bie111
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Joined: 7/30/2008
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 8/4/2008 6:16:33 AM | | No, of course not! It is never OK for ANY person to even do so much as touch another person without their consent. 'Nuff said. | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 8/5/2008 1:53:23 AM | | No it is not ok for a woman to hit a man, although i have and before all you men condem me please let me explain. For most of my married life i suffered mental and physical abuse, and yes alot of you must think why stay there, why not walk away.Its not till you have been there yourself you realise its not so easy espically when you have young children so you take the beatings and just prey he wont hit you anywhere where ppl can see the bruises as you dont want anyone to know. It was not untill my ex husband now had met another woman and whilst he was waiting to move in with her he wanted to stay with me, while i slept on the sofa and he had our bed, my daughter went mad and said she wanted him gone, he got angry with her and grabbed her by the throat, so im sorry guys i did hit him, but he was so shocked he left, after 18 years of abuse i hit back and through all the kicks and thumps in my back i still suffer with bad back broblems, but im alive and i survied and i dont have a aggresive streak in me but i did when i saw my daughter nearly strangled! | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 8/5/2008 3:21:18 AM |
For most of my married life i suffered mental and physical abuse, and yes alot of you must think why stay there, why not walk away.Its not till you have been there yourself you realise its not so easy espically when you have young children so you take the beatings and just prey he wont hit you anywhere where ppl can see the bruises as you dont want anyone to know.
So what would you say to the "if she hits you, don't defend yourself but leave" crowd?
i dont have a aggresive streak in me but i did when i saw my daughter nearly strangled!
So what would you say to the "never hit a woman, no matter what" crowd? | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 8/5/2008 3:30:15 AM | and men ,,, are allowed to DEFEND THEMSELVES i had an abusive gf , years ago , and in therapy learned how to hold them or defend myself if need be and leave , them , they turned into stalker types too !!!  | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 8/5/2008 10:15:25 AM | @ rock hunter.
In her defence when your child is subjected to something like that I would be surprised if anyone didn't hit back, that is an extreme scenario that alot of us have probably never come across and probably never will.
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 8/5/2008 11:49:43 AM |
In her defence when your child is subjected to something like that I would be surprised if anyone didn't hit back, that is an extreme scenario that alot of us have probably never come across and probably never will.
I'm not disagreeing with her reaction. On the contrary, it's a good example of circumstances where you're not only allowed, but compelled to hit. In the same way, there are times when a man has to hit, despite all those "let yourself be killed before hitting back, that makes you the better man" idiots. | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 8/5/2008 3:27:59 PM |
While most abuse is men on women, you can have a female batter or a same sex batter.
How did no one catch and point out this fallacy AGAIN.
Men DO NOT abuse more.
Women are more likely to initiate physical violence, men are just more likely to be charged. That trend holds true in gay/lesbian relationships aswell which have comparable domestic situations to hetero couples. | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 8/5/2008 3:32:20 PM |
many people finding it funny that the man has been hit
Those people are idiots and those women are abusers with mental issues who confuse soap operas with real life. The only time its ok to hit is in self defence. | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 8/5/2008 3:53:11 PM | A person what ever gender is not okay to hit, it is a crime of physical abuse and violence. I was a nanny in HongKong for a wealthy Chinese family the baby was 2 years old perhaps,she kept slapping me all the time it makes my eyes sting,when I was carrying her, and the family thinks it is funny. When no one was around I pinched her palm and told her in English not to slap me again, she cried so loud that the cook woke up in her nap, and I keep kissing the palm of the baby and told the cook that she was bitten by an insect, (there are lot of mosquitos in HongKong )when she touch the trunk of a tree, thank God the baby does not know how to talk yet. She never slap me again..The bottom line is" nip on the bud". | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 8/5/2008 4:12:22 PM | Apparently according to new UK laws it is OK for a wife to kill her husband if he abuses her for years.
However if the man kills his wife he gets life !
British law ahs gone completely downt the pan and is complete sexist. | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 8/5/2008 4:12:32 PM | it isn't OK for any humans' to go around hitting each other.. or cause towards such behavour... PERIOD... where does everyone think all this violence stems from.. there's no senario.. this isn't FollyWood... real life.. adults... are suppose to teach children and behave like adults.. we're not in some 6 gun packin society... which again is where these sicko behavours stem.. oh some men gotta be the tough guy.. or some women have to whatever.. it's a sick concept.. stand tall and stop it... you wanta be a man.. act like a real man.. same with a woman.. with all that said... sick an sad.. were that for what reason I can't imagine some woman slapped me.. i'd walk away...
those sports slaps lead to the same violence as a full fledged knockdown drag out...
someone who can't control themself.. should seek help..
yes any " justification" is an excuse and they need to seek help | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 8/5/2008 7:33:20 PM | Tell ya what Doc, you face down a woman with a 14" butcher knife that is ticked you want to leave her. After you do that then you can come back here and tell people to walk away.
