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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/4/2007 7:33:42 PM | Well people....so far I got three emails today. So apparently the men like Bill's profile advice better than mine. HAHAHHAHA
The votes are "for" the pigtails by the men and "against" the pigtails by the women. Since I'm looking for a man, I'm not gonna worry too much about the pigtail thing. And ladies? The pigtails ARE "me". Otherwise, why would I wear them? Age does not mean I need to hit a wheelchair. Heck, at my age you can pretty much do whatever you WANT. I like fourth grade hair. I have a 26 year old mentality. I have 56 year old excellent credit.
But we digress. This is really not so much about MY profile, as it is WHAT ATTRACTS MEN THE MOST ON WOMEN'S PROFILES. So please..lets hear what attracts MEN on all women's profiles, not just a review of mine. I promise I'll still let you know what happens with me using what Bill suggested. :-)
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/4/2007 7:59:15 PM | Irreverent....You are SUCH a hottie. When I drop another 35 pounds, I think my present to myself will be a trip to Canada (which I ADORE) and visit you. So start saving your ..........what ar ethey called? Twoies? Doonies? You call your currency something cute....
Anyway. I'm COMING!
(dont worry, you have time. I'm only managing 5 pounds a month......)
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 12:32:13 AM | If ya were local, you'd get my attention. Many men are visual. I happen to be audio-visual - you remember the guys who'd wheel the equipment around in high school...
Plus the glasses and the pink and the pony/pigtails make you look like Alice and the librarian combined... and that's a definite plus.
Being a literate/literary person, I also read - omg - it's very dreary most of the time. "I love my family, dinner at a nice restaurant", and, in Ohio, "I love to ride my Harley". Now, the only gal who should say that is my ex-wife's sister - and she's married to a guy named Harley.
So, anything to make you stand out can be a plus. Read twenty female profiles at random, not posters here, we're too cool and interesting. Anything that shows up in 6 or more shouldn't show up in yours. Just my opinion. Example: if six say "No axe murderers", omit it. Better yet, completely ignore what you don't want (except maybe kids/smokers) And focus in on who you are and who you want. Not the laundry list, but what is different.
Me: I prefer a kind, intelligent, competent switch with tendencies of aggregation, who can handle guys with IQ over 155 and who is fascinated by quantum physics, french kisses, all forms of RPG (knows rocket-propelled grenade, D&D, B&D, D&B and B&B), and who can intently imagine anything described, but I digress. | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 1:06:51 AM | OMG. I can't believe this thread. What women on earth does not know how to generate a ton of responses????? Duh. All you have to do is look stuuupid, show cleavage say how much you love sex and that you want to give it away to any dogs for free. Arrrrrrrgh. lolololol. How dumb can some women be. lol?
OP if you post an ad saying how much sex you have to give away to broke bust outs and debt ridden loosers, you will have a line from New York to Spokane in your mailbox.
GAWD. You needed a claydigging grunt to tell you to use that free sex bait. Sheeesh. lol
Have fun deleting all the horny dogs from your mailbox.
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 1:23:18 AM | | Um, I think this thread is about what attracts MEN, not SEX. For me, its really simple. If you sound like an intellectual, look at least mostly dressed, and talk about what you like instead of what you want, then I'm game. I could care less about what you want or dont want. We all want the same thing dont we? Well, I'd LIKE to think that, anyway... Yeah, and being around my age is nice too. Of course, since I'm a guy, I don't have to worry about any of that, cause guys never get any messages. we are supposed to be doing all the messaging. If women were smart, which apparently they arent, then they would message the men. Geez, what am I DOING on this site? I'm never going to find anyone on here. I must be an idiot or something. | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 3:05:40 AM | if a woman is too demanding in her profile that puts me off
loads of testimonials from men she has never met saying how hot she is puts me off
(testimonials from her friends who she sees regularly are worth reading)
pictures posing in underwear puts me off (she will attract a certain type of guy in my mind and be too popular)
must not be this.........
must not be that........... at the bottom of her profile.
anyway so i like a ladies profile if she doesnt have any of the above in her profile.
i really like to read a womans profile who "appear" genuine, average, normal and who dont demand far too many things.
basically a woman who is just her self..........just like woman say they want in a bloke ......tho i DONT believe a word of that when women say it. | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 3:27:37 AM |
OP Heya, Bethlet. I'm gonna come off rude, here, but I gotta. I'm significantly younger than you, and I gotta say, just from those pics, I can see why guys are thinkin' "boo-tay" and hookup. Not that they're lascivious, by any means, but, "hel-lo, NURSE!"
So, dig it, I'm gonna do my best to answer the actual questions you've got.
First off, not all the men on PoF are in Spokane, and neither are all the men in Spokane on PoF, so that might factor in one way or another. I do know for a fact that there are plenty of legitimate "nice" guys on here not just lookin' to get laid.
