| Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's?
Posted: 9/10/2007 9:18:22 AM | You seem to wonder why you are, and have issues with, being bashed- I have an answer for you. You accused me of taking things to extremes in a few of my examples, which I did for a demonstration point , but not to make generalized blanket statements. You, however, have consistantly taken the limited number of experiences with a small smaple of single moms and took it to the extreme of using them to stereotype and generalize about all single moms.
That is the biggest reason why you have, and will continue to be, bashed. Your extremist rantings and your hiding behind them to justify your limited viewpoint have pinned you as a person to diss by a good number here, no matter what the topic. the fact that you bring every topic around to the issue of single moms and CS just go to further demonstrate your unreasonableness and extremism.
So now ya know..... many of us have given "real" responses, but they just weren't the ones you wanted. | |
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| Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's?
Posted: 9/10/2007 10:00:42 AM | The very same men on this board who used to agree with you, and could see your points, are now shaking their heads at you, and have told you that now you are starting to become obsessive with your posts/threads as of late and perhaps you should lay off a little.
But, that will go over your head as well.
I digress. | |
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| Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's?
Posted: 9/10/2007 11:11:07 AM | We all, Men and Women have the right to choose how we wanna live our lives, and what type of a relationship we want.And we all should be able to do that without being called selfish,shallow,immature etc There is nothing shallow,or selfish about that,it's all down to our right to make choises in our lives,and that includes our relationships.
When you meet someone,and after a short while you realise that they are not what you are looking for in a relationship,then you should be able to walk away without being called all sorts of names.Some people know exactly what they are looking for in a relationship,and that is a very good thing.
I have noticed that very few single moms here have nice words to say about single men who choose not to date them.Most single moms on some of these threads come across as bitter,angry and resentful of single men who do not want to be involved with single moms.I also think that most single moms are angry and bitter because they feel rejected,which can be a little bit difficult to take. | |
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| Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's?
Posted: 9/10/2007 11:15:39 AM |
I have noticed that very few single moms here have nice words to say about single men who choose not to date them
Really? Can I ask what thread you are on? Because Ive seen 19 pages of various bulls.hit, and thru it all, the majority of single parents/moms, have concluded its ok to have a dating criteria. Theyve also stated that if hes been burned in the past, then perhaps he shall refrain from dating single moms. Im not the least bit bothered by one who doesnt want to date because of my status.
As for your other rederick-the only bitterness I see is Johne flaling his arms and whinning in his redundant threads and posts. Psssssssst. Other men have noticed the obvious trend of Johne. He's on a roll with the first 5-6 threads. | |
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| Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's?
Posted: 9/10/2007 3:18:51 PM | Disneymom
You said;
he shall refrain from dating single moms
Now check this out,
A single guy may meet a nice lady,not necesarily online.After a little while he finds out that she is a single mom,now because he does not date single moms he decides not to continue dating her, like you suggested.
But when he does so,that is when trouble starts by calling him shallow,selfish,immature etc
Listen to what you are saying disneymom,
I still believe there is alittle bit of bitterness in comments from some if not most of single moms about this issue.
Yankee is a good example, she believes that single men who don't date single moms are selfish | |
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| Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's?
Posted: 9/10/2007 3:25:03 PM |
Now check this out,
A single guy may meet a nice lady,not necesarily online.After a little while he finds out that she is a single mom,now because he does not date single moms he decides not to continue dating her, like you suggested.
But when he does so,that is when trouble starts by calling him shallow,selfish,immature etc
Listen to what you are saying disneymom
I know exactly what I am saying and what my stance is.
If a person is going to be so freaked and scared of what the end result could be for dating a single mother, then just dont do it. End of story. No harm no foul. I am not going to even give it a 2nd thought or spend 1 micro second calling him shallow or being hurt by it all. It seriously does not phase me in the least. Im not exactly sure WHICH FEMALE is calling any man who chooses not to date them, shallow. Certainly not I, so please do not lump me into this small minut category. The majority of women who posted in this 19 pager do not feel he is shallow. They are merely stating their advice from both a womans pov and a sm pov. | |
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| Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's?
Posted: 9/10/2007 3:28:20 PM |
Yankee is a good example, she believes that single men who don't date single moms are selfish
Go back and carefully read her few posts on that issue.
