| why do alot of the guys at this site have a problem with dogs?
Posted: 8/3/2007 1:48:10 PM | We have millions of starving children because people that cannot take care of them breed recklessly and irresponsibly.
I did not anticipate what an expense my dog would be, but I am taking care of him. Guess why I only have one dog? Because I cannot afford to feed another mouth.
He was neutered so he will not be adding to the population in the animal shelters.
If people did not breed so many children that they cannot take care of, would there be so many starving children? Um, no. | |
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| why do alot of the guys at this site have a problem with dogs?
Posted: 8/3/2007 2:00:57 PM | | I can't see how me having my huskies would matter to a guy to date me. They live in outside kennels and I play with them outside or walk them and always wash after contact. No face licking is allowed ! There's having a dog and there's a dog having YOU... some don't know the distinction. Oh well... NEXT!!! | |
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| why do alot of the guys at this site have a problem with dogs?
Posted: 8/3/2007 3:16:20 PM | hi miss claudia
I think the question really is 'why do a lot of guys at this site have a problem with my attachment to my dog"
personally, i do not dislike dogs, i have had several...they are gone now....and they were all good dogs. Well, except for the gigantic male Irish Setter...he was just a ****in' nut job. haha.
I did a little research on here...and I think what turns guys off is this:
If you want to see me ...you MUST like my little Scooter...or whatever...You MUST accept him and walk with him..He is a big part of me, so you MUST love him as i do.....if you want to be near me.
You MUST?????
Why?
see, you haven't even met a potential yet, and you're telling him what he MUST do.
Most real men would probably run like hell from that one...I mean, it's sophomoric and boring....and, a wee bit sad, sorry to say.
I don't want to slide into the plate at number 5..you know, after your dog and children.
why bother.
Good luck at the Dog Park
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| why do alot of the guys at this site have a problem with dogs?
Posted: 8/3/2007 3:33:46 PM | Akimmbo,
I am going to respectfully have to disagree with you, here.
If you are playing cards, don't you like knowing what cards are in the deck?
What is the point in pursuing a relationship with a man that doesn't like my dog, because we are a package deal? I am not going to get rid of my dog for any man, so I hope you like him. If you do not, you are out of the picture and not him, so what is wrong with getting things straight up front?
What is the point of pursuing a relationship with me that has a very spoiled dog unless you are just looking to get laid, and then just look somewhere else?
Honesty up front just makes sense to me. | |
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| why do alot of the guys at this site have a problem with dogs?
Posted: 8/3/2007 3:47:57 PM | nocturnal P
Sometimes, on these forums, we are all trying to add our thoughts on 'blanket ' statements.
like, why do guys have problem with dogs?
or...'all men are the same'
I don't disagree with your retort...
there is no point in you pursuing a relationship with a man who doesn't like your dog and would want you to get rid of it.
and, I am sure there may be someone who would like you and might even like the dog too.
As i stated, i researched....i read 5 profiles of women with dogs who basically were already telling the potential date that he is in line behind the freaking dog.
it just comes off as snappish and rude.
perhaps if it were presented as more lighthearted, or funny. then, it wouldn't have struck me so hard.
Personally, I just have a problem ...why, with all of the worlds needy and poor that are treated as less than a dog...taking a backseat to an animal.
I am sure you wouldn't walk by a homeless person or child, and tell your doggie not to look, would you? You would offer some kind words and assistance, right?
Skewed values, I will never understand.
respect
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| why do alot of the guys at this site have a problem with dogs?
Posted: 8/3/2007 3:54:15 PM | meowmix wrote:"my male room mate of 14 years feels the same way i do. maybe that is why we have never argued, have fun with our dog. he is just a room mate, will never be anything more. yet, we are happy, with the love of our dog. sad, for you, you can only love one. i , or we, can love both. you are missing out. so sad."
Why don't you marry your roommate?In most countries 14 years is considered common law.
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| why do alot of the guys at this site have a problem with dogs?
Posted: 8/3/2007 3:55:14 PM | MSG 105's got it right.
Makes spontaniety tough. She's gotta find a dog sitter or you have to find things to do that are pet friendly. Great.
I'm sorry I can see you kids coming first, but I am not standing in line behind your pooch. | |
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| why do alot of the guys at this site have a problem with dogs?
Posted: 8/3/2007 4:10:36 PM | Akimmbo,
I accept the Olive Branch and extend one back to you..
I made a conscious choice to not breed, and then I rescued a dog. I take very, very good care of him. Perhaps he is a subsitute for a child, but I made a choice to not breed.
Why are there so many needy and poor, when maybe the real answer is for them to stop breeding until they can take care of themselves? These people chose to procreate, so why shouldn't their children be their financial responsibilities?
We are getting hugely off topic here, because this is about dogs and not children. Whoops! | |
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| why do alot of the guys at this site have a problem with dogs?
