| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 9/22/2008 7:39:17 PM | BAD GRIEF !!! 38 pages of what each person considers what someone else should do when that person says something to someone we never heard of-- WHO CARES ??!!!
She will either lose the weight and get married ----or not -- or break up with him--
or whatever !!! WHO CARES??? now that she has 158 opinions, I'm sure she'll do as she pleases- And you can ALL go back to the problems of your own lives-- Can you handle it?? If you have any little problem... and you don't have a brain between the two of you-- ask the 150 people on here for their redundant replys. THEN, and only then, will you know FOR SURE what to do-
I've got a NEW topic !!(thread for the expensive, learned people on here)
Here goes----- " which color is better--- red... or blue ???????? "
Hit it all you 4th grade educates-- show us your inabilities and lack of schooling-
enjoy !!! all of you hedonics and cainites. | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 9/22/2008 7:48:56 PM | You are kidding right???? Men are so shallow, and women are as dumb as a box of rocks if thay think..a man is worth it!!!!!!!!!
If you can find someone who loves you for you, thats awesome but to be told you need to lose 30 pounds before you get a ring...Lord what would happen if the tables were turned? Think about it...
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 9/22/2008 8:11:02 PM | I have to agree with what I have read here. I'd never change my body or looks just to get a ring. If someone told me that they'd only want me (for good) if I lost 30 pounds I'd tell him what he could do with that and I'd be out of there in a heartbeat. If he only wants a skinny girlfriend, and she is not "skinny" then why the heck is he with her!? I mean I am a size 18, I am proud of how I look, and I'd not be with someone who only wanted a "skinny" girlfriend. The person you are with aught to be proud of you as is, not to change you into what they have in their head. If she was my friend, daisydahlia, I'd tell her to run, don't walk, and to not look back.
I mean seriously, say she were to lose the 30 pounds. Then what would be next? Perkier boobs? A different hair color? Maybe he would start not liking her nose? From what I have experienced it is almost never just one thing. It just starts with one thing. | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 9/22/2008 8:24:52 PM | I'm sorry but why are these two people together???
She WANTS a ring and marriage and he WANTS her to lose weight? Are they 2 years old because that is how young children behave? What happened to accepting someone we love for who they are????? And not making demands on another person. I can't believe what I'm reading.
This is not a relationship.................this is a shipwreck!!!! | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 9/26/2008 4:08:31 PM | oh boy! If he really loves her...the weight would only be an issue of health...not a roadblock for a ring.
I would rather stay home every night and watch Seinfeld episodes than have someone put a ridiculous ultimatum in my lap like that.....please tell your friend to give herself a hug....embrace the person she is on the inside...get drunk with a friend....cry....laugh...scream...and move on. | |
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lustre
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 9/27/2008 11:35:44 AM | HI OP,just one point from me,if he loves her so much why make her feel so inadequate by asking her to lose 30lbs,the average size of a lady is a 14 but that is totally irrelevent anyway,if he does love her he will love her for the way she is and give her the love and respect she deserves,some people dont realize how lucky they are.
If she wants to get married she should find a man who loves her for the way she is.
no one is perfect and we all have imperfections one way or another, if you cant see past them then we're all in trouble.best wishes,
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 10/8/2008 11:03:57 PM | Hell no....I'd tell him to get a BIGGER BANK ACCOUNT and I'll think about LOOSING WEIGHT.... what does that mean loose 30 pounds and I'll buy you a ring. He will never be satisfied probably.... Maybe he's the one with the Twiggy / Barbie syndrome. Be who you are ... be sensible about your weight and self for you and your mental health.. but .... Some people have weight on them because of health issues. If that is the case.... he's out back with no moon house.... to kaka in. Sounds like to me... Some people are overweight because of over indulgence (there, yes, maybe loose the weight for you, not him)... and then tell him to get a BIGGER BANK ACCOUNT>  | |
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VAPurr
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Joined: 9/21/2008
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 10/9/2008 8:41:32 PM | When you put it like that. I'd break up with him.
I've had one man put it to me differently though. Not for me, but it was a discussion we had. He said, he'd want his gf to lose weight, because he was worried about her health... no so much her looks... so thats why he wouldn't marry a chubbier girl, even if he loved her.
