| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/23/2007 10:33:28 AM | keep her out of it and just let her watch mike bang you.
why are your threesomes always mmf, with a buddy of yours? can't reach the hoop without a boost? | |
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/23/2007 10:33:38 AM | re post 16:
In a way of thinking, he has already "lost" both his friend and his GF. Or never "had" them to begin with, neither of them.
I agree Nick -
its already done.
OP - I understand you want to be all open with your girlfriend and try new
things. I also understand no matter what anyone says here you will do what
you want to do - Just one thing though- remember there are consequences
for every action we display in life. If you are not really up with this mentally-
this action can really mess you up.
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/23/2007 10:35:38 AM |
he just wants to get laid, and since in the past he gave me the opportunity I feel as though he should get one in return.
Ok Am I the only one who finds this thought process slightly bizarre. OP you are not talking about a piece of property here or lending your buddy twenty bucks because he spotted you twenty two months ago.
I have also asked myself the question of how much she cares and feels for me to want to do this. She's the first girl i've been with that never gets jealous. I have always found that to be strange. 2 months ago, one of my ex's invited us out to her b-day party and gave me this b-day kiss right in front of her and she never flinched. Yet through her actions she shows she cares for me deeply as well.
Personally I dont think your "girlfriend" is all that commited to you. It sounds like you are filling a hole and when she finds the right guy she will be moving on. | |
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/23/2007 10:36:07 AM | don't do it with a girl you care about man...
i'm sorry to say this -- it's not what you want to hear, but... she's going to end up cheating on you. | |
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/23/2007 10:36:12 AM | I suppose I should add this before everyone accuses me of being a doormat. People seem to instinctively think that I'm letting my gf take advantage of me in order to take some sexual pleasure that I can not provide. This is far from the truth. She cares for me very deeply and has never done anything that I would consider suspicious. She has excedded my trust level every time. In fact it was I who encouraged our encounter yesterday. My friend behaved very politely (up until the spanking :) always asking if it was ok. Mike and I go way back but most importantly we respect each other.
Maybe I was a little putoff by how wet she got after both of us were caressing her, it just seems a little off to me having my gf get turned on by another guy. | |
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/23/2007 10:39:51 AM | | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ OK your last statement makes absolutley no sense. Why do you think she wants to have sex with your friend? Becasue she is conducting a survey? Either you are incredibly gullible or have absolutely no idea how people interact with each other when they are in a commited relationship. | |
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/23/2007 10:41:47 AM |
As for my friend we have known each other for over 10 years, and he has enough integrity not to try and steal her away, he just wants to get laid, and since in the past he gave me the opportunity I feel as though he should get one in return.
Life does not work this way. You are under absolutely no obligation to supply your friend with a lay. And even though your g/f might be into it, thinking of it in these terms does her no favours. Neither she nor your friend's ex-girlfriend are commodities to be traded back and forth when one or the other of you wants to "get laid."
Its true i very much care for this girl, and for once do not want to share.
It's completely natural for you to feel this way. Why fight it? If this is how you find your feelings developing, perhaps you should consider accepting that when you are in love you want that love to exist within a monogamous relationship? It's possible that you and this particular girl might not be on the same page in that respect, and if that's so it's (IMO) probable that this relationship won't work out. But as you point out, you are young and still learning about yourself.
I feel hypocritical in taking and not giving, and in wanting two girls but not two guys.
Why do you feel hypocritical? It would seem to me that the hypocrisy would lie in having this threesome when you don't want it, especially since it will very likely change your feelings about your relationship with your g/f--which is unfair to her if you OK it. I also don't see why you think it's hypocritical to want two girls but not two guys. We are all entitled to desire what we desire, and not desire what we don't.
I think you are going about this the wrong way. Stop trying to judge your own wants and desires against some sort of ethical barometer: you are going to let your friend bang your girlfriend because you think you "should"? You will participate in a threesome you don't really want because you think it's hypocritical not to? No, you are allowed to say "nobody has sex with my g/f but me," and you are allowed to say "no, I don't want to do that." You are even allowed to decided, without it making you vanilla, boring, or non-experimental, that when you love a woman you don't want her having sex with other people. If others judge you for that (including this current g/f) then they are the ones lacking in integrity.... not you.
Best of luck.
P.S. If you do let her do it, don't later punish her for it. | |
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/23/2007 10:43:01 AM | | My gf has never expressed any interest in any particular friend. She has shown interest in the idea of a MMF threesome. It just so happens that my friend Mike is one of my only friends who is open to such a combination, probably due to his bi-sexual tendancies. So when we were all drinking, the topic was brought up and we started to play around a bit before i got too uncomfortable. | |
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/23/2007 10:43:27 AM | OMG, this is developing into a most interesting thread!
