| how many women approach men on this site 1st/how many men receive emails from women first
Posted: 8/26/2007 9:06:03 AM | Well my thoughts are women on here are to scared,not open minded and some are just players like some men . Yea it came from a man ,lol. Me I don't mind the shots made at me . I feel great about me and where I am in life .
Yes ! I have be ask but ladies don't stay around long .I think I have to much sarcasm for the ladies and I make them feel small I guess. Sorry for that ladies but I don't do that cause I want too,it just something that happens and you all take it to heart .
So ! I ask why don't you ladies take the frist step ?? Your all say you want the Mr Right, well open your mouth and talk to us . Some of us ( me ) of course aren't going to tell you how good we are . I like to say words can be type on here , but showing is a hole new ball game .. lol ..lol .
Woman fight to say the are better well I think men are cause we will ask and ladies don't .lol lol so I don't know ,I guess I will leave at that cause I like to hear it too so email me and tell .I be happy to hear why ladies ,go for it ,I like to see who has the jam to write me ...lol..lol.lol. I think not too many so LMAO have good one guys :D | |
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dpd22
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Joined: 11/9/2006
Msg: 102 | |
| how many women approach men on this site 1st/how many men receive emails from women first
Posted: 8/26/2007 9:30:45 AM | | IMO according to the forums most men don't get a lot of initial emails or responses to their emails. The ratio and the fact that men are more likely to make initial contact are the primary reasons. I think many women who are at least okay looking and don't have a lot of restrictions get a fair amount of emails. I get maybe 4-5 emails a month and most of these women are completely unattractive. I would have given them a chance if they were okay looking and had some common interests with me. | |
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| how many women approach men on this site 1st/how many men receive emails from women first
Posted: 8/26/2007 9:52:02 AM | That depends. As a lady I would prefer that the man approach me first, but I have also made the first move before as well.
I do go through the profiles and look at them, but have found that looking at the profiles so I can see who someone is also makes some men think I am interested in them, when, in fact, I might not be. The profiles on here do not give me any information unless I click on them. Then, what I read and see may or may not be what I am looking for.
You can bet on one thing though... If I added you to my Favorites...I am interested in knowing you and would like you to contact me. | |
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Posted: 8/26/2007 10:27:56 AM | Lots of letters"
It wasn't intended - but my profile has generated about 150 female initiated first contact letters in less than a month. The winning formula is to have just 'cute meaningless stuff' in your profile and a handsome face. As I have said before - if your profile is kinda funny with nothing of substance women will write. You are a harmless nothing - no intellectual challenge, Seinfeld sorta of yada yada yada - 'about nothing' kinda guy and a babe magnet. The letters just pour in... And I can prove it.
The only thing I didn't include were indications of money/assets. Had I done that the number of letters would have likely topped 250 in the same time frame. And I can prove that too.
Oh - and the very few letters of contact I have initiated have all received a reply - every one. And I can prove that too.
So guys - you know what to do - get all that real life crap out of your profile and become a comedy routine.
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Posted: 8/26/2007 11:01:39 AM |  I search and search profiles, and when I find Guys that get my attention in the profile, I contact them!! Usually I read the profile and not even look at the pic! I send out plenty of messages contacting guys, but do you think they can at least message back and say "get lost" or something....NO!!! When guys message me first its usually the same "Hey sexy, want to meet in Dallas and hook up for some fun". I am even nice enough to email the pervs back to politely say No. And the ones that do message back are the famous 1 liners! Come on now, put some time and thought into it, give it a try! I spend time sending you a message to comment and ask questions to only get a 1 word reply!
 When I find someone I really find interesting....I check to see if he read the message! Its read and not deleted....yet he didnt message back.....So I send another message or 2...maybe 3.....Maybe hes bound to give in and message me back at some point!! Or send the POF police for me stalking....Either way, its all good 
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Zeyphr
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Joined: 6/12/2007
Msg: 109 | |
| how many women approach men on this site 1st/how many men receive emails from women first
Posted: 8/28/2007 10:54:05 AM | | Girls are canvassed 500 ways to Sunday. Do they really need to solicit a guy first? They live in dam near celebrity status. Guys always want them and always are at them. Not like they have anything else to do. Most women who solicit men first, have feelings of insecurity and want a man cause they don't get the attention they used to. So they need to venture out. This is by no means an absolute statement. But it is a great majority. All the beauties have to do is give out numbers and collate the gaggle of guys vying for their affection. So to all you guys hoping that Playboy Bunny model hits you up based on a template profile aimed at satisfying their appetite and catering to their idea of a great intro. Guess again. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2007 11:05:57 AM | Since I use this site strictly as a tool to find a particular venue in a city I am visiting or sometimes a date.....I will send 10 to 15 initial emails out to women and probably receive one sometimes two, that I did not initiate . Most of the time , those that sent to me first, start the email with the question "are you married?" 
