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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/15/2007 12:17:52 AM | Your pics are lovely and I thought your profile fine but you do come across as having such a tight 'requirements list' I think every man reading it would feel filtered out by something in there.
You could only make it worse/better by putting a 1-10 scale with 1 for poor performance and 10 for outstanding performance and asking the man to indicate his own levels. Ha ha.
Men hate being told they have to fit into a tightly pre-prepared box of iron and the woman is merely looking to exclude them from their list. I've come across a woman who talks about keeping a database with 200 men's details in it. You know, these are modern times - remember how women don't like to be told who they're going to be and they want their freedom from 'male dominance' - men are the same too when it comes to women. You're probably trying to filter out undesirables at the start and save everyone some time but the fact is true undesirables will get past your list anyway and you could be turning away guys who are what you're looking for but you need to meet them to tell. A tough job, this, eh?
I'd put a light hearted story in there and amalgamate some of the 'what I'm looking for' into some kind of 'vision of a man' - could you name a fictional character who you'd like to meet in reality?
Homer Simpson not! (or maybe Homer's your kind of guy). | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/15/2007 12:25:37 AM | | And it is pictures that attract men most unfortunately/fortunately - at the start it's 80% visual and 20% personality - once the guy starts relating I'd say the ratio gradually starts to change - I know women go for looks too but for long term relationships I've read the ratio is reversed and personality, particularly a confident sense of humour, is key. After being with a woman for a while her looks become a 'spoken for' - I always think 'yeah, she's attractive, now let's find out if she's who she says she is' and I move on to testing her. Which is exactly what women do. The women I work with tell me I think like a woman which I'm not sure is a good thing. | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/15/2007 5:03:49 AM | | Very well said stevo 666, it's just that you can't get close too what your interested in because of the filters and the people wanting it all instead of all looks and everything else with it. | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/15/2007 5:39:34 AM | Re-join - start again. You are a beautiful woman- it is just that I think it is your listed age that is the problem. That being: most men are not even looking at profiles above the 40's.
My suggestion as lame as it sounds.
Rejoin, start new and drop 6 yrs from your age.
Sierra~ | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/15/2007 6:06:46 AM | NO NO NO don't be lie'en about your age....men look for honesty just like we do! Your a beautiful vibrant women!!! If u look at the success stories on here most of the couples aren't 10's....but I'll be willin to bet their straight up people!!!
Don't be to quick to stereotype all men...they tend to get a bad rap sometimes....although YES some do make it very easy to form an opinion like that!!!!
Hang in there..he's out there somewhere....and all those chemicals will start boiling and mixing and EUREKA we have a match!!!
And keep the piggies....cute and shows your nutty side!!! | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/15/2007 6:15:58 AM | Lookin.....u like to see pix of various kinds to get an idea of the womans body.........
yet you only have one pic on your profile waist up.............interesting! | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/15/2007 6:29:03 AM | | I agree with Playwithjackie2 on this don't join the players club with the lies and deceit. That only makes that club larger and larger. That's what the real people don't need. We are all here for different reasons apparently. Some here are sincere. | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/15/2007 6:46:01 AM | To the Op.. Beth..
Keep looking Hun, the right one will find you !! Or maybe you need to find him..
When I first started the site I heard from the "one night stand men" and none of the others. I sent out a few emails to some that I thought matched what I was looking for and got a few nice meets and dates, they are Great Men, but it just wasn't the "Right Match".
The man that I'm seeing now found me.. It's kind of funny though, his profile stated he did not want to date, but it's working out great.. ( It's been a wonderfull 3 weeks)
Don't give up hope, you are a Beautifull Lady !! The right MAN will find you !!
Just be YOU !! ( Age and all !!) 
 Ems | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/15/2007 7:42:03 AM | Solar panel, I'm confused! What is my "tight requirement list"? You said: I think every man reading it would feel filtered out by something in there.
It says these are the no's:
Smoking
Someone who is going to want to go straight from the internet to bed
Married or attached men
Men too young to be able to "take me home to Mom" maybe someday and not feel wierd about it
Men too old for me to be able to "take them home to Dad" maybe someday and not feel wierd about it
Meeting men who are traveling salesmen or live more than a 45 minute drive away - its just not a realistic situation in my opinion....
So you are saying every man on POF either smokes, is married or attached and cheating, is too young for me or too old for me, and is a traveling salesman?
Well HELL. No WONDER I'm single!
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/15/2007 8:36:29 AM | i dont really read the blurbs or the profile at all. i might read a few bits of it. i mostly just look at her pics and send a short message saying i love her profile ra ra ra ra.
if she replies back then ill read her profile. | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/15/2007 8:55:47 AM | | I know that for me at least...it's a well written profile. There's a lot of people that only look at the pictures, and don't even bother to read them though. I have had that happen to me. I don't think there is any secret to writing a profile really because everyone is different. I tend to like a profile that has more than a written line or two. I think that I combine the words along with the pics in an attempt to know where that person is coming from. I looked at your profile, and here's the impression I got from it for what it's worth... I thought that your profile was very well written, showing that you are intelligent and you actually put some time into it. The fact that you stated what you DON'T want tells me you're not going to settle for just anybody, and judging from your pics, you are young at heart. How'd I do?....lol | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/15/2007 9:10:42 AM | It occurs to me that I don't have a clue beyond something that tells me you are not "ordinary" in some sense of the word that I cannot explain. I set aside your question and just looked at your profile again. You impress me as a woman where ordinary does not apply and I would want to meet you if you were closer. It seems to me I need to know who I am and present it in a way that might pique the interest of a lady who fits. Over-calculation will never do; like Popeye, "I yam what I yam". Stay with that, be patient, and you will do fine.  | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/15/2007 9:19:38 AM | | ^^^^^ I doubt it. Menopausal acting like a teenager is most disturbing as it is annoying. Besides, the history of her posts reveals her and it only attracts the old-timers on viagra. | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/15/2007 9:36:56 AM | Hi Sexy Chat...
Thank you for saying that you read a profile right to the end...I think when we hit a certain age a lot of things are very important to us. Reading our profile, even after you get passed the picture, just kind of complete us as a whole person and not just what you see.
My first profile was very short...I added to it as I met/talked to different men. I think that I am finally there...hope you agree. | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/17/2007 5:45:04 AM | no no no ...men are all pretty shallow ...we want to see jugs!
its just how we are ...horrible i know but its the truth
im sure some man will reply now protesting that this is not true ....dont fall for it!!!! | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/17/2007 7:48:11 AM | Im in agreement with sppl.
We want to see jugs.. Jugs first and if there is room left on the memory stick take a face pic.
Oh, and a pic of your next door neighbour if she is pretty wont do any harm either.
Actually can i change the order. Juggs first, next door neighbour second and face pic third. | |
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| What attracts men the most on women's profiles?
Posted: 8/17/2007 8:02:27 AM | As far as actually contacting (assuming initial attraction, such as it may be), factors in order of importance:
Lack of negativity.
Enthusiasm/outlook.
Apparent lifestyle.
Proximity.
Stated interests. | |
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