| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 5/27/2008 9:21:17 AM | | no, sorry you got it wrong,.........i am not referring to blocking exite, etc., im saying that when men are abusive themselves or have anger management issues, persay, they will sometimes play on what they perceive to be a persons weakness, and start a fight, when really they are the bully projecting their anger onto the nice person. that is why i said, if you sense this is going on, run cause this type of person is a trouble maker, and makes himself out to be a victim. i had a friend, where the guy did this to her, and one day she pushed him cause she got so sick of him belittling her, and i told her from the beginning that he was pushing her to this point. leave, when you see the red flags!!!!!!!! healthy relationships are out there people. | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 5/27/2008 10:29:59 AM | I don't think I'm wrong.
When you said "push buttons", the first image that came to my mind (and I'm sure that it is the same for most men) was the bigmouthed shrew shouting, belittling and insulting a boyfriend/husband, who is just there, in silence, hoping that the barrage ends.
Men may have the upper hand in physical abuse, but women have it in emotional abuse. | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 5/27/2008 11:01:54 AM | | no, you have your opinion. thats the image that came to YOUR mind. i just explained what i meant, so dont put words in my mouth that were not there. i just explained the situation where a friend of mine was continously belittled until she pused him one day, exactly what he wanted so then he coluld go run tell all his socalled buddies that he was a victim of her "pushing", you have had your experience , just that, IT WASYOUR EXPERIENCE. a part of communicating is listening, so dont contradict a conversation, especially when it comes to something so serious!!! and your comment how"men have the upper hand in physical abuse" says right there the type of person you are. | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 5/27/2008 12:33:52 PM |
a friend of mine was continously belittled until she pused him one day, exactly what he wanted so then he coluld go run tell all his socalled buddies that he was a victim of her "pushing", you have had your experience , just that, IT WASYOUR EXPERIENCE.
Then your friend experienced what so many men experience. The difference is, if the man pushes her one day, she won't tell her buddies, she will tell the police. We can't have unrest among the slaves, after all. | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 5/27/2008 12:39:51 PM | | no, you need to stop speaking for all these men out there. so far you r the only one speaking . and you are wrong, i get the feeling that if women did not call the police about someone like you, then you would feel it your place to be physically abusive. after all, you even said"men have the upper hand in physical abuse" look, just drop the issue. you are one of thos scary ones, please drop it,, it is getting nowhere. | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 5/27/2008 12:48:34 PM | ^^^ The topic of the thread is about a WOMAN who hit a MAN. Not the other way around.
I don't deny violance from BOTH genders but, if you insist on men being always the abuser... at the very least have the prudence about not to minimize or to justify the women's agressive behaviours.
Btw, there is an old thread with the same title with roles on reverse. | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 5/27/2008 1:01:13 PM | | no , it is not ok for a woman to hit a man, or vice versa, the point i was making was that there are warning signs in the beginning of unhealthy situations, recognize them, and get out!!!!!for both people. end of story. thank you very much. end of discussion. | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 5/27/2008 1:12:23 PM | no, you need to stop speaking for all these men out there.
Why? You're speaking for all those women out there, after all.
i get the feeling that if women did not call the police about someone like you, then you would feel it your place to be physically abusive. after all, you even said"men have the upper hand in physical abuse"
And I also said women have the upper hand in emotional abuse. But anyway, thanks by calling me a potential abuser just for not agreeing with you. I suppose that's a great way to end a discussion you're losing.
"and one day she pushed him cause she got so sick of him belittling her..."
Just imagine a man giving this explanation after hitting a woman. I wonder if you would be so understanding and forgiving with him as you were with your friend -because I suppose that man-beater is still your friend, isn't she?
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 5/27/2008 3:00:45 PM |
no, you need to stop speaking for all these men out there. so far you r the only one speaking . and you are wrong, i get the feeling that if women did not call the police about someone like you, then you would feel it your place to be physically abusive. after all, you even said"men have the upper hand in physical abuse" look, just drop the issue. you are one of thos scary ones, please drop it,, it is getting nowhere.
No he was the only one to bother answering an obviously illogical person so far.
Your friend in what you describe as a minor way (but with how people handle female violence who knows what really went down) assaulted someone for something they said. Does that strike you as the best response on any level? SHE stayed in a situation SHE wasn't happy with, and SHE tried to resolve her frustrations physically. SHE could have left as she isn't being held against her will or if she chooses wait till she has settled down and then try to resolve the issue like an ADULT, with communication.
Further although I hate to generalize, I will say that MOST men will never engage in the sort of mind game you describe. The majority are pretty direct, which is why we just don't get the question "what did you mean when you said...?". Usually we mean exactly what we just said so then assume it must be a vocabulary issue. | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 5/27/2008 3:35:05 PM | | no obviously you r lacking in communication skills, and that is why u r calling me names. lol. your opinion, is just that your opinion. she wan not trying to "resolve" her situation. she was fed up with it. that is why if it doesnt seem right get out, 9 times out of 10 its not. helloooooooooooo | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 5/27/2008 3:59:56 PM | "She was fed up with it"
That is not an excuse to hit him.
According to the motto of LVMPD 'there is never an excuse for domestic violance' and, in theory, apply to both genders. | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 5/27/2008 4:02:20 PM | Get over yourself, I nowhere called you any names.
As for "fed up" ..... so she lashed out like an undisciplined child, we get it. You can blindly excuse her actions if you wish, even as you admit that in such a situation she should have made for the door instead. But expect to be called on it, as some of us don't put up with perpetuating stereo-types.
