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Zeyphr
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Joined: 6/12/2007
Msg: 127 | |
| how many women approach men on this site 1st/how many men receive emails from women first
Posted: 8/28/2007 6:06:08 PM | The make up industry says women are lumped and have major insecurities. They make billions a year off of those very insecurities. The friggin tiaras, plume dresses, pasty faces and insecure habit of grooming everything away that doesn't agree with them. color color all the way. And they need Chanel to come out of the house on to begin with.
Men have been reduced to where most don't care how beastly a woman looks. They will even sleep with male representations of women in drag and transsexual or just use their right hand because they have been driven to the edge of sexual insanity. You would have to be insane to cheat on someone you just had a kid with and will destroy that kids life due to divorce for being caught cheating. So spare me the self righteous indignation.
Men are driven insane by female preoccupation on how to get them there. Then blame them for being there once the looks are gone cause it's time for a new brain wash. Love me as I am (old, used up by flings with bad boys, dilapidated, hateful, scornful, but desperate for respect at the risk of giving into sex after you have proven you will respect me. ) or you get no sex. Period. | |
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Posted: 9/1/2007 4:35:15 PM | This has been an interesting thread to peruse. Got me to thinking. I have been one of those guilty of not always replying. I figured most women I email don't reply so why should I?  But clearly I have been wrong. Some sort of reply should be given in each case. I know it won't suddenly increase the replys I receive but it will keep my side of the street clean. A decent thing to do.
As for who initiates what, my experience is 50/50 just taking a mental guess at this point. Been here a month I think and in that time it seems I have received about as many first contacts as I have sent out. It may be more in the 60/40 range with more sent then received. I've kept no records so I don't know.
A final note. Thought it would be fun to email someone here in the thread whose postings I found interesting just to let them know that. I could not as I missed their mail restrictions on age by one year!
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tw89
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Joined: 7/26/2007
Msg: 129 | |
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Zootie
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Joined: 7/24/2007
Msg: 133 | |
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Posted: 9/1/2007 6:16:48 PM | Hi there...In my experience here--it has not been very many Women writing me. I would say--maybe close to the 26% that the POF has said. I do appreciate the site. I was on 3 pay sites before. But as I got to use this site more. I have met some pretty interesting people.
It's ok--the Women approach Men are almost close to what we see in our daily lives.
We have the ones who'll look at your profile numerous times--but no email. There are the ones who see's me and feels--my sons will get in the way. What's nice they've told me so.I think honesty is a good thing--so I am not upset.
Many of the people do have unrealistic type of hopes and dreams of the internet. We are still the same type of people who walk the streets, shop at the market, the malls and live everyday life.
There is a racial disparity, but that is life and we have to deal with it. I am thankful that POF exists...Lee | |
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Posted: 9/2/2007 12:14:15 PM | | I am one who will approach a man on here by email first. I have no problem sending a man an email to say hello and see where it goes from there. Im not saying it always works out as well as I wish it would ( obviously Im still single so its not working all that great yet!! lol ) but at least I get a hello out to them. Thats the weird part of it all, in real life Im not as open to approach a man in public even though my drool may be obvious to him and others around us but I have a thing about not taking rejection too well in person...lol. | |
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Posted: 9/2/2007 1:20:03 PM | Hmm, I believe i'm averaging about one unique response from a lady in a given week. Which is rather nice, from what I gather.
I honestly do wish more would write me, however. It would save my little beating heart from getting all battered around when I find someone incredibly appealing and they don't have the desire to even say, "Bad dog no biscuit, go away you awful awful thing!" | |
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im4uok
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Joined: 7/9/2007
Msg: 139 | |
| how many women approach men on this site 1st/how many men receive emails from women first
Posted: 9/2/2007 5:28:13 PM | | The name of this site is POF. Personally as I see it, being a fisherman; I bait my hook and throw it out to catch a fish. Sometimes I catch one and other times I don't. When I don't, I ask myself; did I use the right bait, or not; did I use the right presentation, or not; was I too shallow or maybe I was goin too deep. Could it of been that I was going too fast, or should I have gone alot slower. When I go fishing I expect to catch a fish; maybe I was expecting too much perhaps? So now that I have been on POF I am asking these same questions; with not alot of answers. The fish on here are not biting for me and I know not why. I am a good catch for a lady out fishing and for once I want her to throw her line out to me, the last time I did I was dragged into the lake and drown. | |
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Posted: 9/3/2007 4:42:10 PM | We're ALL Fishing . . in one way or another . .