And I always answer, honestly. Now if someone on here wants to know the answer, you've got to email me....first! | |
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Posted: 8/28/2007 11:31:34 AM | Ooooooooh, I just had an 'evil' thought. After reading through a number of the responses here, a question occurred to me. I've seen others post that there is a perception being on someone's favorite's list is a desirable profile attribute. Do you suppose then, the women (or men) that do first contact you do so in hopes that you'll put them on your favorite's list for some portion of time increasing the number shown?
The reason I ask is that in reading this forum I was musing on the number of ladies who first contact me, I say howdy back to (yes, I write quite a bit more than howdy, and always write back if written to) and then I never hear from them again! Why would someone gain enough interest in you from your (let's be honest and as said earlier) picture, then profile, maybe something written in a forum to contact you, take that first step, fearing the rejection and all that, and then once receiving a response they never respond back to or write you again?
Does anyone have a more plausible explanation for that behavior? | |
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Zootie
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Joined: 7/24/2007
Msg: 113 | |
| how many women approach men on this site 1st/how many men receive emails from women first
Posted: 8/28/2007 11:46:09 AM | | I don't have a problem approaching a man if he's got something in his profile that is interesting to me - in fact, I wrote someone the first night I was on here and have enjoyed talking to him since then. I am a pretty straight forward person and if I think someone is interesting I am going to say that, and I expect the same in return. I am probably just not bright enough to pick up on subtlety - I am more of the run away express train type of person in terms of picking up or giving out signals. | |
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daisie
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Joined: 9/22/2004
Msg: 114 | |
| how many women approach men on this site 1st/how many men receive emails from women first
Posted: 8/28/2007 11:51:46 AM | honestly it never ever occurred to me to sit around and wait on a guy to write to me. Never even considered that idea once. When I see an interesting profile I WRITE and its like breathing to me....totally natural thing to do. When I hear that some people sit around waiting for someone to write to them first it strikes me as very odd!!!
anyway some of my best pals on here came from me writing to them first. also....some guys just never respond. No biggie.....win some, lose some and enjoy the whole ride!!
oh yeah...and i never whine and cry and pout when a guy doenst respond to me either...take a memo you big cry-baby guys out there.
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Zeyphr
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Joined: 6/12/2007
Msg: 115 | |
| how many women approach men on this site 1st/how many men receive emails from women first
Posted: 8/28/2007 12:07:59 PM | If I was approached every time I left the house by every guy from here to the corner. I would never 'cry' about women never responding to me either. But seeing I am a man and that just doesn't happen. I have a bit more to say about the attitude of women and their interest in talking to begin with.
Being a woman, men are always approaching you for friendly conversation with an undertow of wanting immediate sex cause you look so hot. Being a man, you are constantly shunned because you are suspected all the time of just wanting sex. So it is presumed you are coming for that reason. And why, no one has a clue. Couldn't be because your nipples are poking so hard through that hardly that top, that I am losing my mind.
But when a man has an emotion other than rage, barbarism and just being pissed off. Like he cries cause he feels and he feels hurt, all of a sudden he is slandered for being a 'baby'. That's just great. So now I can't cry. See what we deal with? As a man I am abused into a conformity or slandered and ostracized cause I don't fit in with the agenda and what other people THINK I should be. | |
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daisie
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Joined: 9/22/2004
Msg: 116 | |
| how many women approach men on this site 1st/how many men receive emails from women first
Posted: 8/28/2007 12:19:31 PM | oh my goodness!!! now he's cyring cuz he cant cry.
ok you keep it up and Im gonna call the WHAAAAAAAMBULANCE for ya!
hehehehe
and if your mind is so outta your own control that my tank top makes you lose it...then....thats your problemo. its a tank top .... and when its over 110 degrees Ill wear it and any probems you have with that is YOUR poor character and double standards (assuming you think its ok for a guy to wear a tank top).
peace. and BTW....cute knees!!
