| why dont men date pregnant women?
Posted: 7/27/2007 7:48:36 AM | | I would, but like someone else said, I have seen very few women in the dating market who have a big pregnany belly! | |
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| why dont men date pregnant women?
Posted: 7/27/2007 8:04:29 AM | I once dated a pregnant woman. However this was back in high school and she didn't tell me she was pregnant. Then again, she didn' t tell anyone else she was pregnant either.
It was a bad experience. Not because she was pregnant and didn't tell anyone but due to other factors. | |
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| why dont men date pregnant women?
Posted: 7/27/2007 9:11:08 AM |
If you have to ask this question, you really should do us all a big favor and not have the child.
That is one of the most insensitive statements I have ever read on these forums. You deserve a trophy for it...
/presents life_of_leisure with the assh*le award  | |
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| why dont men date pregnant women?
Posted: 7/27/2007 9:17:46 AM | ^^^^ Insensitive to whom? Why are you all offended when it's none of your business?
But make sure you spell my name right on the plaque on the trophy. | |
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| why dont men date pregnant women?
Posted: 7/27/2007 9:29:41 AM | i know a lot of guys who are super turned on by pregnant women and if they happen to run across one that is single, they would date her in a heartbeat.
i have to disagree with mepalmer though, when you are pregnant you’re not FAT your friggin pregnant *lol*…
but i do agree with the mood overall… if a woman is pregnant and single it isn’t the best time to be dating, she should be more focused on her child and working things out with the father (not maybe to the full extent of a relationship, but defiantly working out a peace).
also, dating a pregnant woman is hard, shes usually emotional, uncomfortable, dealing with things and just having a hard time adjusting to her new life anyway.
i think it would be easier to just date someone WITH kids… *lol* | |
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| why dont men date pregnant women?
Posted: 7/27/2007 9:33:50 AM | I hope being a girl I can answer this one.
I think that men don' t like to date someone expecting because they don;t want the drama. What happens if the dad gets all crazy. That and does any guy really want their woman to have to be tied to another guy for 18 years? | |
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| why dont men date pregnant women?
Posted: 7/27/2007 11:08:39 AM | I had to put my two sense in here. Why hasn't anyone considered the fact that maybe the woman is pregnant by other means as opposed to the "daddy" being gone or the end of a bad relationship. I know plenty of women who are single and haven't necessarily met the "right" person yet wanted to have children. There ARE ways to get pregnant without a "daddy" or a boyfriend. Hello Invitro!
Secondly, I can understand that a woman may be emotional during pregnancy but some of the comments on here like why is she dating, she should be at home resting....It is 2007 people. Pregnant women can be and are as active as non-pregnant women. I had a friend that would go to gym everyday and do light workout. Just because a woman is pregnant doesn't mean she should be a shut in at home in bed with her feet up. | |
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| why dont men date pregnant women?
Posted: 7/27/2007 1:36:07 PM | | Just because a guy isn't the idiot who got you pregnant and ran from his responsibilities doesn't mean some classic "good guy" should come to your rescue. ... Why don't (some) women think of things like this BEFORE getting pregnant in a negative situation? The OP question can only make any rational man just shake his head in disbelief. I mean, not many men want to start dating a woman who is currently going through any kind of rehab treatment either, and it would be just as silly a question for a woman in that situation to ask. ... And going to the gym is a far cry from accepting what should be viewed as a precious, fragile human life and a lifelong commitment. Yes, there are some exceptional situations that no woman is to be blamed for, and maybe she should not be expected to be at home on bed rest, but in normal circumstances she also shouldn't be in any way surprised when a man won't jump at the opportunity to take on a massive contract that someone else defaulted on recently. ... It's absolutely amazing ... some of the stuff that women on this site can say with a straight face. | |
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| why dont men date pregnant women?
Posted: 7/27/2007 1:39:23 PM | | Because you're a hormonal mess and a prospective baby means that I'll likely be cajoled into supporting it. | |
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| why dont men date pregnant women?
Posted: 7/27/2007 2:28:41 PM | | Maybe we dont wanna pay for yours and someone else bad choice cause seems to me the only reason a woman who was pregnant would wanna date is to find a daddy. | |
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| why dont men date pregnant women?
