| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 8/5/2007 6:01:07 AM | | This is fun......okey you need to know this ........if you are to look at everyone's profile they have the same idea and point but in different wording.....so there are guys that can tell you all you want to hear because they want to win your heart....and you know this.....that you have to impress to win .....if you get emails from more than one guy and you don't take time to view them but you want something different everytime and intrests you........so if you get to this guy that can do it ......then you care on but after meeting things go wrong because he is not what you read in the mails......on the other guy with poor spelling and gramma had that you need in a guy....so judging someone before you get to know them is not a good idea......its like someone who didn't go to school perform a task that a profession do....... i think its just better to stay open without any expections but common sense is enough......to success...... | |
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 8/7/2007 4:49:27 PM | I usually write long winded e-mails about randomly nothing but within that nothing is buried something connected to the person I'm writing to. Weird huh?... suprisingly I get around 75% replies but I think that is due more to girls going "what the heck is that guy on and I'm going to have to ask him where he gets it!" | |
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 9/9/2007 9:31:04 PM | I dont really get much of emails I know Price Charming is not on here and maybe guys do try to bullshit their way to get something but only the Smart Girls catch on but for a guy you know so tell me what is ur thought on me. Give me the story I think it would be fun to hear
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 9/10/2007 3:45:33 PM | I know Price Charming is not on here and maybe guys do try to bullshit their way to get something
Well youve submitted to defeat before you started, im not a ninja or a black belt in karate, but i know that the board must fear my fist, not my fist fearing the board!
Only the smart girls catch on
So all my friends that i seen get screwed over are just stupid then?
And i think sending out emails is the same way, if you think your going nowhere before you type it, then why type it? | |
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 9/10/2007 4:33:41 PM | ^^Give the man a prize!
It really doesnt matter what you write, i think the "email" itself is almost irelevent, notice almost, like was said make note of something you seen, but remember like was also said, some women get so many email's they cant possibly read them all, and they pull some kind of assumption like ^^up there!
They just know by looking at your picture what your after?
I find it Amazing they can do that to email's, but somehow theres no shortage of women upset and bitter because they went after the "exciting guy", too bad"exciting guy" is usually full of crap/married or something else. | |
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 9/10/2007 5:33:07 PM | ^^^there you go making generalizations/assumptions.
NOT all girls are like that
Attraction comes in many forms....and doesn't always start on a physical level.
I like to see that "he's" read my profile.... and DOESN'T ask me what I like to do for fun. Heck THAT is IN my profile. | |
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 9/10/2007 9:36:49 PM | So that's where I go wrong!!!!! Actually read the profiles.......hmmmmm, interesting!!!
As long as its not gonna make my eyes bleed cause their profile reads longer than and essay, I usually read them. I mean I gotta find something in common to ask or talk to her about!! | |
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 9/11/2007 7:24:31 AM | There's exceptions to every rule.. but I don't know anyone who would date anybody that they don't find physically attractive.. But then again, it also depends on what the person is looking for either.. you don't have to be physically attractive to be friends with someone  | |
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 9/11/2007 7:41:31 AM | Physical attraction can grow over time too. Not all physical attraction has to be an immediate OMG He's so gorgeous! kind of attraction. It's the little things you notice while spending time with him.
Women want to know that the guy has taken some time to think about his first message to you. Not a 'Hey how's it going' message from someone you've never communicated with before. | |
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 9/11/2007 9:55:22 AM | | ^^^ exactly Miss Horseraddish! Women actually read the profiles (for the most part) and actually want a guy to have something interesting to say in the initial email. What sets you apart from all the other guys out there? | |
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 9/11/2007 11:48:44 AM | Personally im not sure, i don't read their profiles, but since most of my female friends have many the same complaints about men, if i had to guess, id say what sets mine apart, i don't have alot of info, which suck's, but whatever, because i didn't waste hours to make up stories to try to make the quick sale of myself 
And no thats not to say that a well written profile is great, but whats the difference between a great profile and a great story! That should be the 6 million dollar question! | |
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 9/11/2007 2:08:31 PM | I want to know the real reason why you e-mailing me. Things like: "You are hot" or "Hi, Good looking" those are 99% read deletes. But, I do, read the guys' profiles, before I delete or respond to their e-mails anyway.
What I am looking in the e-mail for: Common interests, common sense and sense of humour. However, no matter how nice is the e-mail, the guy would still need to meet my criteria, I have listed on my profile. | |
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 2/15/2008 11:15:12 AM |
"You are hot" or "Hi, Good looking" those are 99% read deletes
Aren't those awful?!
The worst is thinking he must be a sodding brainiac for his clever wording.
"Hey Baby".(One of my own personal favorites)
I'm thinking, "Yeah, excuse me while I prepare for our conversation with my magical dummy down juice!"
