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Posted: 5/20/2008 4:15:43 AM | | I always thought I knew what I wanted...to be rid of this lonliness, and I'm easygoing, so I thought it wouldn't be hard. I've met every kind of superb kinda' guy you can meet here. Had a year long love affair with an incredible superman of a sensible guy, but He lived 3 hrs. away, and I can't move my girls that far away from their beloved Daddy, and his career is firmly rooted where he lives. I do think he was the love of my life, and so since then I've just given up I think....I just feel like I don't have the heart to try anymore. I hate getting the feeling that someone might be interested and then they don't seem interested...you invest and they're gone...you begin to get that excited feeling and then your hopes are dashed, when that happens too many times the excited feeling just starts to turn to fear and self doubt. I guess the bottom line is, I don't know what I want anymore, maybe being alone would be OK. I'm a pretty tough cookie, but this really is wearing me down. I really don't like the idea of being alone, but I'm also starting to lose hope. Sorry I couldn't be more positive...just one of those days maybe! | |
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Posted: 5/20/2008 4:50:37 AM | Hi,I couldn't agree more with you,but all people don't feel that way.Some have a real need in their lives to be with someone else,and although ,I would always suggest to a person that has just come out of a relationship to have some time on their own,some people can't do it.
I've two marriages behind me and have been on my own for six years,and although I love the freedom I get from having no responsibility for anyone else,but every now and again ,I get the itch to be with someone again,which usually fades quite quickly.
The real plus ,in being satisfied with your own company,is that if you do fall for someone,you know right away that it is for all the right reasons. | |
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Posted: 5/20/2008 5:06:28 AM | My ex-wife was bi-polar. My ex-girlfriend of 2 years (following my divorce) had been in abusive relationships all her life and could not be affectionate or sexual. And I had to live in the shadow of every man who had ever hurt her.
All I'm looking for is someone who's normal. | |
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Posted: 5/20/2008 5:19:31 AM | I'm not really looking for anything ,
but if i find something nice,
then I'll try and keep it safe  | |
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Joined: 12/13/2007
Msg: 80 | |
| What are you looking for?
Posted: 5/20/2008 10:44:21 AM | I gave this a lot of thought over the years.
I can sum it up into a easy line in fact now.
Now, I will probably upset a lot of people, but this is how it is... Now when I say "all girls", I do not mean all girls under the sun, I mean all girls ive come into contact with, so as far as it goes for me , its "all girls", so I hope "all girls" will not start sending me hate mail!
Heres a hint here..... Taken off real POF profiles!
good honest gal seeks the perfect man
Looking for a genuine man
Looking for Mr Right
no one nightstands thankz
looking for that genuine someone
looking for a genuine loyal man
Looking to meet a genuine guy
Looking for Handsome Genuine Man
Stimulating conversation PLEASE!
lookin 4 genuine man
weirdo's/stalkers need not apply....
looking for genuine guy
sick of being messed about
Looking for an honest man!!!
Looking for good hearted man!!!!
looking 4 a kind and honest man
Something original!
looking for a decent bloke
loking for honest, genuine man
where have all the good guy's gone.
looking for some thing new
where have all the decent men gone?
Looking for something as unique as I am!
Anyone out there that doesn't play mind games
looking for a nice REAL man
Now, I actually emailed all those girls, and nobody replied. I class myself as a "nice guy".. ok there I said it, so now comes the part where the girls start slating me again ? No doubt rushing off to pick fault in my profile ? Well I changed it so don't don't bother!
Now we are making progress, you see the problem right there, the girls will slate me at this point why ? cos I am a "nice guy" , or maybe too picky ? or just love to flame guys and pick fault ? I don't know, expected to happen anyway!
Its a long story, so I will get to the point as I am sure your all bored already right ?
There has been girls I see on POF over and over, go from guy to guy getting hurt, over and over and over.. I send them a email, ask something of interest about their profile.. what do "all" these girls do ? delete the email without even looking at my profile. So right from the start girls do not give guys a chance. But this is an old topic on POF!
Trust me when I say I have asked a LOT of girls questions, posted comments, I tried everything and almost never do they reply. and they never look at my profile even. Though yet they still go from guy to guy getting hurt and never seem to think "well I will say hi to him just for the hell of it" kinda thing.. it goes on...
So what I am looking for ? Its really simple, none of the above!
What I mean to say is, relationship are two people working though differences, working though life together, solving problems together, living the good and bad together, and to be honest , if I said something and it put them off, fair enough, I get deleted, though I never do that, girls react far to fast on the kill button. Even though it gets soo annoying, these are the girls I really do not want to know! and so far its "ALL GIRLS". Maybe a small misunderstanding ? Do you ask and make sure you got the facts right or just delete ?
I said I was a "nice guy", and had girls slate me for being a moaning wuss, if it gives your life meaning to slate me then go ahead ive heard it all before. Just another girl filtered out.
I doubt anyone sees my point still ?. ..
The girl I am looking for will not be lazy, that really is pretty much it. really simple!
I can talk to a girl for months, one day she will go off in a rant cos shes had a bad day at work, I try to help as much as I can.. everything goes on... a few weeks latter I will have a bad day, she runs a mile and no longer talks cos she is lazy. These are the girls I do not want to know. Its good they prove to me by deleting my emails that they are lazy.
