| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/24/2007 6:01:23 PM | Well then I guess the French are and the (American) hippies were either robots or aliens (from other planet, not other country)! Purely speaking!...Right! Hippie Americans are stoners and the French, they can do however the hell they please. Personally, I have no practical advice to offer the OP; I can't ever recommend free love scenarios, as I don't value those sorts of relationships. Whatever floats your boat, I guess. What I do have to say is even if I had an endless roll of condoms I wouldn't be putting my schwanz into every woman's beaver, and I would NEVER recommend that any "friend" of mine have at my girlfriend. There are potentially MILLIONS other men that your girlfriend can experiment with, should she feel like she's "missing out" on some "valuable life experience". You are quite likely going to lose both your girlfriend and your buddy. Now you might not, and your lady might be into threesomes, foursomes, orgies, you might like all that stuff too, but you probably ought to avoid that stuff with your best of buds around, and if you value monogamous relationships, these thoughts wouldn't even be crossing your mind. Though do as you will. Back to your regular PoF programming... | |
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/24/2007 9:13:09 PM | Your girlfriend eagerly accepted because she is a whore. She sounds like fun but forget about a committed relationship.
oh but if the man does it he's a stud right?nice double standard
the woman is not the only party in this little nightmare let us not forget there are two males involved in this little "manusia toi" | |
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/24/2007 10:18:02 PM | | If he didnt want to here what people had to say he shouldnt have posted this, now that its posted every one that wants to commnet has thier right, no matter what ever the others think, my self i think he has his head stuck up his rectume fertizing his brain. | |
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/24/2007 10:37:57 PM | | now thats what I call friends with benefits and there's all that stuff about what happens behind closed doors being no one's business but theirs. However, if you have to ask a bunch of strangers on a forum for their opinions, it looks like you have reservations.....listen to them. Trust your gut. | |
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/24/2007 10:50:00 PM | 2 things, #1 you don't have a girlfriend, you have a ho. #2 your friend Mike is an a-hole. He let you have 3-somes with his ex because he didn't really care for her and knew she was a ho too. So the only thing left to do is send your gf to me so i can put her in a movie, I'm thinking a gangbang. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2007 10:59:14 PM | I just had to comment. Threesomes are all well and good when "ALL THREE PARTIES" are consensual. NEVER forget it. If you are not content then its no go its pretty obvious. I agree with a lot of the comments already posted but someone said go by your gut instinct. It has always served me well.
Oh and good luck with it all.  | |
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/24/2007 11:22:38 PM | A lot of people on this thread seem to have many misconceptions about me, my gf, mike and my relationship. I thought I made certain points clear but it seems some people are just fundamentally opposed to the very idea of sharing, regardless of the situation.
I call my jealousy irrational as the root of the problem "trust" should not even be an issue with my gf. She has never done anything in any way that would make me think she has an ulterior motive or cause me to lose trust. Rare in anyone, she is someone with whom i can share my most intimate thoughts and concerns. Not once has she ever used anything against me or try to hurt me. If there is anyone i should trust it would be her.
Now people advise to go with your gut, but what if your gut is miscalibrated. I have been hurt in the past which makes it much harder for me to trust others including my SO. This makes me create fictionalized scenarious with no basis in reality. This is why i call my jealously irrational.
Some people also seem to think that just beacuse she wants to try sleeping with two guys she must not love me or want to dump me, etc... I guess every time a guy wants his gf to participate in a mff threesome he must not love her, want to dump her, etc... I hardly think a little healthy curiosity is reason alone to throw in the towel.
And to her it doesn't matter if its mike or any other guy in the world and no she is not ****ing mike behind my back as i type this. That would be hard as she's sleeping in my bed down the hall.
She's a very open-minded girl. If you met her you would understand. As such our relationship gives us fertile ground to explore our kinks, fantasies, likes and dislikes.
BTW thanks for all the input, it has been very helpful. I still don't know what my decision will be. I think I might have to mature as a person a bit more and learn to fully trust before I can try this out. I guess all the naysayers are getting to me, lol.
Oh, and if i do go through with it, I'll be sure to let everyone know how it went! | |
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/25/2007 1:55:56 AM | | Dude, if your gut says no, follow it. I listen to mine and the times that it steers me right far outweigh the times that it steers me wrong. If you think it's going to cause jealousy, it will. Do you want to resent her for something that YOU gave her permission to do? That would be your bad, because again, YOU gave her permission. It has happened plenty of times before, but I personally don't like holding my decision against someone. If you're not comfortable with it, voice your concern. | |
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/25/2007 2:45:21 AM | | dude theres a saying ... sometimes its better to talk to strangers about your problems ... well i have some free time this weekend .. so perhaps if you give me your address i could come round and err talk this problem over with yourself and your girlfriend (is she hot by the way?).... oh and by the way i got a little tip for you .. with the threesome thing Never look your mate in the eyes cause thats just gay ...but seriously dude .. if this goes down will you be able to trust her again??? im mean theres gonna be times when your not there and she'll be out doing her thing ... and in the back of your mind you'll be thinking is she being loyal to me .. it will drive you mad .. so im my opinon.. i would not take the chance especially if your getting all green eyed at the momment .. | |
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/25/2007 3:31:08 AM | I agree with gunner57, what's with the "whore" name calling here? The two other guys are innocent bystandard... Cmon now
OP your young and in the experimenting age; do it now and not after you're married with kids.
