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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 8:53:10 AM | Frankly, I find your posted profile rather shallow and uninteresting. It seems to me all you're really looking for is a relationship with a younger man.
Only a couple of picture are really necessary. Also I assume that in any long-term affair I will get sex on a regular basis (or I wouldn't be in it). Actually, when I find phrases like "friends first and perhaps more later" or "not interested in one nite stands" , I regard these comments as really tacky on the woman's part. If you write a sincere interesting profile showing you're a person of some substance or quality, then these things don't need to be said.
Regarding interests, most of us pretty much enjoy the same things like dining out, going to movies, beach walking, and so on. The only ones you need to list are the really unique ones like mountain climbing for example.
What makes you a unique special person? What are your deal breakers? What are your accomplishments in life? What is there about you that I'd desire your company?
Never put any negatives in a profile like, "I don't hold out much hope of.." Also never assume anything about people on a dating site. You may get responses from a lot of jerks and then again you might run into someone really interesting who floats your boat?
Who knows what most people are looking for? Most people couldn't answer that question with a gun to their head. Hopefully they'll recognize it if it came their way, and if they don't, I feel sorry for them.
And finally the old saw about men only looking for sex. Yeah men like sex and so do women. The only differrence is that women attach more emotional importance to it than men - at least initially. Normal people want the whole enchillada or friendship, companionship, and sex.
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 8:59:04 AM | | My profile is 2 years old and it is just me. I get as many compliments on it as I do complaints. When I see a new screen name I just figure the chances are pretty good it is hate mail but not everyone in the world likes me so why would everyone on the internet? As for the pictures, I put them up I take them down. It depends on how busy my week is. Pictures really add to mail!! | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 9:05:05 AM | I DO AGREE WITH EVERYONE ELSE'S ANSWER TO "DO MEN JUST LOOK AT THE PICTURES". FOR STARTERS, YES. WE HAVE TO SEE THE PICTURES BEFORE WE SEE THE PROFILES, SO THE PIX HAVE TO BE THE FIRST ATTRACTION. HOWEVER, NOT ALL BEAUTIFUL WOMEN HAVE BRAINS ANYMORE THAN THE MEN, SO THE PROFILE MAKES YOU OR BREAKS YOU.
MY BIGGEST TURNOFF THO ARE WOMEN WHO USE PICTURES WITH THIER CHILDREN OR GRANDCHILDREN. NOW IM NO PERV OR PEDOFILE BUT IF I WERE THIS WOULD BE THE SITE TO COME TO. WHY DO WOMEN DO THAT? I WOULD NEVER PUT A PICTURE OF A MINOR ON THIS SITE OR ANY OTHER. CAN SOMEONE PLEASE EXPLAIN THIS TO ME CAUSE I REALLY DONT UNDERSTAND. MY CHILDREN WOULD KILL ME FOR PUTTING PICTURES OF MY GRANDCHILDREN ON THE NET.  | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 9:18:34 AM | | Woohooo !!!!bucksgirl..i missed that psycho profile...just read it and couldn't help but laugh and smile..amazing!!!! bethlet...great pics and great smile..good luck to you... | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 9:55:49 AM | I would say MOST men (NOT ALL MEN) just look at pictures in profiles. And as far as what men look for in profiles, it truly depends on what they looking for at the moment in time. For me, I can care less if a women's profile has a picture or not. I'm more interested in the what's written and what she's all about. I learned a long time ago that pictures, images, and looks on gets your attention, it doesn't keep your attention, this philosophy applies to most men as well, lol. What keeps your (and everyone else's attention) is intelligence.
But then again, you creating this post asking this question has definitely given you more views and perhaps responses to your profile. Kudos for you, lol.
Women posting pictures of their children, in my opinion, are desperate, and probably think (and feel) that using children in their profiles/ads will appeal to a man's sensitivity. | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 10:20:53 AM | Achilles writes:
Women posting pictures of their children, in my opinion, are desperate, and probably think (and feel) that using children in their profiles/ads will appeal to a man's sensitivity.