Posted: 7/27/2007 2:30:43 PM | Holy Crap....
i realize that this is just my opinion, as all of you have opinions, but we are a judgemental bunch in here
doesnt matter what the circumstances are, why not take the time to find out?
i can appreciate that most people will see a pregnant woman and assume shes in a relationship. thats ok, its normal... most people are. but if you are going to write a single woman off solely becuase she's pregnant, your loss, shes better off not having known you.
you guys are all assuming that pregnant women equate "dating" with "serious committed relationship". NEWS FLASH
we arent looking for an "insta-daddy" for our child to be. if we are just getting out of a relationship, we sure as hell dont want another one....
if we CHOSE to be a single parent, most likely we are comfortable with our independence. we dont need to be "fixed" or "taken care of" and are certainly not looking for a knight in shining armour.
i cant speak for other women here, but with both my pregnancies, i was hornier than a mo fo, and the best sex i have ever had, hands down, was during pregnancy. | |
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| why dont men date pregnant women?
Posted: 7/27/2007 2:33:52 PM | I can think of several reasons not to date a pregnant woman.
1. She’s pregnant and that means her hormones are not normal and things can get a bit nutty with no warning.
2. She’s pregnant that means she’s going to have a baby soon and while I happen to like kids, it means you can’t just randomly decide to go out there’s someone else to consider.
3. If she is pregnant and looking for a date then there will be drama with the baby daddy (yes that’s a generalization but usually it takes a year or 3 to figure out the money and custody issues with any kind of hope of permanence).
4. This is going to sound bad but I’m saying it anyway, unless she is really worth it, I want to raise my kids not his kids.
5. All that aside if she has a kid that is old enough to think of me as a friend and not a father then I’d consider going out on a date with her, but before that time everything is up in the air, and not something I want to deal with at this point in time.
Oh and just a side note everything changes if it’s my kid she’s pregnant with, hasn’t happened yet, and hopefully wont for a while, but if it did I wouldn’t run away. | |
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| why dont men date pregnant women?
Posted: 7/27/2007 2:58:29 PM | Sorry about the double but I like to respond to the OT before reading the board and catiching up.
you guys are all assuming that pregnant women equate "dating" with "serious committed relationship". NEWS FLASH
we arent looking for an "insta-daddy" for our child to be. if we are just getting out of a relationship, we sure as hell dont want another one....
I have dated pregnant women and known a few others that were single, or about to be single. From what I experienced, as soon as they found themselves single they panicked and feared being alone so bad that they went to extremes to try and find a replacement (me in 2 out of 3 cases). One lied about it the other 2 didn’t, but all of them wanted a father figure for their child, and emotional if not financial support. Like someone else said if it was a long term friend that I could see myself being with for life then maybe but to meet someone while she was pregnant and try to start a relationship I wouldn’t do that, just not worth it. | |
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| why dont men date pregnant women?
Posted: 7/27/2007 3:08:32 PM | | Too many potential problems. The jealous ex-boyfriend, the woman who wants a man to 'rescue' her from her situation, not wanting to become an instant father to a child who isn't his, most of the woman's time and energy will be devoted to the baby once he/she is born etc. | |
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| why dont men date pregnant women?
Posted: 7/27/2007 3:27:02 PM | Oh Yin-Yang, you cant be serious right? ok most women who decide to get pregnant using Invitro are not into dating, having a child is their primary focus, so your theory is out the window.
If a woman ( doesn't matter how she got pregnant and Daddy not around) has a baby, I don't think Dating should be on their mind, taking care of the child should be paramount, and for those ladies who think that juggling a baby and a dating will be a piece of cake, NEWS FLASH it ain't as easy as it sounds.
Most men eventually will get tired of being the second fiddle or second on the totem pole, once a baby arrives, the baby needs the mother attention full time, yes it would be nice if they are a couple but what im talking about is single mom's raising child(s)
Serina_Marie, who's being judgmental now? what men are not aloud to voice their concerns about dating a pregnant woman? like i said aren't we a little judgmental ? | |
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Joined: 7/7/2007
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| why dont men date pregnant women?
Posted: 7/27/2007 4:28:58 PM | Because you no longer need his sperm??