As for your blurb, no, there's nothing wrong with being direct and honest about what you want in a prospective relationship. Guys don't like it, that's their issue, and they're the ones gonna be missin' out, dig? 'Specially since you're a lot more interesting than just the pics portray, right?
What does "a guy" like to see on a chick's profile? I dunno, I can only speak for me, and my big deal is info on a woman's personality and mental/emotional status. Pics are cool for getting a dude's attention, but this brother needs to know who the lady is. That might be an issue regarding the "blurb", there. Not just "what a girl wants", but who she sees herself as being, know what I'm sayin'?
As for comfort, I'll go with a chick that's not afraid to put some personal info out there, hopes, dreams, aspirations, that kind of deal. She's comfortable with herself, I'm going to find her a bit more comfortable to be around, dig? 'Course, that's assuming getting past the profile, but the deal is, that's supposed to be an indicator, yeah? Worth a try, at any rate.
No, men don't just look at the pics, although a certain "class" or mindset of them might apply for that characterisation. Big thing is, if that's all you got responding, and that's not what you want, it's your call as to what you're willing to do to affect a change in the results you're getting.
For my part, just from the profile and your evident concern, as shown in this post, I'd say you're a much more three-dimensional person, and worth a further look. Any dude with half a brain outside his trousers can hopefully figure that out.
In the end, it's all a matter of being yourself and dealing with what comes of it, right? Brother of mine used to compare it to sales, you'll get nine out of ten looking for something you're not, but you keep trying, and eventually, you'll find number ten. More power to ya, sister! I got faith; don't you lose it. | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 3:40:06 AM | wow op, your thread tells me that scince i last looked in, theres been lotsa folks readin your profile an likin what they see.... haha, folks, i saw it first! ....
i get lotsa response to my profile just bein me....catchin big fish dont hurt none either... ...lately i have only been catchin mediocre sized fish an eatin tha evidence of this...as fer fellers, well, i catch more fishin buddies than anything else, but i think this is mostly my own fault  ...i caint help it, fishin always interests me more than fellers and i clean my own fish in front of them ....but when i DO get all girly an dress up, i still act like me...on one date a feller happened to mention he had rod n reels in his car...pffft! there went tha date and there i was out on tha pier with him in my high heels and mini skirt......and we hadda blast!....i dont know ifn he was just impressed with my attitude or my cast, but, lordamercy mama, i got one heck of a goodnight kiss outta that feller!
lookinbill gives great advice as usual...i wouldnt expect anything less from him sigh...ya caint go wrong listenin to what these fellers on here are tellin ya...as to us gals, well, shootfire hunnybunch...some of em may be tellin ya ta act like them and if they all really knew what they were talkin about...they wouldnt be here now, would they?
bucsgirl is a livin testimony that havin fun works.... and if fun is important in your life then dont be afraid to express it here....as indigo would tell ya...it will drive tha fatheads nuts | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 3:48:53 AM | Following in the vein of not trying to be offensive but the photos on your profile are just plain silly and seem quite juvenile---something a teenager would post on MySpace. I'm sure you think they're "fun, flirty" and maybe being dignified isn't your prime concern but you've gone a bit too far the other way. If your profile is an introduction of sorts to men what would you REALLY think of a woman who says one thing here on the Forums yet has a profile similar to your own? It's just not consistent and shouldn't be that big a surprise.
Adding to this the women who tell you you're great, your profile is fine and fun and any man would be lucky to have you miss one very, very important thing----THEY are not trying to date you and (probably) you're not looking to date them either. If thats true then another thing missed is your target audience----men! Creating a profile that you think is great but doesn't reflect the "real you" is essentially worthless because it leaves out those parts you'd want known to potentially interested men. As it is now your profile is long on fluff but terrifically void of substance. Changing your profile according to forum posts yields you the same results but from a different crowd----was that your goal?
As to your photos half of them are skin oritented and the rest are sorta goofy---not necessarily in a "fun" way either. It would be easy to get the impression you're always trying to be "funny" which isn't that big a turn on to some men. The varied male response to them will reveal we're all different but the overall impression is a party girl---IMHO anyway.
You also might keep in mind about 1% or less of the POF membership actually visit these forums so anything you post here that would show you in a different light goes unnoticed by an overwhelming majority of men you might want to attract. The first impression is vital so what is yours saying to those viewing your profile?
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 4:18:31 AM | | I'd love to know more about what men find attractive in profiles, and I've found this thread entertaining and informative. It did inspire me to edit my own to add a little more info. I've found that what compells me to write to men (especially those too far away and thus unavailable to me here in the East end of Nowhere) is witty profiles. Smart guys turn my crank, and if it makes me laugh out loud that is a huge bonus. I wonder if guys (sorry, erm, MEN) find it attractive or simply amusing. | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 4:29:39 AM | Auntpetunia, a witty or quirky profile definately catches the eye.