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Posted: 8/28/2007 1:19:29 PM |
honestly it never ever occurred to me to sit around and wait on a guy to write to me. Never even considered that idea once. When I see an interesting profile I WRITE and its like breathing to me....totally natural thing to do. When I hear that some people sit around waiting for someone to write to them first it strikes me as very odd!!!
I agree...I'd much rather get turned down by guys I am interested in than wade thru a ton of men I am not interested in. I get a lot of e-mail from men I'm not into, so in order to make the site more worth my while, I message those I have interest in. It's not that big a deal.
If men get turned down more than women, than they should be more desensitized to it than women; the reason most of us don't get upset when someone isn't interested in us is that the shoe's been on the other foot and we know what it's like when we're not interested in a guy and they freak out about it. It's just part of life that some people aren't going to like you back - it's not personal, it's part of the process.
Male or female, if you see something you like, make a move - what matters is that you did, not what happens after that. Accept what you can't control and work on what you can. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2007 2:56:23 PM |
Most women who solicit men first, have feelings of insecurity and want a man cause they don't get the attention they used to. So they need to venture out. This is by no means an absolute statement. But it is a great majority.
Actually, what prompted me to just go ahead and make some of the initial contacts was having read here in the forums how intimidating to some people the number of favorites lists someone has been added to can be. I decided I will venture out of my comfort zone and send out mail if I see someone I am interested in. I'm no wallflower. And I can quickly dispel the myth of the favorites lists.
Works for me. I ain't ascaird. | |
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Zeyphr
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Joined: 6/12/2007
Msg: 120 | |
| how many women approach men on this site 1st/how many men receive emails from women first
Posted: 8/28/2007 3:17:15 PM | Just the fact that you aren't scared shows you to be unique to the programming most other women go through and what are the social norms little girls learn to be. Sort of like the helmeted hair dooed wife of the fifties. She was groomed to specifications. A lot of American women are groomed as such. And unique women like you are not. So it's sort of up to your counterpart, the unique men. To remain true to who they are and live a full life in the providence of running into their counterpart.
And as far as me
and if your mind is so outta your own control that my tank top makes you lose it...then....thats your problemo. its a tank top .... and when its over 110 degrees Ill wear it and any probems you have with that is YOUR poor character and double standards (assuming you think its ok for a guy to wear a tank top)
Let's have some fun shall we? How about you wear a jock strap cause I am. Or wear a c o c k sock? I would really like to see you try that one with your equality ideology.
By the way. I will try to control myself around your hotness. I promise. But I can't speak for those who will follow you down the street burping all the way. Or the one's schmoozing up to you to cop a feel against you by walking close to pass you rubbing their fat hairy crotch up against your supple buttocks. Can't say I didn't warn you. | |
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daisie
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Joined: 9/22/2004
Msg: 121 | |
| how many women approach men on this site 1st/how many men receive emails from women first
Posted: 8/28/2007 5:16:49 PM | hmmmm after writing my last post so quick and having to return to work without much chance to re-read my post I was kinda concerned I might have offended you or maybe I didnt explain myself well and I was all set to apologize to you now.
when I made the comment about "your character" well honestly....i dont think id judge character on your deepest basest instinctual feelings. We ALL have those kinds of feelings...deep, base and primitive.I think Id only judge character on HOW a person chooses to respond and react and handle those feelings. so....i apologize about the character remark up to that point.
however...wowweeee!!!! now your next post is getting kinda rude, crude and socially unacceptable. so now thisssssssssssss makes me think perhaps your character is a bit flawed, in need of some fine tuning.
dont know why you have jock straps on your brain!!! but hey dude...whatever works for ya!! your secret is safe with me!!! hehehehe.
your last post about my body and now this extreme over-reaction and kinda off topic stuff makes me wonder about your ability to stick to the facts in a discussion. thats really important when you want to teach/learn something. when people wander out in left field nothing gets accomplished. I was talking about men and women wearing tank tops. next thing I know youre suggestingboth sexes wearing jocks straps. hmmm i dont understand the connection. And its just stupid.....i would never suggest you wear a bra because I know there is no point...same with your jock strap comment. however wearing tank tops makes sense for everyone, especially in summer.
with your description of my body dreamed up totally by YOUR IMAGINATION and your roaming mind...I have a feeling you allow your imagination roam like a wild banshee. So really my pic or tank top is irrelevant. Heck I could be wearing a parka and frikkin mukluks and you'd still be allowing, and encouraging your mind to "lose itself" while you claim to be a powerless victim of a womans appearance. jeeze! i give you more credit than that.