If you are hesitent about letting your gf do her 3-some (not that she needs your permission but nice enough to include you in on the deal) you will be thinking what if my friend "is a better lover than I?" You will soon find out when gf is screaming his name out loud while with you. But no biggy Right? U can handle it... Ur the bigger man of the 2. 
Gunner57 the French wording for 3-some is "menage-a-trois"  | |
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Posted: 7/25/2007 4:49:54 AM | What a load of crap from the OP. Listen studly. Let your trustworthy and honest girlfriend be alone with your bud Mike with a little alcohol and then come back on here with the nonsense you are spewing. I dated a woman who told me about her past exploits and I let it go. I do commend her for telling me. I actually loved this woman? More than myself??? I easily admit this now too. Then SHE would talk to me about threesomes and get pissed if a woman crossed my vision???? The last time we were intimate together she was still talking about threesomes and how she wanted to explore it with me??? 4 weeks later she was banging someone else??? If you don't care for the other person, Run with it if it floats your boat. If you do care, you had better carefully question your thoughts. I wager ole buddy Mike will be a humping this one in time.
Good luck. You are gonna need it.
I thank you.
I love how one guy said................... why don't you hump Mike. :) Santos I think. Bud. You are a hoot. | |
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/25/2007 5:01:19 AM | | It sounds as though your girlfriend is just a hop, skip, and jump from having sex with someone else anyway, regardless of whether you consent. You might as well referee it. | |
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/25/2007 7:11:39 AM | | Still sticking with my original point... OP doesn't really want to do this (his gut feeling), but he's trying to convince himself that it's OK, and he thinks by convincing others that it's not a big deal by adding more tidbits about his girl and their situation, that people will eventually say "Oh, well I didn't know that before, but because xyz, it is OK! Go for it!" and in turn it'll make him not feel bad about it because he's received that validation from others that he hoped for when he made this thread. | |
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/25/2007 7:22:42 AM | migivadamsbusted: If you want a slut for a girlfriend go for it!
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As the famous George Bernard Shaw once said, "We've already established what you are, ma'am. Now we're just haggling over the price."
SHE wants to have multiple partner sex.
HE doesn't want a gf that he CARES about to have sex with others.
HE is screwed from the getgo, because SHE already has made it clear SHE is not what HE really wants in a GF. HE wants a monogamous GF. SHE is not monogamous.
So, it is not going to work anyway.
Therefore, I say, let her do whatever she wants to do. Go along for the ride. Let the chips fall where they may. Its already over.
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/25/2007 7:48:37 AM | Curious to know if all the naysayers would be feeling the same way if the OP didn't know the third party participant. Say if he posted my g/f and I are thinking of having a threeway with an anonmous male( safely of course, maybe there are going to try one of those swingers clubs)...not sure how I feel about it anyone done it and how did the relationship thrive or survive afterwards.
Is everyone on the negative side because it happens to be his best friend?
Lets face there are many people that have fantasties of one sort or another the one his girlfriend is wanting is a very common one from what I understand....so which is it because its is friend or the fantasy all together? | |
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/25/2007 8:19:50 AM |
Now last night Mike was over with my girlfriend and I and we got to drinking and Mike having nobody at the moment started making passes at my gf who eagerly accepted with my consent.
She's willing.
Capitalism, free market ideology having been distorted by "infidels" and turned into a bang your neighbor or any other human tool?
The only distortion by 'infidels' seems that ottpilgrim has missed a grand opportunity at a bit of capitalism in the world's oldest profession. LOL | |
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/25/2007 8:21:34 AM |
You let your girlfriend bang your friend -
not only will you lose her- you will lose your friend and
you will lose your mind because whenever you are with her
you will think she is thinking of being with him.
Recipe for disasaster if you are not mentally up to it. It takes
tons of trust - I could not share. You are already jealous over their
flirting - sex with her, I cant even imagine on what level how hurt
you will be afterwards.
I was told by a very wise man that if you play - you play with people
that you are not emotionally attached too. It makes it easier. You
can disassociate yourself from it. You are attached.
curlygrl~
Bingo!!!! Couldnt have said it better than that.
OP really think about this because if u have to question yourself about it then the obvious answer is to NOT do it. IMO | |
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| Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend?
Posted: 7/25/2007 8:47:45 AM |
Posted By: iris43 on 7/25/2007 9  37 AM Subject: Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend? Message: Curious to know if all the naysayers would be feeling the same way if the OP didn't know the third party participant.
If a partner wanted to do something special for their SO and was confident enough in themselves and their sexuality to do this, that is a different thing and special, and probably one time.
However...
Posted By: cuteazabutton on 7/25/2007 10  34 AM Subject: Should I let my girlfriend bang my friend? Message: You let your girlfriend bang your friend - not only will you lose her- you will lose your friend and you will lose your mind because whenever you are with her you will think she is thinking of being with him. Recipe for disasaster if you are not mentally up to it. It takes tons of trust - I could not share. You are already jealous over their flirting - sex with her, I cant even imagine on what level how hurt you will be afterwards. I was told by a very wise man that if you play - you play with people that you are not emotionally attached too. It makes it easier. You can disassociate yourself from it. You are attached. curlygrl~ Bingo!!!! Couldnt have said it better than that. OP really think about this because if u have to question yourself about it then the obvious answer is to NOT do it. IMO
That's the reality. There's involvement in several respects here, which is why I said bad idea. He can get another girl...another friend, who is likely to last longer...? Probably not. | |
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