| Why do 'little boys' do this?
Posted: 5/8/2005 9:11:50 PM | Well, this is the internet so you can basically do what you want without any recourse. You know what I mean. They can be a complete ***hole to everyone till their profile is deleted. But then to them so what, it's just an internet profile and they'll get another one or move to another site and do it again. This happens everywhere you're free to post, not just on dating sites.
I'm not stupid enough to think if I message you or someone like Spanky that I just have to say I'll be in your neighbourhood or make some sexual inuendo and it'll be an automatic roll in the hay. Besides, I just think Spanky's trying to see how much nipple she can show between her fingers before she gets caught  | |
|
| Why do 'little boys' do this?
Posted: 5/9/2005 1:32:57 AM | I must say. I'm surprised that so many 'ladies' are soo pisseee about my profile. OMG. I guess I should just pity them. It must be horrible to be so sexually frustrated.
HEY SPANKY!! DON'T EVER STOP!! YOU'RE AWESOME!  | |
|
| Why do 'little boys' do this?
Posted: 5/9/2005 3:01:09 AM | | It has nothing to do with that at all. YOU came on here, whining about not getting any respect from these guys who are emailing you, and the "ladies" you are referring to are simply offering advice as to why. That hardly means we are sexually frustrated, simply that we have enough class to know what we want, and enough self respect and maturity to know that what we have to offer doesn't have to be "flashed" to millions via the Internet. Leaves a little to the imagination! | |
|
| |
| Why do 'little boys' do this?
Posted: 5/9/2005 4:39:06 AM | | I don't think she is a nutjob, I think she is just young, and hasn't got a lot of self esteem or self respect yet in life. | |
|
| |
| |
| Why do 'little boys' do this?
Posted: 5/9/2005 6:11:32 AM | The profile you have is never ever an excuse for insults etc when guys fail to capture your interest. I think people seriously have it wrong when they say that a profile that is provocative, shows some skin, cleavage or whatever can even remotely excuse any guy from expecting that such a person that puts up such a profile is a slut, or cannot be looking for a serious relationship or must be looking for one nighters.
Yes, calling youself "uberslut" for example, means you should realize who will be messaging you and expect explcit messages and XXX expectations from some of your suitors. That's one thing. But there is bright line here that guys (and some women) often abuse and confuse. Nothing in a girl's profile should ever ever mean any guy is excused from hurling insults. Nor should a guy feel that he has been mislead by false advertising - women should be allowed to play with whatever image or personae they wish.
Why shouldn't they? They have no duty to not confuse you - that' s the guy's problem. It is the guy's absolute resopnsibility to give each and every girl, no matter what her proflie says, the most respect that he can give, and to never assume anything he would not assume about any human being regardless of some personae they project. People are too fast to judge people based on a profile and 10 minutes of discussion.
The guys that end up using the most demeaning words to address them have not only mistaken personae with the person they are insulting, but -more seriously- are under some twisted assumption that even if a girl wants to be an "uberslut" that this is any excuse to verbally insult anyone.
In short, those boys insult you because they are amoung the lowest of character if ranks of personhood existed. It's not because they are young, and it's not because they are boys. It's because for some reason (or no reason) they think it's okay to hurt certain types of people so they don' t care. | |
|
| Hate
Posted: 5/9/2005 6:26:07 AM | I have to say that I'm quite shocked by what I'm reading as I read more of this post. I have to make one more point that I didn't want to make because it deals with hate.
I'm rather disgusted at people that might think that the behaviour I was taking about is somehow "brought on by her" and was therefore justified to any degree
-It's one thing that she should expect sexualy explicit messages. She should. BUT, it's totally totally different point if guys are insulting her. There's a world of difference. She should never ever have to expect to be disrespected because of ANY degree of sexual personae portrayed on a profile -or in life for that matter.
I hope noone thinks it's ok to insult people just because they are sexually explicit. Being sexually explicit in the right medium is not immoral. Nor is it in any way an invitation for disrespect. I hope noone thinks it's open season for disrespect of a girl if she like to dress explicitly, for example. Because that kind of thinking is beyond being sexually repressed. I think it's a latent legtimization of promoting hatred for those that have different views of sexuality and sexual expression from your own. | |
|
| Hate
Posted: 5/9/2005 8:57:26 AM | ok point taken but I knew one woman on here well that was looking for sex first and formost she sent me a few examples of nasty im's and emails she had received after she had told someone. Now what I found invairiably was in her im's she would turn the guy down with insults in her statement small insults which he would counter with small insults like fat or ****, soon she was calling him a limpdicked bald faggot who probably enjoys boys more than women to which he would reply that she was probably just fat trailer trash that couldnot find a man anyway which she would take offence to and escalate it further at which point he said he had her ip addy and was coming to rape her fat ass this she took offence to told me about it and had him deleted by admin .
