| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/26/2007 8:14:41 AM | | That's pretty damn close. Not all the way "there", but close to what I am. Very interesting.... | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/26/2007 8:30:45 AM | Hey Nick!
Was quite intrigued by your post regarding Players.
In the interest of adding more info to the QuirkyAlone profile, (and possibly more fuel to the fire, I found the following quotes in the FAQ section of a website entitled, www.todolistmagazine.com:
Q. Are quirkyalones celibate?
A. Quirkyalones are not celibate. That said, we don't have that much sex either. However, we are human and when pressure and frustration builds we do go on the occasional sexual spree . . . which brings us to our next question.
Q. I know someone who is constantly hooking up but doesn't get into relationships. Is she quirkyalone?
A. Good question. If your friend's standards for companionship are very high, but for a Saturday night fling, very low, she goes by another name. This person is a quirkyslut, and she should wear that title proudly.
It suggests that QuirkyAlones are as likely to be predators as prey...
BTW, am not sure what my personality type is, but I'm a Scorpio... | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/26/2007 8:31:42 AM | Yup definately quirky !!!!  | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/26/2007 8:59:52 AM | OP: Very Very Interesting...
I recognized alot of those traits in myself.... Hmm... Interesting.
Im trippin' a little bit...
But I embrace... Hey i have been called strange and quirky on more than 100 occassions!! | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/26/2007 9:01:13 AM | | OP...Interesting article...For years, that description was me...I didnt mind being alone...I enjoyed my solitude....Sometimes at social gatherings I would fantasize about just getting home and being among the quiet surroundings Im familiar with ...Im an INJF also...I was amazed and overjoyed to find another indvidual who is like me in that respect and we can revel in our company, our silence, our quietness together with the comfortness we had being alone..I never thought I would find that nor did I ever imagine I would feel so comfortable with someone as I did while alone.. | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/26/2007 11:14:54 AM | | Yep, I seem to be up for joining this club too...content on my own rather than settling for something that doesn't fit. As someone once said "there is nothing as lonely as wishing you were on your own". | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/26/2007 11:16:30 AM | Fanny, Scorpios can definitely be predators and if they are prey, they make the predator wish he's chosen another victim, just teasing but not by much.  | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/26/2007 11:41:41 AM | Recommended book for QuirkyAlones:
"Party of one : the loners' manifesto" by Anneli Rufus
The existence of people who are happy in their alone state is only possible in advanced stages of a society's development. In other words, they're a sign that a civilization has reached a high level of sophistication.  | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/26/2007 12:08:56 PM | | That is me to a t. ;o) | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/26/2007 12:11:43 PM | | Can I join too? This sounds like a cancer, likes being a lone, but will keep company when it suits them. | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/26/2007 12:33:43 PM | Definitely me.
Definitely Quirky. Most people say "You're weird."
Definitely Alone. The second question people ask me after "how are you?" is "so, you married yet?"
Although having said that, I have lots of people I know, and lots of interests. I just don't get attached that easily. Very, very rarely.
It could be because I'm a Scorpio. It could be because I'm an INTP. But who knows? I could just be an alien. It would explain some things. | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/26/2007 12:41:43 PM | here here! there is much truth in the orginal post.. and quite a few other responses..
Its great being your own person! | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/26/2007 12:49:51 PM |
Fanny, Scorpios can definitely be predators and if they are prey, they make the predator wish he's chosen another victim, just teasing but not by much.
Another Scorpio here. I can't say that I'm predatory, but some who have crossed me have received a rude awakening.
Hey, I'm finding that I resemble some of these remarks... although I'm not really fond of labels or being "pigeonholed" though. I like a balance of solitude and togetherness and am choosy as with whom I spend my time. | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/26/2007 2:05:18 PM | Yep, this is me. I knew I wasn't the only one!!!
I have friends who just don't understand that I'm perfectly ok spending a Friday night alone at Borders with a latte and a good book. I enjoy time with friends, but I don't have to be with someone to have a good time.
And I HATE the thought of partnering up with someone who doesn't knock my socks off just because I don't want to be alone. YUCK! | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/26/2007 2:56:04 PM | | Yes people just dont understand you enjoy doing those things and value your own time I always have done and would not trade that in for lousy company, hassle or basically didnt hear a symphony...! I bet though that if you were suddenly presented with something reasonable we all might run a mile unless you got truelly hooked heaven forbid..! Lol | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/26/2007 3:12:24 PM | I read that book a couple of years ago. It was unique for being a chick book without a bright pink cover, though to be fair they admitted guys could be part of the movement, too. They had the silly notion that life had passed them (the authors, that is) by because they were - gasp - like 26 or 27 and weren't engaged or on the path to coupledom.
That, and they forgot Ralph Nader when they compiled their list of notable quirky alones. Huge oversight.
The really quirky people are part of a couple. | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/26/2007 3:17:36 PM | As much as I try to avoid titles and labels - well, I think the nail has been hit on the head!! I agree with an earlier poster - being alone is VERY VERY different from feeling lonesome. I started out being an 'empty nester' and felt so very lonesome. As I went through my day, I began to realize that I was learning more about myself, good and bad, and was able to change some of the bad into good. It took awhile to become comfortable enough with only myself for company before I became comfortable being alone. (did that come out right?)]
At the end of the day I'm happy with myself, my choices and my alone time. I don't need to be entertained. No TV, no phone, no company, no outside influence. I like living in my little spot of Mother Earth and 'doing my own thang!!' | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/26/2007 3:19:59 PM | On QA Cancers:
It is my impression that a lot of female POFers are Cancers (I do not look into men's profiles, they may be too). | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/26/2007 3:21:07 PM | | BTW - I'm an Aquarian also. | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/26/2007 3:21:20 PM | | Wow !! I looked up INFJ as I had no clue what it stood for, Have just seen a characteristic description of INFJ on a quick google search.....I must admit I can certainly relate to that too......goes hand in hand with being an Aquarian. | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/26/2007 3:26:14 PM | Thanks for posting that, definitely an interesting description. I feel that way most of the time, but not all of the time. I really think it's good for people to spend some time alone, I mean very alone, no roommates, no one around, just you! It gives you plenty of time to think about things you may not bother thinking about if people are around all the time. Definitely gives you a different perspective on life and I think makes you stronger!
Too many people get into the wrong relationships because they are just afraid to be alone. | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/26/2007 3:38:55 PM | Too many people get into the wrong relationships because they are just afraid to be alone
True. Or because they want to combine friendship, love and sex into a single package.
The best remedy against being alone is to have REAL friends (I do not mean FwBs).
Friendship is the ULTIMATE human relationship, IMO.
We choose our friends more wisely than our lovers, SO or spouses. And we do/can not choose our relatives, of course. | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/26/2007 3:39:00 PM | To Nick Thinker,
I have found that a lot of male POF's seem to be cancerians also. I think those complex Cancerians may have a harder job finding someone they can connect with on a deep level. Also, I'm still conviced a lot of quirky /Aloners will be INFJ personalities. Sun signs and personalities types, wonder if anyone has seen a correlation with them also? | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/26/2007 5:59:09 PM | | I can only agree, I do like my time out but having said that I do enjoy company too, it is getting the balance right between the two that is important. I spend a lot of time alone but still keep in touch with friends and family online too, seeing them in person is much better anyday but it is still nice to have your own space too. | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/26/2007 6:12:19 PM | ok now.. how interesting is THAT!
Thanks op for this.. it does put me into that.. 'YAY I'm not alone' mantra.
I like that. :-)
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