| Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's?
Posted: 7/14/2009 2:29:29 PM |
Plain and simple, they cant handle the fact of being turned down and rejected. Some of them are nothing but gold digging losers just looking for their next free meal ticket. Their like pathetic leeches that will cling on to you, and wont let go. This from a guy who puts women down in other forums for not wanting to date a single dad with kids. It sounds more like you are the who can't handle being rejected and is a pathetic woman hater. Whatever you feel about a single mother is the same way some people are looking at single dads. | |
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| Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's?
Posted: 7/14/2009 6:56:37 PM | I agree I was wondered why guys won't date women with children, when they could be the best catch ever but for women to go after men that have children and think it's perfectly fine just makes me so mad I think it should go both ways, I really don't care if guys don't want to date me for my kid's they are more important to me then some guy thinking he won't give me a chance. | |
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| Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's?
Posted: 7/14/2009 8:07:11 PM | She's calls us shallow because she's a bit horny and has needs and wants that we single guys don't have to accept as part of being her companion. We can give her emotional support, free dinners, maybe travel opportunities and even include her kids.
When my ex thought she found someone to take her off my hands after I warned her seven times I was going to divorce her, it didn't pan out. I advised her not to allow him to get close to our kids and lavish them with things "they" thought the kids might want - ski trips, pool parties, etc. And she thought it was all going smooth until right after Christmas when he kicked her and the kids out of his house (90 days). I felt bad for the kids because they liked him. He was a nice, older who just needed to get laid really good. The perfect tool. I liked him.
So I took his company off the web and slapped him on a dozen international sites... detailing all the juicy backstory to his new American Lifestyle after moving from Great Britain. I owned him and he knew it.
He had to recall all the times when he was working on my cars in his garage to ingratiate himself to her (lunching with her while I was busy working) if I was in fact in his home taking contacts off his phone while it was charging, fixing us some scotch.
Single men shallow for not wanting to date single mom's? It's the least harmful label anyone could tag them with really. Be shallow, guys. Be smart.
Mines is a special case, I know. | |
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| Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's?
Posted: 7/14/2009 8:19:23 PM |
I don't think it's shallow. It's a life style issue. Now If someone has children and refuses to date someone else that has kids THEN I say it's shallow.
If someone believes they would not make a good partner to someone because they couldn't love another person's child like their own, why would they be shallow? Why would anyone care why someone doesn't want to date them? Wouldn't time be better spent moving on to someone who is on the same page as they are? | |
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| Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's?
Posted: 7/15/2009 1:21:56 PM | | bosoxfaninwa- Very interesting perspective. I hadn't even thought about that. You are very right though. I don't know why people waste time thinking about why certain type of person doesn't like them. It's not like you're going to convince someone to be interested. You are right: time would be better spent moving on to someone who is on the same page as them. But then we wouldn't have all the whiners filling up the forums. What would we talk about? | |
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| Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's?
Posted: 7/16/2009 12:17:15 AM |
^^^LOL umm wait a minute, you don't have kids? But yet you were still offended by my first comment? Why did you even bother replying? And just cause I said "if they cant accept you for who you are" in another thread, how does that make me have harsh feelings towards women? Why cant you just admit that you were hurt and offended by what I said?
Its amazing how I can bait whining crybabys like you with a single comment.
BTW lemme know when your ready for a new box of tampon. I also have another box for the other crybaby above you.. If you cannot understand your own hypocrisy when it comes to men/women then whatever there is no reason for me to explain. Anyhow, I don't know why you think you hurt or offended me. If I am not a single mom why the hell would I be hurt or offended when your stupid comments don't apply to me. However, this is an open forum so I am going to comment on whatever subject I like, just as you do. BTW you sound like a 10 year old who just learned of the opposite sex with your juvenile comments about tampons. You should be on the Disney website instead. This is boring now, I’m done. | |
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| Why are single men called shallow for not wanting to date single mother's?
Posted: 7/16/2009 12:27:10 AM | I don't think it's shallow. It's your right (choice), as it was our right (choice) to have children.
I'm not offended when a guy doesn't want to date me because I have kids.
Though I've never really had a problems with this. It's really only happened once or twice. Not a big deal. | |
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| Why are single men called shallow for not wanting to date single mother's?
Posted: 7/16/2009 9:43:30 AM | Anybody of either gender who doesn't want to date someone simply because that someone has a child or children.....that person obviously just isn't the right one.
It doesn't by itself make them a bad person or even shallow, they're just expressing a preference. Just as I, as a parent, express a preference (an insistence, really) to date a person who understands and accepts that I have children, whether they have children of their own or not. | |
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| Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's?
Posted: 7/27/2009 6:19:45 PM | | With me... my kids and I are a package deal. Can't get one with out the other... You have to treat my kids and me with respect and a certain amount of love. I always have a babysitter (gotta love wonderful friends) if I want to go on a date one night. Its just finding the time with everything else in my life... lol. My kids don't run the show. I do. Though they have a say too... | |
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| Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's?
Posted: 7/27/2009 6:55:06 PM |
my children are my first priority but not CEO's of my household,
Omg!!! My Grandmother used to say that to me when i lived with her and didnt know my role, and its a little gem i have passed down to my kids.
I would reply by addressing her as the "Queen Mumsy", out of sarcasm, but she got a kick out of being called that and thought it was so cute.
Anyhoo back on topic, nobody is shallow for having preferences. I tried dating a single dad under the premise that we would be a good match because we both had a kid, and we had nothing, jack, nada, crapola, in common but being single parents.
The love of my life was childless when we met, though we soon changed that.
I am neautral on wheather someone has kids, meaning i dont take it it into factor on wheather i would date them or not.
If i like the person, and they have kids, fabulous.
If they dont, fabulous.
i think people who cry over people not wanting to date single parents dont want to face that their might be something else a person doesnt like about them, that has nothing to do with them having kids, and use the kids as a scapegoat. | |
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| Why are single men caled shallow for not wanting to date single mother's?
Posted: 7/28/2009 1:32:24 PM |
Now If someone has children and refuses to date someone else that has kids THEN I say it's shallow
I disagree...
There are lots of reasons to not date another sinlge parent...
1... Already too many kids... a blended family would mean too many expenses... each kid requires extraoutput of money. At a certain point this can become prohibitive. Even 3 bedroom apartments cost more than 2 bedroom, House prices jump alarmingly after 3 bedrooms... Utilities skyrocket... you would never believe how many showers teenage girls can take...
2... A car for four may then become a van for 6 or 7... where does #8 sit...?
3... Extended families put pressure on. At holidays for example, do the kids go to different extended families? What abou when they go to see the Ex? Do all the kids go, or just the bio-kids...?
4... Too many activities... kids going to softball, soccer, dance practice, parties, needing rides to and from..
5... Too big a difference in the kids ages... One set of kids could be about to move out, and now you don't want to take on kids that are just starting school.... How would you feel if you were about to get your life and freedom back as your kids move out, only to be stuck with another 10 years of looking after kids that are not yours...? | |
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I'm the one who steers clear of single dads. On another post about women not wanting single dads you did say 
