| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 6/29/2008 9:02:11 AM | I wasn't about to read all of these 30 pages of posts, especially since the answers were basically the same.
My weight fluctuates all the time....quite a bit. If a man were to tell me that, he'd be gone so fast. I would tell him, "I may be fat, but you're ugly (on the inside, anyway) and I can diet!"
Sometimes I hate meeting men when I'm on the thin side, because he hasn't been through the test yet for me to know if he would accept me either way. If I see anything about wanting someone thin on his profile, though, we won't have a chance, no matter how hard he tries to convince me that I look just fine!
One spent months trying to convince me just that....but after what I read in his profile, there was no chance in H e l l!!! He finally got the hint!
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 6/29/2008 9:42:05 AM | | So I don't know how unbiased this is, [he certainly is biased] make a deal, he gets penis extension maybe 2 or 3 inches, guarantees he will not get bald, & haul him off to a Priest, otherwise get to church & light a candle to Blessed Mother to send somebody to make her happy, this guy is too selfish to waste time with. Love is when the OTHER persons feelings are more important than your's! | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 6/29/2008 5:12:53 PM |
Women often think of us as Dinner Plates, and not as Men... Women often think of us as a Paycheck, and not as Men....
How sad smuggler. I have my own money and see men as people and never date a man who does not see me as one. My mom got up every morning to Jack Lalane until he went of the air then moved to other excersie programs. I never saw her compleat a meal. I her 7th child not her last. when she started to go gray my dad just asked her if she was going to do anything about it and never saw another gray hair again. My Dad also ran to do the smallest request mom had for him. I grew up with two people who loved each other as role models as to how to be a husband and wife team.
If you are not willing to put some one first then you are not willing to love. "Lose 30lbs", maybe is his way of saying live forever. It also maybe his way of stalling. Hopefully it is not his way of say I do not want to marry you but some one like you only thinner. | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 6/29/2008 5:50:11 PM | I'm a little biased because it's all about a gals face for me.
It doesn't bother me in the least if a woman has a little extra...but having said that......I know a selfish jerk when i see one.
The world is full of jerks...but, I believe they are not the majority.
So, move on....find a guy who is actually worth your time and affection...he is out there, and you should be spending your time looking for him not on this jerk.
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 6/29/2008 6:07:24 PM | My ex boyfriend told me the same thing the night I lost our daughter, he came in the room where I was sleeping and woke me up, he had a ring box. He opened it up and said that it was a promise ring that IF I lost 50 lbs that he would marry me, I started crying. On a night that my daughter was still born he says that. I left him about a month later I knew that he wouldnt change.
IF a man tells you that if you lose weight for him just to marry him he's not worth it, if he cant LOVE you the way you are then its either live the rest of your life a dictator or life the rest of your life with a man that loves you for you flaws and all. | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 6/29/2008 6:17:35 PM | Dixieflower, I just wanted to say how sorry I am that you had such a jerk that he would say something like that to you the day your daughter was still born. That must've broken your heart. (I tried to tell you this privately, but you won't accept emails from me ....too old and wrong gender....*sigh*
There are 'plenty of fish' who are much more considerate....I hope you meet him here....
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 6/29/2008 6:23:36 PM | | I think if this woman allows the man to tell her he will only love her and mary her at a certain weight, it puts him in the dangerous position of being able to set any guidelines and limitations on his love he wants. Now it's losing 30 pounds, next year it'll be only if she will get some kind of cosmetic surgery will he marry her. She'll constantly be thinking, "Once I'm perfect, he'll love me". Love does not have a weight limit. Just my thoughts. | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 6/29/2008 6:48:41 PM | There's a real easy way to lose a whole lot more weight than that! DUMP THE JERK!
Sorry, not very nice but true! He either accepts your friend for who she is and how she is.....in other words all her quirks, warts, etc... or she needs to just walk away. I mean it's okay to say, "Honey, could you please remember to put the cap on the toothpaste." but still realize that if she doesn't that's part of who she is!
Toothpast cap things are common courtesy ---- losing weight, shaving that precious moustache, a dog, a motorcycle, oreo's before bed, Tuesday nite poker/bowling night or..... (whatever is your personal quirk) those are part of the package that you fell in love with and it's no fair saying I won't marry you unless.........There is a difference between common courtesy things (toothpaste cap, don't eat the oreo's in bed) and changing who you are to suit someone else. If she was good enough to be with and love for the last years then she should be good enough to marry without conditions.
