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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 11/14/2008 6:51:29 AM | | Then the next thing will be...maybe wear something like this.....and so on and so forth....and if she loses the weight he may decide now she's a man-magnet and accuse her of whatever...I've been there done it....he will never be happy with her no matter what she does.....it's a form of control for him and if she starts dancing now it will only get worse.....what happens if God forbid she gets ill and regains some weight?....there are red flags everywhere.....lol I love the idea lose the weight then fling the ring in his face and say see ya sucker.. | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 11/15/2008 1:33:17 PM | My unbiased view would be that she needs to evaluate what she wants for her life. If he is placing conditions on her in order to be engaged...well, what kind of conditions will he place on her after they are married. Sounds like he has some control issues.
In regards to losing weight...what happens if she loses the weight and then gains it back in the next year...will the engagement be off? That is something to consider. In the realm of weight loss....she should want to lose weight for herself if she is uncomfortable not for someone else in order to get engaged. She could be setting herself up for failure in both the weight loss and the relationship.
The religion issue is huge! Is this really the guy for her?
My final question is your friend settling so she won't be alone? | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 11/15/2008 3:00:41 PM | | It might just be me but if he was dumb enough to say that she should say she knows how to lose 35 lbs of ugly fat and look at his head with a bizarre look holding a machette :-) That is just wrong for him to say that and give her those untimatoms. I shouldn't read these forums, I always tend to be too blunt and taken wrong :-) | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 11/16/2008 11:20:29 AM | | First off love is an action not an emotion. You show someone love - you don't tell them. Anyone can say "I Love You" (and I am guilty of this too) and turn around and not show the person you love them. Hence love is an action not a feeling. Now that we got that straight, if he loves her then why would he tell her he would marry her if she changes the way that she looks. His actions are dictating that he wants her to lose weight so he will be in more lust with her. He lusts for her not loves her - there is a very slight yet huge difference between the two. If he loved her he would respect her and would be concerned about her health and the extra weight - not that she will look more attractive so he can get it on with her faster. What a pig. This guy gives guys like me a bad rep and then I am left single with no one to relate to. | |
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czr64
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 11/25/2008 12:03:46 AM | Hellz to tha naw, if she wants to do it for herself and he is supportive that's cool but she needs to let him go. which I doubt she will. If he really wants a woman of a certain size he needs to be pursuing that NOW, not trying to take what he actually has and mold it into his dream. For the few years they have left she will be focusing on her weight so much that she can't enjoy her life much less their life together.What profit a woman to gain a ring and loose her soul??
When my mom was on life support she had tubes coming from her mouth and nose, her body was bloated, she was totally unrecognizable lying in that hospital bed. Yet my dad was there kissing her face, rubbing her hair, pinning all over her as if they were on their first date and she was 19 again. UNCONDITIONAL LOVE is better than gold. | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 11/25/2008 6:53:55 AM | This guy is making excuses not to get married... I bet he thinks telling her this will stall the situation.. he's betting she wont be able to lose the weight...
Thats my opinion... aside from that --- he's a Class A 1 JERK... She should leave him pronto and find someone who will appreciate her for who she is.. a size 16 is plump, but its NOT that awful -- not like she's wearing a size 26/28! Its not like she's 300 pds! | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 11/25/2008 9:24:27 AM | Ok, didn't want to read through 39 pages of "lose the weight, get the ring and dump the jerk" but I'm really curious...
OP, what did she do in the end? Did she lose the weight and marry him? Or did she do like she should have done, dump the ***hole, lose the weight and learn to be happy on her own? | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 11/25/2008 9:36:55 AM | Ok that is completely unacceptable for anyone to turn around and say something like that!
If he wants a skinny girlfriend then should should cut her losses and find someone who wants her for who she is.
She is successful and a good person then she should find someone who is like her
I say Kick Him to the Curb! | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 11/26/2008 9:22:25 AM | | Sounds like he is a very shallow person and one has to wonder what he will want you to change next. There are those people out there like that. They go about remaking someone and then once they are done they leave them and as they go out the door they say " You are no longer the person I met ",,, sure you aren't,. you allowed them to change you into something else. Stay who you are. If you are happy with you then anyone who is worth having will be happy with you as well. | |
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