| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 7/24/2007 8:52:09 AM |
Would it be nice to have an incentive? Sure...a trip to the Bahamas, an all expenses paid shopping trip to New York...a face lift, tummy tuck....sure, you bet. A WEDDING RING?
NOT JUST NO BUT HELL NO.
No offence but you're pathetic.
You should not need an incentive except for a better life/better health.
An incentive would be a bonus.
Who the hell would give you an all-expenses paid shopping trip to New York or a face-lift, etc. as incentive for you to lose weight?
You sound very materialistic!
AND, IF, IF someone did offer you any of those things they must REALLY care, no strike that..REALLY love you.
Now with that being said, if you had someone that loved you that much in your life what could possibility be a greater gift from them to you than to offer you their hand in marriage?
Pffft.....shopping spree...what a load of crock.
Some of you really have a backwards way of thinking. No wonder there are so many divorces and so many single people at 50-60 etc.
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 7/24/2007 8:52:28 AM | | I really have to say I see some major RED FLAGS here in this: {We get along with no problems. We enjoy the same things. The only problems are my religion and my weight. Can we overcome these?} basically the guy has conditions that she must live up to in order to get a ring while he will not even compromise on her being married in a church as she needs to with an annulment on his part. I feel this screams CONTROL FREAK on his part. To be in a relationship that has demands to only get this, makes her compromise her self worth and lower her value of herself. Your friend should see that the issue is not of her religion and weight really, but of his being in control of things in her life. I feel that saying there are no problems and then to list two things and say they are the only problems are to contradict that from the start. Think about what the problems really are. He lacks accepting her for who she is and isn't love supposed to be unconditional? Trying to change someone ONLY leads to unhappiness. IF one wants to lose weight to be healthier or have a better self image they should do it for themself and not for someone else insisting that they do so. He dated her when she had not lost the weight and this is just the beginning of the demands he will make if that is something she does only to please him then. I feel she can lose a good amount of weight instantly by dumping the dead weight that is her so called boyfriend. Being engaged isn't the ultimate goal that is needed in one's life. Your friend needs to value the life she already has and lives and appreciate what is there without these conditions. | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 7/24/2007 8:53:23 AM | As for YOU, Cupidstrikes...
You are absolutely correct about obesity.
However, the average size of a 50 something year old woman in America is 14. This woman is only about 15 pounds away from that.
You are young. Do not judge so harshly until you can walk a few miles in our shoes. And I AM an analytical and logical thinker like yourself. | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 7/24/2007 8:55:59 AM | Wow Cupid. I feel sorry for whoever YOU might be in a relationship with. I'm PATHETIC?????????????
I said "it would be NICE"
I didnt say it would be NECESSARY. HE is the one who dished up the incentive procedure. And holding some woman off by suspending carrots is the only thing pathetic here.
You need to chill, dude. Your ass is showing. | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 7/24/2007 9:01:43 AM | Your way of thinking is pathetic is what I mean.
He doesn't have to offer her ANYTHING but he is.
It's just some motivation.
My dad didn't have to offer me his 69' Mustang when I was 16 if I made straight A's that year but he did.
It was a nice and THOUGHTFUL gesture.
If I had your mentality though (the way you come across) I'd have been saying to him "what the hell is this old car? You should be offering me a brand new Porsche!"
Funny how some people in this world are so thoughtless/ungrateful, meanwhile others are quite the opposite.
As for feeling sorry for who I'm with.
EXCUSE ME?????
There's nothing to feel sorry about. I have ALOT to offer my signficant other and I do.
I know what kind of a catch I am (as do my friends, family, and significant other) and that's all that matters; so don't you worry about me or my affairs my dear!
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 7/24/2007 9:08:44 AM | ^^^ Logically thinking, kick his arse to the curb. This type of behavior is only and indicator of things to come with him. He's a control freak, and so are those who think like him. He's not the least bit concerned for her health, he's looking for a trophy, and for someone he can subtly control. If she wants to lose the weight, do it for herself, not for him. | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 7/24/2007 9:08:59 AM | Would it be possible to say that you made an extra effort to make those straight A's that year? If so, then it is also possible to say that you would have probably made those straight A's anyways w/o the promise of a cherry car.....but the extra incentive kept you focused on the grades and the ladies may have taken a "back seat" in your list of priorities.