Posted: 8/3/2007 4:35:28 PM | Msg 105 does pretty much close the book on this topic about women OR men with attachments to animals---ANY animal. Miss Claudia if you read a few profiles you'll see this "MUST love my dog/cat/snake/whatever........." which is the turnoff. The guy who only noticed this about your profile is probably the exception in not being observant about something he feels is a deal breaker.
When we make a choice like being in love with an animal to the degree it's called your best friend, more reliable than any other person you've ever known, the one you prefer company over humans or go to such extraordinary lengths as home cooked meals and daycare well---------that suggests such a pet is merely a child or significant other substitute. Women complain constantly guys "love" sports or their cars almost to this same degree and somehow thats unnatural or "wrong". No one likes knowing they'd be at best second in line to the affections and loyalty of a boyfriend/girlfriend which is exactly what this "I LOVE my pet---you MUST also........" suggests.
It only takes reading a few replies here to see how emotionally divided this is and there's no real cure or fix for it other than realizing and accepting to SOME people a choice like this won't set well. Not "all men" are like this and some will share your devotion to being a pets substitute parent-----it's best you find one another or learn to take solace with your pet as company. | |
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| why do alot of the guys at this site have a problem with dogs?
Posted: 8/3/2007 6:31:53 PM | i have the best dog in the world. every body loves him. he has a personality of his own.
he's not a barker. he listens, and is just a joy to have around.
even my mother who hates pets in her house, likes my dog & watchs him when i go out of town
i can tell a lot about a person by the way they act with my dog.
if they are mean or nasty to my dog, they are usually mean & nasty to people. | |
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Posted: 8/3/2007 6:38:13 PM | If ya don't like my dog you probably won't like me, tho I do slobber a tad less most of the time! I've somehow managed to stop humping legs for the most part too...oh and Im house trained, I put the toilet seat up & down! YMMV  | |
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| why do alot of the guys at this site have a problem with dogs?
Posted: 8/3/2007 9:40:56 PM | I guess I can also join the ranks of those with dogs in their life who I am not willing to give up for a man. I put the photo of one of my dogs in my profile not because the dog is on a pedestal but because showing dogs is an important part of my life. If someone dislikes dogs or hates dog hair then if they look at my photos they should realize we are incompatible.
That said my dogs are a hobby...I do love my dogs and I also respect them. What I feel for them though doesnt come close to what I feel for my children or and as much as I hate to say this what I felt for my ex during the good times of our marriage. I would sacrifice my dogs if I thought it would heal a child and not just my child but any child. As to needy children and those who say we shouldnt treat dogs better than kids, I have adopted a child from those circumstances...have you? My children and dogs are both well behaved.
At one time I dated a man with severe allergies to dogs. While we dated we hung out at his house or went out. We dated because we enjoyed each others company not because we thought it was going to be long term. I made sure that I showered and put on clean clothing just before going to see him and after I had crated my samoyeds. The one time I forgot was because I had hugged a friends dog on the way over and the poor guy got hives. He of course got several home cooked meals outta that guilt. | |
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| why do alot of the guys at this site have a problem with dogs?
Posted: 8/4/2007 1:01:22 AM | The way I see it the more of you guys who won't date women with dogs leaves more for me to meet. See ya wouldn't want to be you and don't let the door hit ya on the way out.
I've been a kennel owner for a while now. The dogs are still here not the women that told me it was them or the dogs when they new it was a package deal. I can live with that and still be happy though. I won't lie. I have been disappointed a few times when I really liked someone. Having one dog sounds aweful good to me to.
I just don't kiss anyone and I don't just let any dog lick me either.
Guys just say this when asked and you'll be alright.
I'm a man- I can change- If I have to- I guess.
Anyone know what show that saying comes from? | |
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Joined: 10/14/2006
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| why do alot of the guys at this site have a problem with dogs?
Posted: 8/4/2007 1:14:29 AM | OP,
It is a preferance, just like other things such as not wanting someone who smokes for instance. If they do not like dogs so be it. At least he told you right up front before meeting and wasting time.
Myself i love dogs and have one. He is my bud. | |
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| why do alot of the guys at this site have a problem with dogs?
Posted: 8/4/2007 1:38:41 AM | I like dogs. The bigger, the better. I am fascinated also with wolves, and was very fortunate to spend some time with them.
I used to have two big Bouviers, and they were great buddies - at home, accompanying me on cross-country ski trips, hikes, swimming outings. They liked especially boating - in a power boat or canoe, but I recall that carrying two hundreds lively pounds in a canoe got sometimes dangerous.
I think many dog owners (men and women) are affectionate, considerate and responsible people.
