| |
| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 4/18/2008 6:56:24 AM | Marriages take place in the heart...Not a ring. Not a church .....Love can do some amazing things.
The body is a temple were God lives.
Get off the pills.... Get on a bike ,swim ,walk, your butt off. If he wants you to loose 30 lbs make him exercise with you.
Diet............ fruits and vegtables , 3 times a day no bread, no red meat ...fish and beans . | |
|
| |
| |
| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 4/18/2008 7:34:12 AM | | I would actually GAIN another 30 lbs just to spite him, if his love is conditional now, it will always be conditional, he will be the one to screw around on me with a 20 something woman when we are in our 40's ... I shouldn't believe that an engagement ring can be earned through pounds, I thought that is what love was about, apparently some have misinterpreted the meaning of marriage. lol | |
|
| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 4/18/2008 7:38:13 AM | | note to the ill informed, for some of us it isn't that easy, I don't eat bad foods, in fact nothing in my house is bad for you, I am a nurse and work my butt off, I sweat 3/4 of the time, I eat plenty of fruits and vegetables and fish and no bread or red meat in fact I would much prefer vegetables and fruit to cake or potato chips and or burgers ... actually burgers make me physically ill, I have logged my diet everything I ate right down to a cookie if I had it for an entire year for the gym I belonged to and my personal trainer and they couldn't figure out why I wasn't losing weight, I worked out 4 times a week for 45 minutes and instead of losing inches my thighs gained inches ... so if you can come up with some other miracle cure so I can get an engagement ring I would be ohhh sooo happy lol :P ... some people are just meant to be fat I guess ... | |
|
| |
| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 4/18/2008 11:57:29 AM | what would l do if l were in same situation?
first of all ,if there is real love bond between this two mature man and women, they can climb any mountain together..again if he loves her he will goto church and get married ..but the think is l dont belive taht if tehre is if condition l am suspicius about this love that means there is no love there ...teh guy is using her for sexs or just wanna have fun as usual ..man and womens do.if l were a man and l am in love l will do anything to marry her or to buy her engagment ring...plus he is older man and she is young..lets episode as a confidence and honest men ..if l were her l will go to man and explain to him taht she loves him for who is..and if he loves her ,he has to love her the way she is...this is joke honey you lose 30 ponts l marry you what a jerk..if he loves he loves for who is ...and try not to change people you become a loser man,,last word if you love go and get married withthis lovely women taht she loves you..if you dont love her be honest and tell her that taht you dont love her or taht you dont have feelings for her...just be honest man...
if there is love color religion fmaily nothing can stop you from loving someone... | |
|
| |
| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 4/21/2008 5:34:53 PM | if u have to lose 30 lbs to wear his ring then i would say no.. he is trying to control u..my ex husband did the same to me and when i said no then he left me and now we are getting a divorce. DONT LET NO MAN CONTROL UR LIFE if he tells u to lose weight or no ring then he is looking some where eles at some other woman dont let him lie to u | |
|
| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 4/22/2008 5:17:44 AM | He maybe a great guy in all but i would tell him to sod off as i have been in the same posistion as your friend, my ex and i had and arugument and he txted me after 9 months of not talking and said get your weight back down to a say 12 and i will get back with u, by that point i was a size 10, we got back together and i moved to england to be with him but then i left as it wasnt working.
If your friend is happy with in her body then tell her to do what makes her happy not whats going to make him happy. | |
|
| |
| |
| |
| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 4/24/2008 6:10:19 AM | Hi there. Daisy ..... seriously .... I believe your friend's man has commitment issues and is using an excuse to not commit.....in this case - weight. If this man truly loves your friend - he would marry her "as is" and not place "conditions" on her and maybe they are unrealistic expectations. Who made him God for a day - that he gets to decide how much weight she has to lose??
A relationship that has conditions placed on it, will not work. I feel she needs to stand up and be counted for.........place some conditions on him........tell him that if he cannot accept her at her worst, then he does not deserve her at her best. If she wants to lose weight "for her health" or for "herself" (on her own choice) - thats okay, but nobody should try and change another person. I can almost bet - even if she did lose weight, the man would come up with yet another condition - just to avoid commitment.
Love is not conditional. Daisy.........if this man truly does love your friend, and she decides to tell him "accept me as I am" "if you can't give me a ring based on how I look now and for who I am" - then "goodbye"........ if he bolts - then she has her answer.
These are my feelings and I mean well by posting this. I have not met your friend, but I know she is worth more than that kind of treatment.
Sincerely,
Rhino | |
|
| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 4/24/2008 6:34:17 AM | Last year the guy i was dating said this to me
You know if you lost some weight the sex would be better
I said to him you know if your D*** was was 2 inches bigger I know it would
Tell your friend friend to ditch this loser
Because if she loses the weight to please him he'll find something else wrong with her.
He's controlling and at this late date in life she should not have to deal with that type of behavior.
Ditch him with a quickness | |
|
| |
| |
| |
| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 5/5/2008 9:36:34 AM | Evidently, they went their separate ways, which is a good thing.
However, for those who are still reading and might have a similar situation, take note;
I have an acquaintance. Dated the guy since high school, was the ONLY man she was ever with, in a relationship, and sexually. So, they were dating about oh....10 yrs or so, and he put a condition on them getting married. "Lose weight, and we'll get married". All of the friends in our circle, we all thought he was a HUGE JERK...and that she should basically tell him to 'F' off'. But, they got married anyhow. WITHOUT HER LOSING THE WEIGHT. Incidentally, she wasn't hugely overweight, mainly from the waist up....so, they were married I'd guess about 5 yrs, and eventually he ended up cheating on her, and they are now divorced. Needless to say, none of us were surprised and all of us were glad she was rid of him......
I can't, for the life of me, understand WHY she married him (yeah, I get that she was never with anyone else) I mean, a person who LOVES you, will love you no matter what. And if weight is an issue, for health reasons, well...the partner should be there to help their loved one drop the weight..give support....
For anyone to put a superficial requirement on a marriage, is beyond me?
All of us know this woman to be very shy, self conscious, but her low self esteem....
seems to me adds disaster to the recipe.
Now she's in her late 30's, barely dates, and is miserable. She gave her ex-husband her identity and really has none now...
Anyone who puts that demand on a relationship, deserves to have sand kicked in their face...to say the least. Ugh, so disgusting! | |
|
| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 5/5/2008 3:17:28 PM |
I can't, for the life of me, understand WHY she married him
...maybe it was the hope that many people sometimes share... to make things work... even a relationship.
Maybe she knew that risk, maybe she heard all the warning voices around her, still keeping the hope to make him happy, to make him stay, to make him know what he got, offering all she had to give, maybe thinking that the different circumstances of a marriage would support this.
Sometimes we just have to do or to try things to find something like truth or peace even if we know how painful it could be. If we don't try a question like "What if I had taken that chance..." may bother us a lifetime | |
|
| |
| |
| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 5/5/2008 7:27:40 PM | | Well I am not sure he even deserves that but at least she would have some closure. When you 'love' someone it is supposed to be unconditional, or so they say. If she doesn't want to get rid of him she could also put her own condition in return, such as getting a few grand for losing the weight. He wants a sexy slimmer lady, she will need a new wardrobe for the next man cause he won't last long when all the men start checking her out. | |
|
| |
Home
login 
