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Posted: 3/4/2008 8:44:53 AM | ^^^^"Okay okay, I forgot living off divorce settlement/child support."
Or, maybe widowed and left 2 million in a life insurance policy.
Or, maybe started and built their own successful business and retired at age 37.
Or maybe, or maybe, or maybe....
Again, profession left blank DOES NOT = UNEMPLOYED. But if you want to believe it does, that is entirely up to you.
But you will discount them solely based on your criteria which is all well and good. Just leaves more decent folks for the rest of us who aren't narrowminded or judgemental to meet and maybe connect with. 
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Posted: 3/4/2008 8:58:26 AM |
If you met someone in person or was introduced by a mutual friend (IRL) and wasn't aware of their occupation, would you still go out with them? Depends on the attraction or how they were portrayed/introduced, correct?
When I meet someone in person it often is a question ask... so what do you do for a living? I like to find out for many reasons. It tells me their schedule and hours they keep, it shows me if they have any ambition and is also often an indicator of what type of personality they have and what lifestyle they like to live. It also gives us something to talk about in many cases.
I'm not judging anyone for what they do for a living, but I am judging them for how they may or may not fit into my life and lifestyle choices. Someone that works nights at a grocery store is not a good fit for me because my downtime from work is from 4-10pm and I like to be able to travel on the weekends if the mood should strike me. I like my work hours of 7a-4pm M-F and have zero intention of ever changing them.
If you can't list what you do for a living in your profile then I'm inclined to think you're either embarrassed or hiding something. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2008 9:08:18 AM | I leave mine blank because I'm already intimidating enough. No need to make it worse by listing what I do for a living.
So when does the little icon of an easter bunny tossing an egg up in the air come out? LOL. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2008 9:08:39 AM | It could mean a lot of things. A blank profession isn't necessarily a negative indicator, IMO. You could always ask. Not everyone's willing to lay out information for everyone on the Internet to see. Having had one guy use deductive reasoning and Google to find my work e-mail address, I can understand erring on the side of caution. (Luckily, it seemed this particular guy was just overeager and not bent on stalking me.)
Sometimes if you take a chance and give the other person the benefit of the doubt, you might be pleasantly surprised. (Ok, I know sometimes you can be UNpleasantly surprised, but still...) | |
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Posted: 3/4/2008 9:12:00 AM | | edit: I was going to share something personal but I changed my mind. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2008 9:17:38 AM | ^^^^"If you can't list what you do for a living in your profile then I'm inclined to think you're either embarrassed or hiding something."
And you are entirely entitled to YOUR opinion. Doesn't mean everyone needs to prescribe to that. But the thing you mentioned I find odd, is that if a profession isn't mentioned, you automatically presume the worst. For you, the person's schedule seems to be the driving force, not the occupation itself. So if someone had "policeman" listed, you would automatically not be interested in them because of the fact that some policemen work night shift? Even though there are policemen that work day shift and may fit your schedule. WHY wouldn't you talk to the person about it first rather than painting them with a broad brush and automatically discounting them, is my point. But if that's how you do it, fine. That's what works for you.
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Posted: 3/4/2008 9:19:58 AM |
So if someone had "policeman" listed, you would automatically not be interested in them because of the fact that some policemen work night shift?
No...not for that reason, but at least they PUT something there. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2008 9:28:06 AM |
No...not for that reason, but at least they PUT something there.
I wouldn't put too much importance on some letters typed into a field. People do lie on the Internet. But it's up to you which criteria you use, and whether they're exclusionary or inclusionary. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2008 9:35:07 AM | | imo because it isn't any of ur business and should have no bearing on whether u chat with someone. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2008 9:36:52 AM |
So if someone had "policeman" listed, you would automatically not be interested in them because of the fact that some policemen work night shift?
If they did not have a very impressive profile or email to me to go with that occupation then yes, I would probably pass over them. If I found them interesting enough I would probably ask them more about their schedule.