I still wouldn't marry him, though. I think its shallow. Love me or leave me... | |
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shinxy
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Joined: 10/13/2008
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 10/18/2008 12:16:22 PM | I'm going to play devil's advocate here, so I'm sure I'm going to get some kind of response for this posting... 
I frequently read profiles... check out the people in my area, help people with profile reviews, and look just to satisfy my curiosity. One thing often mentioned in profiles (guys and girls) is that in order to have a relationship with a person, there has to be "chemistry" there. I'm sure that most of us will agree that physical attractiveness (as well as emotional, intellectual, etc.) is just one factor of that chemistry equation. If there's no chemistry between two people, chances are, a relationship between the two of them won't last.
Is there anything wrong with weeding out potential suitors because we don't feel any chemistry with them? Is it wrong to tell someone, "I don't think our personalities go well with each other? Is it wrong to tell someone, "I don't think feel an emotional connection with you?" Is it wrong to tell someone, "I'm not attracted to you?" Is it wrong to tell someone, "You're too young/old for me." No it's not, well all do it every single day on POF and these are all valid reasons for each of us to not pursue a relationship with another person. You're a damn liar if you tell me, "I've responded to every single email sent to me and set up a date with each of those people" (otherwise my inbox would be a little busier, lol). We're all entitled to pursue or not pursue a relationship with a person for any reason we choose.
So does that make what this guy did wrong or even bad? I'm arguing it doesn't. It sounds like he really likes her but wishes she'd make some slight changes in her life before he decides to take things to the next level with her. I commend him for opening up and communicating his feelings with this honestly with her.
For those of you saying, "He's a jerk, she should leave him!!!" What were his other options in this case? He could have said something (which he did) OR he could have said nothing at all, been unhappy about her weight, and just let the relationship dissipate into nothingness by pulling the disappearing act on her. For the guy, I think it was a double edged sword. He's damned on one side if he says something but he's also damned (and his relationship with her is too) if he doesn't say anything at all! Give the man a damn break here, he's got two rough choices and I think he took the path that probably gives the relationship a better chance to survive and thrive.
I think the guy really likes the woman and wants to see her make a couple of changes in her life to improve the chemistry in their relationship and take things to the next level. I believe his intent behind his words was to be constructive for their relationship and not meant to insult her. Is it wrong that he wanted to improve the chemistry between them? Is it wrong whenever YOU choose not to pursue a relationship with someone because you're not physically attracted, emotionally attracted, intellectually attracted, etc. to another person? | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 10/19/2008 5:23:31 PM | I would say "Lose the Loser". I don't care how well they supposedly get along. I never forget years ago when I was much, much thinner, (and looked really great) my fiance wanted me to be thin like Ally McBeal (Calista Flockhart)...I almost died attempting to be that thin. Today, I am who I am. Sure I would love to lose weight, but I no longer that kind of stress ever again. Now I wonder why people can't just love others for who they are instead of having so many unrealistic expectations of others. Women who are overweight are treated worse than any other woman out there. If a woman does drugs or is an alcoholic, (or a flake) she is more acceptable if she is THIN and especially (oh my gosh) PRETTY.  | |
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shinxy
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Joined: 10/13/2008
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 11/3/2008 2:34:15 PM | | no if he truely loves her! the weight would not matter! he's with her now and she 30 pounds over weight and he loves her so much, then why should she change herself just to get a ring. go buy your own ring. you should not change for eveyone be yourself always/because if you change your weight for a ring what will you have to change for him next. so i say no tell him (love me for me or love me not). | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 11/3/2008 5:57:24 PM | just lose the 30 lbs it will be more healthy for you anyway.
30 lbs is really nothing to lose..i use to wrestle i could drop 15-20 pounds in one or two days.
Piece of cake... and if you really want to make a point..lost the 30lbs then tell him
you don't want to marry him until he has a 6 pack of abs...or better yet tell him
you are hot now and decided you can do better. (; | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 11/13/2008 10:52:44 AM | When I lived in the UK, I fell in love with a girl who was overweight. Her smile, at first glance, got that idea out of my head. About a year or so later, she told me that I was one of the few people who DID NOT TELL HER TO LOOSE WEIGHT. It didn't matter.
I loved every inch, pound and gram of her. I can't say this about everyone but with her it didn't matter. | |
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