| very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/6/2007 6:45:34 PM |
I can't wait for the guys to start trying to explain why they would push the woman harder on them... these will be the guys that never want a blow job from any woman reading the posts...
Some women like that. | |
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| very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/6/2007 7:21:12 PM | OP it could be a guy does the hand on the head thing because he LIKES TOUCHING you? Touching your head or playing with your hair as you're doing this isn't to occupy our hands so much as it adds to the fun and pleasure of it all. Whenever I return the favor I'm glad to have my head held and moved as needed---after all even though I like giving oral I want my partner to enjoy it even more than I do.
It's not about "control" as in dominating or "forcing" you to do anything rather it's about "directing" your movements so we get maximum pleasure. Some women like this sort of aid and if it's a longer term partner sooner or later she knows your preferences and can work her magic without this help. The thing is though it's still fun to touch, fondle and play with the hair.
I agree you need to stop watching stupid television shows and thinking that's real life or how men act. Get some practical knowledge experience out in the real world, step away from your television and computer and start TALKING to the men you share this activity with--------you'll be surprised how much you can learn!!! | |
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| very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/7/2007 9:17:58 AM | Are you talking about forcing the head down or just touching it a bit? It's hot to put a hand on the back of her head feeling her move up and down and stuff, and just touching her in general while its' happening.
I dont mind his hand beeing there playing with my hair cuz playing with my hair turns me on lol but when he actually pushes your head down hard while you do it is what bugs me and made me wonder why guys have to do that lol
I'm pretty sure that a few guys will agree with me on this, when we ACTUALLY ask, we get the response "Why do you always ask for that?"
I dont knw about other women but if Im dating a guy and we start kissng and touching eachother that usually happens anyway no need to ask lol
If once you are there it is not pushing but grabbing or stroking...well...your technique might be correct, but I'd have to check it...contact me!
LMAO
I agree you need to stop watching stupid television shows and thinking that's real life or how men act. Get some practical knowledge experience out in the real world, step away from your television and computer and start TALKING to the men you share this activity with--------you'll be surprised how much you can learn!!!
1. I love that show! and it does happen in real life or all you men wouldnt even know what i was talking about lol
2.I havent had sex in almost 3 years and havent done that in over 2 years so as for talking to the guys i do that with there isnt any lol | |
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| very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/7/2007 2:06:11 PM | You know, I havet ever met a girl yet that liked haveing her head pushed down.... But I know more than a few that loved having thier hair pulled on while they did it.
/shrug...
To each thier own... Personally, its a control thing I think... Too much about the ego to NOT want to "drive" her... But, that could just be me.
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Posted: 8/7/2007 2:38:00 PM | | Well pushing her on would not be ok unless she liked that but having her by her hair and f*cking her mouth can be very hot but you have to be mindfull of her and not be an a$$hole about it. Your enjoying each other not ramming a hole in the fence. | |
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| very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/7/2007 4:01:08 PM |
what is with guys and the need to push the girls head down there I know its a signal that you want them to do that to you thats kinda obvious. why not just let things happen natually?
Because it won't necessarily happen naturally, I've been with women who would not do it unless asked or shown.
Once they are what is your reason behind holding their head or pulling her hair up and down ... is it a need for control? Are they not going fast enough for you? You cant think of whatelse to do with your hands? lol
Same reason women do it?
Guidance
The intimate contact beyond the sexual one.
Control
At least us guys don't wrap our legs around the womens head and squeeze as hard as we possibly can when we reach orgasm.
All I can say to that one is god damn its hot but OW.  | |
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| very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/7/2007 5:07:06 PM | | ~"Woman ! let go of my ears ~ I know what I'm doing" ~ would be the female equivalent of this behavior. ~ some do it ~ some do not ~ funny really! ~ watch a litter of pups nurse ~ they each got their own thing a going on. ~ we are all different ~ ain't it wonderful? ~ dar | |
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| very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/8/2007 12:29:50 PM |
1. I love that show! and it does happen in real life or all you men wouldnt even know what i was talking about lol
There was an episode about a guy who liked rimjobs. Doesn't mean it's the norm, or even very common.
'sides, you described it in your opening post well enough for us to get an idea of what you were talking about. It is possible to visualize an act from a description, you know.
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Posted: 8/8/2007 1:38:55 PM |
It is possible to visualize an act from a description, you know.
Yeah I know but thats not the point you said dont watch those shows etc it dont happen in real life blah blah but it does. Alot of the guys on this thread have admited they put their hand on her head for one reason or another....I bet at least 60% or more of guys put their hands on the girls head during that either cuz they dont have anything to do with thier hands, they want to play with her hair, or for guidance, or whatever. So it does happen in real life not just tv or movies. | |
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Posted: 8/8/2007 1:54:32 PM | | Normally, I have to grab something, too. I normally like to grip his butt and pull him in so I can control what I am doing. Of course, this is a treat and not just for any jerk that comes along. I'm not a "BJ Queen" and believe it's important to care about the person....that's what excites me and makes me want to do it right... | |
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Posted: 8/8/2007 1:55:17 PM |
Yeah I know but thats not the point you said dont watch those shows etc it dont happen in real life blah blah but it does
No.
