| very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/12/2007 10:52:07 AM | Thank you veintapperiam!!!! You understand exactly where i was coming from when i started ths topic.
I know for myself, it IS a turnoff when a guy tries to push my head towards his penis when I'm enjoying exploring other parts of his body. I KNOW it's an incredible sensation for a man, but trust me... we WILL get there! It's just that not all women have porn star appetites and want to shove their faces into your pubes right off the bat!
Exactly!!!! I love to explore and trease my man and going down there is usually one of the last things i do cuz i know thats what hes dieing for me to do. lol
I agree I like him to see what im doing as well and if hes holding my hair up etc i dont mind that as long a hes not using it to push me down farther etc. I like looking up at him while doing it so i can see his facial expressions as well.
If something isn't working for the person receiving, talk about it. I'd much rather have my partner tell me that what I'm doing isn't working for him, than I would have him ram his penis into the back of my throat because he wants it deeper than I'm going at the present time.
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| very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/12/2007 12:19:44 PM | | What is the head and the hand thing? is that before or during? I alwase thought that it was up to her what she wanted to do since she is doing it. I alwase thought that a woman felt controled when guys did that and that's not good. | |
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sorrry
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Joined: 11/18/2006
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| very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/12/2007 5:08:22 PM | ^^^^ Maybe that is why you don't have a girlfriend? Oh and try Always, not alwase.
And you would 'alwase' want to give what? A BJ?? Maybe another problem there pal.
Yes, LIKING to give it is one thing. If a girl likes to give it, then in my experience you don't have to do shit, but enjoy!
Pushing a womans head down is just crude. As far as the hair pulling and a little bit of guiding her, let that be decided by the woman that you are with. All are different, some are ok with it some are not. You have to be aware of what crosses the line between where passion ends and pimpin' begins. Pay attention to the signs.
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| very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/12/2007 6:14:40 PM | Trooper, most women WILL fellate their man, given the right circumstances/emotions/etc. It's just that not all women like the taste of semen in their mouth, or the feel of it in their hair/eyes/face (and for a large part, women feel as though that's where things have to end). And let's face it, some men's semen tastes alright... while other men's semen tastes like it came out of an old salty marsh!
Perhaps part of the whole issue surrounding this, is that women are a bit wary given the experiences they've had to date (let's face it, we've ALL had a guy try to shove it further down our throats than we're either ready for or able to take it), and men (who are frustrated by the seeming lack of enthusiasm for the act from their partners) feel the most effective way to communicate their desire is by physically showing the woman where they want her.
Pam, that's great that you like a man to take control in that manner. Just remember that what works for you, doesn't necessarily work for other women... and they should be given the freedom to discover what works best for themselves and their partners. I agree with sorrry that it's crude for the majority of women... but like you said it works for you & I'm certain there are men out there singing your praises as we type. I for one however, would like a partner in bed, as opposed to someone directing my every move.
Again, it all comes back to communication. As far as I'm concerned, if you can't talk to your partner about intimate issues, then you're not ready to be intimate with that person yet. (But that's just my take on it all)
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| very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/12/2007 6:47:59 PM | Oh no, don't get me wrong, I want a partner as well. But in some areas, I like the man to take total control and that's one of them. It just feels good to have his hand on my head, controlling the action. But, there are times I like to take control and give a long, slow blowjob.
But communication is the key. Anyone I would be involved with knows what turns me on and vice versa before we ever, ever get to that stage, somewhere down the road. | |
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daizd
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Joined: 2/28/2007
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| very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/13/2007 12:40:59 AM |
...they get off on you gagging ...
i read somewhere that the muscle spasms in the back of the throat "gagging" is actually quite pleasing to a man receiving oral. In this instance i can understand why he would push down when hes about to cum.
i was with was very "polite" gent. never pushed my head down to indicate that he wanted fellatio (he never had to) or pushed on my head while i was down there, even when his toes began to curl. sometimes i think its necessary to give a man control...i wanted him to be able to get the utmost enjoyment...even though i knew he preferred my hair down...there were times when i'd put it in a pont tail & while performing fellatio on him id take his hand and put it on my pony tail, he'd get the hint. Later as we sat on the roof top with a glass of wine he told me how much he enjoyed having control of the 'situation' he said "it was like on the porns, in that instance you were no longer my girlfriend but a hot chick i just really wanted to f*ck"
i think its important to be able to be that loving sweet girlfriend but its equally important to be that 'hot chick he just wants to f*ck' | |
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| very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/13/2007 12:48:46 AM | | I don't....I might run my fingers through her hair during, but I try not to push. I think it's just the need to be doing something with your hands......which is why we like 69 so much, because then we can do more. | |
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| very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing......
Posted: 8/13/2007 8:30:28 AM |
think its important to be able to be that loving sweet girlfriend but its equally important to be that 'hot chick he just wants to f*ck'
Well I guess that pretty much says it. That was a good post by the way. | |
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Rhett1
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