So it all depends how it is handled I guess. | |
|
| Hate
Posted: 5/9/2005 9:15:22 AM | | Agreed but if two like minds in the case of my example (not neccesarily the authors) choose to go at it my point is if innocent then you have a beef if you provoke don't cry when someone bites back . | |
|
| Hate
Posted: 5/9/2005 10:15:17 AM | I agree I personally like cleavage and some of the women in here just WISH they could be that independant and sexually open but because of constraints be it when they were reared..LOL! or something else in thier lives they are bound by what they think guys want to hear..a betty crocker type who is "Laid back" loves family and friends and likes to travel and loves sports!! LOL! True everyone want to find thier "soulmate" but that just doesnt happen that often. So we settle for the best of the worst. "Oh my picture on the profile is 10 years old" or "oh that picture was before the operation"or "Am looking for blah blah blah"then when you respond to them you get a message back saying "OH I've met someone" yet thier profile is on there for years to come. Comon be truthful on this stuff. If you dont look like you do in the picture you posted then post a TRUE one but maybe if you didnt noone would respond!! LOL  | |
|
| Hate
Posted: 5/9/2005 10:17:21 AM | | <+++++++ but I do look like zurg ! | |
|
| Hate
Posted: 5/9/2005 2:31:52 PM | | So much bitterness. | |
|
| Hate
Posted: 5/9/2005 2:42:15 PM | | i love your profile/screen name/and pic bunny :) i think its awesome ya know what you want and your going after it...guys on here are gonna be lil boys and insult women no matter what..i have a 'normal' pic up..i only send the tit pic out when asked;) but b/c i post in sexual threads i get all kinds of emails from dudes old enough to be my father, or young enough that i go eww lol...men assume b/c you talk sexually your a slut..its sad...then when ya tell them no thanks your not intrested then come the personal attacks..just cause they are not man enough to handle it. for those people i say grow up, move on, its 2005 for gods sake if a woman wants to be sexual then so be it, she dosent have "long term" in her profile..so wtf do you all care??? i personally give the woman props for going after what she wants :) | |
|
| Hate
Posted: 5/9/2005 4:02:19 PM | bunny, you are a very beautiful women, you dont need the sex talk to sell yourself, i think a more appropriate pic up of yourself will be enough. change yourprofile, name and pics, and start all over. You advertise sex, youll get pervs. just try it for a few weeks, if you dont like the results change it back. good luck bunny.
MM | |
|
| Hate
Posted: 5/9/2005 5:44:12 PM | I think you're missing the point of my thread. It wasn't 'please judge my profile'!! I promote my sexuality BECAUSE I'M A SEXUAL CREATURE. With that in mind, should I be raped if I wear a bikini? Shot, sure!! 
Are ya'll getting my point? Don't crucify me .. I'm still a human and I deserve a certain amount of respect., AS DO ALL LIVING CREATURES.  | |
|
| Hate
Posted: 5/9/2005 11:13:05 PM | I do think your point is being lost here, Bunny.
It's disturbing, given we're in 2005. People don't understand there's nothing base or immoral or low in character about being sexual and expressing that fact. I think it would be helpful if people can stop confusing expressions of sexualty as an indication of weakness or lack of standards or scruples. There seems to be the mentality that one's expression of sexuality is akin to using some tactic that should not be "resorted" to when there are so many other great attributes to a person. But why should a person have to ever refrain from sexual expression (I mean we're on POF, not a kindergarten class).
I'm going to come out on a limb here and say that sexual expression is not "lower" than other expressions. Not in the way most people seem to see it, at least. I don't think it should be that simple, and in any case I can't see how it would be helpful to see sex that way. Nor is using one's sexual expressiveness somehow "cheap" or, as some percieve, the lowest way to lure people's attention. Yes, it does get lots of attention and yes some people refrain from this ability - but that doesn't mean it's necessarily cheap or bad inherently. | |
|
| Hate
Posted: 5/10/2005 2:49:14 AM | | agree with cosmo and greymatter. a woman is going to get those kinds of idiots no matter what her profile says. i get that kind of crap about four times a week, and the TITLE of mine says i'm off the market. i put pics of my bf in it, and i still get them. have had quite o few not respond well to rejection, and i am usually nice about it, provided what they sent me was polite. o-well. that's what the "block" button is for. have had more than one make up a new profile to keep bugging me though. the ones who do that kind of shit are usually insecure, selfish ***holes, who think their opinion is the only one that matters. when they don't get what they want, they lash out in the "how dare you" way, as if they were really a prize or something. | |
|
| Why do 'little boys' do this?
Posted: 5/22/2005 7:10:04 PM | Jealous???? Of what? the fact that I didn't put up provacative poses and am not looking for an intimate encounter? Duh sister... Respect yourself as well... the explicit mail that you recieve is a direct result of some of these posts and profiles that make men look at women as sex objects....
I am not the whining about how I get mail from every pervert on this site....
However, if THAT is the way for you to get attention, then so be it! | |
|
| Why do 'little boys' do this?
Posted: 5/22/2005 7:15:25 PM | | Maybe instead of telling them they are too young.... or whatnot.... just close the instant message screen or don't reply to the email. | |
|
rc3
|
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 47 | |
| Why do 'little boys' do this?
Posted: 5/22/2005 8:42:12 PM | | Sounds like a perfect canidate for a distance condition on your POF email... that will eliminate at least half of the problem.... Also.. it might be a good idea to not respond to those who aren't close enough or old enough.... Non response could not possibly invoke as bad of a suggestion.... you might want to consider blocking those who contact you and you do not want to deal with.... I know you want to be nice and I for one would like to say thank you for the good sentiment in actually telling them why you don't want to talk to them, but stop responding at all to them.... There is just too much frustration for you to deal with otherwise.... | |
|
Home
login 