Johne took her viewpoint out of context, and she went on to repeat herself to Johne and to a female poster that she did not say a single man was selfish. She was stating a man who wanted to be put FIRST all the TIME was selfish.
I think you are reading her post, and conveying it to the way you want it to sound. Afterall, she point blank stated she did not see a single man wishing not to date a single woman, as selfish.
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| Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's?
Posted: 9/10/2007 4:29:52 PM | Pxlife,
The only bitterness coming from moms (and dads) is spin off from redundancy and repitition by our single mom critic, who by the way is not even a single parent himself.
Single moms who have stated there opinion have done so properly regarding the issue without bitterness so i'd have to disagree with you.
The rebuttles are getting more personal, that i agree with, but like i just said, that is largely in response to the same old thing .........constant baggering/ labelling and categorizing of single moms by a certain someone.
It is bs and needs to stop. | |
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| Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's?
Posted: 9/10/2007 5:09:47 PM |
Now check this out,
A single guy may meet a nice lady,not necesarily online.After a little while he finds out that she is a single mom,now because he does not date single moms he decides not to continue dating her, like you suggested.
But when he does so,that is when trouble starts by calling him shallow,selfish,immature etc If he doesn't date single mothers...why did he go out with her in the first place? She's okay as a women for the first date only? | |
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| Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's?
Posted: 9/10/2007 9:20:34 PM | | Yankee I am not contigous. A few posters post on this thread and thank you. I was hopinmg some of the single moms who whine would respond and tell me why they call men shallow who will not date them. Notice Canoe, Disney and Yankkee that I did not say any of you whine? Bescause you don't, but many in these forums do. | |
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| Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's?
Posted: 9/11/2007 9:09:31 AM | | your welcome yankee, while we may not always agree I do respect your opinion. I mayhave said this before but for you Disney and Canoe if I met you on the street I would certainly say hi to you and talk to you. Even though you stated you (yankee girl) do not like me. | |
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| Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's?
Posted: 9/11/2007 9:29:05 AM |
if I met you on the street I would certainly say hi to you and talk to you.
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I say hi to anyone I pass on the street...
Besides, Id hope so, being that if you had passed by me on the street, you wouldnt know I was a single mother anyhow, so Im not exactly sure what you meant by that.
Are we (SM's) like the plague or something? | |
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| Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's?
Posted: 9/11/2007 9:36:22 AM | | If you will not date a woman because she has children, you are shallow and it shows that you are immature. Every woman will become a mother at some point, so face it. If you will not date a single mom, you are depriving yourself of the chance of a wonderful experience and having someone with a good heart! | |
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| Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's?
Posted: 9/11/2007 11:29:24 AM | Tiredofgames: Would you date a single father? I do not consider myself shallow as I prefer to date those without children as I want children of my own when I meret the right lady and do not want the drama some single mother's bring to the table. What can a single mom do for me that a woman without kids can't? I like to travel, can you travel without your little ones? I do not like to spend more money than I have to.
Just because a man has goals in life and one of them is not to raise someone else's kids why would that be shalow? If you were single and had no kids would you want to raise another woman's child? | |
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| Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's?
Posted: 9/11/2007 12:03:03 PM |
If you will not date a woman because she has children, you are shallow and it shows that you are immature. Every woman will become a mother at some point, so face it. If you will not date a single mom, you are depriving yourself of the chance of a wonderful experience and having someone with a good heart
I can't believe that I'm posting in here again, but I just can't resist. I disagree....
1. Just because a man will not date a woman with children does not, in my humble opinion, make him a shallow or immature person. To me, that just means that he knows what he wants and doesn't want - and he wants to date someone without children. That's his choice. 2. Not EVERY woman will become a mother at some point! My sister and a couple of good friends - all in their mid-30s and 40s - do not have children and do not plan to have children at any point in their future. They have chosen to focus on their education and careers. Does this make THEM shallow and immature? 3. If a man won't date a woman with children, why is he depriving himself? Same for a woman who won't date a man with children? Even though I am a single mother, I choose at this point in my life, to NOT date men with young children. I guess that makes me shallow and immature, too.... just because I'm doing what's right for myself and my son. You can date someone who doesn't have or want kids, they can still have a good heart, and it can still be a wonderful experience! | |
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