What I said was, you can't assume that the way men act on that show is the way they act in real life.
If I'd meant "it never happens", I would have said "it never happens".
Since the difference is apparently too subtle for you to grasp, I'll explain.
If you've ever bothered to keep track of the general portrayal of men on Sex & the City, you'll notice that apart from Aidan, every single man the four leads have come into contact with has been, to put it politely, damaged in some way. If they don't have some weird fetish, they have mommy issues. If they don't have mommy issues, they're controlling, or any number of a hundred other things.
So if you're going to watch Sex & the City in an effort to understand men *in general*, you are going to get a very skewed perception of us - because the show only serves to highlight the negative in an effort to emphasize how difficult dating is in today's metropolitan world.
Therefore, assuming the motivations of the men on the show (which tend to revolve around power, especially where Samantha is concerned), are the same as the men you will run across in real life, is the wrong way to go.
Alot of the guys on this thread have admited they put their hand on her head for one reason or another....I bet at least 60% or more of guys put their hands on the girls head during that either cuz they dont have anything to do with thier hands, they want to play with her hair, or for guidance, or whatever. So it does happen in real life not just tv or movies.
Ah, but that wasn't what you originally asked. What you asked was, and I quote,
what is with guys and the need to push the girls head down there
Few men have said that they grab a girl's head and ram it right down, which the imagery that your phrasing suggests. Yes, men touch, even hold, their lover's head during oral sex - which is far different than what you asked. I never said they didn't. What I said was, that since men *in general* on S&tC do a 'grab and ram', you cannot assume that men in real life, *in general*, do a 'grab and ram'. I don't think many, if any, of the men here have agreed that they do.
And if they do, it isn't necessarily due to the need to control (since those who have admitted to doing it, have said they do it because their partner likes it) - which, since the men on the show are 'defective', that would be *their* reason - so again, the motivations are incorrect.
You've jumped topics, and that is why there's a disconnect.
So in short;
Men get blowjobs. (truth)
Men usually touch their partner's head or hair. (truth.)
*Some* men do a 'grab and ram'. (maybe truth. I generally don't watch men get blowjobs.)
Of those that do, *some* probably do it for control, but based on the answers given here, they do it for other reasons.
However, men probably do not perform the 'grab and ram' with as much frequency is apparently shown on S&tC, which is apparently very high or else you would not have felt the need to ask this question.
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| very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/8/2007 10:44:14 PM | wow lol
I kinda find it funny that you tell me not to watch the show when you must have watched it yourself for knowing so much about how it happened and the characters.
So if you're going to watch Sex & the City in an effort to understand men *in general*, you are going to get a very skewed perception of us - because the show only serves to highlight the negative in an effort to emphasize how difficult dating is in today's metropolitan world.
Thats not why i watch the show I watch it cuz i like it and its funny. I been single for almost 3 years believe me i know how hard it is to date in todays world.
What I said was, that since men *in general* on S&tC do a 'grab and ram', you cannot assume that men in real life, *in general*, do a 'grab and ram'.
Im not assuming anything thats why i was asking cuz i know for a fact that some men do so i was just asking why.
However, men probably do not perform the 'grab and ram' with as much frequency is apparently shown on S&tC, which is apparently very high or else you would not have felt the need to ask this question.
As far as I can remember only one guy on that show did it That was the episode i was watching the night before i posted this thread it made me curious as to why guys do it so i wanted to ask. plain and simple
I dont need for you to talk to me like im stupid im far from it thank you! | |
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Posted: 8/9/2007 10:00:50 AM |
First off, you just have to love the "I was watching sex and the city and..." questions. Ranks right up there with Desperate Housewives, Oprah and Gilmore Girls as the top male shows, so we always know exactly what you mean. LMFAO!
Maybe I should post some perplexities of life spawned by the Discovery, Science, and History channels? | |
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Posted: 8/9/2007 10:17:38 AM | You may not be stupid but you have a real reading comprehension problem.
I kinda find it funny that you tell me not to watch the show...
Where did I ever tell you "do not watch this show"? I said it was not an accurate depiction of male behavior, and that you should not use it as a reference for real life. That's it. Watch it all you want.
...when you must have watched it yourself for knowing so much about how it happened and the characters.
My ex-wife watched it every week, so I got exposed to it whether I wanted to or not.
It was good for one form of entertainment, though; my ex was from China and used television to expand her English vocabulary. Every week she'd learn wonderful new words like 'fellatio' and 'necrophilia', and then hound me to explain their meanings and proper pronunciations. There are fewer more adorably amusing things than watching your beloved spouse practicing these words in a thick Mandarin accent. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2007 11:00:02 AM |
You may not be stupid but you have a real reading comprehension problem. No I dont actually and im really tired of you insulting me ... I heard what you said and I dont really care to hear your opinion anymore thank you  | |
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Posted: 8/9/2007 11:07:18 AM | As far as I can remember only one guy on that show did it That was the episode i was watching the night before i posted this thread it made me curious as to why guys do it so i wanted to ask.
