep up with me and has all the other facotors as well.. intamcy.. conversation.. occasional dinner.. something uncomplicated.. Why does it have to be so damn complicated?? | |
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| Everyone Wants a Cougar - Everyone deserves one too.
Posted: 9/8/2009 7:16:11 AM | Same here, Tina
Being with someone who's nice, sexy ~ a mutual attraction in and outside the bedroom
If it's sex only then I get bored ~ there's got to be a little something more....
Like, camarones!!!!
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| Everyone Wants a Cougar - Everyone deserves one too.
Posted: 9/8/2009 8:34:36 AM | | Dating someone decades younger won't make anybody younger. That's easy to understand. Making excuses for dating someone young enough to be one's son/daughter makes it pathetic. We've all heard the excuses and they're as silly and stupid as saying "I need to fix my car so I'll ask the local bacery," i.e., "I can't find mature men at my age," yeah, so as in the case with the car you start looking for solutions in the wrong places. Statistically you'll find more mature men/women YOUR age than among boys/girls. Of course everybody knows that, but if you're horny enough you don't care and the excuses become pathetic. For that reason it's easier to say that all you're looking for is getting banged and it doesn't matter who it is as long as he/she is at least 15-20 years younger. | |
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| Everyone Wants a Cougar - Everyone deserves one too.
Posted: 9/8/2009 2:22:46 PM | | I think We only as old as we feel.. And if we like young men?? then thats what we like.. Go Get them Fluer!!! Roar!!! Be careful with the scratches on the back though...they could get infected. | |
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| Everyone Wants a Cougar
Posted: 9/8/2009 6:11:28 PM | hello every one i have dated a young man he was 21 when i ment him and now he is 23 he wanted to get married and have kids but he got on my dam nerves at 30 so bad i did not even want to come home i would stay in my car as long as i could untill i thought he was asleep he really is a good guy but i just cant do it i had tried to make him leave more than 10 time i put his things out i made him think me and my ex slept together and this dam guy is still saying please let him love me and take care of you what do you guys make of that what should i do he sends my roses and leaves gifts at my door he just wont go away | |
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