This really deserves a discussion of it's own, since it's an interesting subject. I've gone out with women with children that purposely keep the children out of the equation because they feel that first the relationship needs to work and they are not looking for a substitute daddy. The never posted pictures of their kids.
Then there's those that post pictures with their kids. What are they looking for in a relationship? How do women feel about this? How do other guys see it? | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 11:01:26 AM | Uhhh, Bill?
I think that QueennotPrincess called you a "claydigging grunt". *steps AWAY from the playing field......*
I confess to seeing a bit of anger management issues and pent up sexual frustration there, wouldn't you say, Bill?
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 11:18:05 AM | Thanks everyone for all your input! I think the more posts we get, a broader spectrum is accessed. There have been some great points made on both sides. One thing you have to love about the internet is the more-or-less anonymity that allows each of us to speak our mind without fear of retribution. Therefore, we tend to get a much better crossection of honesty with regards to opinion.
I am also looking at the profiles that give the advice.....to see if their advice concurs with the type of person they portray themselves to be....and whether or not I wish to attract that type of person. This information is proving to be invaluable!
Thanks for the in depth responses! .....
And I think maybe I'll take the "kiss" picture off. HAHAHAHHAHA Replace it with one of me flipping off some car on the freeway...............Because I definately am being moved by the posts that state it is important to reveal your personality....and the ones that say "men at least initially only look at pics".
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 11:19:46 AM | Beth,
QNP and I have had communication with each other, We spoke on the phone once and I decided that I didn't want what she was offering. Go figure. So now I just ignore her posts even when they hold a reference directed at me. Life is good in Lookinbill land.
There are women and there are women. I myself prefer strong old school gals that don't have to tout it, who are somewhat modest and reserved BUT, when behind closed doors turn into little minxes. I am getting to be pretty good at reading that on a profile.
Funny thing about profiles, and this is just my opinion, unless a man or woman is intentionally setting out to mislead others, what one is pretty much comes out in the profile. | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 11:43:01 AM | lol, Bill. Not surprised. Probably have quite a list of not-to-happy gentlemen floating around the states that I have been less-than-enamoured with as well. LOL!
K...the jury is still out on the profile rewrite/aka/Bill's Advice. So far, only the three from yesterday. And of those three, well.... one can't really communicate very well. I'm thinking he uses one finger to type....maybe. The other two, they were just those "drive by" sorta things..........
K....Gone fishin!
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 2:42:25 PM | Beth, you say:
[quote[Please note that I AM NOT one of the COWS masquerading as a woman on match. SHAME on you girls with old SLIMMER photos posted.
Awesome. You know what. People either practice what they preach or they are just talking. So that is the best way to gauge the advice. Good luck and be picky, very picky. | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 3:11:29 PM | Outmind:
I did NOT say that. That is NOT a quote from one of my posts. Unless there is ANOTHER Beth.
My profile says I am a BBW (which is a stupid acronym for Big Beautiful Woman, which I find to be asinine)....but they did not have "fat" or "large" as a choice. I'm not quite sure I qualify for "obese", so probably would not pick that one if they had it...but "large" would be appropriate. I have a full body shot in front of a blackboard to SHOW how "large" I am. I also have pictures of myself in a swimsuit that I am more than happy to send to a man who is interested....
Yes I know there are a lot of liars on the net. I come in contact with quite a few of them. Shall we say well over 75%?
Either way. Again, that is NOT my quote.