To me this last post of yours makes it pretty clear, youre a bit irrational. not much point in conversing with that.
If there is a problem here the solution is NOT to repress me, and take away my freedom to wear tanks and cool summer clothes. The solution is for YOU to control your behavior. Not to act out---or verbally lash out---or cry like a crybaby (WHICH IS MY ORIGINAL POST THAT YOU TWISTED INTO THIS CONVERSATION) --- on every little urge like a 5 yr old child. Next thing I k now youll be wantin to slap a BURKA on me and blame all this ordeal on my female-ness. talk about passing the buck!
anyway....hmmm...you are really too obnoxious and rude for my style. too bad tho cuz you are a HOTTIE too!!!! adios muchacho!!
Hottie Muchaho!!
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Posted: 8/28/2007 5:30:45 PM | LaughingBlueEyes -
curlygrl....I promise I won't email you and tell you that I think you're hot, but can I tell you that Vincent is some fine-looking guy?) Hahahhaha!!! Thank you-
OP- yeah we message, maybe not for the reasons you think all the
time but we do message.
Most women who solicit men first, have feelings of insecurity and want a man cause they don't get the attention they used to. So they need to venture out. This is by no means an absolute statement. But it is a great majority.
Wow- what a statement - I seem to feel it is the absolute opposite.
We are secure and we can handle rejection and we are not afraid what comes
of it.
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Zeyphr
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Joined: 6/12/2007
Msg: 123 | |
| how many women approach men on this site 1st/how many men receive emails from women first
Posted: 8/28/2007 5:42:05 PM | I guess saying, "Let's have some fun shall we?" is meaningless in the scheme of things when you have someone irate to begin with Hmmmm?
We are secure and we can handle rejection and we are not afraid what comes
of it.
I have to admit, a race that comes out of the house with paint on their faces, different hair color every month, year what ever, more aesthetics than Christmas and Halloween and still gets the raves has to have a modicum of confidence. Either that or some serious psychosis. But I disagree. Women who are rejected have a rather notorious reputation. And who rejects you? You are the one's canvassed for attention. You don't have to offer advances for the most part. Men are held responsible for that so they are in danger of being spurned. Women travel in packs and huddle together pulling each other away from men while men are huddled together in packs pushing each other to approach women for the majority.
Anyone who can't leave the house with a sleep face on and has to put every hair in place. Comes out with curlers in her head cause there is only one she is getting ready for to impress. Lips have to be done, eyes have to be done, nails have to be perfect. If this is any indicator of not being afraid of rejection and not being afraid of what comes of it. Count me out of the philosophy class.
Ever see a woman who won't come out cause her bikini waxing is old?
Someone help me here. When did I ever say ALL WOMEN?? For the love of Pete! But she can say, "WE" Like the female appointed spokesperson.
A lot of American women are groomed as such. And unique women like you are not. So it's sort of up to your counterpart, the unique men. To remain true to who they are and live a full life in the providence of running into their counterpart. In my response to another poster I made a succinct distinction.
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Posted: 8/28/2007 5:46:43 PM | ^^^^^Your kidding with this right-
You are painting us all with a very broad brush.
I can go out at anytime in juicy sweats with my hair in a ponytail and
my chanel glasses and I still don't have a problem as Im sure alot of
confident women don't. Oh and no make-up.
You are lumping us as all having major insecurities and psychosis
when it comes to rejection. Maybe your past and how you have
treated women has dictated how they react to you.
don't cut and paste me, really this argument for me is pointless-
I know the kind of woman that I am as most on here do -
I don't need your freudian views nor do I wish to defend myself
against the bad mannered women who have crossed your path.
curlygrl~ | |
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