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 2/27/2008 2:05:16 PM | Man, no matter what I do I get like a <5% response rate. I type out every message I send manually. I'll admit there's a few lines I use quite often, but usually just "Take a look at my profile and see what you think"... this is after at least a paragraph of thought out chit chat type stuff about her interests and mine.
The sad thing is, I'm so giddy when a girl makes first contact, that she could probably put "." as long as her profile didn't suck. :P | |
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 2/29/2008 7:34:55 PM | I will speak for myself. Yes, one liners are great, but at first look at it this way, if u were a genuinely great product, it would take a little more than a one liner although getting the point across..... U have to sell urself on here, as there's only a picture to go by..... it's online shopping. Some info would be great, and not to mention if you guys can make me laugh when I read ur profiles, then I know It's worth my trouble... so there... not asking for much now is there?
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 2/29/2008 8:24:14 PM | You know Sachcarine i tend to write this as well.
Sometimes it's easy to write to a woman because she mentioned stuff that strike a chord with me, some similar interests.
Yet and MANY times, you read the profile and there's not much to go by. So if they have not much to go by, then what's a guy supposed to do?
What's left is some boring questions and the usual check my profile and drop me a line if you see anything you like.
The physical thing, EVERYONE does it!! Sure attraction can build overtime but if you cant even get a foot in the door then it doesnt matter what you wrote.
I am gona give you some examples of profiles, Those are simply taken from the main page, so totally random.
Profile #1
I am smart,outgoing,and funny and any guy that is similiar well than give it a shot. I love camping,the gym, and love sports, watching or playing. If this is you then write me a message. Of course I love to relax wth a great movie and spend time with someone, but I also love the excitement in a relationship..Not looking to rush, but am looking to find someone that wants to be in a relationship over time. I love funny guys and a sense of humour is very important to me. I love someone that can make me laugh
Sheesh...no really? you are smart? You love camping? So do most folks and so do most folks say in their profile.
Not looking to rush....again...this is something i read all the time.
Also the fact that humor is very important, well maybe i been here too long now but damn....just about every woman want that!
So honestly, what's a guy supposed to say or reply to this? What superhuman writing prowess is a guy to do?
Profile #2
ok so im a funny free spirited kinda girl, who loves hang out doing lote of great things like playing pool, go danceing, or just stay in and relaxing. I love to laugh lots and enjoy life I try not to take life to seriously only whan worented. My friends and family are very important to me. I am also s single mom of 2a boy and a girl thay are my pride en joy. Iam looking for someone to share my life with as i think it is pritty great. If ur interested in getting to know me as long as u know im not a one night stand or some one who wonts to play games if we click we click if not see ya latter no hard feelings{ oh and if you cant tell I like to be honest lol} So if u wana chat Im here. p.s....No ass holes........plz
Again, mention is being made of stuff that just about everyone do. How about telling us something that is REALLY unique about you? Seeking laughs again! Surprising? Not really... She has kids, cool.....the only thing i was expecting is..... I am not looking for a dad, they have one
Cant forget the always popular not looking for a one night stand
Profile #3
Well where do I start... I was here once before and I have met some great people and some that were definitley characters. I'm not exactly sure what it is that I'm looking for on here. Maybe it's a change or just a chance to meet someone I wouldn't normally get a chance to meet through my everyday life. I'm a laid back, easy going gal who is close to her family and friends. I can't imagine my life without them.
I do have pics avail. I just don't post them
I like the fact she mentions that she hope to meet folks she wouldnt meet normally, though does it mean she will make the effort to read emails from guys she normally wouldnt talk to? My guess is probably not, because eh.....i think it takes a lot of presence of mind to go against what we normally go for. Just think back at the last email you got from someone you dont see yourself with. Chances are that even before you read what she/he wrote, your mind was probably made up.
Again, the laid back line.....so if everyone is laid back? Then why is the world so tough some days? Why is everyone, rushing to work everyday and in life in general? As well...mention of the importance of friends and familly. Well, it's a no brainer....unless you're a psychopath....most folks should care about their friends and their familly. Isnt that part of being friend is about, Caring?
All this to say that 3 totally random profile pretty much said the same thing, 3 profiles really didnt have much for me to say to those women.
So again, i ask you;
What's a guy to do?
PS, Honestly, i am sure some guys profiles are similar to this, not making a point here that women do it and men dont. However..... In order to point out what woman want in an initial email from men. Well how about you give us something tangible to go on? Because frankly, the laughs, the easy going and all the activities that everyone write about dont make you special. Give us some food for thought!
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| What do women look for in an initial email from a guy
Posted: 3/2/2008 12:33:52 AM | I look for something other than "screw dating, wanna screw" that's actually a direct quote!
impressive, I know.
I like an email to stand out in some way, one guy emailed me a bizarre questionaire, it was awesome. | |
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