So my initial suspicion was correct - you saw one guy do it on a show that's not particularly realistic and incorrectly drew a blanket generalization about potentially all guys based on it.
Re-read what I said about rimjobs, 'cause a guy did that on one episode too.
No I dont actually and im really tired of you insulting me
I'm not insulting you. If I was, I'd have agreed with you when you said I thought you were stupid. But you *have* mis-read several of my posts at this point and gotten sarcastic in response to said misinterpretations. If you don't want people to react in kind, then don't open the door.
That said, you've gotten your answer. Your initial interpretation of "guys" based on a TV show was incorrect. Multiple men have said this, and clarified their positions quite clearly. Have a good'un.  | |
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Posted: 8/9/2007 12:07:52 PM | | during intercourse, the head of the penis is at a hightened state of arousal, extremely sensitive to anything, touch of any kind ups the pleasure quotient....or, in some cases, the more pressure/rubbing/sensation of all kind, including pain increases the state of exotic arousal pleasure to the point of submissive surrender/(slash) rage to heigthen before the volcanic eruption and ejaculation.....soooo...the deep thrusts are an effort to hammer the cervix (Cause of resistance) in order to achieve the aforementioned and the same holds tru for oral sex......inflict the pleasure/pain response until you explode.....the final act of total surrender......since he is powerless to stop it........the woman, likewise experiences the same, perhaps in a slightly different way, but the effect and feelings...the harmony of emotions, pleasure, senses are similar if not the same.....since the act is so draining to the man- his POWERS decrease as rapidly as does his erection......when, at the height the tidal wave crested and crashed its fury and power against the shore, the tede then receded...as did all the energy......Women posess longer stamina......therefore, when the man is "totalled" she has a need to slowely reduce her high and the tide receeds much less forcefully...... | |
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Posted: 8/9/2007 4:37:39 PM |
So my initial suspicion was correct - you saw one guy do it on a show that's not particularly realistic and incorrectly drew a blanket generalization about potentially all guys based on it.
OMG I never said all guys ... not even potentailly all guys I just saw the show and i know it had happened before to me and others i know so i wanted to ask why plain and simple
I am tired of trying to explain myself to you
That said, you've gotten your answer. Your initial interpretation of "guys" based on a TV show was incorrect. Multiple men have said this, and clarified their positions quite clearly.
Its not just based on a show i said that many times already as well.
This topic was asked for fun to see why some guy do that and I did get my answers. I got some good responces from men and women on this thread some said they did the hand on the head thing and for different reasons. some said they didnt but said why they figure some do,some even answered my other questions. I am glad i asked the questions i did. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2007 7:19:51 PM | Well Pssst here you go hun, lol
For me sometimes I enjoy pushing it further down her throat and the best way to facilitate that is by grabbing the back of her head. There's nothing like a little encouragement! It feels really good when it gets into the throat. If she can't take it she can always let me know with her teeth.
This chick has it down pat www.ideepthroat.com | |
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Posted: 8/9/2007 9:12:54 PM | Hmmm... Sex and the City... That show makes me wonder too, why it took so long to get cancelled.
Anyway, there are several reasons why a guy might do this, including:
*a form of gentle petting - showing appreciation/affection/approval
*guildance and self satisfaction - the best way to drive is to steer so to speak, it beats verbally telling a girl that they could be performing an act incorrectly or could perform better
* hair is a pain - It's not uncommon for a girl to get her own hair caught in her own mouth, so grabbing and holding is actually a good thing to keep things going
*what the hell else they going to hold on to? - Well, what else is a guy going to do... hold his beer?
*Why am I even answering this... girls do the same thing to guys.
Welp, that is all I could think of. :) | |
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Posted: 8/12/2007 10:38:48 AM | Well, after reading this thread (& eventually skipping certain parts that don't contribute to the discussion), I'd like to interject a different viewpoint if I may.
I understand the OP's question about pushing the woman's head down... what I get from her question is this:
"Why, when you're in the midst of foreplay - whether it be kissing, or touching, or her exploring your torso with her mouth & hands - do some men feel the need to push the woman's head toward their genitals?" I don't think the first part of the question dealt with fellatio itself, moreso it dealt with the method of getting a woman to wrap her lips around your man rod in the first place.
I know for myself, it IS a turnoff when a guy tries to push my head towards his penis when I'm enjoying exploring other parts of his body. I KNOW it's an incredible sensation for a man, but trust me... we WILL get there! It's just that not all women have porn star appetites and want to shove their faces into your pubes right off the bat!
As for the hair holding, face touching, etc... that's hot. I want my man to be able to see what I'm doing! What a lot of women don't realise, is that we HAVE the power when we're fellating our man. Who's actually controlling the speed/depth/tongue action/hand & finger movement? WE are!!
The art of oral lovemaking is just that. An art... it's meant to be enjoyed, and talked about, and experimented with. If something isn't working for the person receiving, talk about it. I'd much rather have my partner tell me that what I'm doing isn't working for him, than I would have him ram his penis into the back of my throat because he wants it deeper than I'm going at the present time. | |
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