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Mary1K
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| Why do ladies looking for friends ignore married men?
Posted: 4/9/2008 7:05:49 AM | You have a good point I am on this site 2 find Friends and maybe more a ways down the road . You have made my day. You're right a friend is a friend even if they are single or married. And I have friends that are dating . and there significant other comes to me for advice. You know what if you want to talk to me I WOULD HAVE NO PROBLEMS.        | |
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| Why do ladies looking for friends ignore married men?
Posted: 4/9/2008 7:21:24 AM | | op, nonsense to the idea it is appropriate men can be friends with "equal" looking females. Sex is always an issue with the guys, whereas the women generally seek someone to listen to their problems. I applaud the girls who avoid married men. | |
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| Why do ladies looking for friends ignore married men?
Posted: 5/2/2008 7:31:40 PM | When I was married I never needed any other female companion ship, if I needed someone to talk to I talked to my wife. 
Now that I am single; If I was to meet a married woman as a friend, I would also include her husband in that friendship. | |
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| Why do ladies looking for friends ignore married men?
Posted: 5/2/2008 11:16:00 PM | Because most married Men should be all tied up with their one best friend , their wife. If a married guy has time for female friends who aren't his wife...something is up IMO, the time bomb (to an affair occurring) is ticking. For some women it could be they don't want the chance of making a really good friend out of a married guy and then falling in Love with him..then the time bomb starts ticking again..
Both are prudent reasons I think for women to stay away, even if disaster isn't guaranteed it sure is more likely than if they engaged friendships with single guys only. | |
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| Why do ladies looking for friends ignore married men?
Posted: 5/17/2008 11:57:50 PM | I would never overstep proper boundaries or risk coming between a husband and wife. No man or woman in a happy marriage goes trolling the Internet looking for 'friends' of the opposite sex. Far too dangerous a task and I'm sure your wife would be really pissed off if she knew.
If your simply looking for a women's take on things talk to your Mom or sisters. Why have you not fostered platonic friendships with the women you've known all your life? I have plenty of male friends single and married but I'm friends with their girlfriends and wives too. If you value a woman's opinion so much read advice books by women or seek help in an anonymous advice column. This is a DATING site buddy. | |
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| Why do ladies looking for friends ignore married men?
Posted: 5/18/2008 1:40:30 AM | From response #3:
Because most married men are looking for something other than just friendship....I'm not going to be part of an affair...
That pretty much answers the question on this thread! | |
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| Why do ladies looking for friends ignore married men?
Posted: 5/18/2008 1:58:21 AM | | Don't be fooled Mr Right doesn't exsit, its just a way of making money designed by the people who make profits from relationships that are destined to be disfunctional, don't waste your thoughts even if you go to the moon and look down you will not even find one from above. My shit is real and lots of ladies are taking advice, you need to know this shit | |
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| Why do ladies looking for friends ignore married men?
Posted: 5/18/2008 1:59:30 AM | | Don't be fooled Mr Right doesn't exsit, its just a way of making money designed by the people who make profits from relationships that are destined to be disfunctional, don't waste your thoughts even if you go to the moon and look down you will not even find one from above. My shit is real and lots of ladies are taking advice, you need to know this shit | |
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| Why do ladies looking for friends ignore married men?
Posted: 5/18/2008 2:02:08 AM | | Don't be fooled Mr Right doesn't exsit, its just a way of making money designed by the people who make profits from relationships that are destined to be disfunctional, don't waste your thoughts even if you go to the moon and look down you will not even find one from above. My shit is real and lots of ladies are taking advice, you need to know this shit | |
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| Why do ladies looking for friends ignore married men?
Posted: 5/18/2008 4:27:18 AM | As a man, I would have to wonder why a married man or woman is on this site. Yes, this is a social networking site, but it is still primarily a dating site. I am neither naive, nor clueless, and understand where many 'just being friends' can lead. Based on many discussions with single woman who have had married friends, almost all end in heart-break. Yes, you might be one of those genuinely nice and well adjusted guys who can handle being just friends, but how does a single woman know that? So many prefer (rightly so) to just stay away from the married ones. I know I have no interest in becoming friends with a married woman.
