| guys rules about phoning
Posted: 9/13/2007 8:45:07 AM | Hey, there are daytime dates too!
I've had the late call too, just to see if I got home alright. In those cases they were aware that the other member of my household wasn't there, LOL
As for being too busy to call, that's totally understandable. I took this thread as being about specifically waiting to call, so as not to appear too eager. Just saying, if you're interested....Don't delay and don't play games....speak from your heart. | |
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| guys rules about phoning
Posted: 9/13/2007 12:38:51 PM | | I had a guy call me the same night after I got home from meeting him...He said he loved the evening and wanted to do it again soo...and to make sure I got home okay...That, to me, is a gentleman. Nothing clingy or needy about it!!! | |
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| guys rules about phoning
Posted: 9/13/2007 1:03:49 PM | Hahaha, ok ok, its not funny that you think that, what is funny is that youll never be able to get all the women to agree to one common rule, so where that might be the thing that makes them think "Wow what a gentleman, he genuinly cared" it could so easiely be, "Holy crap, i just left 20 minutes ago, what kind of a creepy guy...."
See why not knowing how to use a phone is good 
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| guys rules about phoning
Posted: 9/13/2007 1:32:59 PM | it is true for that merry bunch of men
not for all of them
I think you should phone as often as your partner or SO needs you to call.
it is only polite to return phone calls and texts | |
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| guys rules about phoning
Posted: 9/14/2007 2:33:57 AM | | A lot of people I know, plus myself, follow the 3 day rule. Keeps you from looking to over interested, and keeps them on their toes. | |
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| guys rules about phoning
Posted: 9/14/2007 4:05:42 AM | | The whole three days thing sounds manipulative. If you're interested, you're interested. Why behave like a kid? If you want to see her again let her know. | |
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| guys rules about phoning
Posted: 9/14/2007 8:01:36 AM | ^^^^^
If you are up at 4:00 a.m., I would imagine those three days would seem like a week!!
We need to have a talk about training the dog to go out when YOU want to, not when he wants to, oh, and carry your cell, with th ehouse phone forwarded, just incase someone calls.
If the interest is there, there should have been a date and time set for next contact, leave the phone out as much as possible, face to face is always better. If encounters go well, set something up for within the next few days, and only phone if you will be late or unable to meet! | |
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| guys rules about phoning
Posted: 9/14/2007 10:11:47 AM | I like it when a guy calls.... the sooner the better.
Then I know he's interested, and serious about going out again.
If he calls to let me know otherwise, its less time wasted in finding that special someone
Shows maturity too if you ask me. | |
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| guys rules about phoning
Posted: 9/14/2007 2:11:28 PM |
If the interest is there, there should have been a date and time set for next contact, leave the phone out as much as possible,
Ideally, it would be best to set something up for another date on the first, but many people consider that a faux pas. It's too uncomfortable if one of the two isn't interested.
I think the best way is to e-mail after, to get an indication of interest and then a phone call if you have the number. There's something so much sweeter about a phone call than an e-mail. In this day of internet....e-mails & IMs....I hope the phone call doesn't become obsolete! | |
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Posted: 9/14/2007 8:54:07 PM |
The whole three days thing sounds manipulative. If you're interested, you're interested. Why behave like a kid? If you want to see her again let her know.
I agree with this statement. It sounds like teenager behaviour to have a time frame rule.
Ideally, it would be best to set something up for another date on the first, but many people consider that a faux pas. It's too uncomfortable if one of the two isn't interested.
I think setting up the next meeting at the end of the date is an interesting concept. If one of the two is not interested, then they can always say right then and there that they didn't feel the connection so then time is not wasted on wondering if they will call.
I think the best way is to e-mail after, to get an indication of interest and then a phone call if you have the number. There's something so much sweeter about a phone call than an e-mail. In this day of internet....e-mails & IMs....I hope the phone call doesn't become obsolete!
After my last first date I sent an email thanking the person for the date and letting them know I am interested. Had I not been interested, I still would have sent the email thanking them but I would have let him know I didn't feel a connection.
Yes a phone call is nice too, but some people get frightened off if you call because you look too eager. However, if both parties are interested I would think that either method would make them flattered.
Of course my opinion doesn't much matter here as I've accepted a total of one date offer in the last few months so I'm kind of inexperienced on what is the best way to go.  | |
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| guys rules about phoning
Posted: 9/14/2007 11:01:47 PM | | Cherie in your profile you ask people to be upfront with you if there is any chemistry or not , I am sorry for calling an e-mail dumping heartless, but e-mailing or text messaging someone to dump them is without morals. I would tell the person at the end of the date or at least the next day on the phone. It is only being polite and honest. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2007 11:29:17 PM |
Dumping someone by e-mail, how heartless.
I don't think "dumping" applies to a first date. To me the term dumping is applied if one is in a relationship and one date does not mean you are in a relationship.
If I am unsure how I think then I'm not going to decide right then and there, I prefer to step away and think about the evening, thus sending the email saying thanks but no thanks after I've had a chance to think it over.
If we met on a dating site, then after one date, I'm not obligated to call them or go on a second date to tell them I'm not interested but I don't like to leave anyone wondering either.
At the end of the first date you know if the chemistry is potentially there or not; if you would like a second date say so, what is so hard about saying "I had a wonderful time and I would really like to see you again" and take it from there.
Yes, I do this as well. But even after I verbally say that I would like to see the person again, I still send an email as well. The email is more for the thank you for the date than to tell the person I'm interested but my interest is also mentioned in some way in the email. (At least it has been in the rare times this has happened.)
If there is no chemistry at all it will be obvious and warrants being told at the end of the date. | |
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| guys rules about phoning
Posted: 9/16/2007 3:39:35 PM | | Well i think most know on the first meet if they click or not..mind you sometimes..it may depend on certain things..but e-mailing seems to be the way to go..but i think it's better to just tell the other at the end of your date.. | |
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| guys rules about phoning
Posted: 11/19/2007 12:49:44 PM | rules schmools, if you're into her/him; go for it-their response will let you know where they're at with it. my aim would be to keep the contact consistent and measured, working toward a stronger, more intimate relationship (intimacy being pronounce in-to-me-see) if either partner is not ontrack with this, time to reconsider if what is going on is a two-way street or if something unhealthy is developing.
makes NO difference who says or does what first-go with your instincts and keep your eyes and ears open. follow your heart, rule with your head. | |
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| guys rules about phoning
Posted: 11/19/2007 4:54:36 PM | | My best friend's daughter swears by the "three day rule". If a guy calls within three days, she's no longer interested since he's "obviously" desperate. | |
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| guys rules about phoning
Posted: 11/20/2007 3:55:45 PM | ^^^here I would've thought that meant HE WAS interested.
Guess a person should just call when THEY feel like they should.
nothing risked IS nothing gained | |
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