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"Maybe I was a little putoff by how wet she got after both of us were caressing her, it just seems a little off to me having my gf get turned on by another guy"
Now that is a topic for much analysis, honestly. I yield the floor to the female fellow forummers, on this one! lol
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Re post 27:
Thanks for agreeing with my point, but I do not agree with the syllogism I wrote: I preceeded it by "one way of thinking", not by "my way of thinking".
Me not into "ownership".
Thanks, anyway!
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"OK your last statement makes absolutley no sense. Why do you think she wants to have sex with your friend? Becasue she is conducting a survey? Either you are incredibly gullible or have absolutely no idea how people interact with each other when they are in a commited relationship"
Hang on a minute! Before we start throwing epithets to the OP:
Do all women THINK the same? Do all men?
Who claims to "KNOW"?
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"Committed" relationships: Yeah, right! Read my lips, "no more taxes"!
Only blood relatives have TRULY "committed" relationships and those are not romantic, erotic or sexual. The rest are "committed under conditions and terms", much like "jail" or "partnership contracts", LMAO!
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/23/2007 10:52:12 AM | Boy this is a tuff one ..... lets see here.
My so called friend - don’t have a gf right now so I let him schmooze around with my (so called) gf. (boy what a pal)
My so called gf - wants to have sex with my so called friend. (boy what a gf)
Actually OP - I think you are ALREADY out of the loop.
I need to start a thread. “Should I ***LET*** Jennifer Love-Hewitt show her hooters to some guy she wants to - wait she ***might*** not ask me.
Would someone just shoot me.  | |
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/23/2007 10:52:14 AM | "Maybe I was a little putoff by how wet she got after both of us were caressing her, it just seems a little off to me having my gf get turned on by another guy"
Oh man- we like you get turned on by lots of things - maybe not so much the wind
blowing in a certain direction - but my God man - we are human too.
It seemed a little "off" to you that someone else could get her off-
your not ready. I cant stop laughing - make it stop. I know you are going
to go through with it so good luck - see you in the broken hearts forum.
curlygrl~ | |
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/23/2007 10:54:17 AM | yes I think you should try it. If you find you are getting jealous, set up guidelines beforehand that EVERYONE agrees to. You could also bring in another woman so you are not just watching. Consenting adults and all that jazz. Just make it clear to your gf that it's for you both at the same time - NEVER one and not the other. That is where problems start. Someone always gets left behind. | |
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/23/2007 10:57:11 AM | Right now I'm not too sure of what I want or what will happen if I let this take place. I do know that my motivations are not based on self-imposed obligations of giving my friend a favour or feeling pressured by my gf. In the past one of my ex's and I fooled around with her gay roommate. I liked it but it still felt awkward and i would end it prematurely. Strangely enough (haha) I did not feel threatened by him towards my gf.
I also do not condone slavery and part of jealously i believe lies in the misguided belief that you own your partner and do not want to share her with anyone else.
Oh and my biggest worry is that yes if i let her do it i would punish her later for it. | |
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/23/2007 10:58:25 AM | | So you would have no trouble with it being with two women but have trouble with the idea of two men. Isn't this a tad HYPOCRITICAL? Equal rights for women I say.... | |
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/23/2007 11:05:25 AM | | shes going to screw the friend first them so he won't feel left out and she'll throw in an I love you for the hell of it, ya know making the boyfriend feel secure. | |
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/23/2007 11:08:37 AM | | Well I was thinking she would take us both at the same time, that's what she wants after all. As for her throwing out an insincere I love you, it would probably just make me laugh. We reserve strong words like that only for the most private and intimate of occasions. | |
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/23/2007 11:13:39 AM | | You said something very interesting that your g/f didnt flinch when your ex kissed you in front of her, maybe just maybe you have met your girl twin and you are both sluts? so id go for it! | |
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/23/2007 11:14:55 AM | We reserve strong words like that only for the most private and intimate of occasions.
And what exactly are these private intimate occasions- your going to share her
with your friend- isnt sex with her private and intimate - Is grocery shopping reserved
for "I love you". I think you and your private intimate occasions seem to be mixed
up a bit.
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/23/2007 11:15:14 AM | i'd ditch her now before things get more serious between you two. first, it's your buddy, then it's another guy, then another and another. save yourself the aggravation and move along. there are PLENTYOFFISH.COM...
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