I'll spoon feed you if I must but if you say it over again and use just "one person/another person" in telling your anecdote rather than "man/woman" you should figure it out on your own. | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 5/27/2008 4:22:37 PM | From: 2readyru (View Profile) (View All Correspondence) Subject: harrassment Sent Date: 5/27/2008 7  40 PM you continue to harrass me i can report you, some men are good, obviously you are of the latter. you need to be one of those sitting in jail,.... you email me again i will report you
Report away sunshine.
PS future whiny e-mails from you are blocked.
Did you know that some women think men should be imprisoned for having the audacity to verbally disagree with them? Wow, and I thought the troglodytes that go around hitting people for what they say were the worst threat. Seems I can still be proven wrong | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 5/27/2008 4:30:32 PM | ok I want to get back to the subject please???
It is not ok for anyone to use violence against anyone else. The only other comment I would make is that with men though because they are usually much stronger in their upper body usually they will cause more damage than a women when hitting. That does not excuse a woman to hit though.. and I am not excusing a woman hitting.
The more recent domestic violence laws where the police can lock up both parties is a good idea especially when both are showing signs of being battered...IMHO
I agree with Rock's assessment also. I think there are women who try to push the envelope .. when I a man is just trying to get the heck outa the area so he won't lose his cool and the woman blocks his exit. | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 5/27/2008 7:10:53 PM | 2readyru, loonytunz enjoys harassing and belittling women. He has to be right about everything. He has a big ego. He's done it to me too. Calling me an idiot.
Try not to worry about it. He's not worth wasting your energy on. | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 5/27/2008 7:13:28 PM | yep he done it to me too in first forum about this topic. the one that got deleted. lol i think he has made it clear all women are idiots lol. I bet he dont have a long line of ladies waiting to go out with him.
how you doing Prairiechick | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 5/27/2008 7:24:14 PM | Rebuttal: Never once anywhere have I even suggested that women are inferior or idiots.
When it comes to individuals........ If the shoe fits...
Praire insisted that "what she hears" was grounds to gender-bash, so she was called on it.
Kitten you were threatening(smith&wesson and paying him a visit ring any bells) another poster for having a conflicting view to your own then later admitted that you yourself raise your daughter to hit guys and to expect to hide behind her labia as a justification for why she should behave that way and expect zero repercussions.
If any of you have anything to contribute that makes it worthwhile for someone find a fault with my statement that "you remove gender references from the situation entirely" then make your decision on what course of action is called for, by all means do so. Otherwise you are just chatting again and we have a zero tolerance policy on forums in effect recently  . Buh-bye posting priveledges if you can't stay ON TOPIC. | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 5/27/2008 7:31:44 PM | I dont hit men nor do I teach my daughters too. I dont know where u got that from. my kids are not being raised the way you were.
im doing good prairiechick, thks for aksing. | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 5/27/2008 7:47:28 PM | | Ok i am not going 2 lie and say i have never hit my exs. It is quite the contray. I have sat on BOTH sides of the fence. And now dont get me wrong i am ashamed of what i have done in my past i want to change the person i have let myself become. But now for my view it isnt ok for anyone to be vilent towards anyone else especally someone they love. When i was 16 i was in a very abusive relation ship i obviously got out of it fine however when i was 20 i became the abuser. My ex yes treated me like crap but when i found out my 24 yr old bf left me 4 a 17 yr old highschool kid. I went so far as 2 atempt 2 choke him. Then when i relized i had become what i hated i felt alot of remorce but i will hand it to my ex he never hit me back. But that action i will not repeat because at that moment i felt lower than dirt. So i will stand by what i say no one should hit any one. Never | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 7/20/2008 11:59:46 AM | The more recent domestic violence laws where the police can lock up both parties is a good idea especially when both are showing signs of being battered...IMHO
I agree with Rock's assessment also. I think there are women who try to push the envelope .. when I a man is just trying to get the heck outa the area so he won't lose his cool and the woman blocks his exit.
Which laws are these? Women get locked up as well now?
A lot of women who are hit might deserve it. I read somewhere that women who are being abused were themselves the abuser before. They decided to hit their man first and he decided to turn it around.
My best friend Adrian (not real name) was constantly slapped, hit and just generaly abused by his ex. One night she hit him REALLY hard and I'd had enough of it. I smacked her so hard across the head and knocked her on her arse .
Good job. You showed an abundance of compassion, integrity and concern by stepping up for your friend. World needs more women like that/ | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 7/20/2008 12:04:44 PM | No its not ok for a woman to hit a man and vice versa, its not only entirely wrong but its showing lack of respect for yourself and your partner.
Don't care with the excuse 'push buttons', its wrong....end of. | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 7/23/2008 4:07:12 PM | I didn't read any of the other posts at all and am basing my answer just on the question. I so happen to deal with domestic violence situation at my job. I've had the "pleasure" of actually walking into a beating in progress in the Brueklyn Houses of N.Y.C.H.A.. That's out in Canarsie near E.108 Street. I've also seen the end reults at ER and at headquarters in the Bronx.
The answer to this question should not be drawn out at all. Men should not hit woman and woman should not hit men. Case closed. I could go on about self defense and such but I don;t think this thread is about that. I know its a difficult thing to do but if DV is occuring, the best thing to do is to get out of the situation. If the person follows you and persists.......................(you take it from there). DV and family violence has a very high intensity level becasue the parties are related or involved. Most people in Law enforcemnt would rather deal with a robber or drug dealer beforethe deal with this stuff. | |
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