| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/26/2007 6:16:46 PM | If being true to myself makes me quirky then I am the Queen of Quirky. Everyone please bow.
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/26/2007 6:55:00 PM |
Alert: "QuirkyAlone" types, as described, seem to me excellent "prey" for sophisticated PLAYERS. Seeking momentous experiences or whatever, that may lead into the one-nite-stand bed of pro players who know how to offer ST "momentous" experiences while the allude to LT ones. "Quirky Alones", be aware and careful of your Achilles Heel!
Hmmmm...very good point. I know that I fell for a sophisticated "player", because I was lonely and feeling vulernable. No question about it. At the time, I dismissed my intuition and told myself that I was just being too cynical and not giving the guy a fair chance. Lesson: always listen to the intuition. Yet, I also had the lesson to help me learn how to recognize these sorts right off the bat and feel pretty certain that it won't happen again.
I'm a scorpio with a cancer moon--squishy, squishy squishy...
Nick! Look! Goodewitch is in England...and she's cute.... | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/27/2007 6:13:43 AM | One thing for sure is that Cancer and Scorpio go together male Scorpio female Cancer, not the other way around.
I'm Intj, Aquarius, Libra ascendant, I don't feel too quirky.......hmmmm | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/27/2007 6:28:30 AM | | This description fits me as well....I would also say that a big danger is projecting your romantic fantansy on to someone who just player...been there done that...twice.. | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/27/2007 6:41:49 AM | | For much of my life, this definition fit me. I went through date after date after date, but would go home and prefer listening to John Denver or Cat Stevens. I would dream of love like those songs talked about. POF has actually helped me be more sociable. I have made 2 girlfriends here. I have also learned to enjoy dates and let them go home and not be attatched to any outcome or recriminations that they aren't my dream. I've learned that you need different people for different things. I have a lot of girlfriends who do different things with me and I don't have to be into every aspect of their lives. I used to have so many breakups, wanting a perfect fit with a male or female (not gay, just that high school thing with girls). I've also learned to avoid the very needy. I used to want to help, but they really ruin everything. They upset and hurt you, then you aren't good for your other friends. I've learned not to put all my eggs in one basket. I hope to have a very primary relationshsip, but it takes time. Meanwhile, I don't have to stop living. | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/27/2007 7:48:53 AM |
I would also say that a big danger is projecting your romantic fantansy on to someone
That reminds me, there was a big section in the book on "RO" - Romantic Obsession - which sounded like anything but out of the ordinary. It was typical twenty-something stuff. | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/27/2007 8:01:32 AM | When I went to the website for this, it talks about it being about being a "movement" and their forums are described as a "community of independent thought on singledom, life, and love". Kind of a shock. When I read this thread, I just thought QuirkyAlone was just a descriptor for a pattern of human behaviors, just like INFJ, or some other personality profile. I did like one of the terms there which I think fits me, I'm just "anti-dull relationships". A person really has to stand out in some way to me to either be my friend or even moreso to be a potential girlfriend. I know a lot of people who date just for the sake of not being alone, and find the idea unappealing. I remember seeing some guy's post the other day who said he'd met something like 200 women in the past year or so from on-line dating, and all I could think is that I probably haven't met 50 women in my life who I actually wanted to go on a date with. But I disagree with the idea that my "natural resting state" is "singledom". I'd prefer to be in a relationship ... but it has to be the right relationship, otherwise, I'd just rather be alone.
I went to the quirkyalone.net forum and found the rather large community of self-professed QuirkyAloners there somewhat the antithesis of what I'd expect it means to be QuirkyAlone. I mean some of the discussions/topics there by people who supposedly prefer to be alone and not waste time on dull relationships ... get real.
QuirkyAlone: a pattern of personal behavior or just some author's way of selling belonging/books to loners seeking acceptance? | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/27/2007 8:08:58 AM | I was wondering. Quirky Alones, what is their sex life like. When not in a rel, what do they do? Abstain? Self satisfy, for how long? Have 1-niters, FB or FwB? How long can a QA go w/o some sort of sex/Eros? Is that why they/we are "quirky", lack of sex?
I would not think that QA means "sexed down" or not that much into sex/sensuality/hedonism!
Any insights? | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/27/2007 8:56:41 AM | The OP quotes:
We are the puzzle pieces who seldom fit with other puzzle pieces. We inhabit singledom as our natural resting state....we are, by force of our personalities and inner strength, rebels. Yet make no mistake: We are no less concerned with coupling than your average serial monogamist. Secretly, we are romantics, romantics of the highest order. We want a miracle. Out of millions we have to find the one who will understand.
For the "hey that describes me to a T crowd:" Blarney. Your horoscopes are structured the same way. Feel-good equivocation, that's all it is. | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/27/2007 12:26:46 PM | hmmmm
Scorpio...INFJ...QuirkyAlone
all me
maybe I should pay attention to astrology more | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/27/2007 12:51:49 PM | Yup I am one of them - I guess.
I've never been one to date just for the sake of dating.
I have never seen the point of it. It just leads straight to casual sex. The older I get the less interested in boinking strangers I get.
But I have another name for it ..........
Logical adult. | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/27/2007 1:36:23 PM | Hey Nick Thinker-
I was wondering. Quirky Alones, what is their sex life like. When not in a rel, what do they do? Abstain? Self satisfy, for how long? Have 1-niters, FB or FwB? How long can a QA go w/o some sort of sex/Eros? Is that why they/we are "quirky", lack of sex?
Check response #27. I actually answered your question there... | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/27/2007 2:51:44 PM | You mean this one?
<div class="quote"> Q. Are quirkyalones celibate?
A. Quirkyalones are not celibate. That said, we don't have that much sex either. However, we are human and when pressure and frustration builds we do go on the occasional sexual spree . . . which brings us to our next question.
Q. I know someone who is constantly hooking up but doesn't get into relationships. Is she quirkyalone?
A. Good question. If your friend's standards for companionship are very high, but for a Saturday night fling, very low, she goes by another name. This person is a quirkyslut, and she should wear that title proudly.
The "we don't have much sex either" leaves room for a lot of interpretations. 2.5 to 3 partners per year, ie the average? Above? Below?
The "spree" thing sounds a tad scary. Because when one goes on a "spree" they are not thinking straight.
As per the QuirkySlut category, I think it sounds simple, but is kinda simplistic.
In all, I am so sure that the picture painted of QAs is a positive one. It implies that they are unrealistic and often reality hits them in the face and thus they tend to exhibit extremes in their behavior. Kind of "sexually bipolar", going from overly selective, suddenly, to slutting?
So my fundamental question remains unanswered, IMO:
Are QAs sexually content or wanting? And how do they satisfy their needs? The quotes above suugest a very erratic behavior and raises reg flags about them to the rest of the POF and dating population in general, does it not, OP? | |
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| QuirkyAlone?
Posted: 7/27/2007 3:42:53 PM | The trouble with living alone is you can do as you please with little regard for anyone else.
This messes up relationships when you start meeting people. | |
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