Us MEN, guys, being such shallow, visual, ungrounded beings do seem to follow the eyeball straight to the pic.
But rest assured, that's only the first bit. It's like a roadside billboard. | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 6:34:24 AM | Also, 90% of the profiles in my area are tiny. Some have no more than 4 sentences. Most are very vague, you know, "I like to hang out, listen to music and work out." Congrats, you just told me nothing about yourself.
Some people write 3 or 4 sentences that are like that, then top it off with, "But I don't want to reveal too much now, it'd take all of the mystery out of it." - these people I find particularly odd-- I have quite an extensive profile, and there are still a lot of unknowns.
If you've written a sparse paragraph of unspecific descriptors, and you fear that giving away more will give away too much.... well you're either boring or uninteresting, and either way I don't want to talk to you.
Then there are people that do that same as above... only use the 4th sentence to write, "If you want to know more, just ask me!"- this tactic is fine with a profile that is a bit more lengthy, but when it's 3 sentences (which often restate tabbed information) it makes it seem like you just want a chat partner...
Also, (see above) if your profile is small, don't just restate the tabbed info. I've seen several- "Hi, my name is X. I'm X tall, non-smoker. For a living I do X."
Longer profiles are better, and you're less likely to run into someone that you wouldn't like if you're very specific. | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 7:38:14 AM | Oooo 2 more-
1- If you only have one photo, make sure you're smiling. Better to have no photo at all than to have 1 where you look mopey.
2- You don't need to mention that you "HATE DRAMA!" ... this sort of thing is assumed by anyone that is mature and sane. Generally if drama is mentioned in your "about me"... well, I don't know about other men, but I assume that YOU will be the drama. | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 7:52:34 AM | Actually, I DO read the profiles all the way to the bottom!!! I do this because I ENJOY the way people spell certain words. Or when they say 1 thing & then something completely DIFFERENT in the next sentence IE: "I am not into jokes OR game players" and then end every sentence with "LOL"...
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 7:57:30 AM | | Yep I would have to say that boobs get em for sure...cleavage...sometimes it's what you have to say if they take the time to read what you type...But the pics I think from what I have noticed seem to get em first. | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 7:59:48 AM | ^ I prefer normal pictures to cleavage shots.
I figure that I wouldn't be attracted to the girl in the bar that intentionally bends over the table when ever she's introduced to anyone... and online that's more or less the same thing. | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 8:03:03 AM |
What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Originality...
An interesting profile (if its long it has to be very interesting and well laid out), cute looking pic's, not a slutty appearance.
Once chatting - sense of humor, able to hold a conversation, not afraid to voice her own opinions | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 8:06:45 AM | | maybe boobs attract at first...but if a man is interested,he'll read your profile over,dissect it,and probably come back to it....in many cases,your profile is a conversation starter. | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 8:07:35 AM | My 2¢:
• Good writing - including spelling and grammar. I can't tell you how many attractive women I haven't bothered to email because they misspell simple words and write run-on sentences.
• A clear smiling photo of the person; no kids, animals, or machinery.
• Something interesting to say.
• Location, location, location. | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 8:16:39 AM | "If on the other hand a woman says, look, this is me, I can or can't cook a decent meal, I am not a gold digger, I will treat you with respect, you will get good sex on a regular basis, I take care of myself mentally, emotionally and spiritually, here are my hobbies and outside interests, I am not a man hater, etc. etc. OK, gotcha. Those are easy to read sign for the hunt. Funny romantic poems and such don't resonate with men too much. They are great if you are looking for a man with the heart and soul of a woman however."
By God lookinbill, you are a genius. My hat's off to you - very well spoken......
Anne
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 8:25:13 AM | By the way, men do read the profiles. And I have to tell you the majority are so boring they can make paint fall off the walls. So, what happened to the second profile? It became almost nondescript and it erased the sassy personality that you had portrayed on the previous one. Another thing, and some women do this, they provide conversation anchor points. I don't know if they do that on purpose, but they do. That is that they mention something they do, or would like to do, or a place they had visited that then can be a good thing to ask, as opposed to just sending an email saying "nice rack, whanna hook up?"
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 8:26:34 AM | This is a great question. I think it is important to try to say who you are and what you want with clarity and humor (that is if you are clear and fun). No matter, you need to be yourself not packaging a unrealistic profile to grab attention.
Try to just relax and think about yourself, where you are at in your life and who you are. Then pretend you are talking to someone who you like but doesn't know you. Write that down, edit it and you can be sure guys who look at your profile will at least be looking at YOU! | |
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