I won't pass over someone that left it blank but I am definitely less inclined to respond to them if they don't have an amazing profile (from my point of view not everyone elses) to counter it. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2008 9:44:30 AM |
I wouldn't put too much importance on some letters typed into a field
Okay, then how bout leaving out marital status as well? | |
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Posted: 3/4/2008 10:16:54 AM | ^^^^"Okay, then how bout leaving out marital status as well?"
Exactly my point. Just as many put in their profile, "sorry, no picture = no response", if it is that important to some, they should put in their profile, "sorry, no occupation listed, no response," or, "no marital status listed, no response." Because just as the ones who don't see a picture automatically think the person is ugly, the ones that don't see an occupation listed think the person is unemployed or in some way being deceitful. My point is, these conclusions are being drawn without any substantiating evidence. The person who doesn't have a profile with a picture showing, may be beautiful or handsome just as the person who doesn't list an occupation may still be employed and self-supporting. My choice is to communicate with them to learn who and what they are rather than going on gut feelings, hunches, or unsubstantiated conjecture as others prefer to do.
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Posted: 3/4/2008 10:28:21 AM | I don't list salary or profession because I don't want to attract gold diggers or woman who like to spend other peoples money. I make enough to have a nice home and a nice car. I'm not interested in a woman who wants to drive a BMW and spend all day at the beauty shop or mall.
I thought women wanted to be respected and loved, don't see any profiles saying that you must provide a maid and multimillion dollar home and car!
Not that I am a Dr or Attorney but what kind of shallow woman would that attract. It would be like putting nimpho on a womans profile!
Are we having fun yet! | |
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Posted: 3/4/2008 10:33:16 AM | | Novel concept here... but you could at least post the industry or type of job you work, no one said you have to post your title. :) | |
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Posted: 3/4/2008 10:36:31 AM | | Not everyone has a career. Some people are LAZY BONES JONES for a living! | |
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Posted: 3/4/2008 10:46:15 AM | ^^^^"Some people are LAZY BONES JONES for a living!"
fancynanci, let me know if you've got the secret to being that....I am soooo ready to just stay home and enjoy discussing POF forum topics on a routine basis. Could set my own hours, take a long lunch and be on the path to enlightenment.   | |
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Posted: 3/4/2008 10:46:34 AM | mine says 'I work and pay taxes', that says I'm a regular gal who works hard for a living, that's it.
I can understand people who don't want to put anything, to ward off gold diggers, even mentioning the industry is a big lead for those people. I am not rich but manage myself well. Anyway, he can read the postings if he's interested to know more than my profile.
the profession is not that important to me, other than indicating whether he can manage himself properly, so long that he's wise with money, knows his priorities ... basically his personality. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2008 11:00:13 AM |
Okay, then how bout leaving out marital status as well?
I said I wouldn't put too much importance on some letters typed into a field. Meaning, anyone can put anything they want in the fields. Doesn't mean it's true. You see one profile that doesn't specify marital status. Another says "single". Do you have enough information to tell if either is a married man looking for some on the side? No.
To explain further, it's not always good to assume that "anything beats a blank". To use another cliche, don't believe everything you read. Because again, just because the data is there doesn't mean it's accurate. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2008 11:06:48 AM | | I leave mine blank because i don't get paid for what i do.. but it does kinda say that later on in my profile so meh.. maybe they have a complicated job or one thats hard to explain | |
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Posted: 3/4/2008 11:08:18 AM | | Mine is blank because, why the hell does it matter? As long as I'm not whoring myself out or out drug dealing, I don't see why it matters. Unless someone has a job that I have issues with, it really doesn't matter. It's not going to make a difference if someone is a cashier at Walmart or a lawyer. As long as they're being responsible, it shouldn't really matter. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2008 11:17:16 AM | | I have a reason to leave profession blank. I would share this info in a PM or 1st meeting. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2008 5:29:17 AM | i put mine it just a job... the is when I get home , while not yet still looking to add some spice in my life   | |
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Posted: 3/5/2008 6:28:45 AM | Maybe they are hottie pole dancers or Victoria Secrets models,lol! | |
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