Pardon the pun of course.....
And I think that is where Beth was coming from. | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 7/24/2007 9:09:59 AM | My GOD.
I don't think I have met someone as narcissistic as you in quite some time. Bought you a mustang? You little braggart. What you NEEDED was a few good spankings and a very long time out.
You do not merit further comment. I've heard better logic from a cesspool cleaner.......... | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 7/24/2007 9:14:53 AM | Bought you a mustang? You little braggart.
*sigh*
Some people hear but they don't actually listen!
I never said he BOUGHT me anything. I said he OFFERED TO GIVE ME HIS.
Him being a mechanic he bought the car to restore and sell and I was the one that helped him restore it.
I'm no braggart nor am I spoiled.
Get your facts straight and know what you're talking about before you open your mouth. IGNORANCE IS A BAD THING!
AS FOR NOT MERRITING FUTHER COMMENT.....GOOD KEEP YOUR MOUTH TO YOURSELF AS IT'S FULL OF $HIT ANYWAY!
Good luck on finding a man to give you a facelift and send you on that shopping spree in New York you fine jewel you!
Afterall, him caring enough about you to see you in better health obviously wouldn't be enough.
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 7/24/2007 9:19:13 AM | Okay - The questions first --
In 2.5 years of dating how could she "just" discover he likes thin women? And, second, religion. I assume her choice of religion is based on family history. His, I'd imagine would be as well. Therefore, I have to ask for the last 2.5 years were they both asleep in this relationship? Did she not ask relevant questions on finances, spending habits, likes, dislikes, etc.
Note: Since neither of them is young. I'd think with the wisdom of their ages they would have been able to ask these questions and would have been OUT of the relationship in the first 2.5 weeks rather than letting it go on 2.5 years.
My issue with her - Get a back bone! She wants an engagement ring - buy your own! Or, find a man that loves a size 16 and see how fast this one changes his tune!
Second, I assume this man who wants the size 6 woman is bringing a lot to the table. Is he incredibly rich? Does he look like George Clooney or Sean Conery in his James Bond years? If not then lol. Shame on him and especially on her for taking diet pills.
Resolution: Now, after all this if they decide to stay together I'd request the following compromise in writing: "Okay honey, I'll lose the 30 lbs if you do the following - For every 10 lbs I lose I get 1 full carat added to my engagement ring. 30 lbs = 3 carat diamond ring. And by the way, I want the solitaire in a platinum Tiffany setting, princess or cushion cut. If you can handle that then we can talk. If not then you can walk."
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 7/24/2007 9:22:55 AM | Ooohhhhh A career POF poster, are you a1na1 aka cupid? With TWO profiles no less. So you can back yourself up with your opinion? You need to use different wording and sentence structure in your posts if you want to successfully masquerade as two different people.
This one is just waaaayyy to close for comfort :
Are you surprised at the type of people that contact you?
Posted: 7/23/2007 3 14 PM
Yeah, I'm constantly being msged by swimsuit model types but , sadly, they all come across as shallow, materialitic, high maintenance types.
*****
The TRUE pathos...........
Perhaps it springs from the Femdom wish that you speak of on your profile?
Anyway, I digress. A cleaning urge is still calling to me..... | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 7/24/2007 9:23:06 AM | Phillylibra....Why would losing weight translate into the size of a ring? She's only helping herself. How much more arrogant can this line of thinking get? So, by your rationale, he should drop a carat every time there is a defficiency in orgasm counts.
Let's see.....5 of hers to my 1. I think she'll be wearing a bread twist tie on that finger of hers. | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 7/24/2007 9:26:48 AM | If this man really loved her, then he wouldn't be giving her stipulations in their relationship. It sounds like a business deal more than a relationsip.
If she is losing weight simply to get an engagement ring (and diet pills can be dangerous, BTW), what's next? Dye her hair to a color he likes? Wear clothing she's not comfortable in because he finds it attractive? Does SHE think she needs to lose weight? It sounds like she's doing it more for him than her.
Marriage is not about what you get out of it, it's about what you put into it. It doesn't sound like either one of these people should be involved--they only seem to be interested in what they get out of it as individuals, and not as a couple.
My advice...I would tell her to ditch his a** and find a man who will love her unconditionally, no matter what her weight. And tell her to stop taking those diet pills. They are unhealthy and can cause problems. | |
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