Pop that thing out and maybe he'll share his little swimmers again.  | |
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| why dont men date pregnant women?
Posted: 7/27/2007 4:40:46 PM | OP, you mentioned something like "If we choose to be a single parent, most likely we are comfortable with our independence"
Most women who "choose" to be single parents are also the type of women who have a child because they have always wanted to have a child. Because they want to see a little person who looks like them, or because they already have a child and want to complete the set with a little brother/sister. Like a kid is a doll or something, not a human life that deserves to be set up for success from the very beginning.
If we are to believe the posts of many women on here, then most men on dating sites are just pervs looking for a quick thrill. However, if you listen to what the men here have to say (those who maybe are looking for something other than "No strings attached"), many men are here because finding a woman who is free of the typical bullshit is hard enough outside of cyberspace. So why in the world do you think that you'd run into many men on a (normal) dating site who want a woman already pregnant with another man's child?
Single motherhood is the one of the most commendable, difficult, and important jobs on the planet. But "CHOOSING" single motherhood is about as irresponsible a choice as one could make, and most men you will find who would find who would go out of their way to date you when you are pregnant with someone else's child are probably the men you are trying to avoid anyway. Think about this before you get pregnant, instead of throwing a pity party after you get pregnant and wondering why most men won't choose you out of a lineup. | |
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| why dont men date pregnant women?
Posted: 7/27/2007 4:49:40 PM | | Because a pregnant woman should be focusing on the needs of her future child? Is this a serious question? If so, I have seen movies where a guy and a girl hook up when she is pregnant by another man.... Is this a ser..... Ok, come on...whatever the situation may be that has resulted in pregnancy this would be an excellent time for the mother to find some sense of "where abouts" with herself since she will be a reflection to the pending child. And whatever the reason for the PG the truth is that you must learn how to deal with this on your own before someone else is included in the family circle. Why don't men date pregnant women?. Th question should be.."Why am I PG and looking for a man and not for myself?" | |
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| why dont men date pregnant women?
Posted: 7/27/2007 5:05:43 PM | | OP. Please tell me you are not seriously asking this question! But if you are, then how about this answer. THERE IS ANOTHER MALE IN THE PICTURE!! And if there isn't (unless she went to a sperm bank or were raped) then is shows a serious lack of judgement on her behalf. | |
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| why dont men date pregnant women?
Posted: 7/27/2007 5:13:04 PM | I think Algebra1 has made the most sense so far.
And no, I didn't mean the preggo woman stay home all the time and be inactive. I just don't know too many pregnant women willing to be on an active date. Feet sore, active bladder etc etc.
Next topic please....
Why won't a guy date a woman with 15 cats and stuffed animals all over her bed? Hazzah. | |
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| why dont men date pregnant women?
Posted: 7/27/2007 5:21:48 PM | Why doesn't a man date a pregnant woman??? *Re-reads it again to detect the note of sarcasm...nope...not there*
Firstly...she's in a state that's way to fragile to deal with. True she's in a time of need...but hey...she's in that boat either by choice (or not...and if thats the case...then counseling is needed or family and friends to look for guidance, not a date.)
Secondly, if she has infact come out of a bad relationship where a child has come into the picture...I would think latching on to yet another man wouldn't be the wisest of ideas at that point and time.
That's someone else's baby in that oven there, and without any proper explanation or just reason for being that way....men will avoid that pregger gal because they fear they'll become the "fall guy" for her emotional turmoil and end up fathering someone elses kid (that they, the other guy that produced it, failed to stick around to see the process through). | |
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| why dont men date pregnant women?
Posted: 7/27/2007 6:21:30 PM | | Having been pregnant 4 times, I can say with authority that we pregnant women can be a cranky bunch. I wouldn't even have dated me! | |
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| why dont men date pregnant women?
Posted: 7/27/2007 7:34:19 PM | Since men place much more emphasis on the physical it would be more difficult for a woman to attract a man when she is not looking her physical best. Not to mention psychologically you appear to be attached to a man already. The idea of raising another man children is not really the ideal situation we look for.
But attraction is attraction. So if I'm attracted and I think she's bright I won't care that she's pregnant. | |
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