As the old saying goes: True Love is Unconditional!
Tell your friend there are plenty more "fish" in the sea! This one is a bottom feeder - they don't taste good, they eat garbage and kill off all the good things in a lake. Throw him back. Find a new spot to fish in, throw your line back in and wait for a keeper! In my home state of Minnesota, that's a nice big Walleye! LOL! They are a little elusive but really sweet to eat and a whole lot of fun to catch!  | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 7/7/2008 3:03:21 PM | So, if she loses the weight and keeps it off for 4 months he will give her andengagement ring.... nice prize.
What price will he ask before he sets the date for the wedding?
And if she gains it back does he take back the ring?
Or is this a lam request on his part for her to get serious about her health? Is the weight just secondary to some healt issue that is not being addressed? | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 7/7/2008 4:24:56 PM | | Yes! She should do it, but STOP the pills right now. They will only make it harder to keep it off. It is excersise and eating the RIGHT STUFF, meat veggies and salad. That's what my wrestling coach made us do.. and work. Losing the weight AND the religion would be the healthiest thinks for body and mind. And with an incentive attatched - perfect. | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 7/7/2008 4:26:11 PM | | P.S. You don't say what religion he is but then can always get married with a priest and whatever he is. My daughter married out of her religion and they had a beautiful ceremony with the priest and the rabbi there. Jeez if you love someone the Reverend Snore on Jerry Springer could marry them and they would be happy. | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 7/7/2008 4:55:18 PM | | How nice that you are so concerned about your friend. my opinion is that she ABSOLUTELY should lose the weight...not just for him, though...for herself. An extra 30 lbs is unhealthy, and if he wants to live out the rest of his days with a wife, she must be healthy. Hopefully, that's the main reason he wants her to lose the weight. At her age however, diet pills are a bad thing. Diet pills modify metabolism and thus disrupt hormones. At this stage in her life, her hormones need to be as stable as possible. Her best bet, is to seek out a nutritionist and personal trainer. Nothing can replace healthy eating habits and exercise! | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 7/7/2008 4:56:27 PM | awwwwww thats heart touching, seems like the winter generation are having thier lil issues also,, i would like to see these two work things out,, i dont understand why a size 16 isnt right for him, i kinda wish i could talk to this guy . because they have been together for over 30 months now, thats nearly a 3 yr relationship,, and i am not telling a soul what 'to' or' not to' do,, i kinda am against the idea of diet pills especially for the almost 60 age group,
On the part of annulment,, if he isnt catholic and she is,, then i dont see a reason why annulment is necessary on his part,, in this generation there are many mixed marriages everyday, to require him annulment to me s like asking the guy to wear sack cloth and ash during mass,, naaaa he dont need annulment, ask around the parishes, she will find a priest to marry them,, tell her to come to this town our priest might marry them,, because it sounds so sweet and precious ya know,,, | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 7/7/2008 4:59:37 PM | Ok I have a bit of a different perspective here.
1) Is the man she wants to marry fit himself? If not then he has no room whatsoever to tell her she needs to lose weight!
2) How tall is this woman. If she's short 30 lbs can make a huge difference in how she looks.
3) Would I do it...absolutely because I can see from his side, he doesn't want a wife who puts her health at risk because she's overweight!
4) Would it be required of him to not be overweight ABSOLUTELY!
He loves her and wants her to be healthy he also appears to want a wife who is fit that's honestly not too much to ask! At the same time he better be fit himself or he's being hypocritical! It would be no different than someone who doesn't want to marry someone who smokes or drinks too much. I personally will never marry a man who is overweight... I can't my first husband was HUGE and it did nothing but turned me off! He gained about 100 lbs after we married and refused to lose it.....in the end his unhealthy lifestyle killed him!
Religion...they need to communicate about that or the wedding just won't ever happen. There's no answer to this conundrum other than communication and compromise! | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 7/7/2008 5:02:02 PM | You could lose without taking diet pillsw, do it normally by diet meals and working out. If you really love him and not wanting to lose him, then do something about your weight. Apparently he wants to be proud of you when you are in public gathering or in freinds group togehter. Let him know that he doesnt need to give you engagement to lose weight and that you will do it with your own will power. I think this will wake him up and you continue your relationhip that is if you still love him. You want to look good ? Dont you? Size 16 is big and you can only lose those pounds with your own will power and not for somebody else. More power to you, try your best, it will be good for you and you will feel a lot better after you lose those weight. I probably get roasted by writing this in this forums. Lucilou    | |
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