I'd L O V E for some Nice Lady to pick-up on what's in my Profile . . and add it to what I've written in the Forums . . and say . .
" WOW!!! . . All the good ones _Aren't_ Taken . . !!! "
I'm not single by Choice . . !!!
Open, Honest and Willing to be someones ' Soul-Mate ' , some day . . !!! . .  !!
- but..still can't figure out why I can't contact certain people . . - | |
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Posted: 9/3/2007 5:55:34 PM | Hello Everyone,
I have experienced both equally. I will initate when both the picture and the Bio interest me and have also chatted with and met some very nice men who made first contact. Out of respect I do try to msg everyone who contacts. I have found that it is very easy to offend or miscommunicate via the written text and if I'm unsure of the nature of the message may not respond. What I have found works is to be forthright and state in the my initial message that if they are not interested in further communication not to reply to message I have sent. I have found problems trying to IM so if I am unsure if it went through I will follow-up with a message. This will quickly confirm as I can see when message was acknowledged or read. I have had men I chatted with say that they had tried to IM me and didn't get a response. In all those cases I never did get an IM/e-mail advising they had tried so having a back up plan works.
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ponie
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Joined: 1/25/2006
Msg: 143 | |
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Posted: 9/3/2007 6:16:43 PM |
"so how many women are approaching men-if so what made you become the aggressor, was it that too many of the wrong types were approaching you and u wanted to make sure u were dealing w/the guys who were what u wanted..."
hmmm, aggressor - WOW! Guess I never thought of it that way! Genuinely, the reason I make the first contact is that I've read their profile and it intrigued me enough to want to say "Hi, I'd like to get to know more about you".
Hey, nothing ventured, nothing gained! Most times I've found guys will post their profile on here, might even view mine, but never make the first contact. Why, guess I'll never know if they don't make the contact or if I have, don't respond to mine.
Not a mind reader! LOL!
My profile states I am looking for a gentleman who is looking for a true friendship first, then we can both see if there will be anything more to come as time goes by. The problem I've encountered is I haven't met many patient gentlemen who truly want to take the time to build a friendship - which bothers me, because if there isn't time to build a friendship, where will the time come from to build a strong relationship?
Anyway, I digress...my two cents!
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Posted: 9/3/2007 8:53:32 PM | Yep I agree with you nik,
I find that I make first contact just as often if not more often then the amount of guys who contact me first...yet I constantly hear men stating that women will not contact them. I have found that if you don't appear to want sex, or have a seductive pic on your profile more often times than not your email gets ignored. I take my picture off the site from time to time to find out just who will contact me based on my words instead of based on how I look...which is refreshing sometimes, but doesn't occur that often! | |
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Posted: 11/17/2007 9:29:12 AM | I don't know as I would fit the term 'agressor', but if that's what a woman is called because she makes the first contact, then I guess I am. I've made the approach first several times and, yes, the contacts were not always because of my searching and seeing their profiles.
A lot of the times I've enjoyed some of their posts in the forums. Face it, if someone clicks with you on a conversational level, there's a good likelihood that the two of you might click on other levels as well. So, I'll reach out to 'touch' someone with an offer of friendship. A lot of the time the offer is politely responded to, but not always.
I've gone the hide my profile route too - not because I've had too many e-mails, but because I'd met a gentleman whom I thought was interesting enough to give a chance for me to get to know better.
Some of the time I'll read a profile and the gentleman seems to have a lot of the qualities I desire along with sharing common interests. But, because they've stated their preferences on how a woman should look, I don't bother contacting them even to reach out as a friend. It was tried in the past and the energy was wasted, so I don't expend it. I've learned to not set myself up to fail.
I'll keep on keeping on - someday there will be that special someone.
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Posted: 11/17/2007 9:36:52 AM | Slightly OT, but my fave bit of the OP's post: "what made you become the aggressor"... Shows exactly what is wrong with the thinking of most people on this site and modern relationships in general.
It's not a war. It's not Us vs Them... Everyone wants to be wanted... if you want someone or want someone to want you then, whether you are a man or a woman, you should make some effort and not just sit there looking pretty.
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I get at least 2 or 3 first contact messages a week, but they're usually from people I wouldn't consider. ie. "20 year olds" who are clearly in their early 30s, women who's only interests are getting drunk and having sex, etc etc ad nauseam. | |
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