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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 1/9/2009 1:21:44 PM | My unbiased view? It's a trainwreck...some fish should be thrown back - dead (ok..well not really, but sorta).
"Lose 30 pounds and I'll love you?"
"Give me a big ring and I'll love you?"
"Change to my religion and I'll love you?"
Am I the only one who is troubled that they both have children and more than likely have been perpetuating their dysfunctions and selfish thinking? | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 1/9/2009 2:44:18 PM | I think it's sad. She is good enough for him to be with for 2 1/2 years, but weighs 30 pounds over his engagement requirement? What is wrong with him? It sounds like he has met a great lady and he is too ignorant to get it. Let's face it...at 61 there are NOT that many available women for him. By that age, women are usually married or have been with significant others for a while. I'm sitting here shaking my head. I don't know, maybe he is bald or has a receding hairline? (btw, not knocking bald people) Is she asking him to get implants? That is about how ignorant I think his excuse is. Your friend is dieting for the wrong reason. I agree with another poster. If she does lose the 30 pounds he requires and gives her a ring, she should tell him to shove it up his ass!
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 2/28/2009 7:24:32 AM | I don't think it is daisydahlia place to ask a 100 million strangers third hand about someone else relationship.....especially as there is no way anybody but the actual couple can know the reality of the situation...
I got here by looking to see how someone else responded..but 40 pages of opinion and response by people who have opinions but no REAL idea of what a situation is... | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 3/1/2009 6:37:26 AM | "What is your unbiased view?'
I think unconditional love makes a great couple a great couple. When two people see each other for who they are, faults and all, and make no demands to change the other person, you have what could be a firm foundation for a lasting relationship. When you start setting conditions and/or demands on your mate or your relationship, you are looking for someone or something you don't have. I think it's best to be happy with who or what you have, as they are, with no expectations of change, or keep looking until you find who or what you want.
I know I wouldn't except an engagement ring from someone who didn't love me for who I was. I would be wondering what else he didn't like about me that he hadn't yet mentioned, or what won't he like about me somewhere down the road that he'd want me to change.  | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 3/1/2009 7:28:53 AM | This topic is interesting.
I believe he has a point here. I think she needs to lose the 30 pounds...it will make her fingers look slimmer with the rock on it...
Look the bottom line is this, if he is fit and heathly and fairly handsome, why shouldn't he have some eye candy?
Fit people work hard at taking care of themselves, and when someone does not take care of themselves it shows NO RESPECT, this bothers him PERIOD. Maybe what he should do is this, sit down and really talk to her, tell her he is in love with her and wants a future and show what it takes to be fit and healthy. Maybe he can show her some weight training, have a program of how healthy people eat. If she keeps repeating the same pattern, she is going to keep getting the same result...
On the other hand, there are some people who could have lost alot of weight and the numbers are not dropping fast getting the last 30 pounds off...this is when the person needs to know they have to STEP IT UP...How...show me...we all want to feel good and sexy...we all deserve LOVE...what amazes me is this man saw something in her that most men did not get...I must admit, he was smarter than the rest, he knew what he had if she only got fit...he was not going to risk losing her to another man...that is GENIUS... | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 5/27/2009 1:09:34 PM | Normally I do not respond to these subjects. Lose 30lbs for a ring? And, then I saw your response and the story of your father caring for your mother on life suppost.
That is worth more than 10,000 diamond rings. Men like your father are rare. And, for the record NO, if a man wanted me to lose weight in exchange for a bobble, he is not worth 1 minute of my time. | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 5/28/2009 9:11:27 AM | Dear Daisy and Friend of Daisy,
I'm all about doing everything you can to make a relationship work, even when it means personal sacrifice. However I’m rather selective about whom I enter a relationship with, a man who can’t accept me as I am is not someone who I believe is worthy of my heart and certainly not worthy of me as a wife.
My personal advice for Daisy's friend and any other woman looking to get romantically evolved with someone who is putting on conditions for his affections particularly when one of those restrictions is very worldly and shallow.
Ask her what Love means to her.. Her being a person of great faith and with religious background will interrupt it the way that it is mentioned in 1 Corinthian (Love is Patient, love is kind..)
What he is showing is neither of those things..
As for the Religious thing.. I would warn any friend who is serious in their faith about getting married to a man who is not as serious in her faith as she is.. Nothing is more difficult than being passionate about something that drives you and find your not only un-equally yoked but the person your yoked with is in fact dead spiritually.. If her religion is a serious commitment for her than I would advise her to really sit down and think long and hard about the choices she has ahead of her and the man who is the cause of it.. I personally don’t think it is a good match and screams heart ache mainly for her..
My advice to you Daisy.. Be her friend, love her, listen to her and if she makes a choice that in the end see’s her shattered be there to help her pick up the pieces..
Best of Luck Daisy,
The Redhead. | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 5/28/2009 9:52:30 PM | | HELLL NAW!! You want to know why, what happens when you get pregnant? What if youget very sick and cannot get thwieght off or gain the weight back. I am all for doing things that make your man happy but damn! Thats insane, what kind of sh!t is that. As people get older, their bodies, minds and everything else changes. I want someone to love me when I am thick (ain't never been skinny), when I am sick, when I am with child, all that. Perhaps that is why I am still single, there are somethings I will not put up with! | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 5/28/2009 10:44:12 PM | Ok. Maybe I shouldn't be saying anything because I am dealing with my own issues right now. But...if your boyfriend wants someone skinny, then why didn't he date one from the start? See this is my biggest issue with men, especially ones that are married and cheats. I had a married guy tell me that he wanted variety! Horsecrap!!! You want variety, then stay single.
If loosing weight is the requirement for getting a diamond, forget him. Better off buying your diamond. Don't change who you are just be yourself and if he can't handle or understand that, well he's not the one for you.
wish my situation was like yours but it's not. At least I would know how to handle myself if I was in your shoes.
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 5/28/2009 10:53:28 PM | | The guy is a pig and a control freak. If he loves her, both should realize that weight loss should not be based on potential marriage. She should say, "I'll lose the weight if you become a millionaire". I'm not a chick magnet and it's ridiculous for me to only want smoking hot women to contact me. | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 8/7/2009 2:16:04 PM | That happened to me recently. A very sweet man, intelligent, and artistic. Told me that I was too heavy to make love to. Let alone marry. He said if I lose the weight he'd marry me. He is an older man. He is petite for a man, however very strong physically.
That's what he said.. "lose the weight and I will marry you' First....he says..."lose the weight and I will make love to you"...
So there has not been lovemaking in the biblical sense.
What say ye all to that? Otherwise, he says I am THE WOMAN amongs ALL women~ I have the best personality and the most wonderful way of treating a man. Yet, this is still not enough.
Not making love for years, leaves a woman, hungry for love....and also making love is a great way to lose weight.
 Makes me feel embarrased to even meet other men. This is the pits. | |
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| He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya????
Posted: 8/7/2009 2:32:13 PM | She is going about loosing the weight in the wrong way. If she truly doesn't want to loose the weight, she will put it back on. The best way to loose is if you want to and it takes a lifestyle change by diet and exercise.
I would be about dead if I lost 30 lbs., at least sick. | |
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