Walking away is great, but realistically only feasible at a time when you are NOT being assaulted.
And look at the stats for domestic violence, what starts with a slap can easily progress to to punching kicking stabbing and choking. The day a woman that starts down this trail realizes she will get a slap right back for it and a punch for a punch/kick/or weapon she'll be much less likely to continue the downward path. At the very least it would provide one the time while not being further attacked to get out of dodge. | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 8/5/2008 7:45:50 PM | Sensitive issue. My parents used 2 tell me if they R big enough to hit then they R big enough 2 get hit back. Well that is true 2 a fault. I left my marriage because of alcoholic physical abuse, but it took awhile 2 leave. Now that me and my son have left it is a more peaceful world. It is NOT okay. Ever! walk, run, fly, swim away  | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 8/6/2008 12:43:41 AM | Oh sure, it's fine to hit a man, if you fully expect and don't mind a whack in the jaw back.
Seriously, things have gone way too far the 'other way'. It's politically correct to make jokes and bash men, but if something goes the other way, lookout lawsuit.
Personally I think we should all live by the same code - leave the punches in the ring, and the catty comments for the election.
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 8/6/2008 1:06:10 AM | hey you know what???? ive been in(A) situation where i wantd to hit a woman(my now ex) but i didnt.....but i think if the circunstances(hows my spelling) came up im not against it....some women (if not most) think they can get away with it because they are ( the weaker sex....what crap)...if i get attacked....ill give them what they deserve...im not violent but this garbage about them being helpless is bullshit..... | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 8/6/2008 1:26:21 AM | Violence against men is far more common than most people think.
It is enormously underreported because of the social stigma involved and the fact that many men tend not to be believed.
No, it is never okay. | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 8/6/2008 7:04:13 AM | does answering a blog mean I open myself up to being attacked... the answer is no it isn't ok...
Tell ya what Doc, you face down a woman with a 14" butcher knife
tell ya what Looney.. you walk in my shoes.. then you come back here and tell whom ever whatever...
the question wasn't what about this type or that type situation.. it was Is It OK.. my answer stands.. its wrong, does that mean it doesn't happen look around the worlds in turmoil... i've taken enough lifes in my life.. maybe the question should'a been is it ok for society beat each other to a pulp... no, that answer would'a been no too.. it's not ok.. is it ok to rob an steal from another, no it isn't ok... is it ok to go to war over whatever stupid reason, no it isn't ok... why does it continue, because weak people don't have the strenght to say it isn't OK.. i don't know the answer to how to fix the problem, I just know it isn't OK for men or women to hit each other... | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 8/6/2008 7:30:44 AM |
Tell that to the "you should never hit her back, just leave" crowd. They think that she will let him leave just like that.
When I was younger then I am today I was in a relationship with a very destructive and damaged women. She did everything she could to make me hit her. It was fun for her. She enjoyed it. Her fights would last hours. The record was about 14 hours. I was younger and confused and obviously a bit lacking in the self esteem area. Everytime I tried to leave, she would start smashing and breaking things that had meaning to me. When I would go back and sit down she would calm down and go to another room, then flare up and start freaking again. She would push/kick/hit and taunt me trying to get me to hit her. She knew very well that she could do these things to me and I may get a scratch or two but I did not bruise easily. If I would have let go it would have left a mark. She wanted the mark so she could put me in jail. That one session ended with me finally getting to my car and driving out. She started throwing my stuff off the balcony and letting it crash on the driveway and neighbors called the police. I stayed in my car until they arrived. When they got there they sat her down and asked her what the *&&^% she wanted and she said, "a plane ticket to hawaii." I called my work, took a personal loan, went to a travel agent and bought her a one way ticket leaving the next day.
How I wish that was the end of that story... But it wasn't. But that is another story :-) | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 8/6/2008 7:46:23 AM | Doc
I can't imagine some woman slapped me.. i'd walk away...
Very true. Very true if you have good self esteem, experience, and an overall healthy internal mirror. But really, that is like saying, anyone can run a marathon. Most people only end up in an abusive type relationship because there was some amount of time prior to the abuse starting where, signs were ignored, feelings were invested, patterns were established, and lots of things that occur for good and for bad.
Of course if you go on a date with a women and she walks up to you after the date and slaps you across the face and calls you '****'. That would be shocking and something you would immediately walk away from. It doesn't happen like that. On either side.
Yes hitting on both sides is wrong. It is not OK. Ummm... Trying to drive around train crossing gates is never a good idea. For some reason people still do it. | |
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| Is it okay for a woman to hit a man?
Posted: 8/6/2008 7:51:16 AM | I almost hit my recent ex with the dog dish, when he locked me out of my house because he had his new girlfriend inside.
Notice I use the word almost - I always stay on the right side of the law, although sometimes people can be pushed over the edge | |
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