However, women who kiss the dogs, sleep with them in their bed, or are under the illusion that the dogs like and understand baby talk - they are a turnoff. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2007 12:38:14 PM | Silver Sharpie,
I fully understand that not everyone is a dog person. So if a person is up front about being a dog person you are obviously not compable.
Your second comment confirms that you are not a dog person, so why would you seek one out for a companion anyway.
Thirdly, doesn't like your breed of dog sounds like of a form of "racism," if you ask me (which you didn't). Every fence is going to have some garbage to throw out, but on a very higher level, if you are judging on breed alone, I sense a problem with your innate nature.
If you do not like dogs in general, then do not try to date a dog person, because you clearly have a different value system, and there is nothing wrong with that, it merely means that you are incompatible.
Judging anybody on their "breed" alone, person or animal, sends up a huge red flag for me. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2007 1:22:35 PM | I hope to find someone who doesn't have hang ups against dogs, cats or any animals really because I know he's out the door if he has bad vibes about horses. Animals have always been a part of my life; no way I'm going to stop that just because someone doesn't like this animal or that one. Since every pet owner is different, you can not, IMO, base the whole group on the few experiences you have. But since ppl do that anyway, I hope to avoid them by mentioning I have pet friends.
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| why do alot of the guys at this site have a problem with dogs?
Posted: 8/4/2007 2:35:42 PM | The few of the poor dog owners ruin it for the rest of us who are responsible dog/pet owners.
My dogs are trained, kept clean, in control, go in their crates if they can not behave. They are not replacements for children. I have kids and do not want can not have more. I wash my hands on a regular basis, humans in fact can give more germs to dogs than dogs can pass to humans. I do not treat the dogs like children, I do talk to them but not with the baby poo poo talk.
People need to look at the individual dog and owner rather than saying all large dogs are bad, or all dogs stink etc.....
I seems to me like the women you have been in contact with are NOT responsible pet owners, or you have jumped to conclusions about everyone who owns a dog. | |
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| why do alot of the guys at this site have a problem with dogs?
Posted: 8/4/2007 2:51:37 PM | I find a lot of men have dogs and pictures of dogs on here.
I have known men with dogs who are tied more to their dogs than some are with kids. They have to leave early or can't stay over because they have to go let their dogs out, feed them etc. Can't leave for a weekend because of the dogs. At least with kids, if they are with your ex..... you don't have to run home to let them out or feed them.
So I guess it depends on how independent the dogs are. So I can see how animals can affect a dating relationship. It all depends on the owner's situation.
Me personally, I don't have dogs or cats. I have enough to take care of with kids, house etc. I just don't want the extra responsibility, not that I don't like them. Some reason, they all like me more. Whenever I go to a friend's or relative's house, their animals are all over me the minute I walk in.
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| why do alot of the guys at this site have a problem with dogs?
Posted: 8/4/2007 3:08:16 PM | Like anything else, having a pet is a preference, if you see a profile of someone with a pet and you are of the mind that having a pet could encumber the potential growth of a relationship with someone then move on. I have read this entire thread and some posters have put pet owners into two camps. Either they are "child replacements" or they are 'beasts left to run wild." I can only speak for myself, in my case my dog and my cat are very good pets. They are clean, well cared for, yes a tad spoiled but most importantly, I love them dearly and the only way I would ever give them up is if I could no longer care for them appropriately, as in, being on my death bed.
That being said, if you don't like animals, then don't date people who do. But there is no need to judge or name call people who choose to have a pet(s) in their lives. It has been medically proven that people who have pets have lower blood pressure, it also shows and ability and willingness to love another living thing, not to mention shows you are able to make a committment.
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Posted: 8/5/2007 3:35:35 PM | I know a married couple that are completely at odds about how to raise their dog. She wants to baby her, and he says the dog is just an animal. Somehow, they are making their relationship work.
I jokingly told my best male friend that I would Will him my dog, with a stipend and conditions to maintain his lifestyle. He told me that I had best stay alive, because he doesn't want me haunting him and there is no way he will live up to the terms and conditions.
He is very spoiled. He gets amino acids and flaxseed oil and cuddles every day. I know it sounds obnoxious, but I normally share my meals with him. My vet says that my dog is fantastically healthy.
I choose to spend my disposeable income on taking good care of my dog. He is not a child substitute, but he is a constant companion, and he doubles as a home security system
I accepted responsibilty for him when I adopted him.
Please do not judge me for taking good care of my dog. If he is eating better than the children around the corner, then consult them and not me. There were fourteen people living in a 2BR duplex, and this is my fault how? Oh, yes, because I take good care of my dog when I could be giving that money to them. Silly me! The starving children argument waxes thin with me, though they are the victims, because birth control is very accessible.
Yes, I have a dog, and he is treated very well. He is a C*ck Blocker and a Momma's Boy.
If you are not a dog person, then don't even pursue a woman with a dog, because the dog will win every tiime! | |
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