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 3:48:52 PM | | Personally, I DO read the profiles. Pictures are just an added feature but the profile can say it all. Some don't go into much detail but I can usually get a woman to tell me what I want to hear. I feel comfortable knowing what I don't have to ask, but, it's always fun. | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 4:37:07 PM | | Bethet, If men ONLY looked at pictures then your response rate would have been about the same after you changed the profile. [The pictures were the SAME only the profile changed so if the response level changed it was because they read the profile.] Personally, I frequently click on the boxes with name, age, town (and no picture) because clicking on a picture may be somone who's too young for me or far away. | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 5:56:15 PM | I haven't read all the replies you've had, so some or much of what I say may just be duplicate banter. This comes from a fifty-ish male; close to what you're fishing for:
Initial draw to a profile will be nice, flattering photo of you smiling. A playful tilt of the head can give a "come hither" message. If that's good, the first couple of lines of your profile that is included in the search summary may not even matter. The 'featured photo' shouldn't be a silly one. Others, HOWEVER, ...
Once into your profile, say something about YOU. It's YOUr profile. Not necessarily long, but the one liner's don't convey a lot of information. How you put together your thoughts, what you include, the words you use all say somethings about you. Just let it flow as it feels right.
It's Ok to describe what you're looking for in a guy/gal/houseplant, and some of what you don't want. Just don't make it an all-day shopping list.
Include more than one photo; it's best not to have all been taken at the same time. Like the words you use, the photos can also convey a message. I took at look at your profile and notice they're all playful to silly. Is that how you are 24/7? Are you into dress-up play? (DON'T answer that. It's rhetorical.)
With that all said about how I, and I suspect most guys, look for in a profile, here's some other thoughts:
In the first few weeks after posting your profile, you're going to a LOT of hits. You're fresh meat on the hook, baby. If the look is of a seductress, you're going to get a lot of requests for the same. After a few weeks, that'll taper off as the regular crowd has shuffled on through, and occasionally check back for another peak. New responses will be from those too timid/busy/unsure to say 'HOWDY' when the profile first went up, and those new to POF. The size of the metropolitan area you're in will naturally affect how many newbies are being introduced into the bowl at any given time.
Every couple of weeks to a month, change your 'featured photo'. Different angle, different lighting, different style of photo means... something different, and you'll get fresh traffic.
If you're a bit of a wise craker to a smart a$$, and you are in your profile, some people are offended by that. Some may even send you nastygrams because of it. PPHHHTTTTT!!! Don't take it personal, they weren't what you were looking for. You're looking for someone that's comfortable with you and you with them.
You don't need a lot a responses to find a compatible ONE... unless of course you're looking for a large, filled playing field. Like riding a bike there will be some false starts in who you meet. Some will be better than others until that ONE. At that point ride it for all it's worth .
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 6:04:47 PM | Thanks, Captain. Very detailed. Your time and thoughts are appreciated.
question:
From your profile:
"Definitely, no Maytag repair women-- no offense toward her, but I'm sure her time is too valuable for the wasted effort."
Could you explain that a bit for me? I don't work for Maytag, but I do definately "fix" things for a living. What exactly does that mean? I'm confused.
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 6:13:41 PM | ROFLMAO.....
(I'm SO tempted to ask if you would state that another word for "scares the bejeezus out of me" would be "intimidates".....but I do want to go to Heaven....so I'm going to not do that........ROFLMAO) | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 6:55:19 PM | I hate to feed what's becoming a stereotype, but the pictures are a definite draw. I (personally) think a picture is what causes most guys to want to look at a profile in the first place. Does it not work the same for women?
In some cases however, it's not just a woman's physical appearance that can be attractive. A sharp and singular wit certainly help. Knowing that there are some brains behind the beauty is all the more reason to start up a conversation. Because let's face it: Profiles on both side of the sexes are becoming increasingly stale due to the repetetiveness of the way people describe themselves. Saying you like to "have fun" and like to "go out for a drink with friends" is something we've all heard. So how alluring is that? Plus seeing the same old screen names (i.e., baby_gurl, angel eyes, looking4U) shows no individuality.
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/5/2007 9:38:52 PM | i don't think you need to change your profile at all. just change who can message you. you can go into your mail and prevent perverts like that from even writing you. that would be the best thing to do so the "good ones" that do take a look don't miss out just because a sicko had to be immature. don't let him ruin it for the rest of them. | |
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