If your "other half" is having problems u dont just walk away, you help.. unfortunatly, all girls so far are lazy. In fact I was talking to a girl off here just the other day. I knew she took offence to something and never spoke to me again.. fair enough, I am glad shes gone cos I really dont want to talk to people like that.
really why should girls put any effort in ? plenty more guys to keep on talking to, I really do think, and know guys and girls who said exactly the same thing too, that girls not not put any effort in, why should they, just go onto the next guy.. and the next... and so on... these kind of girls I don't want to know.
I think we are adult enough to ask simple things like "what do you mean exactly", or "I don't understand fully".. but very few do ? delete.. delete.. delete.. oh ive been hurt again.. delete delete.... then they wonder why they can never meet a "nice guy" ?
Girls run at the first HINT of a problem, I really do not blame the girls, they get so many guys who are idiots, but you can't just go from guy to guy pressing the delete key either... I get tempted so much to do that with girls myself! I give everyone a chance. Though so far I really wish I didn't bother. Though we carry on.. at least for a while...
I could pretty much sum a girl up in the first few lines they say ive been on these sites that long. I have got soo good at it, that I should be hitting the del key over and over, ive not been proven wrong yet, and all the girls ive talked have turned out to be idiots so far.. actually the girls which dont talk are idiots too.
Being polite seems to have gone out the of the window too... Credit due here, that I think 2 girls replied back saying thanks for the email but they found someone. Or thanks for the email but ....... and give a very valid reason why they don't want to "hook up".. thats fine! These are the kind of girls I like! Polite and honest!
For me, 2 people are not going to get on 100% of the time, at some point there will be "fall outs" and if you can't even get past the first email then all these girls I do not want to know. It is pretty simple really.
I even had people on this form say to me "maybe they didnt reply cos they didnt like you" well, durrrr. they never even looked at my profile or even was polite enough to say hello back, So when people on this forum say things like that it really winds me up.
I hope people will understand where I am comming from. There will be a lot who will take offence, well thats your problem as I intended it to be a thought out reply to the questions which was asked.
What I am looking for is not a "lazy" girl! Cos if you think about it, if you can't get past email/date number 1 what chance do you stand with a life time together ? I maybe a old moaning wuss, but not my fault girls made me this way ? Not my fault guys made girls the way they are either ? THINK about that line VERY carefully!!
Its like girls expect to live happy ever after and live 100% happy.. well not saying it won't happen, but what happens when you do finally "come to blows" over something as it will happen at some point.
For me, I am glad girls delete my emails from the start, as for me they are not worth knowing. I hope you can all see my reasoning. Its not always like this, but its the common 99% for sure.
This was not intended as a "dig" towards girls, I am just stating what I have experienced so far. Its all factual so please don't start flame wars. The girls annoy the guys as much as the guys annoy the girls. So I am not taking "sides" here!
Some girls may actually see this "Rant" as something constructive! I really hope you do. If you can understand all this, then you are one up on most other girls, maybe even a girl I would even like to get to know!
Some girls may flame or get my post deleted, its happend before, and it just proves my point really. Its easier to walk away than to DEAL with problems! ... | |
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Joined: 12/13/2007
Msg: 82 | |
| What are you looking for?
Posted: 5/20/2008 11:10:19 AM | | mee too, sexy curvy blonde girl, big in the right places, lots of cash, own house, own car, very caring honest, loyal, like sci-fi.... sure I want that, but oh well! | |
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| What are you looking for?
Posted: 9/11/2008 12:49:13 AM | | I am looking for someone who will accept me for me as I will accept him for the way he is. A friend, companion and possibly more. Do I need someone? No. I want to share my life with someone. | |
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| What are you looking for?
Posted: 9/11/2008 1:58:40 AM | My keys,,, where did I put those darn things?? I knew I should of bought that keychain clapper thingamajig!!! 
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| What are you looking for?
Posted: 9/11/2008 7:19:33 PM | Answer to you question ......
I dont know , but I know it when it/he finds me ... until then I will enjoy life
and be happy .. I dont need someone in my life , I wanted somebody in my life ....
but I am quite capable to handle life on my own ...,
but then again ,mmmmmm im not looking in the first place . im not sure if I was looking I did not loose anything , but somebody found me , so maby I was lost ????
oh heck , I wish I would have had a map , I would not have been lost ......
its that damn thing thats called life I guess | |
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| What are you looking for?
Posted: 9/11/2008 9:13:30 PM |
How do you even answer this question?
My answer is nothing because I havent "lost" anything.
Hate that question....I too say nothing  | |
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| What are you looking for?
Posted: 9/11/2008 9:36:13 PM | Am I looking for something?
Oh, you mean as in why am I here?
Someone to share and laugh with, I guess.
Someone I can care about and go to the botanical gardens with?
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Posted: 9/11/2008 9:54:22 PM | I lost my mind when my 4 daughters became teenagers and I havent seen it sense ... I called 911 but they said they dont look for things that are nonexistent ... lol ... (I did not say that)
AnglFlyn
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| What are you looking for?
Posted: 9/12/2008 8:42:07 AM | meaningful conversations,occasionally sprinkled with well- being and joy.... | |
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