Questions we all should ask ourselves...If married, how does your spouse feel about us being on a 'dating site' and looking for friends? Do you give out your home phone and real email address? Do you have your friend over on Sunday for a bar-b-q? If not, why not?
If single, do you really want to walk into a potential domestic train wreck? Dating takes a lot of work and time/money. Friendships require no less. So why do we want to invest this time and money on a potential dead end?
This is not a slam posting, I am just answering the question asked. | |
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| Why do ladies looking for friends ignore married men?
Posted: 5/18/2008 4:28:17 AM | There are plenty of places a married man can go to find "friends" - and I use that term very loosely.
Perhaps an ad on Ad*ultFriendF*inder is more appropriate - since we know it's not 'friends' you're looking for. | |
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| Why do ladies looking for friends ignore married men?
Posted: 5/18/2008 4:58:04 AM | HA!!!! ... 
The OP is no longer even an active user here ... looks like he found a FRIEND and just dropped off of POF.
I have no problem being "friends" with married people. I just don't want to be HIS source for the the times he wants to get his dipstick wet and doesn't want to go to his wife for it.
Cripies, I have lots of men friends and they truly are "just friends". I could care less if they're married or not ... there's nothing going on but a friendship, occasional exchange of words and with those that are not married, we occasionally go out to eat. I wouldn't do anything with a married man but have a conversation and most married men are satisfied with that.
If they are true friends, then the wife wouldn't mind. No need to meet at a restaurant or the library or the movie for those conversations. | |
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| Why do ladies looking for friends ignore married men?
Posted: 5/18/2008 5:15:15 AM | | I prefer not to talk with married men. but im looking for somenoe who can have a relationship other than firend. I'm looking for long term. therefore its a waste of time to talk ot a married man.. for me that is. plus i feel that a married man/or woman should not be in a chat or dating site. | |
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| Why do ladies looking for friends ignore married men?
Posted: 5/18/2008 6:17:36 AM | married doesn't mean dead ! Some marriages weren't made in heaven. A lot of married people out there, are indeed lonlier than someone who lives alone. If they are just looking for someone to befriend them, so what? Probably don't want to waste their money on counselors, and want someone (normal) to chat with. Sure there are a lot of cheaters out there; male and female. But there are also people out there in a situation, that they can't or won't get out of , for various reasons. So in the meantime
wanting to share with another caring person. Remember the old days of "Pen Pals."
Well this is your modern version of it. Some people just want someone else to communicate with; We all need friends:
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| Why do ladies looking for friends ignore married men?
Posted: 5/18/2008 6:54:36 AM | This post reminds me of the M.A.S.H. episode in which Frank Burns asks Hawkeye, "Why do people take an instant disliking to me?".
His response: "Because it saves time."
This statement can apply for the better when the right friend ISO LTR cares to be a friend for me also. Bottomline: You can't have a successful LTR w/o being a good friend in kind also. Married (wo)men on-line? Must be missing something on the home-front. | |
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custis
| | Joined: 3/16/2005
Msg: 148 | |
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| Why do ladies looking for friends ignore married men?
Posted: 5/18/2008 7:14:28 AM | | I think the girls covered this nicely. I have a hard time believing a married man is looking for friends on a dating site. Married men have NO business on this site to start with. The "I'm just here for the forums" is BS unless you were on here for years and met your match, and made a lot of friends along the way. Do these women look like they were born yesterday? Well, some of them do, but that's not the point. | |
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| Why do ladies looking for friends ignore married men?
Posted: 5/18/2008 7:27:12 AM | | Very simple, because they're married and looking to cheat. If you find conversations mundane with your wife rather than cheat focus your energies on her and resolving issues rather than sweep such under the rug and chase other females. Married men who choose to cheat are the ones with issues yet they conveniently choose to use their wives as an excuse for their infidelity. Married men and men in relationships should be focusing on their wives or girlfriends, not other females. You can't find many men to talk to? Sorry I don't buy that at all. It's because you aren't trying to preferring the company of other females. I do ignore married men and always will as cheating is the ultimate sin in my book and I definitely do not condone such negative behaviour. | |
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